starry flayer

I hate AI

[pantanoverdeagua]

People have become so hostile and antisocial in the name of boundaries and self-protection.

As a woman I completely understand not wanting to be approached by random men that ignore the word NO, but I feel like sometimes people push it too far. I've seen videos by women telling men to NOT approach women in bars, clubs, coffee shops, etc. Like listen, I agree with not being approached while you are doing something like exercising in the gym or working, but back when I was single I absolutely wanted to be approached in bars, coffee shops, etc. These places are literally designed to be social (and no, obviously this doesn't apply if you went to the coffee shop to work) and you are making everyone afraid to do something that should be completely normal.

In general I hate videos that tell people to avoid starting some type of interaction, like that lady a while ago that said if you happen to be in the city of someone you know, you should not text them to hang out bc you don't know if they are busy and it puts too much pressure on them. Like I'm sorry but NO, the burden is on you to refuse if you don't wanna see the person, don't try to make everyone avoid doing something that could be potentially really positive for other people.

Another case of this was a guy on instagram saying that if you started talking with someone, you should not do stuff like tell them good morning every day or ask questions about their life. Like??? how tf are you supposed to build a connection with anyone then? Again, the burden is on YOU to say NO, not on everyone else to avoid being social and normal.

A lot of people making this type of content are probably paid by dating apps to make people reliant on them, or pushed by social media because it benefits from us being isolated.

[pantanoverdeagua]

things that I had to internalize as somebody with adhd in order to be at peace and thrive:

-People are wrong, often. Growing up I developed this belief that I'm the one always fucking up. Whenever anything ever went wrong in my life, I always blamed myself. Even when other people were really objectively horrible to me, I blamed myself in the sense of thinking I was inviting mistreatment with my personality. The truth is I'm wrong often, but other people including neurotypicals are wrong at the same rate. I'm not inferior to anybody. Other people are just as capable of being at fault.

-Guilt tripping myself when I can't stop procastinating or need to rest a lot is so useless and pointless. It just makes my resting time not feel like rest, and it makes me more burnt out and unlikely to do what I need to do. If I won't do shit, might as well enjoy it fully.

-My ultimate goal in life is to enjoy it. As long as I am trying to get the best out of life, I am not wasting it. Hitting certain milestones at certain ages is a framework people can follow to structure their life, but it is not obligatory and it does not guarantee happiness. More people than you can imagine ignore these milestones and do whatever the hell they want and they are content. Not achieving said milestones does not mean I'm behind or doing anything wrong.

-My body fears the tasks because they *used* to be excruciating for me. I am on medication now, and tasks are often quite enjoyable for me to do while I am medicated. I understand that my body rejects the idea of getting up and work, so instead of trying to do so I just take the pill without thinking and wait until the dopamine starts accumulating between my neurons. So in summary medicine first, sitting down to do the task second.

-Socializing is necessary and enjoyable, but RSD and social norms make it exhausting to be with new people or people you are not that close with. It is unrealistic for me to spend a lot of time socializing and then expect to have any energy to do my tasks. I have to limit it.

-Being a people pleaser is one of the worst things you can ever do to yourself. You will attract thousands of takers that will leave you drained. My logic used to be that I have no worth as a person, so I must provide services for people so that they have a reason to want me around. I became every friend's therapist and some even treated me as their personal assistant. I felt like if my life was a movie, I'd be the best friend character whose sole role is to hype up the main character. If you are like this, let me tell you that these people will always see you this way and they will make it very difficult to start asserting yourself, because you'll face pushback every time you do. So if you are in a dynamic like this, distance yourself from the person. Red flags to look out for: does not ask questions to you (the biggest one), has a new problem every time you talk, asks for validation frequently, is bossy in small ways (for example, let's say you are with someone and they want to go somewhere. They will say "I wanna go, let's go" instead of saying something like "hey would you mind coming with me").

-Don't listen to any of these bullshit lists that are like "BEST JOBS FOR ADHD" "jobs you should AVOID if you have adhd" because first of all, they are often written by neurotypicals that don't understand anything. And second, these things are almost always compiled with the milestones in mind. What they mean is what jobs will make it the easiest for you to hit those milestones fast if you have adhd. For example, they never suggest you try a career in science because to be honest, yeah, my adhd made it so it is taking longer than average for me to graduate. But adhd comes with hypercuriosity, so being in biology is deeply fulfilling to me. Those lists don't take that into account. I'm not saying it's wrong to want something that will get you a lot of money fast even if you don't enjoy it, but that is not everybody's priority.

anyway i have more but thats all for now i hope this can help somebody

[pantanoverdeagua]

notice how everybody mocked Cynthia for defending Ariana from that crazy fan, but now they are praising David Corenswet protecting Milly from papparazi. Hmmmmm interesting I wonder why

[pantanoverdeagua]

Replacing Nettles with Rhaena on HotD was one of the dumbest decisions they could have made. Nettles is a fan-favorite character, and it was very refreshing to have somebody like her on F&B. She is a young, black, resourceful peasant girl among a sea of rich, royal, entitled characters that have been handed everything on a plate their whole life. She would have probably elicited thousands of edits and posts praising her and a lot of good will towards the show (which it is certainly lacking now). They said they didn't include her because they wanted to keep it focused on the family and thought that bringing a side character with so much importance out of the blue would be jarring for the audience, but I think that's bs.

First of all, if we assume that is the real reason, it would have been easy to fix. Show snippets of her life during season 2 to create intrigue, so when she joins the plot on s3 the audience is already anticipating her and it doesn't feel like an asspull. Solved. But I don't think that is even the real reason tbh, I think they excluded her either because Sarah Hess is straight up classist (she essentially said no one gives a fuck about the peasants when somebody asked her about Rhaenys bursting through the floor and killing a bunch of them) and didn't think anybody would be invested in a random peasant girl, or because her existance threatens the way they wanna paint Rhaenyra. They wanna make her look like this good-hearted, innocent woman, so they can't paint her as being jealous over Nettles' relationship with Daemon or being hateful of a young girl. And Mysaria also has to be this champion for the underprivileged, so no way she can be shit talking a peasant child and fueling the flames of Rhaenyra's hatred.

I feel like they must have a vendetta against the property and are actively trying to ruin it and make people hate it, because the choices they are making are wild. They are sacrificing so much in order to favor their stupid ass ideas.

Also I will take this chance to say GIVE ME MY FAT AND CUNTY RHAENYRA BACK. Book Rhaenyra is so interesting and iconic, I was actually rooting for her despite her being an obviously bad person, but I can't root for this boring ass bitch they made.

[stillnaomi]

using violence to liberate people from sweatshops, unsafe mines, and grinding poverty isn't the same as using violence to impose those things on people. the idea that violence is morally repugnant regardless of context is a belief that every oppressor throughout history would love for the oppressed to hold

[digitalwealthpath]

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[pantanoverdeagua]

for some fucking reason almost NOBODY sells colored tights in my country and I had to look all over the place for these red ones. But I am so happy I found them I LOVEEEE them sm. Also the shoes were normal black flats but the lady that works at my grandma's house sewed the pompoms on

[pantanoverdeagua]

Whenever somebody says that Game of Thrones went to shit because they ran out of material to adapt, I just KNOOOOOOW they haven't touched the books in their entire life.

A song of ice and fire spoilers and game of thrones spoilers (entire book series and show) ahead.

Game of Thrones started getting butchered as early as season 2 when they changed everything that was important about Daenery's storyline. In the book she receives a lot of prophecies/visions that are not shown in the show, Xaro doesn't die and continues to play a role in her story, and Doreah was not a betrayer.

Season 3 was not too different from book 3 and was well executed, but they started getting pretty derailed in season 4. They pretty much just took what they liked and dropped a huge amount of important plot threads and characters.

1. They removed two people that are aiming for the throne and are probably gonna have a significant impact on the outcome of the story, Aegon Targaryen and Arianne Martell.

2. They removed Victarion Greyjoy who is right now on his way to meet Daenerys and attempt to marry her. And he has a magic evil horn that can supposedly bind dragons to his will.

3. They nerfed Euron and completely changed everything about him for worse.

4. They removed (or made irrelevant, I don't remember) Wyman Manderly who is conspiring against the Boltons and has involved Davos in it by sending him to retrieve Rickon from an island of rumored cannibals.

5. They removed Jeyne Poole, Sansa's best friend who goes through a huge ordeal and is also very significant to the story. In the books when they are killing all the Stark employees that came with Ned and his family to King's Landing, they kill Jeyne's father Vayon and Littlefinger takes her and puts her to work in one of his brothels. Then he makes her pretend to be Arya and gives her to Ramsay to wed. Sansa stays in the Vale developing manipulation and political skills while Jeyne goes through everything Sansa did in the show until she escapes with Theon.

Ok there are more things but I got tired of typing. In conclusion, if you say that the show sucks solely because they ran out of books, your opinion is not valid and you are fake and a poser

[pantanoverdeagua]

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