Our Skinship

I have had the hardest time trying to find a blog with a Black woman/ Latino man relationship. So I've decided to share our journey, our life, and our love <3

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Whew, it’s been a tough nearly 10 years in this season. What’s crazy is without searching for it, the answer was in front of me 4 years ago. I just wasn’t able to accept it. I wanted to keep face and keep my family together. Even if that meant staying in a family that didn’t entirely accept he for who I am. Flaws and all. I have never been happier than when I’m with him and the crazier part is that he’s Salvadoran too 🙄 I was terrified of being with him after my last experience but I had to understand that an ethnicity isn’t a monolith. I don’t want people to classify me as “ghetto” and difficult just by me being a dark skinned woman so I can’t classify all Hispanics as full of pseudo-machismo with unaccepting families. This man has completely renewed my trust in humanity and I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with him. #blendedfamily #lmbw #swirllife #loveislove #bwlm #mysweetlove

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“I think we were meant to be but we did it wrong.”

—4:15 PM

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I’ve been gone from this blog for too long. So much has happened. My sweet Valentina is now 6 years, and my ex husband and I have been back together for a year and half ❤️ We’ve grown, we’ve learned how to love ourselves so that we can better love each other and our child. Our journey hasn’t been perfect but it’s ours. Our Skinship.

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Everybody's got opinions

About the way they think our story's gonna end

Some folks feel it's just a superficial thrill

Everybody's gonna have to think again...

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I’ve finally gotten my Friday the 13th tattoo! Friday the 13th is a special day for me. I filed for divorce on a Friday the 13th in November of 2015. I got a white 13 to commemorate a clean slate and a fresh start in life. I couldn’t be more pleased with it ❤️

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I think I’m Dating my Ex-Husband

Full face of makeup: $50+

Cute revenge outfit: $20 (shoutout to the clearance rack)

Dinner at your fave Thai place for 3: $100

Getting plum wine tipsy with your ex-husband: Priceless

Cheers to new beginnings and fun times 🍸

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We had brunch and mimosas this morning. Just the two of us, no baby. It was a pleasant surprise and we were even able to communicate without arguing. We laughed. We gave judgmental eyebrows to people who walked by lol. We shared movie and music recommendations. It felt like I had my best friend back. I fought to be friends after our divorce and it’s the most worthwhile fight I’ve ever endured. We understand each other so much better, which shows in our sweet baby. She’s happy because we continue to love and respect each other, despite our divorce. I’m proud of how far we’ve come. We will forever have each other’s hearts. ❤️

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Being able to find someone you click with so naturally is the best feeling ever. You feel like you’ve been best friends you’re whole life, it feels like you’re coming home. You’re so comfortable with them. Maybe that’s what a soulmate is. Not someone who shares every single thing in common with you, but someone who feels like home.

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Although we are no longer married, in the 2 years since our divorce we have learned how to grow and co-parent in the best interest of our sweet Valentina. Her smile says it all. We are still a happy family! Some days are better than others. Married or not, our baby comes first. This year we took her out for Halloween together!

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This baby is my life ❤️

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Somehow, this brilliant Blogger was able to put my current situation into a beautifully written blog post. Yes, my husband and I are divorcing but I hope one day he understands that it was never truly about the "dishes".

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It may be just the two of us now but I couldn't ask for a more perfect person to spend the rest of my life with! I live for this baby! She is so gentle, thoughtful, intelligent and precocious. She teaches me new things about myself daily. She challenges me to be better than I was the day before. She allows me to be human and loves me unconditionally despite my flaws. She is a truly happy and healthy little person. She is a reminder of a love that once was, so there is no way I could be bitter; especially since this perfect being was the outcome. I am whole and complete with my sweet baby by my side. I can't wait to see what 2016 has in store for us!!

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Sorry about the divorce...Hope you & your family get through it & things be okay❤

Thank you so much for your kind words Anon! You have no idea how much your encouragement means to me as we move into a new year! Sending you my love ❤️❤️❤️Xoxo

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All things come to an end at some point. I loved hard and I have no regrets. I can now say that I have learned what my worth is and how much that matters in life. Settling for mediocrity and half of a heart is not an option. I was able to gather enough courage to file on 11/13/15. Everyone deserves full and unconditional love in this world. The kind of love he was willing to offer wasn't meant for me. Either way, I wish him the best of luck.