Poly Principles

Resonant Reflections of Relationship Alterity Involving Consensual Nonmonogamy, Including Polyamory, Relationship Anarchy, and Relationship Fluidity

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So much this 💞💗💓

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- Mary Oliver

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Practice turning people into trees 🌳

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Freedom is a love language 💕

Not “granting” freedom to partners (it’s already theirs), but acknowledging their inherent freedom and honoring their fundamental sovereignty.

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a quick and nasty FAQ v 2

all your problems solved, in a sentence

Can polyamory work?

Yes. Next question. 

My partner caught feelings for their FWB. Why did this happen?

Because they’re a human being and humans are naturally very good at having feelings for others

I hate being poly. My partner is poly. Can you solve this?

Yes. Break up with them. 

I’m poly. My partner isn’t. Can you solve this?

Yes. Break up with them. 

I’ve been incredibly upset and unable to function for a long time. Can you tell me how to be good at being poly so this goes away?

Your problem isn’t polyamory and is above my pay grade. Please see a medical professional. 

I’m a Unicorn Hunter why does everyone hate me?

If you were single, would you want to be the Unicorn? Right okay now you know why. 

I’m a Unicorn why does everyone hate me?

Darling they don’t. They’re worried for your safety. Except the Unicorn Hunters, some of them do seem to hate you.

My partner makes me unhappy all the time and I love them. Help?

Please break up with them. 

Can poly only work under specific circumstances (e.g. equal triad, open dyad with FWBs, quad, a chain with precisely seventeen participants)? 

No. Poly works when emotionally mature adults have relationships that make them happy. 

I only want a very specific relationship setup, of which I currently do not have. Is there something wrong with me?

Yes. If you’re attached to an idea rather than to the people, then you’re going to have a bad time. 

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A fairly on-point humorous list, although I’ve been a happy 🦄 more than once, and I prefer reframing “break up with them” as “transition your relationship with them to one of friendship in which your relationship agreements are mutually desirable and conducive to your respective personal fulfillment.”

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An updated version of Franklin Veaux’s Classic nonmonogamy chart. 💕💞💕

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Autotelic connection 💞

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Acknowledging validity off of “the relationship escalator.”

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When we get out of the glass bottles of our ego, and when we escape like squirrels turning in the cages of our personality and get into the forests again…. Cool, unlying life will rush in, and passion will make our bodies taut with power, we shall stamp our feet with new power and old things will fall down, we shall laugh, and institutions will curl up like burnt paper.

D.H. Lawrence

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