Stone Butch

Almost 40yo Butch Dyke | no minors | no men | she/her |

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Howdy- this is my horny blog and it’s also a space I’ve enjoyed for building community and making friends. But this is the internet, I’m old, and I have rules:

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age: 39

minimum_age_to_follow: 18

minimum_age_to_flirt: 28

sexual_identity: STONE_BUTCH

last_known_location: “between femme thighs”

favorite_flavor: “stone femme bottoms”

married: true

open_to: [“friendships”, “flirting”, “building stone & butch/femme community”]

do_not_inquire: [“minors”, “cis men”, “TERFs”]

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In a previous ask, you shared some of your fav packers. Do you have any fav strapon recommendations? And do you prefer boxer strap ons or harness strap ons? Thanks!

Fuck yes I do! I’m a collector of dicks and think it’s great to have a variety for different occasions, locations, positions, lovers, and moods.

Generally, I only buy dual density dicks because they feel the most realistic for both me and my partners. There are other personal preferences I have but those could vary dick-wearer to dick-wearer. I like my cocks to have balls, no huge suction cup on the back, and somewhat close to my skin tone.

Two of my favorites are by Axolom from their pack-n-play line. The Atlas (middle size) is what I hard pack with. The Eros is big and fun but dig fully to comfortably pack. These cocks have a moving third layer and floating balls which are both cool. As a heads up these have a lot of bend/squish so they’re not great for all positions and anatomy but the feedback is that they feel incredibly close to the real thing.

MRIMIN has some decently priced dicks that I like but I couldn’t hard pack with any of these for more than an hour or so. I like that they have some more affordable options.

New York Toy Collective regularly gets hype for their bendable dicks like Carter, Shiloh, and Mason but I haven’t tried any yet. They’re a bit too unrealistic and where are the balls bro? I don’t want to have to buy them separately.

I have a posable dick RodeOh that has been a favorite and another very special cock awaiting the maiden voyage. I’ll report back with my findings on that.

As far as harnesses, I used the Spareparts Joque for the longest time. I don’t love the Velcro and it’s a lot of material to have on under boxer and pants but this harness can get really secure for intense sessions. These days I hardpack a lot and use the Cake Bandit harnesses a because they double as harnesses for fucking. The hybrid of harnesses. I can wear these for ten hours and still be comfortable. Size down if you’re between sizes because the tighter fit will give you more control.

As far as boxer harnesses, you’ve asked at the right time. I tried a boxer brief harness a million years ago before they really perfected the design. For me, it was too floopy and I felt like there was a lag between my hips and my cock. Like the spandex in the boxer material was absorbing the efforts of my thrusting. However, I just got the rise boxer harness from RodeOh with the neoprene stabilizer that I’m throbbing with excitement to take for a spin. I’ll report back and let you know if I’m successfully able blow out my tumblr crush’s back with that set up.

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I used to get packing asks here but I’ve moved over to @butchsince84 to appease the tumblr gods

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Hey, I hope it's okay to ask you questions?? If it's not feel free to just not answer me but I don't really know anyone in the stone butch/femme community and someone called me out for this

Can you identify as a stone femme if you enjoy giving your strap wearing partner oral? Everything else is a hard no for me but this i quite enjoy and I was informed that I cant label myself in this way and I was told to stop and said some other not so nice things. I just don't wanna offend anybody

Oh god I’m so mad someone is policing you on something like that. I have personal trauma from someone saying similar to me over a decade ago and I’m sorry you had to field that person’s own issues with identity. It hurts to know there’s still so much to overcome when we’re talking about stoneness.

And thank you for coming here to ask because I can 100% unequivocally without a doubt say giving your partner head with their dick or strap is not a disqualification for using the stone femme identity.

Fuck that person for saying that to you and making you question something so special about stone sex. On a daily basis I thank the heavens, all the gods, and infant baby jesus himself for stone femmes with a penchant for giving beautifully crafted head. It’s truly an art form and special skill to provide so much intense pleasure without physically touching your partner’s genitals. That’s the whole point. That’s what we appreciate about you. That’s what we want. You’re doing the thing, babe. You’re a stone femme.

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I’m rarely logged into this account these days but I’m back to my same old shit at @butchsince84 now.

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I have a question for you, mighty King of Butches! Hypothetically, what would one wear in order to be considered "butch bait"? And looked at, perhaps, lustfully? 👀

Mighty King of Butches 🫣 I respectfully can’t accept that title because there have been so many older, wiser, gentler, incredible butch humans before me paving the way to have spaces like this. But thank you. ♥️

To appear as bait to butches, I think it somewhat depends on your own style. You can go super obvious and just wear a shirt that says it and that’ll make it wildly clear. But some things I look for when I’m trying to determine if a femme is hoping a butch will look disrespectfully are:

coding rainbow, lesbian, bi, or pansexual flag colors. It might be in her earrings or a tattoo or a sticker on her water bottle.

Nails 💅 if they’ve got the “lesbian manicure” I’m out. But check out the nail art for clues

Lace or some daintily strappy undergarment showing in some way. Sexy bra peeking out of a low cut shirt or skirt barely covering something delicious

Carabiner (on the right side)

Intentional touches of lavender

Queer themed tattoos. Also see: knife, sword, dagger tattoos

Venus symbol anywhere

Eyes locked on the lower half of a butch

Can any butch bait femmes chime in?

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what boxers do you like best for packing? and if i use a soft packer, is a harness necessary?

I mostly wear MeUndies 9” boxer briefs with fly and if I’m sitting or sleeping, I can pack right in the pouch. Otherwise I use a simple packer harness for soft packing out and about and a Cake Bandit harness for hard packing and most sex.

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Hi! Are you moving here fully from packedandstrapped?

Yeah, just making my way slowly but surely.

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Just this old butch packing and strapping again under another blog now with full functionality. ✨

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The new digs

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i think you fail to realize how much femmes would fold over a grunting audio! you don’t know the power it’d have over us 😮‍💨😮‍💨

I’m not going to lie, I almost threw my phone across the room at the thought of releasing jerking off audio to the world. ✊

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Old butch here I believe I have hit my sexy Dino stage I literally made a raptor screech noise and was so embarrassed I just hid under the covers. Been a long time since I’ve been embarrassed naked but a red ass walking to lock the door will do that to u

From one old butch to another, I think folks might be into the dinosaur noises. Let ‘em out, champ.

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I’m sorry but bjs do not fall under making love that offensive to the phrase

Have you ever seen the adoration spilling off the lips of a femme that loves to suck cock? A devotional pretty mouth wrapped around the head of a dick she can’t wait to feel inside of her? That’s some love making for sure.

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can’t wait for there to be a butch femme epic one day with everything romance action, drama tragedy I guess maybe a happy ending tho

And please for the love of god show the femme eyeing that harness or rodeoh boxers peeking out of butch jeans.

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i think i might be stone butch but i’m also a virgin so i haven’t had any experience regarding sex and figuring out my preferences however i do consider myself a service top and mostly dom, and i’ll sometimes be submissive but won’t allow a potential partner to touch me there, would you consider that a valid way to be stone butch

Hey there, I am definitely not the authority or one to validate or invalidate anyone’s stoneness. If you feel like a stone butch and want to operate under that identity, we welcome you with open arms (despite many of us not being huggers).

It sounds like you already have an idea of what your bodily boundaries are and that’s such a huge piece. And those could change as you gain experience, so give yourself space to lean into what feels right for you.

Knowing and communicating the limits of my own body is primarily what being a stone butch means to me. From what you wrote you’re on the same page with me there, my stone butch friend.

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You deserve to be eaten the fuck out from the back whenever you want princess

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Yea I may lose control and fuck you like you have no rights but I still get butterflies when I get called handsome

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A femme getting dressed and choosing each item and detail specifically and exclusively for the butch gaze makes my brain break in all the right places

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Heya, I only recently came across your blog and I just wanted to share that it has made me feel so validated and understood, seeing others have similar desires to me and be desired in return. I've had such a terrible time coming to terms with my sexuality, I kept feeling compelled to like things that I don't, feeling like I'm a freak for my boundaries. I have lesbian friends and I always felt ashamed at how I couldn't relate to their desires of being touched by other women. That only wanting to give but not receive means I don't "actually" like women. It fucked me up for so long. But now I'm so glad to know being a stone top is a real and valid experience and that there ARE people who will love and respect that :) Thank you for being so unapologetically yourself, I know it mustn't have been easy. But know that it gives folks like me a lot of strength and reassurance <3

What a treat to receive this message. I totally hear you about your friend group treating you like a freak because of some boundaries. The queer community has been shitting on us for quite some time. I think part of my promiscuity and softened boundaries in my early twenties were direct attempts to combat the idea that I wasn’t lesbian enough because I didn’t want to receive touch in a traditionally acceptable lesbian way. Few people understand how it could be possible to enjoy a persons body more than your own. Sex is inherently selfish in a way and I think folks that willingly misunderstand stone sex can’t imagine our dynamic without resentment or some deep, growing issue. And that’s the ironic part- stone sex is the piece that exists so those issues don’t build between partners.

It’s the hottest thing on earth to know a femme gets wet sucking my cock. It makes my brain break when a femme lets me know she wants me to use her body for anything I want. When she shows off her tits just to catch me looking. Rubs her ass up against me just to get me hard. We’re both playing the same game and agree to the same rules and pieces at play. I can’t imagine operating in a world in which I was still worrying about if she was going to try to touch my chest in some way.

I’m so glad you’ve found validation here and shared this message. Thank you. I have been looking for a space like this for a while and it’s hard to find. There are sprinklings of stone community on facebook and like 3% of reddit posts.

There’s a stone butch discord here if you want to join some of us others:

Check out the ButchStones community on Discord - hang out with 16 other members and enjoy free voice and text chat.

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personally, what’s holding me back from identifying as a stone femme is the fact that i’m a virgin. i worry that i’m limiting my potential partners, and i worry that i’m wrong and i’ll have to go around telling people that.

I can totally understand that concern. I worried that I was wrong using the term “stone” myself for feeling like I should have found it sooner if it was right for me or like I hadn’t earned it because I did let some people touch me when I was younger. And even if we’re both wrong about this or anything else one day, it doesn’t make us bad people or wrong about everything. Knowing yourself and what you’re comfortable doing is what’s right for you. And that’s not wrong.

We’re all still figuring it out, babe. It sounds like you’re ahead of the game.