I've recently learned how common it can be for neurosivergent folk to process trauma emotions slower than those that are neurotypical, and I feel as though I have recently developed a great deal of clarity in regards to my previous relationship.
I understand and empathize that it was a difficult time for her, but her recent decision to prevent me from contacting my daughter Hazel has severely affected my mental health and I feel as though I need to tell my own story.
She expressed her own mental health struggle, and I suggested that she could reduce the contact we were having. But to offer a metaphor, it seems as though I offered an inch and she's taken a mile.
Nonetheless, here is the timeline of events that led to my abandonment:
2019: She moves back to NZ, I visit three times throughout the year and Hazel is born in late October - we spend December together as a family for the first time and enjoy a nice Christmas and New year's together before I have to go back to Australia.
February 2020: Neusa is diagnosed with leukemia.
March 2020: COVID causes international border closures and I am separated from her and my daughter Hazel with no indication of when we would be able to see each other again.
September 2020: emotions had been running high and she decides to end our relationship on my birthday.. 🎉
End of 2020 and throughout 2021 & 2022: Hazel and I video call every week to maintain contact.
2023: The borders open up, I am able to travel again and I visit twice as we increase our video messages to once a day.
Early November 2023: After arriving back from my visit to celebrate Hazel's birthday, I suggest that we try to work out how they can bring Hazel to visit her family in Australia but she expresses her struggles and we decide to reduce contact to allow her some time to process.
December 2023, all my Christmas messages are ignored causing me great sadness and concern for the future.
I honestly don't know what I've done to deserve this. All I know is that it is completely unreasonable at this point and my daughter will have her father in her life one way or another.















