A Powerful Tip for Unowned Submissives
It’s hard, isn’t it? Being an unowned sub, with no one to submit to (at least not lifestyle-wise). But that’s ok, I understand, for I am also currently unowned. We, subs, are usually very dependent beings, especially littles (like me!), and to not have a Dominant to guide you and take care of you can be a little unsettling at times. For those of us who have been previously collared, it may be extra difficult to keep on taking care of ourselves without a set of rules and punishments to keep us in track, and that’s ok, after all, it became a habit.
But what is not okay is to let it affect your mental, emotional and especially physical health. That’s why I came out with a motto that helps me a lot during those ocasional blues and I hope that will help you too: “I am my own Master. Before submiting to anyone, I submit to myself.”
Now what does that mean? By stating that you are your own Master (or Mistress, Dominant, whatever floats your boat), you are telling yourself that you have control over your situation. You are submitting to yourself. At the same time you’re owning the power, you are also giving it away. It’s a great feeling that can at least compensate a tad for that loss of constant power exchange.
And since you are now your own Owner, you must make a rule list for yourself, and commit yourself to following it. If you wish to, you can also add punishments for when you break the rules. Did your previous Owner (or ideal Owner, if you never had one) take care of your exercise routine? Or perhaps kept you in a healthy diet? Great! Then keep going on that track. Feel motivated to please your Master (which is now yourself). By doing this you not only connect with your inner self, but also improve your self-esteem. After all, we all are, technically, slaves to ourselves. Hence, you might as well enjoy your time in captivity!
Build reward systems too – no cheating though, be honest above all things. Spend time with your friends, and if you have none, go make some! I know it is easier to say than to do, but think about what would please your Owner. “Would my Owner be pleased if I were procrastinating and leaving behind all this work to do?” “Would my Owner want me to overwork myself and be stressed and anxious?” – go on thinking and adapting these phrases to your needs.
In the end of the day, you still belong to yourself, and you don’t need a strong hand on the other end of your leash to stay healthy, happy and positive. And a bonus: think that you are also improving yourself for your future Dominant, and they would most definitely be extra pleased to find such a wonderful submissive like you ♥
- xoxo,
Pretty Little Lo
I'm sharing this again cause I think it's so important. It's a very challenging time of my life lately, and I cannot stress this post enough.
