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This Blog is Being Closed

Ive been the only mod operating the blog for years since the other founders left and I never found anyone to replace them.  Being OS isn’t a very big part of my life these days and I can’t keep running this place when I have an entire other organization I help run and very little to say on being OS. I can’t field all the asks, I can’t run the Discord (which is now defunct and another OS Discord has graciously taken up its place), and I can’t keep siting here knowing we’re still getting messages. 

Im sorry to everyone who’s reached out to us during this period of inactivity and never got support, and thank you to everyone who’s continuing to create support spaces for objectum people.

I’m leaving this blog up as a resource, as a “we were here,” as a credit to the flag we designed and where it came from. 

In the end, I’m just really glad we could do something to take being objectum to having one community that only exists in a very insular, hard-to-get-into, cult-like setting as the only place to really question being objectum and meet others, to having more freely available information out here and a lot of people sharing their experiences in all sorts of places. That was my goal when I started helping to build this place, and that we got that far is a happy ending for me. 

Thanks everyone, it’s been great. 

~Mod Crow

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Is this page still active? I’m not sure if I am truly OS

Sadly, we’re soon to announce that this blog will be closing down, but if you send an ask off-anon then I can exchange my personal blog info and DM with you since you’re sending this in just before we do. Im sorry to you and everyone for the premature announcement.~Mod Crow

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I'm really sorry, but this is so confusing for me. I used to id as aroace, but now whenever I see mechanical objects I just want to kiss them. Everyone said I was too young to id as aroace, even though I'm about to turn 10. What should I do? Is there a name for what I'm feeling?

First things first, I have to admit to being concerned about the age mentioned in this ask. There are some bad people who like to use aspec kids as a “gotcha” against us who want to paint us in a bad light for encouraging that people know themselves best, and I can’t be sure this isn’t a joke trying to do that.

But more important than if it’s a joke is if it’s not a joke. Because if you’re an actual kid who needs help and advice, then that deserves to be taken seriously and replied to sincerely. So I’m going to approach this in good faith and assume you really do need this advice. To start with the aroace thing, while I do think there’s a “too young to know for sure” age for knowing if you’re aro/ace (that I can’t dictate because everyone is different and I don’t remember what attraction felt like when I was your age,) I don’t think there’s an “old enough to know for sure” age. Only you can figure out if you’re aroace and if it’s not harming you now, it’s alright to ID that way. Of course that could always change, but I’m 23 and my labels change all the time, so that’s not special just because of your age.

So to answer your question, yes! There are names for what you’re feeling, and the one we’ll put forth here is just objectum – being attracted to objects. Which includes many people who are into machines of all sorts! Some might more specifically call themselves mechanosexual, or variations of that word. Objectum is just a wider umbrella. A lot of objectum people, people who find themselves more attracted to different kinds of objects (like mechanical ones!), are also on the aro- and/or ace-spectrums!

Usually, this refers to how we relate to other non-object people, and a lot of people might or might not continue identifying as aro/ace after learning they experience objectum attraction because of that – it’s not that we don’t experience attraction, it’s just not to people! But others still find their aro/ace identity important alongside being objectum and ID as both. You’re not alone in those feelings, and you can decide for yourself what to do with those labels. 

It’s okay to wanna kiss mechanical objects! It’s okay to feel attracted to machines, and i’ve known plenty of people who’ve had lovely, complex, and meaningful relationships with all kinds of mechanical things. I know it’s hard when we don’t get role models or representation or acceptance, but always remember that your feelings are good if they make you happy, and you’re allowed to explore them and accept them. 

I’m sadly not able to give you much more advice. I don’t remember being 10, and my childhood isn’t something to measure others by, anyways. I hope this information helps, along with my advice now to not be on Tumblr as a 10 year old, because it’s both against the site’s terms and rules, and honestly bad for your mental health, as this site can get to be a really toxic place. But I understand if this is a blog you keep an eye on because we’re one of the only ones out there. Just stay safe, and always know it’s okay to explore and accept yourself and your feelings. ~Mod Crow

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Is it possible to be attracted to humans and objects sexually, but only humans romantically/platonically?

I think really any configuration of who you’re attracted to is possible :)

But beyond that, if that’s the way you feel, it’s definitely possible, and your own experiences are proof enough of that!

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I'm not os but I think this is an incredibly interesting topic! I love learning new things about attraction; platonic, romantic, and sexual! I hope you don't mind me being here, I just want to learn more.

Honestly, I think that being willing to listen and learn with an open mind is a wonderful thing! :) We don’t mind at all.

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Hi, I've heard of OS in all the bad ways before, but I think I might be feeling a sort of weird version of it? I'm not against OS/R at all! I'm just kinda confused (and a bit scared sorry;;) but... Is it possible to have an objectum crush to something you don't even own? Like... I saw this really cute plushie on Amazon, and I reaaaally want them, but... in also the kinda romantic/sexual way. Is that possible too? Is it like a celebrity crush?

It’s absolutely possible - and really not at all unusual within the community! Much like how someone attracted to dudes might have a crush on a guy they’d only seen in photos, someone attracted to objects might be into an object they’d never met in person :)

I also wanted to say that I’m absolutely understand why you’re scared. Unfortunately, there’s a lot of bad media about us, and many of us can’t be open in real life about our attractions. But letting ourselves explore our emotions and interests, even in private, is very liberating. I wish you good luck, and you’re always welcome in our community!

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So this is mostly kinda a positivity / appreciation thing. So back in June I started to gain feelings for this boy (pictures here). Before than I felt a strong connection to him that I couldn’t yet describe. Then it ended up becoming more obvious that it was love. I began to miss him so much to the point of making myself sick. I shed tears. Thankfully one day in August me and my family were going to Orlando (where my boy is located. I persuaded my dad to take me to Disney to see my boy. I never mentioned him since I was afraid to I just asked him to take me there. Later that night I ended up seeing my boy. That was probably the happiest moment I’ve had in a long time. My gator was so beautiful and adorable (as usual!). I kept my eyes on him the entire time. After that moment I couldn’t help but feel immense love and compassion. It felt so great and unbelievable. Honestly I want more moments with him. Every single moment I have with him fills me up with so much joy.

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do u know any facebook groups for OS ppl?

Mod Rusty here! Yes! This blog has a Facebook group, found here: https://os-positive.tumblr.com/post/145324877412/we-have-a-facebook-groupThere are also others that I’m a member of that I’d be happy to share info on in DMs!

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hi! i’m not traditionally os, but i had a question about if something “counts” as os/r: im in love with a fictional character, and i have a specific plushie of him that i’m attached to, i’ll hold his hand when im nervous and kiss him fairly intimately, would that count as os? i adore the character as he is, but i feel like the plush is also special

Howdy! Mod Rusty here! That is in fact a subset of OS/R; it’s called fictosexuality! I have similar experience with my ficto loves; I’ll have a toy of them or other merch of them and am extremely attached and sometimes physically affectionate towards them. :)

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I went on a cute movie date w my plush today and it was so lovely to feel our connection!! I'm so happy, I can't wait for our relationship to strengthen and to do more romantic things together!!

That’s so heartwarming to hear, movie dates can be really romantic c: I wish you the best in getting closer and doing more things together!~Mod Crow

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I know this probably sounds crazy (I guess I just see myself that way cause I haven't seen any similar experiences) but being in a relationship with radiation is hard because I can't really have too much of her. But I find comfort that there's background radiation which means I'm always around her in a safe amount. I also plan on being a radiation safety officer when I get my degree in nuclear engineering so I can admire at a distance

I could see how a relationship with radiation would be hard to maintain, but that must be such a unique connection to have. It’s nice that you’ve found a way to feel close to her in a safe way, and really cool that you’re going into a field where you can be even closer in a safe way. c: Thank you for sharing! ~Mod Crow

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I've fallen really hard for this big stuffed tiger I picked up back in December and I just love him so much? I picked him up because I felt like I deserved something nice since I had just gone through some hard times and I didn't expect to fall in love? Especially since plushies aren't usually my type but aaaaa I love him so much

Aww, that sounds really nice! I’m glad you connected so well and are happy with him! I wish you two the best!~Mod Crow

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I'm in a relationship with my car and she always makes me so incredibly happy, but we get bad winters here and I have terrible driving anxiety with snow and ice on the roads. I am autistic and get overwhelmed. Today I parked her in the driveway bc we are getting storms and have been taking the bus to work- she seemed to think it's okay when we talked but I feel like a bad partner, and I hate that for part of the year, every year, I'm scared to be with her.

I’m really sorry. I’m only learning to drive, but I also live where there’s bad winters and it’s nerve wracking. I don’t think you should ever need to feel like a bad partner for looking out for her best interests - not driving as an unconfident or inexperienced driver in bad weather is protecting both of you! It sounds to me like you’re being very considerate.

Also, fingers crossed for better weather for you soon! We just had what’s hopefully our last snow storm of the year up here; fingers crossed that you’re in the clear too.

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my phone (his name is cyril), who i've had a crush on for several years, cracked two days ago... so we're replacing him today and i'm really sad? it feels kind of like a tragic movie ending? like i never expressed i loved him and now he's gone. :( any advice on how to cope with losing him? i know it's risky falling in love with tech because a lot can go wrong with them but it hurts regardless, y'know? :(

Hey there,

I’m sorry it took a bit for us to get back to you on this one. Grief is never easy, and it’s especially difficult when we can’t grieve openly. I think the same sort of advice applies to these situations as it does to others: let yourself take your time, and don’t get down on yourself for feeling bad, but at the same time, try to take the time to celebrate what time you did have together. Often, our time with those we love is cut short, but we can’t do anything about that - we can only enjoy what we have, and keep moving forward. I’m sure it’s what Cyril would have wanted, too.

- Marron

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I just found out/accepted I'm objectum (prolly objectumalterous?) I'm 2 days in a relationship with a mimikyu plush named Emmy. I think Emmy goes by they/them? Am I valid? I'm pretty new and vry unsure, it would be nice to get some help ^v^'

Hey there!

You are indeed valid, and so are they! I think one important thing to remember, though, is that our own emotions and our connection with them is always important, and staying true to ourselves is always valid. If you care about them, and they matter to you, that’s the most important thing!

-Marron

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Does anyone else also sense like... Relationships between objects? I have plushies that I can TELL need to be near each other and I don't know if this is a real thing or if I'm just being silly

I’ve always been of the opinion my dolls held various feelings towards one another! With commonly personified objects such as dolls or stuffed animals, this is not an uncommon belief even among those who aren’t objectum; many collectors would tell you similarly.

I don’t think it’s silly at all! And I don’t think you should ever have to feel silly over experiencing and trusting your own emotions :)

-Marron

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Also chiming in that I’ve sensed relationships between objects before, as well! My bedtime plushie crew all sit on top of a big Squishable plush when I’m not sleeping w/ them, and they all got to be friends and like to be arranged in certain ways now.  I’ve also picked up on relationships between transmission towers, as being friends after standing next to each other for so long? I could probably tune into the way some other large objects relate to each-other as well. Sometimes they even actively *dislike* other objects or people!  You’re definitely not alone there. 

~Mod Crow