Greetings to all! I haven’t written a post in a while. Why? Because I was waiting. For what? For the time to bid goodbye to all my confusions. Well, clearly “waiting” hasn’t done any wonders for me. The only thing I realised is that “waiting for the right time” isn’t going to help me achieve anything.
As you all may have noticed, the title of the blog is “Legendary“. Well, I don’t mean to sound haughty, but the title is inspired from “How I met your mother“. Just to give it a mysterious but funny punch at the same time. So this blog post is about “Wait-for-it“. It more or less concerns with the dilemma between the times you have to decide when to”wait” and when “not to wait” to do something in life. To start with, I assume that you all know the meaning of “Wait“. So it would be imprudent of me to describe it. So let me start the philosophical but practical part directly.
Think of it. If it is wise to wait in some situations, it is also unwise to wait in some. To support this, let me give you some examples. It is always wise to wait to cross the roads, wait in a queue of ATM, banks for your turn, wait for your turn at restaurants, giving presentations in office, taking a calculated guess to launch an attack at the enemy, wait for that one phone(dream phone or any other gizmos) to buy, etc. There is always a system that has to be followed in order to get something. And there has to be. Except when you’re a celebrity or a politician or a hooligan of some place, your patience isn’t tested. That’s not the point I want to make, but would still like it to be there. Just like that. (Because I have waited and got suffocated in Lal Baug because of the crowd during a celebrity’s presence. Don’t want to mention any names, though.) :P
I’ll tell you secret. I started writing this post while going through the “waiting period“. A sad and gloomy stuff would’ve been up here had I not waited 2 more days. Just like any other student, I was anxiously waiting for my results. I got disappointed by the first one but the latter one completely changed my mood. Hope to have a successful career in future. And that part has been sorted. And for the kids out there, working hard is the only way out. Be it working on your studies or your personality. Your career is a colossal part of your life. People will know you by your work. So make sure that you pave a great path for yourself. So keep working! :D
Coming to the grown-up talk, I was describing the times when you are supposed to wait and not wait. Let me break the types into categories. Happy reading! :D
So I will first talk about “When to wait“.
Apart from the above mentioned “system”, there are crucial things that you should really wait for. I mean you should work and wait for the results.
1. Be it buying a car, a house or a boat (for the adventure kind), a motorbike or any other vehicle. Not just monetarily, but also mentally. What’s the use of buying a vehicle if you’re not going to use it for months? What’s the use of having a flat if you can’t fill it with happiness?You don’t want your spouses complaining about ignoring them by being at work always. Take your time and figure it out. Financially and emotionally.
2. Being an Indian, marriage is something that needs to be waited for. In my country, people usually get married at an early age, but it is changing with time. Career needs to be given an utmost importance especially when you’re a part of patriarchy. A balance is definitely needed but first, understand yourself. Build your own future. Be independent. We have some amazing ladies like Indra Nooyi, Chanda Kochhar, Naina Lal Kidwai, etc who have managed to balance it well. Being educated from Yale, JBIMS, and Harvard University is something to target for. And they have successfully managed to do that. :)
3. Waiting for my results and avoiding food and sleep has taught me the wise lesson of not worrying about the future when you have given your best. I mean, I was on my best behaviour and wits. And if I still couldn’t get in, I am destined to be somewhere else. It’s not because you’re too dumb for the programme but because you’re made for something else. You just fit somewhere else. That’s it! So never doubt yourself. :)
4. If you want to make amends of your breakups, wait for some time to confront them. Clear the misunderstanding, delete the puerile grudges and move on. You definitely do not want to be bitter about that your whole life. It is something you should go for if you want to clear your conscience and have a peace of mind. So take your time, take a step ahead and sort it out! :)
5. Talking about relationships, if you are in one, take your time to know them better. If you feel platonic and romantic with them, introduce them to your closest peers. Your squad. Do not HIDE it. Never keep it a “SECRET”. NEVER. Because if it is, it may be a dalliance. Not more than that. And this should be mutual. ALWAYS MUTUAL! :)
Here comes “When not to wait“.
1. You know you are not going to be alive forever. So click some pictures, make some memories, play along. DON’T WAIT! If there’s someone Enjoy your college days. Click that selfie. Because those times will never return. I watched “Kapoor and sons” recently. Poor grandad desperately wanted to click a “happy family” picture. But lost his son in the process. So they had to put his cut-out while clicking another one. This was just an example of how life can be. So that girl(who is secretly your girlfriend) you have been avoiding to click a picture with isn’t going to be in her golden years forever. That guy who is secretly crushing on you will get a big smile on his face if you click a selfie with him or even 10 mins of time with you will make his day(Only if that guy is your friend or you know that he’s harmless).
2. An ego in disguise trying to ruin your relationships is something to let go of. You had a tiff with your partner, stay angry for an hour and then patch up. You got hurt by your close peers. Fine. Stay vexed for 2 hours and then sort it out. Let them know that you’re hurt. If only you could stop getting hurt by the ones you care about. Do you get the point? Patching things up will only make everything simpler. Why convolute it if you have a solution? Think about it. :)
3. Don’t wait for that trip you’ve wanting to take it with your gang. Once you’re married, you have to limit your boundaries, change your priorities. And after having kids you get stuck for at least 10-12 years. What’s the use of that perfect body you’re trying to maintain and not show off? So just go for it! Pack your bags and disappear with your friends for a while. Just so you know, I recently took an escape it was truly and madly a stress-buster outing. :D
4. Do not hesitate to listen to others. There was a time when I used to travel for 2 long hours by bus. I vaguely remember the things I got to hear from a lady, who was in her fifties I suppose. But that lady was so stressed about her fling/kind-of-serious relationship with some guy from the gym, that she hardly even cared about sharing it with me. Me, a 20-year-old stranger. I mean, it never hurts to be polite. In times of need, even a stranger can make you understand the problems you’re facing in denial. Even a stranger can make you accept your problems and gives you a better perspective for handling them. I mean, you can’t wait in such situations but do not show a reluctance in offering a piece of knowledge when you’re asked for. So don’t wait to share prudent thoughts with others. :)
So that’s all I guess. In conclusion, I would like to say
“Wait. Why? Don’t wait. But wait. But why? No…..” :P
Feel free to share your thoughts with me. Ciao! :)
Legendary… Greetings to all! I haven't written a post in a while. Why? Because I was waiting. For what?