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How to Become His Dream Girl, Even if You’re Not (A Spoiled GF Guide)

so recently, within the past 2 months I have successfully become a spoiled gf, this (surprisingly) was a whole lot easier than I thought it would be, but using this technique (that I kind if made up) I broke it down into some simple steps :)

STEP ONE: Pick someone you wont mind spending a considerable amount of time with

- Realize that this isn’t a sugar daddy, this man wants to have a full on relationship with you, therefore you will be spending a large amount of time with him so you WILL HAVE TO DEAL WITH HIM. So just make sure that he is someone you can handle without wanting to strangle after 45 minutes.

STEP TWO: Charm the fuck out of him, then have him open up to you

- You have to make him want you, be alluring and kind. smile at him, laugh at his jokes, compliment him on shit that you might not even care about. Right now you are selling a prophecy, an introduction to a relationship. Make yourself sound as interesting as possible but leave him always wanting more, always have him talk about himself more than you talk about yourself. try to pick up on little things and get a read on his emotional status and how he chooses to react to certain situations, learn about him so you can mold yourself into his dream woman. Once he sees your “genuine” interest in him, he will start opening up to you and THIS is where you’ll really need to pay attention.

STEP THREE: Find out what intimate part of his life is missing

- THIS IS KEY LADIES AND GENTLEMAN!!! You will have to figure out what relationship related snippet is really missing. In my case my sugar boyfriend (ill call him T) was married for 10+ years and never really got what he wanted out of the marriage and was constantly lied to, but ended up staying on behalf of his 4 step kids. after getting divorced he dated a stripper who just used him for his money even though he supposedly had “genuine” feelings for her. After learning about his tragic love history I came to the conclusion that what he really needed out of a relationship was mutual affection and to feel valued. KEEP IN MIND, THIS STEP CAN TAKE A WHILE AND INCLUDES LOTS OF TRIAL AND ERROR. So after coming up with my hypothesis of the lack of value and affection, I decided to put it to the test and did 2 simple things in order to do so. first, while he was at work, I called him to see how his day was going. You would have thought I was god himself calling because he was so happy to hear from me and to hear that I was thinking about him and that I took the time out to call him and let him know that. Second, I cooked him dinner. One day while I was staying at his house I decided to surprise him with a very basic meal (frozen salmon fillets and sautéed bell peppers) and yet again, he was so happy and excited at the fact that I had done that for him. This is when I knew I was on the home stretch

STEP FOUR: Focus on the missing intimate piece, and make it your specialty

- This is what has him keep you around, doing the things that he needed but never got. don’t get me wrong, I’m not cooking this man dinner everyday, instead I switch it up and substitute certain actions. He loves affection, so when we’re sitting on the couch together ill lay my head on his lap, or hold his hand and stroke the side of his face. I’ve learned that simple shit like that makes him incredibly happy, which makes him incredibly generous.

STEP FIVE: Get Spoiled

- Now after giving him a taste of life with you in it, you need to give him a taste of how much your life costs. By now he’s showered you in nice dinners and gifts on the whim, but you’re here for the kill, you want a access to the finances and for him to get you whatever you want. For me, this was by far the easiest step out of all of them, I told him I wanted to go shopping and that I needed some stuff from Lush and Sephora (he had no idea what either of those places were) AND HERE IS WHERE YOU GET HIM. Make sure he sees how expensive it is just to be you, talk to him about your favorite products and what you need and use on the daily (hype them up in price too, like if you need foundation and you usually use L'Oréal, rave about the Gorgio Armani foundation instead) make it seem like your mere existence is expensive, by now this man wants to take care of you and wants to keep you in his life and therefore will do what it takes to keep you near and dear. Once he see’s how “hard” it is to be you, he will make it easier

At this point in my relationship with T, I am nearly moved into his house and have full usage of his ex-wife’s Lexus and his credit card, and tomorrow I get to meet his mother. Once you get on the right path of knowing what a man is missing in this life, you’ll be able to use that to your advantage and have him truly believe that you’re the woman of his dreams, even if you’re just a Faux Heaux :)

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Basic Dating Etiquette from my Grandparents:

Never involve religion in anything unless you know for sure that the person you're dealing with is extremely religious:

Unless you are 100% certain that the person you're writing to is religious and you know precisely what their religion is, don't involve religion in the words you speak or write to them. Religion is one of those things that makes people uncomfortable, a lot of people don't like to mix religion into their everyday conversations and their decision is perfectly understandable.

There are a lot of religious denominations and religions and you don't want to mix them up. There's a difference between a simple "may you be blessed" in a wedding card and a "may Jesus bless and keep your child in the kingdom for all eternity, amen" to a couple that's miscarried and who happens to be Shinto Buddhist. You need to keep it simple and avoid bringing your religion into your interactions unless you're COMPLETELY certain that you're interacting with someone who's religious and you know that for a fact.

Always write thank you notes, sympathy notes, and notes of encouragement:

I don't know a single person who doesn't enjoy receiving a heartfelt handwritten letter. It's an older tradition to letter write, yes, but it's a keepsake that can be kept and cherished. If you're expressing your condolences, thanking someone for a gift, or just writing to encourage someone about a situation they're going through, a nice letter always does the trick.

When I was younger, I always wrote cards and letters, especially to my older relatives. Even if someone so much as expressed good wishes for me, I'd write them a post card. Not only is it polite, it also keeps you in touch with the older generation who may not have easy access to you. A phone card and a written letter always do the trick when it comes to things, they don't take much of your time, and they make people feel appreciated and that they're loved.

Whenever Frederick would give me a gift, I'd always be sure to send him a letter expressing my gratitude and a nice photo of me using the gift. When we first started dating, he gave me a beautiful vintage gold and diamond custom tennis bracelet from Monaco bought in the 1950s. 43 diamonds, 9.00 karats of stone total weight, and fancier than anything I'd ever seen. Grandma loved it on me and she was always telling me to wear it more. Anyway, when he gave it to me, I was sure to thank him sweetly, send him a long handwritten letter in my best calligraphy, and send him pictures of me wearing and enjoying it. He's always told me how appreciated I make him feel and that was just one way that I showed my gratitude.

Make sure others are always included if they'd like to be included:

If someone wants to be included but is being left out, be sure to ask them if they'd like to play a part in what you're doing. You don't have to be pushy or be overbearing but it's nice to offer an including hand and be sure to ask them if they want to join you. It's nice to know that you're wanted and that you can be included if you'd really like to be.

If you're out in a group setting and there's someone who isn't really being included, all you have to do is ask if they want to be added to the conversation or ask them their name to get to know them. Frederick is quiet and, when he and I first met, Gideon dominated the conversation until I got nervous and talked to Freds because he was quiet and shy and he was sort of holding back from talking to me.

It's also nice to be included if you've been left out before, I grew up not being included sometimes and it hurt me. I didn't understand some jokes and I was socially awkward among other things and it hurt me to feel like I didn't have friends sometimes. Not understanding a joke is one thing but feeling like you're a joke or deserve to be ridiculed because you've been left out is a whole different thing. Even asking someone if they want to be included is a way to make others feel like they're welcome and it's the kind and correct thing for you to do.

Be as gracious in public as you are in private:

Be gracious in public, stack your dishes for your waitress to make it easier for her to collect them, be polite to others who you meet and service workers, smile at everyone you meet who seems like they need a smile, and treat others like they are worthy of the best.

If someone so much as calls you beautiful and you feel happiness, thank them, let them know that they've made you feel happiness. Treat people like they're deserving of your gratitude and that they do, in fact, bring you happiness.

Make sure that people know that you're grateful and that you're thriving. If you show your gratitude and your happiness to other people instead of showing greed and unhappiness, they're more likely to want to be around you and appreciate you more for your honesty and appreciation. Words of praise only bring good things to you from others.

Maintain your dignity if insulted by others:

Basically, don't lose your cool but put people in their place if they're rude or unkind to them. There's no need to be overly rude or sink to their level but you need to firmly put them in their place so they keep their mouth closed.

You can look at someone and say "you're cheap" or "you're tacky" and get the point across just as well as using sharp words. You can tell them that they're being inappropriate or that they're not making you feel good. You can use firm but gentle words and be elegant but still put them out with last night's trash.

You need to stand up for yourself because no matter your background or who you are now, you are a human being who is worthy of respect and to be treated like a human being. No one has the right to test you down or treat you like you're lesser than, don't allow them to.

If you're on a one-on-one date and things begin to go awry, get your things together and leave with dignity and take the front door out while you're at it. People can treat you badly the first time and that's on them but if you allow them to continue to treat you badly, that's on you. The first time someone treats you like you're not worthy of respect, you either show them the door or you find it yourself and decide to take yourself out.

There comes a time to lie:

If there's a situation that you don't believe in, such as a gay marriage or something, you lie. Other people don't need to have your criticisms, opinions, or unhappiness placed upon them so when something they love is happening. You have an obligation to lie and pretend that you're happy for them, even if you're not happy in the slightest way possible.

I'm saying this mostly for my more religious girls out there, you will have a hard time dating or making friends if you're telling people that hellfire is awaiting them and that they'll burn in the eternal flames of hell if you think that they're committing sin.

If someone's getting married to another someone, you have to just be happy about it. You have to pretend if it comes down to it. People are going to be happy and they don't require your approval and don't need your opinions, there's no need to push your beliefs on them. Same with other things, as long as they're legal, everyone's safe, and everything is okay, just pretend to be happy and eventually that happiness will become real for you. No one wants to be judged by those who shouldn't be judging them.

I personally believe that my Jesus Christ loves everyone for who they are and if he was put into a position where he had to lie for someone's happiness to be preserved, he would. He died for my sins and one of those sins is occasionally lying when it comes to making sure that others are happy when they're doing (legal) things that I don't necessarily approve of at the end of the day.

Love,

Linsi

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5 Dating Tips

Be Prepared:

Know where you're going, who you want to meet, and know what you'll be eating and drinking or what you'd like to have. Be prepared for all situation, pack essentials in your purse, and know what's going on in the world. If you want to meet a man in finance, read up about finance before you head out, if you're interested in men who are in business, read up about international business. Be prepared with different subjects to talk about, be physically prepared, and be prepared to meet people. You can't walk out of your home expecting to not succeed, walk out of your home with a positive attitude and know that you'll succeed in all of your endeavours. If you're going on a date some someone special or just want to meet someone specific, you need to be prepared for every possible situation, then you can handle everything that comes your way properly.

I used to steam and perfect my outfits, use a lint roller, and get my shoes and stockings ready and hour before I got in the shower and at least 2,5 hours before I did my makeup. I was always ready to go out. I was always in that mindset. I was the sort of woman who didn't like to bother with Mr. Right Nows, I liked to be in the mindset of knowing that I could easily go out and find my Mr. Right if I believed that I could. There's a mindset of success that you need to have, you can't believe you'll fail. I wanted to be with a man that I could thrive and grow old with, laugh and cry with, have late nights and early mornings with, and enjoy life in all it splendour with. I didn't see the point of going out over and over and trying life with a million men when I knew there's was only one for me. I didn't consider that of have to look forever, I only considered the fact that I knew that I would be happy and whole in the future with the man that I knew I'd marry.

Make a list of the things you won't negotiate:

What are the things that you'd never consider in a man you're with? Would you date a smoker or a drinker? Would you date a Protestant if you're a Catholic? Would you date a man who does casual party drugs? Would you live your life with a man who's seriously overweight and doesn't want to change? You need to make a list of the things that you would absolutely not consider in a partner, money comes secondary but the fact of the matter is that there's nothing worse than being with someone who you're supposed to love but wishing every moment that you were alone.

There are some men who don't want marriage, if you are desperate to be married, don't settle down with them. Put it on your non-negotiable list that you'd like to be married within 5 years and find a man that you'd like to be married to. There are men out there who want to be married and will propose to you, find one of them. There's no need to be with a man who doesn't want to marry anyone and try to convince him to marry you. You don't want to force anyone into marriage if they're not absolutely enthusiastic about being with you.

The proper man for you will propose to you when the time is right, the proper man for you will be the man you need to be with, and if he's willing to quit alcohol, drugs, and cigarettes to be with you, he'll do it without you feeling like you've forced him into making decisions that he doesn't want to do. When you find him, you'll know. There's nothing like having non-negotiables so you know exactly what you need out of a relationship and you know the sort of man that you're looking for. There's no shame in having expectations for someone.

Establish your longterm goals:

What do you want from life and from your marriage in 5 years, 10 years, 15 years, and 20 years? Where do you see yourself now and where do you want to see yourself? What do you want? You need to know what you want and have an idea of what you need within certain time frames. Would you like to be married within 5 years and have a baby within 7 years? Would you like houses? Do you want to travel? Do you want jewellery? What do you want? Figure out what you want beforehand so you have an idea of what sort of man you want to spend your life with. Your longterm goals need to match the longterm goals of your potential husband, if not, then you probably won't be compatible in the long run. If you have an idea of the goals and the things you want and you meet a man who's capable of giving you those things, consider a relationship. Once you find someone, you don't need to keep looking, it'll lead to disappointment. Once you find someone you love and want to be with, stop looking for someone better, settle down, and grow up.

Be candid about your values:

I'm a religious woman, even though Frederick was Lutheran when I met him, his paternal family is extremely Conservative and Catholic. I began going to Lutheran Church when I moved in with him in Sweden because it was convenient and because it was the church that his maternal family went to. When we moved to England, he realised that it would be easier to go to Catholic Church and he preferred it because it was familiar. I was raised with traditional values and Catholic values and he was as well. One of the reasons why we worked together was because of our similar values. If you're a conservative and very religious, it's probably not going to work out with a man who's an atheist and who's very liberal. Don't waste your time on men who don't have values similar to yours because they won't change.

I'm happy at home but I work 2 hours daily with my husband because he needs me. I leave the house. He's perfectly happy to let me leave if I want to. I'm always evolving and I'm happy with a man who's able to adapt. Do you have the same values towards Sex? Politics? Children? Religion? Staying home? Money? Know what you need from a man and know that you need to be certain with your choices. If you can't speak about things and agree, you need to consider how your life would be together. There's a reason conservatives date and marry conservatives, there's a reason Christian women date Christian men, and there's a reason why liberal men and liberal women marry and date. They all share similar values with each other.

List down all the men you meet and write down what you liked and didn't like about them:

For every date you go on and for every man you meet, write down what you didn't like and what you liked about them. It's important to know what you like in a man. You should list down qualities, hobbies, jobs, and other positive things that you like about the men that you've met that you like so you can begin to look for the things that they all have in common. If you know what you like, you'll have an easier time when it comes to finding what you're looking for in a potential husband.

Same with the negatives, list the negative things so you know what you don't like and don't think you'd like in a potential husband. If you meet men with bad behaviour, note that bad behaviour down so you have an easier time identifying it in a potential husband. Knowing all of the things that you consider negative and being able to identify them in a future husband are so important, you don't need to sift through men when you can take your list of negatives and make the process so much easier on yourself. Knowing what you consider negative and figuring out on your own time is so important to growing up and learning what you need in a potential husband.

I think it's much easier to make a list of all of the things that you do and don't like in men that you meet than to make a list with no experience. Yes, you can look up certain qualities and such and list them but what if you decide that you do like them? I thought that I could never love a man who was aggressive, Frederick threw one punch and took my ex boyfriend out and I realised just how much a little bit of aggression when defending my honour could light my fire. I dislike conspiracy theorists, I know the earth is round, and I could never be with a man who believed in conspiracy theories and thought the earth was flat. There's nothing to it.

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Leomie Anderson (@leomieanderson)

[jordynbackwoodz-deactivated2020]

Leaving my sugar daddy’s office

[goodgirlsgetbands]

Very strong energy

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Hypergamy rules

A man’s words mean nothing. His actions mean everything.

Don’t nag, find another better man to do the job, competition breeds perfection.

You’re not competing with other women, your competing with yourself.

No man will live in your head rent free, have a roster of at least 3 guys.

Never give up your hobbies, plans or ambitions for a man. Ever.

Never stop improving-physically (gym, procedures, surgery) mentally (school, tutors, learning languages, reading), emotionally (reading, therapy, medication), and financially (paying down debt, investments, real estate, savings, stocks, bonds, etc)

A stingy men are just as bad as broke men.

Closed mouths don’t get fed.

Restaurant first dates only.

You’re single until married.

Goes without saying but

No sex until a relationship and commitment has been established.

(No broke men. Duh.)

[ethiosuga]

Be More Like Men

Men really have ZERO issue or shame about asking women for ANYTHING. Literally.

Broke men will ask you for money. Boring men will ask you for time, personality and energy. Rich men will ask you for your whole fucking existence. They literally don’t care, and have no shame after doing so. Why do we, as women, feel ashamed about asking men for shit? 

Ever since I started challenging myself to stop feeling that shame (I’m still working through it) my life has literally changed. It doesn’t have to be a POT or a SD you ask either. Practice with ALL men in your life. Practice asking for small and big things. Definitely ask about things that men “promise”. Hold them to their word. 

I recently had a man mention paying my rent. He was being frivolous, but I don’t care. If he does, I win and if he doesn’t and thinks I’m a gold digger/heaux/whatever - I still fucking win because I don’t need him in my life.

It’s never a loss if you test the waters and the guy bounces, because that just means he likely wasn’t worth the time you were going to invest anyways. 

Never let a man or your socialization as a woman in our society guilt you into thinking you can’t ask these men for shit because it looks bad. Fuck all that.

Prioritize yourself and your needs the same way men do theirs. 

[hypergamygimme]

Men will NEVER reciprocate your behavior. That is just how the cookie crumbles for us. Show less emotion and show more class. So do as you please with who you please without a care in the world of judgements because without us men wouldn’t work so hard. We are the prize in a world of rich men ready to spend on us. We can switch them out as quick as we land them because they are disposable. This might seem a bit harsh but can you imagine how they speak about us? Yikes! Make him fall for you & Get your cash babe 💰

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Savannahhperkinss 🌺

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[diorss2003]

Candy Spelling promoting the Dior S/S 2003 Diamond belt at a sclerosis charity event

[evilrashida]

This is the most fashionable shit I have ever seen in my life

I am INSPIRED

[googifs]

How’s your home workout routine going?

[archive-pdf]

Hermes ‘Kelly’ Bag customized by Undercover’s Jun Takahashi. 

[connerys]

Don’t you know that a man being rich is like a girl being pretty? You might not marry a girl just because she’s pretty, but, my goodness, doesn’t it help?

Gentlemen Prefer Blondes (1953) dir. Howard Hawks

[arandomthot]

Also a plague going around

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Being a woman… is sex work. Charge money, energy, time, or all of the above, but charge something.