Crying into my cheeky Nando's

Hi it's me, nefarious queer supervillain (terf assigned) Tash PartyWithPonies. Call me whatever pronouns you want at this point. I like to keep the haters guessing. I'm from that there London and I like bastard men, unhinged women, and really weird media with themes of death. I've been on tumblr dot com way too long and I'm honestly just here for a laugh. Oh, and I still love you. Yes, you. You're still beautiful. I'm still here.

[partywithponies]

I was promised a stupid and cheesy show, no-one said anything an intro that slaps this hard!

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This bangs so hard and I'm not going to pretend it doesn't. I'm already hooked from this intro alone.

[partywithponies]

Ooooooh you want to watch this show. You want to watch this show so bad. I put every episode in a handy google drive for you it's so easy for you to watch the show, just click the link. Do it. Do it. You know you want to

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Fandom Misogyny Victim Tournament

Round Three, Bracket 8

Mai (Avatar: The Last Airbender) vs. Mary Watson (BBC Sherlock)

Mai

Mary Watson

Remaining time: 2 days 23 hours

Propaganda below the cut:

Mai:

they hated her bc she dated zuko and they thought she was "boring" and "ugly"

Zutara shippers demonize Mai like it's fueling the atmosphere

Mary Watson:

She got in the way of Johnlock, and was therefore the devil incarnate

it doesn’t help that she was in a deeply misogynistic show, but speaking firsthand, the fandom absolutely demonised her just because she got in the way of johnlock. even when she wasn’t in the way she was villainised by the fandom and the show itself

There was some truly cruel fanfic written about mary

Mary just… got in the way of Johnlock but she is such an amazing character and I love her so much ???

[free-my-girl-tourney]

Fandom Misogyny Victim Tournament

Round Three, Bracket 8

Azula (Avatar: The Last Airbender) vs. Kitty Higham (BBC Ghosts)

Azula

Kitty Higham

Remaining time: 2 days 23 hours

Propaganda below the cut:

Azula:

She is often given very little grace for her actions in comparison to her brother. I think people tend to forget that the only reason Zuko gets his redemption arc is because his banishment gave him access to an environment outside of his abusive home, as well as a support network who helped re-contextualize his experiences. Comparatively, Azula is younger than him, she's a girl in a patriarchal society, and she is systematically denied access to support and education that would inform her of the issues with how she is treated. Yes, the way she treats Zuko and her peers is often cruel, but she is also only 14 years old and lives under the constant threat of neglect and violence from a man who intentionally encourages competitiveness and conflates violence with authority. Any apparent delight she takes in Zuko's mistreatment is experienced alongside the understanding that if it wasn't him, it would be her. She does plenty of horrible things throughout the show, but I think her inability to understand the morality of those actions is more of a tragedy that people like to give credit for.

She is a child! Give her access to a support network, therapy, opportunities to learn about new people and places and the world outside of the bubble she has been kept in her whole life. She deserves a chance to deconstruct her experiences, to learn that how she was treated was wrong and that she deserves better, and that she has the opportunity to makes amends for her own actions and to break the cycle should she choose.

She's treated as an irredeemable war criminal and abuser at 14 while Iroh, a 50 something-at-youngest man who spent most of his life participating in a century of imperialism and besieged Ba Sing Se for 600 days before hanging up his hat as a general only after he personally lost his son and then proceeded to not actually take any steps whatsoever towards ending the war despite being the rightful heir, is a beloved fandom figure. People deny her humanity in every way they can at every chance they get and think she deserves to be psychiatrically abused and is incapable of being redeemed. Even a lot of the people who think she can be redeemed think more or less putting her on a leash so she can be Zuko's guard dog is "redemption." People won't even acknowledge that she's also a victim of her father's abuse.

Despite being a fourteen year old child soldier, she is adultified constantly. This usually comes in two forms - as an evil seductress or as evil incarnate, worse than even her father, Ozai. Some people even claim this fourteen year old girl SLEPT TO THE TOP. Or she is painted as evil and irredeemable despite her breakdown on screen. She is constantly hated on in order to prop her brother, Zuko, up.

She is clever and ambitious. She was able to restore her brother's honor, conquer Ba Sing Se, and kill the Avatar in one fell swoop. Evil actions? Yes but damn she did it well. She's been abused all her life and deserves a chance to heal from her trauma. She's the only one we see in the series wield blue flames, immensely powerful. She slays every outfit and scene she appears in. Insanely quotable. "Do the tides command this ship, or do I?…Then I think you should stop worrying about the tides, which have already decided to kill you, spend more time worrying about me, who's still mulling it over."

I don’t know if this counts as Azula propaganda, but some people are using the actress who plays her in the Netflix remake as the face of NATLA’s mishaps, such as using her exaggerated facial expressions in YouTube thumbnails. They hate her because she’s a bad actress and doesn’t look enough like Azula because she has a rounder, human face.

Azula is such a classic case of 'if she were a guy you would adore her'. She is a traumatised victim of abuse raised in an environment where the "affection" of her only remaining parental figure was conditional on her ability to achieve perfection in every aspect of her life (something that is both normal to want and possible to achieve, right?). She's isolated, intentionally pitted against her brother, obsessive, and is one of the (if not, THE) most skilled firebenders of her generation, despite being raised under a patriarchy that consistently devalues women. She's so wondefully complex, has some of the best lines in the show, and she's assertive and confident. But because she's never afforded the opportunity by the narrative to reframe the way she has been treated as abuse, to learn and grow and to form healthier bonds in the way that her brother is allowed, she's irredeemably evil and a bitch and we should all hate her (at least, that's how some people seem to think.) Her emotional breakdown at the end of her final fight with Zuko and Katara is one of the most harrowing scenes in the show, because it is such a painful and tragic example of a child who has been driven to the brink by an absusive upbringing and is now trapped completely alone with their pain. Why is it that Zuko's experiences and destructive reactions to trauma are given so much grace and he deserves the chance to redeem himself, but his younger sister is "getting what she deserves" when her trauma brings her nothing but suffering? Well, we know the reason. It's misogyny. And this is just in reference to the animated show! The absolutely horrific things that have been said about the live action actress is genuinely disgusting. Fat shaming, a slew of abuse over her acting choices, the near constant commentary on her body (Mai's actress has also suffered a lot of the same treatment.) I remember when the first season came out and the amount of discussions going around about how she wasn't "pretty enough" to play Azula, as if these grown adults were genuinly offended that this ACTUAL CHILD wasn't attractive enough for them. There's so much commentary going around about the writing in this show and how the characters are being represented, but whenever Azula comes up it is an actual struggle to find any discussion about her role in the story that doesn't devolve into a poor-taste dissection of her appearence. Free her!!!

Kitty Higham

Kitty is a well-liked character by a lot of the fandom, but she is often sidelined and infantilised by fans. Her being black and very possibly neurodivergent very likely makes things even worse for her. Despite her being said to be “of age” in canon (her age was later confirmed to be 23), many people in the fandom would headcanon her to be as young as 12 (the actress playing her was in her thirties) due to her somewhat naive and optimistic personality. Fans who shipped her with other characters would often get harassed (note: the characters being men that were commonly shipped with other men in the cast) for shipping an “underage” character with an adult. Kitty canonically shows a lot of interest in romance and sex, but a lot of people in the fandom choose to ignore this and make her out to be an innocent little girl who doesn’t even know what sex is.

Kitty is such a lovely character full of hope and optimism despite the lonely and neglected life she lived before dying and becoming a ghost. She’s constantly bringing joy to the people around her.

PLEASE VOTE KITTY ‼️‼️ the overt misogynoir i’ve seen in the ghosts fandom regarding kitty makes me so mad and we genuinely need to discuss it more. adding onto the propaganda too a lot of people dismiss her backstory and the racism she faced when she was alive from her sister. it’s insane how a lot of it comes from cap fans too when cap and kitty have a really close bond and their dynamic is super sweet. AND JULIAN FANS TOO. i’m julian fawcett’s #1 fan and lover but. a lot of you suck really bad.

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reuploaded bc ykw i'm fed up. fandom misogyny bingo

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literally nothing and i genuinely mean absolutely nothing in this world quite encompasses corporate detachment from the consumer quite like peggle_2_ode_to_joy.gif

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upon its release to the xbox live arcade in 2009, peggle was THE top selling game for two solid weeks. within a month, more than 100,000 players were on the leaderboards. before it got to live arcade, it had been downloaded 50 million times.

and when it released for ios? holy fuck were they DROWNING in money. when they took a weekend to put the game on sale for a dollar, down from five, a couple months after release, they made as much in that one weekend as they did since its release. it was among the top paid apps for weeks.

with critics, peggle was among some of the top downloadable, mobile, and general best games of all time at the time of its release in 2007 and onwards, and it only shot up in popularity as they made it more accessible to more people. and this was in a time before candy crush.

the thing about simple addictive puzzle games is that they make you feel competent, confident, smart, and cool for being good at them. not everybody can learn how to aim in a shooter or the best strategy in an rpg. but anybodys grandmother or baby brother can play a simple puzzle game, and the nature of these games and the way they make you feel only makes you want to play more and more.

however very very fucking few people who play simple puzzle games that you can master on the toilet would be going to E3 in the early 2010s. remember in 2012 when every ~hardcore gamer~ would screech about ‘fake gamers’ who only play candy crush? thats what peggle was. it was THE crack mobile game from the pre-candycrush era.

no one who was excited about peggle was going to E3. the hundreds of thousands of people who played peggle were not the type of people who would consider going to (or even giving a shit about) E3.

but it sold like hot cakes, and candy crush was churning out content like a madman, and EA owned popcap now, so because the game sold amazingly, and because they wanted to keep cashing in on it, and because corporate drones who controlled the scripts didnt comprehend that their consumerbase isnt one homogeneous mass, they decided to announce peggle 2 at E3 2013.

but not just “oh by the way peggle 2”, no. peggle sold like skyrim, it sold like black ops, clearly they should be saving the best for last, they should announce it like it was the craziest most incredible announcement of the night!

thus:

but in all honesty it doesnt quite have the same impact without hearing ode to joy overtop of the deafening silence of the crowd. so heres a link too. timeless.

[partywithponies]

[free-my-girl-tourney]

Fandom Misogyny Victim Tournament

Round Three, Bracket 2

Mabel Pines (Gravity Falls) vs. Sansa Stark (A Song of Ice and Fire / Game of Thrones)

Mabel Pines

Sansa Stark

Voting ended on28m

Propaganda below the cut:

Mabel Pines:

People act like she's the most selfish person on Earth for being 12 years old, squabbling with her brother and wanting things sometimes. You cannot see someone defend her without inevitably having people argue that "ACTUALLY in this moment she's actually being terrible and it justifies my hatred for her", or "yeah she's a kid but she's still really annoying and I always hate her parts of the episodes" and so on.

She is one of the kindest, most whimsical characters ever while also having the nuances of being written like a real kid and all that entails, be it flaws or qualities. She is the light of the show, the one every other character turns to for hope and laughter, and she deserves the world.

Fandom was so nasty to her for no reason??? Well I know the reason. It’s cause she was a girl who made one (1) mistake

SHES LITERALLT 12. ACTUALLY A 12 YEAR OLD. GUYS YOURE BEEFING WITH A FICTIONAL 12 YO. SHE’S SO SWEET AND KIND AND YOU CAN TELL SHE LOVES HER FAMILY SO MUCH, SHE’S TRYING, SHE’S AFRAID OF GROWING UP AND CHANGING AND HER FAMILY AND FRIENDS LEAVING HER BEHIND. THERE ARE SO MANY LAYERS TO HOW SHE ACTS but noooooooo because she’s selfish sometimes clearly she deserves to explode i guess. A tween girl btw. Did I mention that

Demonized her for inadvertently causing the start of Weirdmageddon and hated her for being a quirky 12 year old. Weirdmageddon was orchestrated by an incredibly manipulative being from another world had been working for DECADES to create the circumstances necessary to come to our world. If Mable hadn't been in a vulnerable state and in posession of the rift snowglobe, someone eventually would have been, and Bill would have just lied to them instead. This isn't a grand personal action of selfishness that Mable took she was literally just a 12 year old having a horrible day in the presence of Manipulation Guy 3000 😭

That is a 12 year old girl. Sooo many fans have blamed her for being the reason why Bill was even able to attempt to take over the world completely ignoring the fact that her grunkle Ford was the one who first made the portal and gave Bill 'proper' access to their world. Time and time again over the series she is shown to be incredibly capable and even if she isn't book smart like Dipper is she is most certainly the "street smart" twin. She's also incredibly outgoing and constantly developing new relationships and not letting poor experiences deter her. Mabel also is so crafty! She is constantly creating things and when she wants something done, she'll do it. I love that girl so much and she has received so much undeserved hate from the fandom, especially at the time when the show was originally airing.

If I had a nickel for every animated 12-year-old girl who teamed up with friends and enemies alike to save the world from an apocalyptic threat who had personal beef with an older male relative of hers… only to receive an absurd amount of hate from her fandom for the crime of being a 12-year-old girl… I would have 2 nickels!!

Sansa Stark:

Perpetually a victim of the plot, denied agency, hated for being whiny, PLUS the whole deal where they changed the plot of the book so they could show her being raped in the show…

Sansa is an incredible character for the exact reasons I hated her ass when I was 14. She's often passive, conforms to expectations, and lashes out at her younger sister for being the opposite. Her arc finds her struggling to navigate a dangerous, violent world that hates women using only the tools she was taught as a girl would keep her safe and make her successful (her passivity, her virginity, her femininity, etc.).

Bashed as the worst and most useless character of the whole series for not immediately killing all the Lannisters ig despite literally watching her father’s head get cut off at thirteen years old. Also catches flak for thinking mean things about the fandom’s chosen son Jon Snow and her sister Arya Stark, but like. This is a middle schooler.

The WHOLE POINT of her character is to illustrate how the game of thrones corrupts innocence, ERGO the character HAS to start from an innocent place. Obviously she’s naive at the start of the series, why would any child raised in a loving household far away from court politics develop any political acumen? But despite this, she does learn quickly, and her character development is among the most exciting in the show (and I’m sure it will eventually be in the series as well)

I could write a dissertation on this one but if you say Sansa is worse that Joffrey you’re a misogynist. In my opinion people hate her because her abuse arc is painfully grounded in reality.

The very first man to use her as a pawn was her father and yet the fandom blames her for this. Sansa’s arc was supposed to be a mirror of her sister’s to show that if they comply (Sansa) if they rebel (Arya) no girls win in a patriarchal society but so many people would rather hate a fictional little girl because she didn’t girl boss her way out of oppression.

According to Sophie Turner (the actress who played Sansa), people hated Sansa so much that they would actually go up to Turner in real life and go "i don't like you" (and Turner would have been in like... her teens/early twenties at this point)

I really need fans to not need her to marry a creepy old pervert to prove that she isn’t vain and put her in her place. She’s twelve. Also these creepy men like her because she’s pretty. It’s also not her job to fix their defective personalities.

George R.R. Martin wrote a really complex world with layers of story and metaphors. He has something to say about climate change and nuclear weapons, these metaphors are obvious. Then he challenges us to look at government, power structures, patriarchal systems, concepts of honor vs what’s actually right, gender roles, and how to meaningfully change all of these things. Then to have people take away nothing other than the book is about a feud between to little girls, Sansa is the villain, and the story will be about defeating her. Sansa and Arya love each other. One conforms, one rebels, neither can win in a patriarchal society. Their arc is why this society is bad for all girls but so many fans willfully miss it because of their own misogyny.

Everyone loved the idea of a free and independent North under Robb or even Jon but they seem really agitated that Sansa was the one who saw it through. They are angry at her when she’s meek and even angrier when she exercises her agency to give her homeland something they seem pretty unified in wanting.

Ned was the very first man to use Sansa. He used her as a cover while investigating the Lannister’s without any sort of regard for how dangerous that is. Yet fans blame Sansa, an eleven year old girl for killing Ned. Girl argued like a lawyer on his behalf, the milk of the poppy defense was great and Ned was ready to through it away because honor. What’s sad is I don’t think that Sansa herself is able to process how much her male family members fail her because it’s too much to handle. People also expect Sansa a kid to stand up to Joffrey at the Trident when Ned a grown adult won’t stand up to Robert. The saddest thing is that I believe if Joffrey wasn’t a bastard Ned would have married Sansa to him. He would have felt bad about it but he would have upheld the system. Fans would naturally see this as Sansa’s character flaw and proof that Ned is good because he feels bad.

I'm going to preface it by saying I genuinely have no ill will towards, nor trying to argue nor shame nor start drama with the person who submitted it. I just have to say, gently and respectfully, that the part in the Sansa propaganda that talks about her being passive feels wrong (and maybe even be a result of unintentionally swallowing some of the character slander we are otherwise successfully fighting against!) for reasons the original submitter might consider below. Sansa Stark is not actually passive. I know it can seem that way because she dissociates a lot (for very understandable trauma related reasons) and cannot directly bring out a massive narrative change on her own because she is both effectively a prisoner as well as completely isolated, but she is actually a fairly active character, it's just that she is active in a more femininely acceptable way in the society of her world. She takes initiative in front of an entire court she doesn't understand the customs of to speak up in defense of her father, thinking on her feet and coming up with an extremely reasonable defense for him that some real world lawyers in modern day use in court (and that would have worked if the authority figure was ANY character in the entire narrative other than who it was at the time). She keeps choosing kindness. She tries to persuade her abusive captor to be kinder and gentler to his younger brother who wanted to honour him on his birthday and was unsuccessful at doing so, she shows courtesy and understanding to a cousin who is from the same family of her abusers (Lancel after the blackwater), she modifies her behavior to appear as acceptable to the people who hurt her and use any insubordination as an excuse to hurt her further, so she uses the facade of a completely nonthreatening helpless unremarkable individual to the point of falsely appearing stupid to actively conspire about her own escape in the godswood (a site of religious significance to her that almost nobody around her cares enough about to frequent and check up on). She operates within the socially acceptable role of a lady which she has been taught her entire short sheltered life, in order to make herself seem less threatening to avoid being targetted by the horrible people around her. She analyzes her situation and acts accordingly by choice. Sure, it can seem passive because that is how women need to appear in a world where the majority of power is held by Men, too many of whom desperately want to keep women powerless and subservient, but she actively tries to make the choice to be good and kind to the young, the innocent, and those who deserve compassion and mercy. She wakes up every day in a world that shows her endless cruelty, she analyzes the risks her behavior might incur, and she keeps choosing kindness despite it all and in the face of it all. And it's not an easy decision. Many people, even in our world, get slighted once and choose to burn every bridge they can find for the rest of eternity to get even. Sansa Stark is not actually passive. She just disguises herself as passive to survive. And people who think that is what she is are proof that her effort is paying off.

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[partywithponies]

Okay so,

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I have crafted. The ultimate blorbo alignment chart:

Do with it as you will.

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Did I ever post this alignment chart I made, or did I just think about posting it? Who knows? Not me. Anyway it's free to use, do with it what you will.

[partywithponies]

Most iconic song that was in fanvids for nearly every fandom circa 2010?

Everything We Touch

Animal I Have Become

Sexyback

LoveGame

Numb

Thnks Fr Th Mmrs

Bring Me To Life

How Far We've Come

All About Us

I Won't Say I'm In Love

If You Were Gay

OP how could you forget [X]

Remaining time: 3 days 5 hours

EDIT: *everytime we touch, blame autocorrect

[partywithponies]

Can't fit EVERY song that came to mind in a poll, so here's a playlist I made previously:

[partywithponies]

Most iconic song that was in fanvids for nearly every fandom circa 2010?

Everything We Touch

Animal I Have Become

Sexyback

LoveGame

Numb

Thnks Fr Th Mmrs

Bring Me To Life

How Far We've Come

All About Us

I Won't Say I'm In Love

If You Were Gay

OP how could you forget [X]

Remaining time: 3 days 5 hours

EDIT: *everytime we touch, blame autocorrect

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Worst case scenario. If this really is the end for Doctor Who onscreen. At least the final ever episode featured Mel and The Rani being homoerotic.

[partywithponies]

"Our game has male love interests to suit ✨️ every ✨️ taste!"

*looks inside*

*it's 8 skinny guys with near identical haircuts but in different colours, all 20-something in appearance, and if you're lucky one is every so slightly more muscled than the others and one is ever so slightly skinnier and/or shorter than the others*

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Thinking about those weirdos on Facebook, when there was a clip of Den Watts and Michelle Fowler, and guys in the comments were like "couldn't get away with this these days! everyone would be calling him a pervert!" Like... They did then???? Where do you think the nickname "Dirty Den" came from??????? What universe do you come from??????????

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Show: "this is our character Pervert Pete, sleazy guy hated and ostracised for being a pervert, made famous in newspaper discourse following this story for how much of a pervert he is"

Some random guy on Facebook with an unflattering webcam photo of the top half of his face as a pfp: "the good old days! these days they'd call him a pervert!"

[partywithponies]

The thing about being a proud bastardsexual is that you're actually more likely to recognise and acknowledge when your fave is the worst guy ever and deserves to be beaten to death with hammers, because that's the whole appeal.