Hypergamous Princess

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Hypergamy rules

A man’s words mean nothing. His actions mean everything.

Don’t nag, find another better man to do the job, competition breeds perfection.

You’re not competing with other women, your competing with yourself.

No man will live in your head rent free, have a roster of at least 3 guys.

Never give up your hobbies, plans or ambitions for a man. Ever.

Never stop improving-physically (gym, procedures, surgery) mentally (school, tutors, learning languages, reading), emotionally (reading, therapy, medication), and financially (paying down debt, investments, real estate, savings, stocks, bonds, etc)

A stingy men are just as bad as broke men.

Closed mouths don’t get fed.

Restaurant first dates only.

You’re single until married.

Goes without saying but

No sex until a relationship and commitment has been established.

(No broke men. Duh.)

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here comes the bride PT 2

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For those women that desire to engage in hypergamy and marry a man of means (as you should) remember to keep that aspect of yourself to yourself. No one needs to know... It’s only a hinderance to brand yourself that type of woman and you see how men react when you speak on it. I always say that it should be pushed to the subconscious of your mind. MOVE IN SILENCE!

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Vintage Black girl aesthetic 👗

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Lessons from my Hypergamous Mother 💕

I've talked about my mother several times on this blog but for those who are new, she's basically the O.G. Hypergamous woman. Despite not coming from money, being black and an immigrant, she's dated men worth millions, tens of millions, and close to billions of dollars. So with that, here are some of the lessons my mother has instilled upon me since I was born about dating and life.

Wear high quality clothes that fit well.

If there's one hill my mom will die on, it's that quality> quantity. To her, one wool Ralph Lauren blazer is worth 15 polyester blazers from Zara. And honestly, you can't really fight her on it because the majority of the time, clothes that are high quality just look better. Because of this, growing up 90% of my clothes came from high-end thrift stores and estate sales and truthfully, they still do.

Men come a dime a dozen.

My mother reminds me of this fact quite literally every time the male sex is mentioned in our household. She's had her pick of some of the most powerful men in the world simply because she doesn't care about any of them. Her psyche is this: there are millions of rich, smart, loving men out there, so why the hell would you stress out about finding one?

Education is key to success.

The same can't be said in all countries, but America is one of those nations where you can come in as an immigrant with nothing, and with the right education, become a member of the top 1%. Now the meaning of education isn't binary; you don't have to have a degree from Harvard or be a Rhodes Scholar. Being educated can simply mean you have a wide scope of knowledge on a variety of topics! To my mother, if you're highly educated, you can hold your own in any crowd. 

Never give your entire heart away.

When my sister was a college freshman, she got her heart broken for the first time. While my mother was very quick to take her home and indulge her for a weekend, she was also very quick to tell her the crucial mistake she made. To quote her, "The problem isn't that you fell in love, the problem is that you gave him everything and when he left you had nothing. When you fall in love, always keep 10% of that love for yourself so that if things go south you won't be too devastated."

When you chase a man, he'll be inclined to run away.

So never, ever chase a man. Men are simple: if they want you they will do everything in their power to get you. There will never be any doubts. It's all very primal: nearly every species of male in the animal kingdom assume the role of "courting" their female counterparts. It's quite literally in their DNA. So there is never a need to go out and beg a man for his affections. In fact, doing so will almost always guarantee him running from you.

Praise don't complain.

Praise is the most effective tool for getting whatever you want from a man. NEVER complain about a mans inability to do something because he will immediately shut down and resent you. Instead, praise him endlessly when he acts well. His ego will be stroked and in return, you will have him eating out of the palm of your hand.

Elegance = Beauty.

You don't need to be quintessentially beautiful. You don't need to have a great body, you don't need to have a pretty face, you don't need any organically beautiful features. If you can put some quality time and effort into accentuating what you do have going for you and become the most refined and elegant woman in the room, you'll do very well. And elegance isn't just about being able to wear a string of pearls, it's about being confident and centered. It's about self mastery and not feeling the need to be anything but yourself.

Always keep your options open.

Ever heard the dating analogy "Just because I'm on a diet doesn't mean I can't look at the menu"? Well it's something my mom lives by. Yes, she's all for monogamy but the fact of the matter is, you have to look out for yourself first. If your beloved suddenly decides to jump ship or things don't work out, it's always good to have a backup plan. And sometimes you'll find yourself dating someone you thought was great when all of a sudden someone even better stumbles into your life. Ultimately, this is your life and your decisions will have the biggest ripple effect on you. Look out for yourself, keep your options open. Nothing is guaranteed.

There's no shame in not feeling shame.

My mother is an extremely proud woman. Nothing has or ever will get her down about herself which all roots back to her decision to not ever feel shame about who she is. Whenever you feel inclined to feel shameful or insecure, reverse the narrative. If you're the only Black woman in a board room full of white men, instead of getting shy, revel in the fact that everyone will be that much more inclined to listen to you because you stand out. When you show up late to a date, instead of apologizing to your company thank them for waiting. Quite literally force yourself to be completely neutral in all situations and never internalize anything. Shame is really a false narrative we choose to espouse and it only holds us back from our desires. The solution is simple: stop feeling shame.

Above all, you are enough.

Regardless of whether you're still a work in progress or don't have your life together at all, you are the prize and you really have to start acting like it. It's not your job to alter your entire personality for a man. It's not your job to spend all day and night getting ready for dates. It's not your job to level up only for the sake of attracting a man. This kind of behavior will only emphasize this idea that you are not good enough as you are to attract the love that you deserve. You, by virtue of having your own set of life experiences, are completely worthy. The true differentiator between successful women and unsuccessful women is mindset. I know unattractive, uneducated, and unqualified women absolutely killing it in life and it's all because they are confident as fuck and truly believe that they deserve the best. So what's stopping you from cultivating that energy right now? I promise you that if you begin to walk, talk, sleep, eat, and breathe like you are the prize, the world will begin treating you the same way.

Lovingly,

Elle

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27 Red Flags of Low Value Men (LVM)

In previous articles, we have established what constitutes a High Value Woman, the dating commandments of a High Value Woman, and the most common obstacles that hold us back from implementing such dating strategies. But in order to replace our toxic dating habits with healthy ones, it is equally important to have a clear understanding on the difference between a High Value Man (upcoming articles on that next) and a Low Value Man.

Remember, this system of values is not about qualities that people are born with. It is not something outside our power that we have either inherited or not. Instead, this system of values is something that we all develop for ourselves, choose for ourselves, create for ourselves. It is about values, beliefs and principles. It is about priorities, morals and mindset. It is about good manners, empathy and emotional intelligence. And that is the responsibility of each and every individual.

And if you hold yourself to high standards, you should absolutely do the same to everything else in life, especially a partner!

Here are the most common red flags of a Low Value Man, so you don’t have the learn the hard way…

1. Love bombing

Too much committment, too much adoration too soon is a tell-tale sign something is off. It can be a marker of insecurity, of unhealthy idealism or obsession. It can also mean they don’t actually see you for who you are, but are infatuated with an idea, an ideal, a fantasy. Not a crime by itself, but it foretells a relationship that will lack a stable, healthy foundation. Instead it will be a relationship built on how you make him feel, on what the idea of you means to him. Is that the kind of man you want to be with, or the kind of relationship you want to be in?

2. Future faking

The escalation of lovebombing. Just months, weeks or evend days in, he will already be discussing engagement and marriage and kids, and paint a fairytale fantasy with such dedication that you may wonder if it’s too good to be true.

Such soulmate stories are certainly possible. However, if he promises the sun, moon and stars (which is all great) right off the bat, and other issues start popping up one after another, you should be on high alert! Other red flags can be: inconsistent behaivor, blowing hot/cold, his words (all beatiful fairytales) not aligning with his actions (not actually showing interest in your passions, aspirations, goals, not actually listening to you, making you cry on multiple occasions and lacking empathy in his reaction to it, etc), and any of the ones below.

3. Gaslighting

First, let’s review what gaslighting actually means: “Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse where a person or group makes someone question their sanity, perception of reality, or memories. People experiencing gaslighting often feel confused, anxious, and unable to trust themselves.” – Medical News Today

To exemplify, he may gaslight you by saying phrases like…

“You’re making a big deal out of nothing.” (invalidating your feelings)

“It’s just in your head.” (making you question your ration and discernment)

“You’re overreacting.” (downplaying your feelings)

“You shouldn’t be upset/affected by this.” (trying to control your feelings or tell you how you should feel)

Someone who exhibits gaslighting behaviour needs therapy, and will never make you feel truly safe or be beneficial for your wellbeing (and mental health) until they have sorted through their issues.

4. Lacking interest

If they’re not listening to you, if they’re not initiating interest in your day, hobbies, skills or interests; if they’re not congratulating or hyping your achievments and success; even worse, if he shows signs of envy over said achievements, and actively belittles or downplays them, in an unhealthy sense of insecurity and seeing you as competition (when in fact they should be on your team cheering for your success) . . . it’s time to take the hint. They don’t actually care about you.

5. No respect for boundaries

Disrespecting boundaries, challenging them, debating them, finding counter-arguments for them – if he does any of these things, he lacks basic respect or understanding for boundaries. He may say things like…

“Well you need to face your anxiety with ___ and just do it, then you’ll be fine”

“Come on, I know there’s chemistry between us, why follow some stupid traditions & old values instead of enjoying the moment?”

In either case, this is a person that believes anything is negotiable, including your feelings, thoughts, privacy and dealbreakers… Read more

[mademoisellehypergamy]

A Warning to All Women.

Ladies, I promote hypergamy (“marrying up”) and following your aspirations/achieving your dreams. You may not agree with everything I say, but this piece of advice is something I hope you will remember. Especially my younger ladies who follow me.

1. Do not build a man. Do not support a man financially. I have 2 friends right now that spent thousands of dollars supporting their “boyfriends” (rent, one bought him a car, other paid for school). These men did not work or do anything, just sat back and “promised” that they would “pay them back in the future”.

Today, both of these friends are HOMELESS. IN DEBT. And lost their JOBS. Where are their “boyfriends”? Living comfortably because they had been saving up their money. One of them even has a new girlfriend who he cares for financially 100%.

I cannot make this up. This is the reality for most women who do this. There is NO reason that you should be financially supporting your boyfriend. Even if you “want” a “50-50″ relationship (scam, does not exist, do not do this, you will always give more) why are you supporting a man that is not your HUSBAND? Make it make sense!

2. Do not be a doormat. This isn’t just with men, do not let people walk all over you (friendships, work, etc). If someone does something that crosses a boundary you either need to voice it or remove yourself entirely. Do not let someone cross your boundaries twice.

3. Keep certain things on the low. If you’re applying for a new job, wait until you have the job to share. If you’re buying a new home, wait until everything is confirmed before sharing. If you are dating, keep it vague. This tip is mostly towards friends and certain family members (jealous family members, narcissists). Not everyone is celebrating with you, so be careful who is allowed access to you and your life.

4. Always have multiple streams of income. If you only have 1 right now, change this ASAP. I don’t care if your second stream of income only makes you $10 a month. Start, and keep going.

5. Learn to say no. No explanation needed. Just no.

Ladies, this is basic advice, but a lot of you don’t know this. If you do not know the basics, hypergamy will not come easy for you. Study up.

Mademoiselle Hypergamy

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Black Women at Peace X X X X

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Realistic Guide to Becoming Hypergamous

If you’re on a newly feminine/hypergamous journey, there will be a barrage of advice, concepts, and ideas thrown at you from all angles. While Tumblr is an excellent beginning resource, much of the advice is recycled and simply unrealistic. You cannot simply launch into luxurious and hypergamous living by following these strict guidelines, as they do not apply to everyone. As a result, I’ve decided to create my own guide, one filled with advice I wish I had known prior to beginning this journey.

1. Understand what hypergamy is. Do not be ashamed of it.

The most obvious but often overlooked key to hypergamy is truly knowing what it is. Hypergamy is defined as the act or practice of having romantic connections with someone of a higher social status than themselves. Any kind of Cinderella tale where girl meets boy and boy spends a lot of money on girl is hypergamy, just as an example. Understand this. Social status is defined by the amount of social value one possesses. Think of Beyoncé. She is beautiful, visibly rich, well connected and well known, hence, her high social status. Social value in short is anything you possess that will garner admiration and increased social interactions from others. If you are beautiful, that is valuable. If you are intelligent, that is valuable. If you have money, that is valuable. If you are skilled, that is valuable. Your value depends on you. What you are worth depends on you. In relation to hypergamy, understand that a relationship is simply a romantic exchange of value. Do not feel bad about wanting to be/ being hypergamous, because ALL RELATIONSHIPS ARE AN EXCHANGE OF VALUE. Romantic relationships exist because two people value the other’s traits, and decide to be together. So if you decide that what you value in a man is financial security, THAT IS PERFECTLY OKAY. You are not a gold digger. (and even if you are that’s no one’s business but your own! Period!)

2. Understand Your Relationship With Men

There are some women who due to their fathers, brothers, or male figures in their lives, behave a certain way that is not in alignment with hypergamy. Hypergamy does not work unless you are aware of your value, and expect to be treated that way by the men you date. However some of us come from backgrounds in which the men in our lives did not provide that foundation, which leads us to behave in ways that must supplement that lack. Do you automatically resort to handling everything yourself because no one else will take care of it, paying for dates, being afraid to ask for what you know you deserve, among other things? If so, you may need to mentally revise. Understand why you engage with men the way you do, the roots of the beliefs and behaviors you employ, and consider if they are in alignment with hypergamous beliefs. Also understand that masculine men are providers, and that the more you do for a man, the less he will do for you. Men like to feel like men. If you do everything for him, the less like a man he will feel.

3. Understand Your Value and Demand Reciprocation

As mentioned before, status is based on value, and it is up to you to ascribe that to yourself. If something is valuable enough, you will do anything for it. This is a basic concept that applies to everyone. Your value is anything you decide that It is, because every trait you possess is valuable to SOMEONE. Are you beautiful? Check. Is your personality amazing? Check. Are you intelligent? Check. There are people in this world that even standing next to them will increase your social value, so understand that your mere presence is valuable. Now consider all your value and think about something valuable to you. Your phone, your necklace, anything. If someone comes along offering you the barest minimum for said item, are you going to take it? NO. Because it is not worth it! And never will be! That is how you should think of yourself. Understand that value also lies in things you want. If you want a Birkin, it’s valuable to you. If you want a plastic cup that has meaning to you, it is valuable, this applies to everyone. So understand that if someone wants you, you are valuable to them for some reason. So in exchange, you should get what you want. No ifs and or but’s about it. If you want his money, and he wants you bad enough, he’ll give it to you. Your wants and needs are NONNEGOTIABLE. Which leads to my next point.

4. What do you want?

Stop lying to yourself because men on the Internet that you’ll never meet have convinced you that wanting money from a man makes you a gold digger, or makes you a sex worker. Stop being jealous of that girl whose boyfriend got her Dior for her birthday. If you want that, that is it. Understand this if you get nothing else from this post: the reason that the current dating scene exists as it does is because men always find a way to get what they want. “Toxic” culture exists because men keep going back to women for sex, or attention, and women, starved of self esteem, allow it in exchange for the barest minimum. Men are notorious for cheating. Men are notorious for ghosting. Men are notorious for asking for sex before they know your last name. What is the common theme here? Men knowing what they want and pursuing it without shame. While often it is disgusting, it is useful if you have principles. Know what you want from a man and have standards that are UNWAVERING. If the men you date must have a car, do not date men without cars. Also be mindful that hypergamy is dating realistically above your standards. So if you are 18 working for $9.50 an hour, it is not impossible but also not realistic Bill Gates will come to sweep you off your feet. As mentioned before, KNOW your worth. Whatever you believe you can have, you can.

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how to remain the only girl of your dreams

always move in silence.

don’t internalize people’s actions toward you.

redirect your negative self talk.

routinely pamper yourself.

show don’t tell.

utilize all of your character traits.

set standards and enforce them.

determine and display boundaries.

know it’s a privilege to be associated with you.

go after what you desire actively everyday.

nurture your spirit.

be selective with the company you keep.

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[mademoisellehypergamy]

Girl friends are the secret weapon in hypergamy.

If you are unfamiliar with this secret, then you need to take a seat and memorize this post, because this might be one of the most important pieces of information I share!

For my ladies aiming for hypergamy, sugaring arrangements won’t work for you. If your goal is hypergamy, you need a whole different approach!

As a hypergamous woman, you probably spend a great deal of time freestyling (in wealthy areas), attending events where affluent people will be present, or online dating/dating apps. You’ve probably noticed that due to the pandemic, going out and meeting people won’t work as easily as it did before, and dating apps typically attract thirsty men rather than generous, affluent ones looking for a wife. So what’s a girl to do?

Make. Girl. Friends.

When you befriend other women, you give yourself access to their circle of people. This access can lead you to meet more people, or better yet, meet wealthy men. Hypergamy is a game of CONNECTIONS. The more connections you make, the better your chances of success are.

However, don’t just make girl friends with random girls. Try to befriend girls that you can build CONNECTS from! Be strategic with your friendships.

Ideas for types of girls to befriend:

- those active in philanthropic causes/charities

- those into fitness (takes yoga classes, Pilates, at the gym)

- girls into luxury/high fashion (shopping in upscale areas)

Girl friends offer you the following:

🌼 Camouflage: If you meet a man through a mutual girl friend, your true intentions are automatically camouflaged. He won’t think you’re seeking a hypergamous relationship because in his mind, you weren’t seeking for a wealthy man. The meeting just happened by “chance”. This works WONDERFULLY in your favor. Always be inconspicuous about your intentions.

🌼 Exposure: Most girls are active on a social media platform, which means there’s a good chance they will post on it whenever they’re doing something fun/hanging out with friends. This allows her followers to see you = exposure for you = better chance of being noticed by affluent men.

🌼 Social Climbing: Make a girl friend to meet another girl friend! Keep expanding your circle, but be selective with those who can access you. Aim for girls in higher circles, and befriend them to join the circles. Doing this will help you refine yourself in high society, while climbing the social ladder!

Girls are not your enemy, ladies. If you play your cards right, girls may be your key to hypergamous success.

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Manifest a life where you are unconditionally loved, cherished, and spoiled. 🌹

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✨ Mantra/Reminders. ✨

Whenever you’re about to give a man the benefit of the doubt and/or compromise your $tandards, remind yourself:

⛔️ MEN AREN’T DUMB, THEY PLAY DUMB.

⛔️ MEN AREN’T DUMB, THEY PLAY DUMB.

⛔️ MEN AREN’T DUMB, THEY PLAY DUMB.

👑 Most, if not all men know how a woman wants to be treated. It is ON YOU to set the standard. It is ON YOU to WALK AWAY.

👑 Most, if not all men know how a woman wants to be treated. It is ON YOU to set the standard. It is ON YOU to WALK AWAY. 

👑Most, if not all men know how a woman wants to be treated. It is ON YOU to set the standard. It is ON YOU to WALK AWAY.

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Don’t be a Doormat

Treat yourself how you want others to treat you. 

No one owes you anything. Just because you’re nice to people, it does not mean that they will return the favor. Check people who offend, mistreat, disrespect, or talk down to you immediately. 

@hypergamousprincess $RubyFlower 🌹

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What do boundaries feel like?

It is not my job to fix others.

It is okay if others get angry.

It is okay to say no.

It is not my job to take responsibility for others.

I do not have to anticipate the needs of others.

It is my job to make me happy.

No one has to agree with me.

I have a right to my own feelings.

I am enough.