Communication, boundaries and not being an asshole

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Communication, boundaries and not being an asshole
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Cheater's Remorse (Cheating GF punished, Femsub, Body-Writing, humiliation)
"I don't know, isn't it a bit much?"
"Babe, you promised. You said you'd do anything I wanted."
"I know, I know... but I didn't expect this..."
"Well, you can back out if you want, I guess."
"No! N-no, of course not. That's not what I meant at all. I want to show you how sorry I am that it happened. It's just, I thought..."
It hadn't been her fault. She'd been drunk. The guy had been hot and just a bit pushy. It wasn't like she'd had much of a chance. Jenna didn't remember exactly how it'd happened, but she remembered enough to know how it had ended. That was enough.
"I'll do it..."
"Good," her boyfriend gave her a sparkling smile. "I knew you were up for it! Remember, once this is done, we're even, right? Nothing against you. You just gotta prove how sorry you are."
She swallowed. Outside the thin, wooden door, she could already hear the chatter. The soft sound of music, the TV was on and people were joking and laughing. Did they know? Did they suspect what was about to happen?
So I have had a few people apologize for spam liking. There is no need to do that. Waking up to a lot of likes is great. Like really great. Early morning dopamine. I love that.
But because this is a porn blog, I do reserve the right to assume you are getting off to my blog when you go past 5. I feel this is fair.
Ooh hard same 😏
Here’s the thing that some people don’t seem to understand about sex & kink. You have to respect boundaries before you get to push them. You have to show people they’re safe before you get to make them feel scared. You have to respect people before you get to degrade them. You have to be normal with people before you get to be dirty with them. You can’t be skipping steps. Treating them like a person always comes before treating them like a toy.
Gatekeeping or This Fiction of Ours
State of the Blog, June, 2025
Well these monthly reports are getting weirder and weirder, aren't they?
Business first: I'm producing around 2 stories a month and captions quite consistently. I've made an effort to showcase some of... the goodest girls around and minimize AI content, although I doubt it will be gone entirely soon. I confess the way the platform is erasing blogs left and right has me concerned, especially in light of proposed US legislation that would in effect make ALL of our content illegal.
Oops politics snuck into one of these posts again! Almost like my head is constantly mulling the topic!
Well, now that we're here, there IS a point I want to make.
There is an idea that we shouldn't gatekeep kink, with the obvious exception of those who can't consent due to age or other reasons. Positive, enthusiastic, informed consent is the one barrier we should uphold. I find this idea generally good. BUT I feel we should be at least vigilant about one other aspect.
Now, I'll be the first one to admit I've fucked up in the past. I'll surely fuck up in the future. I've been called out about it in private and in public, and almost always the people that called me out were right.
Until recently.
I've gotten dms and comments to the effect that I am a misogynistic asshole, or a fascist, or that I believe the things I post in kink. Now, most of us understand that this is fiction. Life and kink are not the same thing and the ideas that turn us on are often the opposite of what we truly believe; their power, in part, comes from the fact that we know they're wrong, that we don't believe them. It's this fiction of ours we indulge in together, knowing we don't really believe in, say, female inferiority. As clear as I've been trying to be about it, however, some people are unwilling to understand or accept that such content is NOT a reflection of real life beliefs.
And you know what? I get it. I do.
I've had the experience of scrolling through kink Twitter, seeing a retweet of something I think is kink, following through to the person's feed and realizing... oh. Oh no. This person is an ACTUAL fascist.
The little twerps are emboldened. They are infiltrating more and more spaces, ours included. They are more open, more brazen, and sometimes their deluded hateful posts are almost indistinguishable from the exaggerated fiction we post AS KINK.
So in this moment I say we gatekeep. We gatekeep as hard as we can. The only way kink can be healthy is if it's safe and understood as fantasy- and these dogfuckers are making the space unsafer by the minute. So, we must be vigilant. We can't reblog real fascists. We let our real colors show, even if it breaks that fiction for a moment.
So with that said, let me be clear:
Fuck fascists.
Feminism is necessary. Perhaps more than ever.
Fuck homophobes.
Trans rights now.
Fuck white supremacy.
Fuck Trump and all authoritarians.
Fuck corporations and their vampire-like need to suck up the work and wealth of people.
Shelter, food, and Healthcare are universal rights and the profit motive should be nowhere near them.
A woman's right to choose about her own life and body should never be violated.
Sex work should be legal and safe.
Income should never be a barrier to education.
Billionaires should not exist.
Conflating labor and productivity with the value of a person is monstrous. People have value because they are human.
The ultimate function of the police is to protect the interests of the ruling class.
I'm sure I'm missing quite a few things. But that should give an idea of where I stand outside kink. I feel we should all take the time to state our core beliefs every now and then. Yes, it harms the fiction of it all. But sometimes we must let truth shine through this fiction of ours.
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Gatekeeping is not a thing I've ever approved of, nor will I ever be it's outright champion. But keeping people like this out isn't gatekeeping, its defence. These people don't want to participate in what we create. They don't want to partake in the fantasy. They want to take it and use it as cover. They want to take a fantasy that we use to deal with the world and turn it into a real, genuine horror. I feel we have a genuine duty, now more than ever, to stand up not only against these people. But for the right to be what we are, and to enjoy what we enjoy. If we don't carefully carry ourselves, we have no one to blame when we're tarred by the same brush that we refused to speak up against.
It's not gatekeeping to keep out people who never wanted to be one of us in the first place. Accept, love, embrace, But always be careful and always be safe.
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