next to your heartbeat, where i should be.

natalie, 21, she/her

[buddieorelse]

when anyone says any of the boys names in public I just feel like I’m being personally called out.. like someone will be like “Harry Styles” off-handedly and I’ll be like… please leave my personal life out of this

[bebopmoon]

We're in the bad place

[hieronymus-bush]

Hey, I just want everyone to know that what the world is going through is a legitimate trauma. Full on. It fits the “official” definition and everything. This is a traumatic event.

That means that it’s normal and expected to find yourself using coping mechanisms that you thought you were done with, to find yourself numbed out, to be on the verge of constant panic attacks, to be acting impulsively and compulsively, to engage in very old patterns, to have wide swings of every behaviour especially regarding sleep, food, and sex.

The research shows that people in a traumatic situation who most often develop PTSD (which I would say we are all at risk of) or have their existing PTSD/C-PTSD intensified are folks who cannot or believe they cannot do anything about it the trauma event.

So, if you are able, look for a place in all of this where you can feel that you can do something. Harass a company not doing enough for its employees, sign a petition, check in on a neighbour, set alarms to remind yourself to eat (it’s on my own to do list for today), intentionally spend time every day doing straw breathing to shift your sympathetic nervous system response. You don’t have to become some social media hero, or spend all your time improving yourself. But if you can find something that makes you feel like you can do something for yourself that decreases the trauma load on you, it will greatly benefit you going forward.

If anyone has any questions about this, my asks are open, or you can message me. (I cannot do any online therapy, I am happy to share information about trauma itself and any tools that I know)

It is okay to reblog this.

- Registered Clinical Counsellor, with 10+ years specifically working with trauma

[kitty]

reach for the stars little buddy

[slimmetra-deactivated20250917]

any temperature above 70F is homophobic

[powerfulwizard]

[punker-tomato-deactivated202109]

[blisterswuornos]

[quasi-normalcy]

No offence, but Alan Turing didn't kick the Nazis' collective ass for you to run around saying that you're too gay to learn mathematics.

[langblrwhy]

Have you thanked Alan Turing (1912 - 1954), atheist and homossexual, the father of modern computer science, today?

[parallel-5ths]

it’s ironic how a few months ago all i wanted was to go home. and now i’m being forced to go home but i want to stay at school. my friends are here, my jobs are here, my community is here. i know i’ll be okay at home but i had so many things i was looking forward to this semester that are now impossible. i hate this.

[trylonandperisphere]

[pollyjean]

why can’t MY life be a 50k slow burn friends to lovers fic

[nerdgul]

Whos to say it isnt. u wouldnt even notice till chapter 17

[rottenbutrecovering]

not to toot me own horn but the fact that i didn’t kill myself in the 2010s? big dick energy idk how i pulled that one off

[messengershooter-deactivated202]

.pdf (poison dart frog)

[goodbyeeveryonee-deactivated202]

I feel like internet activism killed interpersonal relationships. Not in the ‘no one can talk to each other without offending someone!’ stupid ass talking point. But listen—internet activism is very reactionary. For good reason, because there are plenty of idiots that deserve it. However, internet activism is typically practiced 24/7. When you’re yelling at people 24/7 online without the option of a healthy dialogue or discourse, how do you think that translates into your real life? Some of the best activists I know are the worst communicators.

When you’re used to feeling like everything is wrong, it’s very difficult to feel like anything is going right. And when something gone ‘right’ takes a dip for the worse, that same reactionary politik is applied there. The same sort of blow up and refusal of calm discourse. This isn’t a case to forgive everyone that does you wrong, but please reevaluate how many of your relationships you treat like the online spaces you live in. It’s likely you need to offer some more compassion. I had to. Relationships aren’t all or nothing like most online praxis.

[absurdist-void]

damn right

[beckie-letitia-deactivated20210]

This blog is pro tits and anti Nazi