Heyyyyy. I don't know how many posts of my own I'll be making. Most stuff will probably just be reblogs. So yeah just don't expect much effort lol.
Huge TW for everything k1nk/f3tish related.
Beware pretty much everything I post/repost will be atrocious.
I WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH MINORS!!!
IF YOUR AGE IS NOT EXPLICITLY STATED ON YOUR ACCOUNT I WILL BLOCK YOU!!!!
So a little about me:
My name is Ruaidhrí (pronounced rory)
I am a 20 year old pre-t trans boy.
Bisexual.
Taken.
(@crook3d-man12 is my dad 🥰)
Vers (HEAVILY bottom leaning)
Switch (HEAVILY sub leaning)
Also my Cashapp tag is $RuaidhriRoo23 y'know just in case you think I deserve a sweet treat <3
K1nks and such below the cut
Some of the freakish stuff I am into:
R4p3/n0n-c0n, bl00d, kn1ves, intox, corruption, coercion, p1ss (just a little I swear), abu$e, br33ding, group s3x, humiliation, degradation, praise, breath play, choking, sadomasochism, b0ndage, hierophilia, somno, p3t play, pred/prey, oviposition, teratophile (aka I'm a huge monsterfcker so don't be surprised to see any of that), (fake) 1nce$t, and uhhh yeah if it's questionable/possibly illegal I'm probably into it.
Some stuff I am absolutely NOT into:
Scat, diapers, misgendering, or anything related to these things.
This is a very incomplete list tbh. I'll probably update it at some point. Idk we'll see.
“now where do you think you’re going?” and getting pulled back by the hips when you start backing up from it bc it’s too big and you’re stuffed so full you can barely breathe and your legs shake as they push in even deeper
pup needs an owner that gives him treats when he manages to take all of owners cock in his puppycunt
pup needs an owner that calls him "sweet puppy" "good boy" "pretty pup" when he takes his punishment like a good mutt would
pup needs an owner that pins him down and inspects his puppyparts as soon as they get home from work to make sure he hasn't been touching himself while owner was gone.
pup needs an owner that grabs his hair and forces him down on owners tcock.
personally I am of the opinion that vegans who are like “the way our food system currently works under capitalism on a large scale is exceptionally cruel to all animals including humans and is not sustainable, so I’m doing what I can to make the most ethical choices available to me about what I eat and encourage others to do the same” are generally very reasonable people who I agree with in spades. but vegans who seem to think human beings are not themselves animals who are ultimately also part of the food chain but instead some kind of other paternalistic higher entity that can never engage in ethical and sustainable hunting practices (and especially the fringe I’ve seen who think other carnivorous animal predators are also evil and need to be eliminated) are people I regard as foolish at best if not actively anti-indigenous and racist
sorry but once you notice how often ppl use a southern accent as shorthand for being unintelligent you can never unsee it. classism is baked so deeply and why are you acting like anyone who talks the way my grandfather talks is stupid.
Sub red flags: a checklist for less experienced Doms
Awhile ago, I wrote the above post explaining several red flags and warning signs in Doms for less experienced submissives to be aware of. This is the inverse. Written mostly for inexperienced Doms who are seeking subs, from the perspective of an experienced Dom. I would recommend less experienced subs read as well. My hope is that this post is a resource for others and helps to improve kink safety and understanding. Please remember to research everything you do before you do it and trust your gut. Don't do anything you aren't comfortable with.
Unclear consent/hasty consent
All kinks carry inherent risk. Some have physical risks, some psychological risks, plenty have both. Trust your gut if someone seems too eager to dive into something without fully discussing every possible angle you can think of. Don't ever run into something when you could walk. In kink, you aren't just consenting to the activity, you're consenting to the risks which the activity carries. Don't do anything with anyone who doesn't seem to understand that distinction.
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Dynamics are a two way street
One of the most misunderstood aspects of kink is the core element of mutual effort. Generally, less experienced people assume that the Dominant is an active participant, while the sub is a passive one, who simply receives whatever the Dom decides, getting off in the process. While this might work well in a Dark Romance novel it is categorically antithetical to real life BDSM. On a fundamental level, BDSM is a collaborative effort. Both the dominant and submissive are active participants, both have to put forth a lot of effort, both in learning about kink and safety and in actual scenes. While a scene might focus on a sub being a pretty doll for their Dom, just laying there and getting off, that should not be reflective of your actual interpersonal dynamic whatsoever. If a submissive doesn't believe they should have to put in as much effort as you, that's reflective of an unwillingness to put effort into your dynamic or your scene with them.
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Boundaries/safewords for doms
Just like a submissive has to consent to everything you do, a Dom also has to consent to everything in a scene. If a sub doesn't respect your boundaries, pushes them without permission, or acts as if your boundaries aren't as important as them getting off go play with someone else
"I have no limits"/"I don't use a safeword"
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REFUSING TO HONOR A SAFE WORD IS SEXUAL ASSAULT
Subs can assault Doms too.
This is fake. Everyone has boundaries. Some people like saying this doing scenes for fun, which can be fine roleplay, but if they genuinely believe it about themselves they are not emotionally mature enough for kink and are an unsafe partner. Run away.
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"Doms don't need aftercare"
Fake. Run. Unsafe partner.
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"Kink dispenser"
Subs should not view you as just someone who reads their mind and tells them things to get them off. Your needs matter too and all participants in a scene should be attentive to each other's needs and interests. You aren't there just to do whatever they want to get them off the same way they aren't there just to do whatever you want to get you off unless you have specifically agreed that you're both into that AND that the scene is going to be about that.
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Mental Health, Aftercare, and Drops
Your mental health is just as important as your physical safety in kink. Any submissive you play with must prioritize your emotional well-being the same way you need to prioritize theirs. There will be times when you feel weird after or during a scene or even bad about yourself. Dominance is stressful. Yours truly was once in a particularly harsh impact scene as a rookie Dom, realized how rough the marks on their thighs were, and experienced a drop feeling like a bad person even though they had specifically asked for what I was doing to them. It's perfectly normal to snap back to reality sometimes and end the scene for your own comfort. In fact, it is unsafe for your own emotional health to Dom anyone when you don't feel up to it. The correct thing to do is to communicate with the sub, pause or end the scene as needed, get feedback, let them know you need reassurance. Its completely normal and valid. If someone doesn't want to reassure you, that's a huge red flag
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Final notes
There are many "Doms" that are bad actors or abusers. They crave power over others not to seek out a mutual consensual fantasy, but because they want to stop other people from saying "No" to them, and have nonconsensual control over their life.
There are also many "subs" who are bad actors or abusers. Some are thrill seeking with little care for their own emotional or physical well-being, putting themselves and their dominant at risk by refusing to learn about safety or respect others boundaries. Some dehumanize Doms, essentially treating them like jerk off machine that doesn't have boundaries or feelings or require any effort.
Any standard you hold for yourself as a dominant, about consent, about boundaries, about safety, should also apply to any submissive you play with. No exceptions. Both Dominance AND submission need to be continuously earned, not given. If someone thinks otherwise...
I’m the naked neighbour in a ghoulish kinda way, not in the mysterious sexy silhouette you see in the window more like the dude with his whole cock out eating shredded cheese from the bag and also blogging with his other hand
forced intimacy!!! forced kisses! forced hugs! forced to sleep in their arms! forced movie date nights where i’m tethered to the couch! forced “couples” photos for them to frame around the house! forced nightly “i love you too thank you for taking care of me”!!!! force it til it’s real!!!
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