callout docs are stupid. but they're a byproduct of how people handle anything on the internet nowadays.
nothing's communicated because there's always an expectation (that social media, and the examples of people being called out puts into you), that if you try to tell someone they fucked up, they'll tear you apart for it because how dare you tell them theyre not perfect, when that's not how a lot of people would actually go about it. a lot of people would go "oh, okay, what can i do better? do you want me to stop doing this? i can try doing this instead!"
social media has a massive part in how and why this happened, because suddenly nowadays, you have to have a "valid reason" to block someone or not like someone. blocking or not liking someone for an "invalid reason" isn't allowed, because then you're the asshole, because you're doing it for "no reason".
this is why things get blown up disproportionately. because people suddenly have to exaggerate what someone did to make them look even worse to make it "okay" to block or dislike the person they're talking about. and it's affected how people handle private, interpersonal relationships. if they don't like you, or don't like something you did, suddenly there's no communication, because there's an expectation that you'll lash out at them for daring them to criticise you or telling you that you could do something better or that they were uncomfortable with something you said.
they have to collect all the evidence, never tell you about it, and once it's enough, it gets made into a google doc to call you out, instead of communicating with you like a normal person.
everything has to be big enough spectacles so that it's possible to make it into entertainment that fits into a tweet or instagram post or youtube video. it doesn't matter what it is— an artist scamming a customer, a company with horrible treatment of their employees, a big creator who did something horrible that should've just been reported to the law, or small interpresonal issues that could be solved with simple communication.
interpresonal issues are made into big spectacles that have to be written into an entire essay-length google doc that can also be made into an entire youtube video if someone so deems it necessary, so that it all can be publicised and someone can be ostracised from everything if what they did was "bad enough", or if the person making the doc is spiteful or petty enough to make what could've been a private conversation an extremely public scandal.
the callouts that just end in actual communication and someone being a better person don't blow up. they aren't popular. they don't get the views or attention. because what's entertaining is when someone is a "horrible person" that can "rightfully" be called out and be hated for eternity.
