Stu's Affirmations- On DID/OSDD/Trauma
Putting this in the DID tags if other systems need it. Just know that I preach peace and love between other parts in my system, so some reminders may not be applicable. Please do not be disrespectful on this post.
Quoting another post on here: "There is no minimum amount of suffering before you are allowed to want to alleviate it." Original Post.
My trauma(s) did not make me stronger, and I'm not obligated to anyone to act like it did. It hurt me, and I did not deserve or ask for it. It was not my fault.
If I have to ask "Was it traumatic enough?" the answer is a most likely "yes". I would not need to ask otherwise.
My trauma is not "cringe" or "embarrassing" and even if it is "cringe", it does not nullify the pain it caused.
I am safe to ask for help.
I am safe to let others near me.
No matter what abusers and persecutory parts have said, I am worthy of love, tenderness, and comfort.
Silence internally does not mean I have been faking DID/OSDD. (If anything, it likely means I'm dissociating more!)
Clarity on memories previously forgotten does not mean I am faking DID/OSDD. (That's likely some dissociation subsiding.)
I am not required to be wildly different and separate from my parts to be a "valid" or "acceptable" system.
I am the sum of my parts. I am the love between me and my parts.
No matter what, my system loves me even if tensions are high.
I am strong and resilient, but I do not need to be these things all the time.
Not being able to recall the trauma in vivid detail doesn't mean it didn't happen. Not being able to recall most or any of it aside from feelings doesn't mean it didn't happen.
When all else fails, my inner world is a safe space for myself. I am entitled to comfort in my inner world.
I deserve a say in what the system does as much as any other part, host included.