NEGATIVE FREE ZONE

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[fuwaprince]

To all my precious underaged followers:

- If a grown ass adult asks you for sexual favors (this includes virtual stuff like sending nudes)- tell a trusted adult to call the police on their ass

- If a grown ass adult approaches you and puts their hands on you in a sexual manner- punch that fucker square in the face and tell a trusted adult to call the police on their ass

- If a grown ass adult is making you uncomfortable with sexualized commentary- tell a trusted adult to call the police on their ass

- If a grown ass adult argues “oh but you’re so beautifully mature for your age!” and consistently tries to manipulate you into unwanted sexual scenarios- tell a trusted adult to call the police on their ass

- If you have a bad feeling a grown ass adult is watching you/following you home/taking unconsenting pictures of you- run the fuck away, don’t be subtle. Seriously. Scream, make a fucking scene so that creeper knows they’ve been caught, and then tell a trusted nearby adult to call the police. Go into any local stores or businesses if you have to. This one might actually save your life.

- If your underaged friend is in an unhealthy relationship with a pedophile and refuses to tell someone out of manipulation, desire, or fear- tell a trusted adult to call the police on their ass

DO NOT EVER BE AFRAID TO REACH OUT FOR HELP WHEN YOU FEEL THREATENED BY A PEDOPHILE. THERE’S NO SHAME AT ALL IN ASKING FOR HELP. I WILL BE SO PROUD OF YOU FOR BEING BRAVE AND STAYING SAFE IF YOU DO. THERE ARE TOO MANY PREDATORS AND CSA SURVIVORS OUT THERE FOR YOU TO TAKE THIS MESSAGE LIGHTLY. THIS IS NOT AN OPTION. I AM TELLING YOU IF YOU ARE EVER IN THE SITUATIONS LISTED ABOVE, THIS IS WHAT YOU SHOULD DO. FIND A SAFE ENVIRONMENT AND TELL SOMEONE YOU CAN TRUST BEFORE THAT AWFUL CREEP ENDS UP HURTING YOU OR SOME OTHER PRECIOUS KID OUT THERE. KEEP KIDS SAFE BY PUTTING THESE SICKOS BEHIND BARS!

[positivelyblueminds]

Small Storytime: 

One of my friends, Joey, notified me on Skype one time about how he was in a group call with a few of his other friends [[ I knew one of his friends, which her name was Gwen ]]. He told me the reason why was because there was this dude who called himself “Giraffe” [[ weird, right? ]] and he was “hilarious for the way he spoke”. 

Joey then asked me if I wanted to join in, and I was a bit hesitant since I’m not a big fan when it comes to [[ group ]] calls. Not to mention–I was ten at the time and nobody knew that–not even Joey himself. However, I obliged, seeing as I had been curious about this person Joey and his friends were talking to. So I joined the group call. After awhile, everybody left and this so-called “Giraffe” sent me a contact request. Since I was such a softie [[ I still am today–but I’m a bit more wary now ]], I accepted his request and we started talking. 

A day or so later, all of the sudden as we’re in a call together, he starts flirting with me. Did I mention that this guy was EIGHTEEN? And remember–I was TEN at the time. And he actually knew that. I was highly uncomfortable, but once again, since I was such a softie/scared to hurt his feelings, I didn’t say anything. Then he starts asking me inappropriate questions. 

Warning, if you’re uncomfortable with sexual innuendos/themes, etc–I highly recommend you skip this part. I’ll put three asterisks [[ * ]] for the section. 

 *** 

 He asked me if I wanted to make babies with him and if he could MASTURBATE on camera. Me, being ten at the time, didn’t know what it was, but figured that it was something I shouldn’t be a part of; so I ended the call there without another word. 

 *** 

After that, I’ve been waking up to ONE HUNDRED MISSED CALLS from him. ONE. HUNDRED. Either at one in the morning or as I’m going to bed. I stopped talking to him. He wouldn’t give up, though. In a group I was in with him and a couple of my other friends [[ including Joey ]], he would make sexual comments directed towards me–which would however be unnoticed by the others since he managed to cover them up with either humor or sly remarks. 

A few days later, as everyone is chatting, he suddenly removes people from the group, leaving only him and me to talk. He suddenly sends pictures and says I quote “Download them. I know you’ll like them. Because all I am to you is annoying and stupid”. 

I didn’t download them. 

I drew the line there and finally blocked along with removed him from my contacts. This was three years ago, meaning he’s now TWENTY ONE YEARS OLD; I have no idea what has happened to him since. I don’t know if he still targets young children like I had once been. I don’t keep in touch with him and I never l ever again.

I’ll never let this story I lived down. It was a REALLY important life lesson for me. 

You guys, PLEASE. If someone who is WAY OLDER THAN YOU tries to lure you into their trap, DON’T BE AFRAID TO CALL THEM OUT. DON’T BE AFRAID TO BLOCK OR REPORT THEM. DON’T BE AFRAID TO ASK FRIENDS FOR HELP! No matter HOW BAD YOU’D FEEL. Be wary of those around you. It’s a dangerous world out there–and it’s definitely frightening to know that somebody you meet on the internet couldn’t be how you see them or how they appear to be. With just a few lies and the internet itself, somebody who’s forty five could be saying they’re fifteen. 

If any of you EVER need help with a situation like this, message me. If any of you need to spread a warning about a Pedophile, please message me. I’ll do my best to help. Stay safe, everybody.

[positivelyblueminds]

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[turing-tested]

hey so protip if you have abusive parents and need to get around the house as quietly as possible, stay close to furniture and other heavy stuff because the floor is settled there and it’s less likely to creak

[covid-69]

socks are quieter than bare feet on tile/wood and for the love of god don’t wear slippers/shoes if you can help it

climbing ON the furniture will disrupt the pattern of your footsteps and make it harder to hear where you are in the house

crawling will do the same and if you get caught crawling you can pretend you fell 

the floor near the wall can be really loud if the floorboards/carpet is old and not completely flush to the wall

do NOT attempt to use a rolling chair to travel without footsteps. they are extremely loud and hard to steer

[thegoodlion]

Also. Breath with your mouth and not your nose. Your nose will whistle. Trust me. If you need to get into your fridge, jab your finger into the rubber part that seals the door closed and create a tiny airway. This will prevent the suction noise when you open the door. When drinking liquids (juice mostly), pour out your glass (or chug from the jug) and replace what you drank with water. If it was full enough in the beginning, no one will notice. DO NOT STEAL ALCOHOL. THEY WILL NOTICE IF IT’S WATERED DOWN. Bring a pillowcase for dried foods like cereal and granola. It helps to muffle the sound it makes when it pours.

If your house has snack packs (like gummy bears or crackers or chips), count them every day until you know the rhythm that they get consumed. (This took me a week and a half with my twin brother and sister). Then join the rhythm when you make your nightly visits. It will be that much harder to figure out it was you.

KEEP A TRASH BAG UNDER YOUR BED FOR WRAPPERS AND STUFF BUT DONT FORGET TO THROW IT OUT WHENEVER YOU CAN. BUGS YKNOW. Hope this helped.

[silenthill]

I might have some useful info to add.

-a jar of peanut butter is long lasting and easy to hide under a bed or in a dresser drawer. I lived off of jars of peanut butter and boxes of saltine crackers I would buy on grocery trips with my mom.

-two words: Slipper Socks. These are the socks that have rubber designs on the bottom for grip. They make no noise, and also keep you steady on slicker surfaces like tile and wood. You can find them cheap at Walmart. They also keep your feet more protected if you’re outside.

-if you’re secure enough in your room to have a small food stash, make sure you’re not too obvious about it (duh) but also move its location every few days. I kept mine in a shoebox under my bed, then switched it to a backpack in my closet, then wedged between my bookshelf and wall, and I would cycle locations until i moved it permanently to a false-bottomed drawer I installed in my dresser when my father was gone for a weekend. I would NEVER put food directly into my stash after taking it. I would keep it in pockets of my clothes and between books until everyone went to sleep, then I’d stock and stow my stash for the next few days.

-get a water bottle with a filter in it. I used to be able to reach my bathroom from my bedroom door down the hall using a huge step or minor jump/leap. If I was afraid of being caught at night, I’d fill up the humidifier tank we kept under our sink while I took a short shower, and would refill my water that way. It might not be the best option, but I kept a small stockade of water under my bed for emergencies.

-if you can, smuggle your garbage out in your backpack or purse. Dispose of it at work/school. I got caught twice by carelessly throwing away packaging.

-if someone knows the situation you’re going through (close friend/partner/etc) see if there’s a way for them to get food or other supplies to you at school or work or what private time you may get. A hidden first aid kit literally saved parts of my body before and I owe it to a close friend.

-try learning the building’s natural rhythm. The house I grew up in would creak and settle heavily every night for 3-5 minutes. That was my shot, and I had to be QUICK. I still got caught a few times, but learning the patterns in our floors and walls, when they creaked, WHERE they creaked, kept me going. Eventually I was sprinting in slipper socks to the kitchen and back in less than 90 seconds.

-if you have stairs, or live upstairs. Sit as you go down them one at a time, or climb up them like an animal. It keeps you low/out of lots of motion sight, and also can reduce noise and creaking by distributing weight over more than 1-2 steps.

-You can use common hand sanitizer to remove the stains certain snack foods leave behind (coughs cheeto fingers) and a dry toothbrush can help scrub the color off your tongue. If you can get powdered toothpaste or toothpaste tabs to keep on hand, it makes a huge difference in sneakiness.

-I don’t recommend going for dried foods like granola or cereal unless you can sneak it to a secure place to get it. It’s too loud, it’s a gamble every time for something with less caloric intake than it’s worth if you get caught. Of course, there are times when that’s the only option!!

-if you’re taking milk, add water, but be SURE to shake/agitate the bottle to distribute the dairy fat with the water. I got into the habit of shaking milk jugs when I started sneaking it, and explained the habit as something I read in an old comic strip my father showed me. (Back when whole milk had a lot more cream fats and they’d separate, so shaking it would redistribute the cream.) I still shake milk jugs to this day.

-if your windows open or don’t have screens, eat leaning out an open window. Any food mess will be lost in the dirt. I was lucky I had bushes and birds outside that would catch my granola bar crumbs before anyone could notice.

-canned goods are tempting, but not worth it. It requires too many tools (can opener/strained sometimes/utensils/some need heat) stick to thinks like various nut butters (sunflower/peanut/almond), crackers, dried fruit, and easy to conceal food bars (nature valley/nutrigrain/etc.) dried ramen packets are good uncooked if you can stand the texture. Apple sauce and pudding cups are also easier to sneak and stash than one might think, and can be eaten with your fingers. The only canned foods I recommend are condensed soups and precooked pasta (spaghetti-o’s). You can easily mix them with a little bit of hot water from the tap and get something more sustaining than a handful of captain Crunch. The cans are cheap, sometimes recyclable, and drinking soup takes way less time than chewing solid food.

-if you menstruate, attempt to stash pads/tampons in a safe location. Sometimes shit happens. Pads can work as bandages in emergency situations. Sometimes shark week comes unexpectedly. If you can sneak a roll of toilet paper or paper towels, these are also life savers.

-plastic utensils from takeout containers can be hidden inside socks and will be worth their weight in gold when you least expect it. I bought myself a tiny plastic bowl from the dollar store and kept cheap trinkets in it on my desk so it didn’t seem like a bowl I was eating out of. You could try this with something like a mason jar, which is also useful for drinking out of or storing water.

-if you’re eating a crunchy or solid food, try soaking it in water. Mushy food can be repulsive in texture, but I could clock the sound of someone eating a nature valley oat bar from like 6 miles away. Dunking it in water (or using a secret bowl+water) can reduce noise, and also eating time since you don’t have to chew as much.

-keep a laundry bar or tide pen on you. Laundry bars are super useful, a little hard to find though. I washed a lot of stains out of my clothes with laundry bars in my bathroom sink as a kid. Not proud if it, but it kept me flying under the radar at school.

-clear rubber bands, plain twine or string, paper clips, and thumb tacks. Indescribably useful. I once rigged a system to open tricky cabinets and get objects from inside using two paper clips and a foot of plain string like a mock lasso system.

-if you’re pulling objects from tall cabinets, use your chest or stomach to cushion them. Let them fall into your torso and then into your hands cradled underneath. Not as loud, not as much grabbing, if someone sees it they can mistake it for it falling on you by the body language.

-get a bandana. Or four. Napkins, bandages, tool, and accessory all in one.

-get a tiny sewing kit. I’m talking 3 needles and a spool of thread tiny. Scissors if you can sneak it. See things into your clothes. Make hidden pockets or compartments. Threadbanger on YouTube did a video a few years ago about sneaking things into music festivals using tiny clothing mods, but they may be useful in sneaking money or medicine.

-on the topic of sneaking money. don’t take bills, take change. If your abusers don’t meticulously count their nickels and pennies, they’re an easy(ish) way to build up a tiny savings pool. I found nickels the least noticed coin I took, even more than pennies, and taking two every few nights from where they’d be tossed on our countertop soon built up to a semi-reliable fund I passed off to someone to get me food for my stash without having to sneak it from the kitchen. As soon as I became “independent” in my food storage, I was subjected to much less scrutiny. I managed to build up a solid 1-2 week ration supply after hoarding change.

-you can tape SD cards to the inside of book dust covers(the part that folds inside the actual cover of the book), if you have a sewing kit or zipper on it inside the stuffing of your pillow (trim a corner, stuff it inside, stitch it closed) or (this is final resort) VERY CAREFULLY remove the covering from your outlet and tape it to the wall stud before replacing the casing. I kept mine inside part of my wooden bed frame that I hollowed out using, you guessed it, take out silverware knives and 4 nights without sleep.

-THE FLOOR IS LAVA WAS KEY TRAINING FOR ME AS A CHILD. I learned to take pillows with me, climb on furniture to disrupt my flow of movement, toss a pillow down, and use that to cushion any rattle our living room could give off as I crept to the kitchen from the side entrance so my mom’s dog wouldn’t bark or alert anyone. I highly suggest crawling around on all fours like some sort of beast to stay out of sight.

-can you run your house blindfolded?? If you can’t. Maybe you should try to learn. I suffered some heavy eye traumas growing up and had a collective 3-4 months just IN THE DARK. Eyes bandaged, left alone. It was terrible, but damn if I couldn’t navigate the whole place silently, without any visual cues. This helps a lot with the whole moving around in the dark thing, too. Listening is obviously key.

-if your parents start getting suspicious, or you’re suspicious they’re getting suspicious, watch out for traps. String on the ground that gets shifted when you walk on it. Baby powder or flour left to track footprints or doors opening/closing. My dad was partial to wrapping a bungee cord around my doorknob and attaching it to the closet across the hallway. I wouldn’t be able to open my door enough to get out, or if I did, I risked ruining the structural integrity of the wrappings he did, and he would notice.

-learn to tie some knots. Strong ones. They’ll come in handy at one point or another.

-remember that you’re not totally alone. There’s people out there for you. Wanting to make everything better. You don’t deserve what’s happening, it isn’t normal, and you will eventually find help. But staying safe is important, and you are important.

[live-like-ghibli]

It upsets me that people might need to know these but I know it could really help someone by reblogging

[minty-marshmallow7]

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[positivelyblueminds]

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[positivelyblueminds]

Small Thank You!

Thank you to those who messaged me after I posted that small confession...it means a lot to me ♡♡♡ I'm doing way better now!!! Might struggle on some days, but I'll manage to pull through knowing that you guys are here for me as I can be for you!!! Thank you all so much. ♡♡♡

[baby-blue-positive]

My edit 💙

Originally pink from @princess-of-positivity

[positivelyblueminds]

i love you so much honey ❤️❤️❤️ i hope you try and remember there are alternatives to self harm and suicide, like squeezing ice, scribbling on paper, taking a bath,, etcetera. i love you and am glad you exist and are still alive, hope you feel better

Eeaaaa thank you so much Anon!!! I love you so much ♡♡♡

[positivelyblueminds]

Oh love.. I'm so sorry you were pushed to that point. :( I wish I was there to give you a big hug and squeeze you tight. We are here for you we love you talk to any of us anytime okay? Stay strong.

Thank you so much...♡♡♡

[positivelyblueminds]

I'm glad you are alive! I know it's rough, but it does get better. I know that can be hard to believe but I promise it is true. Stay alive and stay amazing! ❤️

Awe, thank you so much, Anon! I love you so much this means a lot to me...♡♡♡💙💙💙

[positivelyblueminds]

I'm sending you love fam. Glad you didn't do it

Thank you so much ♡♡♡

[positivelyblueminds]

Small Confession...

Hey, Lovelies. I have a small confession to make. I almost killed myself yesterday, due to being under so much pressure and stress. My friends have been ignoring me, I was insulted by my Grandmother, my Aunt is trying to change me--it was all too much. Way too much. I have other things to say, but I won't. I'm still a bit broken, but I'll listen to everybody no matter what. Thank you for reading if you did. Love you all. ♡♡♡ P.S...thanks for 1100+ followers, everyone!... ♡♡♡

[wonqtae]

You’re cute ^^

[nightcourtfaete-deactivated2024]

hi guys im sorry to make this but im really struggling financially

i have been trying really hard to get a 2nd job this summer to survive financially but ive only been able to get 1 part time job that only pays $7.25 and i only get about 70$ every 2 weeks and although im safe for the moment (im housesitting–for free–for the summer) I’m going to have to leave the house eventually and ill have nowhere to go at all

Like…I won’t have a college dorm or a meal plan and I’ll need to be able to afford an apartment and I’ve been having constant breakdowns over it because I am scared of being homeless while simultaneously going to school

My PayPal is paypal.me/ShantelleN if anyone has a spare dollar :(

[positivelyblueminds]

Please spread/donate!! ♡♡♡

[wonqtae]

Take deep breaths~

[brokensmolders]

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[positivelyblueminds]

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LKSNMSBS Thank you all SO much for +1000 followers!!!!!!!!!! Unfortunately, even though it is Summer Break, I've been VERY busy for the past month or so. I'm going to try to be as active as I can!!!!! I'll be heading to Florida in a few days though to stay for quite some time, but I will update you all + post some pictures if possible!!! Again, thank you Lovelies SO much. It makes me so happy to know that people enjoy my blog. ♡♡♡