Post-Guilty Pleasures

I'm too old to care about if I'm supposed to like something or not. Young enough to be enthusiastic.

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Crazy Ex-Girlfriend (2016 - 2019)

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CEG and other The CW series from that era will begin streaming on Pluto starting August 1st

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I’ve mentioned in passing that I am pretty ambivalent about fandom. Part of why is it feels like to get any engagement one has to make a whole persona about the object of interest. I really don’t want that. While there are artists and series I’ve followed for years, there are a lot of them, and my interest waxes and wanes based on novelty and mood. And I need that to be recognized as part of my personality more than I need people to know I like any one thing.

This is partially because the longest running interest are musical acts, and I feel very unqualified to write about music.

In comparison to people who are comfortable being associated with one interest I feel like, why do I even see myself as a fan?

Then a Tanya Donnelly song pops up in my my music queue and I remember that I have all of her solo discography as well as her work with four bands and that is not the way normal people follow musicians. Not even most people who would define themselves as “indie” or “alternative” fans do that. And she’s not the only one that I’ve followed this way. For example, in addition to owning every Sleater-Kinney album, I own the albums of most of the other bands Corin Tucker and Carrie Brownstein have been in. (For some reason Heaven’s to Betsy got left out. It’s completely arbitrary.)

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Since writing this I realized that I also forgot Excuse 17. They have recently announced a reunion tour and despite my fan-para social relationship with Corin Tucker, I don’t know any of their music.

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YouTube keeps promoting video of Amaia Montero reunited with La Oreja de Van Gogh singing songs they originally recorded with Leire Martinez.

I am surprised by how much I don't want this. I feel like the songs they recorded with Martinez should belong to Martinez first and while reunited with Montero they should stick to the back catalogue they made with her and anything new that they are working on.

I never thought Montero and Martinez's voices were that dissimilar, but it just feels wrong.

I'll get over it.

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had somewhat of a breakthrough today about autism and gender relations and realized that interactions with men feel lower stakes to me because men and women are so often talked about as being essentially different species that if I do anything weird they’ll just chalk it up to women being incomprehensible or stupid or they didn’t respect me anyways. It’s like going to an interview for a job you won’t get for the practice. Whereas if you do something wrong around women they know immediately and consider you subhuman where they might not have before. So their approval means more and their rejection feels worse

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also on a practical level with how gender segregated our society is you can still have an extremely rich life with little to no contact with men but I don’t think it’s possible to live as a woman without social contact with other women. In terms of care and protection and social needs being met. It’s very normal for women to have exclusively female friends and be closer to their mothers than fathers regardless of whether or not they date men at all. Even a lot of straight women have basically no contact with men socially outside of dating. Whereas if you’re a woman who doesn’t have strong ties to other women you’re extremely vulnerable in this world. I think it is genuinely more dangerous to be unpalatable to women than men. But also that’s my perspective as a queer woman whose relationship to gender is fairly normative outside of the gay stuff and can largely go unnoticed in large groups of women. I would be curious what other people’s take on this all is

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You’re experience as an autistic woman posts are really grabbing me. I don’t relate to this, but I don’t not relate to them…

Years ago I was at a support group for autistic adults complaining about my job in an office that I would say was hostile, but I’m sure I’d struggle to get anyone else there to say. At some point the moderator of the group made a comment about me being harsher on women than men and I was shocked. Then I realized that it was kind of off base because I minimized interacting with the men in my office. (Specifically, I mostly gave up on them because of their political beliefs. But, in general, some barely conscious part of me has given up on men as a class, for anything.) The moderator, who is man, noticed that I named women frequently, but didn’t notice why I didn’t name men as frequently or ask why. (Later on, after I left this job and the institution that it was part of, he took a job in a different department there. It only lasted a year and part of me wants to be like, “did you think my problems there were just a me thing?”)

I don’t think my dismissal of men is good for me. It probably has cut me off from meeting people whose company I could enjoy. It’s also been really limiting on my networking potential. And it does make me blame women more for things that should be spread around more evenly. In that office it was things the men said that made things hostile, but I was complaining about the people that I interacted with who were mostly women. That’s thorny..,

But being conscious of it and having the motivation to actually change it are two different things.

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Is Olivia Siegel a Laura Palmer type?

Is Djen a Samantha Mulder type?

Does this make John Sugar a cross between Dale Cooper and Fox Mulder?

Should I not be making these types of comparisons while watching Sugar.

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I finished season 1 and now I have more thoughts on this, but need to keep my articulating energy elsewhere.

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¡Por fin regressa!

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LOL

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The David/Davy Siegel plot in Sugar brings to mind David Cronenberg’s Maps to the Stars, the most un-digestible Hollywood story told as a movie that I have ever seen.

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Is Olivia Siegel a Laura Palmer type?

Is Djen a Samantha Mulder type?

Does this make John Sugar a cross between Dale Cooper and Fox Mulder?

Should I not be making these types of comparisons while watching Sugar.

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Ever come across a musical act and you really like it, but some part of you is like. “This is what I wanted [some other act you’ve been following longer]?

Like, part of me listened to Margo Price and thinks “this is what I wanted Grace Potter to be.” Though I’d like be able to just enjoy both as unique.

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I started Sugar as my new show. Some of my family is already caught up on it, and watching with people IRL bumps things on my list.

Also I was promised a lot of clips of old noire movies and an episode and a half into it, it’s delivering.

(I am spoiled on the twist of who Sugar really is.)

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An underrated aspect of the online fandom experience is seeing someone on your feed react to something of which they have never heard with shock, and then checking that tag and finding an active fandom.