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Who is at Pillowfort? I am at Pillowfort! https://www.pillowfort.io/puolikarhu
Who is at Pillowfort? I am at Pillowfort! https://www.pillowfort.io/puolikarhu
Anyway happy new year! We have a party starting in 25 minutes. Yayyyyy
We have a roommate candidate who is a queer-looking guy! I've... enjoyed living with women because there's such a super slim chance i become attracted to them. But i like So Many more men. And being into your roommate is a potential for so much awkwardness. I hope he's not hot in person?
(In my early twenties i dated someone who was a roommate at first so we were living tohether and having a budding relationship at the same time, and that is Not Good, we became way too entangled way too fast. #neveragain)
im tired of waiting for pillowfort to open up their registrations and i wanna Share, so here goes:
- cat roommate is moving out. this means one of the conflict points in my life, the noisiness of my home, is resolving itself without me having to do anything. it’s a bit of a hassle but i trust we’ll find someone nice to move here.
- i decided over christmas that i wanna get serious abt studying programming. the university of helsinki has an open program that started a few weeks ago, where if you complete it you can get admitted into the university as a student. i’ve started doing the exercises and they’re going well this far. i’m thinking if all goes well i might wanna do a bachelor’s in computer science. i’m also looking into whether i could study on unemployment benefits, so i could commit to it full-time.
and guys, i have possibly never been this excited to study anything in my life. java, which the university is teaching, is ok. but in addition i’m studying javascript at codecademy.com, and hello i love javascript for some reason. i get sucked in the exercises, it’s like playing a game, i keep saying ‘ok but just one more and then i’ll go to bed’. with my adhd brain this literally never happens, like i did ok in my bio studies but it was always a huge effort to study. i never practice anything without a deadline looming over me. so this enthusiasm is a Good Sign. programming career (and money!) here i come. slowly.
- i’m sober and reading a lot and slowly writing my novel again. i’ll get to actual deadlined work next year, but for now i’m doing things i love.
- i get along better with my parents now. a recent overdose of captain awkward helps in dealing with well-meaning parents with sometimes bad boundaries.
- Theatre Girl took my not wanting to date her any more super well. since then i’ve been messaging with a dude on tinder but he hasn’t written for a while. i find i’m not desperate for a relationship. dates are nice and i want sex at some point, but quality over quantity always. i have no time for people i don’t like a lot.
I think i know what i wanna do with my life now.
Don't know yet if it's possible but im gonna start the new year by looking into new possibilities!
maxisawerewolf replied to your post “I am def not saying Theatre Girl is an abuser, i have no way really of...”
Adamant self-deprecation without any real apologies was def a favorite tool of my abusive ex. I think it's a trick that female-identified abusers in particular tend to pick up. I'm glad you're cutting her loose, even if she's not necessarily abusive.
thanks! yeah. if we were a few months into a relationship and this only started to bother me then, i think i’d give her a good-faith chance to hear what’s been bothering me and to try and change the patterns if she’s willing & able to. but right now it’s just that she made a first impression that wasn’t very good and i don’t really need to know more.
I am def not saying Theatre Girl is an abuser, i have no way really of knowing that, but if she's not treating me super well two dates in and i feel uncomfortable in her presence i really feel like i don't wanna invest more in this.
Like what happened is i had a bit of a stomach bug this week and had to cancel our earlier date, and i was already feeling pretty guilty abt it, and she sent me some half-joking but half-pissed-off messages. And she apologised, but still it was like whoa, she is not being super understanding or maybe not even coming from the assumption im telling the truth about feeling sick. and after one (1) date, albeit one that went pretty well and we kissed, i dont feel i owe her a lot.
And then we met yesterday, and she makes these very self-deprecating comments all the time and i dont know what to say. like girl you have to love yourself at least a little bit, i cant do it for the both of us, but i also can't be like haha yeah i guess you suck then, because it's clear she desperately needs love & acceptance and maybe she's had a lot of bad experiences. And also i sometimes get the impression that she's testing me in these little ways and i absolutely can't tolerate being set up or someone saying something nasty just to see what i'll do. And all of this is probably just because she's very very insecure, but that is honestly not my problem. All these little signals coming very early in our thing mean it's probably not gonna get better. What slightly bothers me now would absolutely drive me up the wall in a few months.
So i'll have to break it up asap, now that i know it's not gonna happen. Not today as she's probably hungover, as am i, but like tomorrow. I know she's probably pretty invested in this so it's gonna be a blow. And i would have loved to have an intense, silly romance but it doesn't feel good any more.
So i fell out of love. Oh shit. Well that happens
Theatre Girl is... no.
She's very immature and has a very low confidence and she's constantly looking for reassurance in a pretty unhealthy way, putting herself down and apologising for everything etc. I can't deal with that kinda person, not after all the insecure abusers I've dealt with in the past. We don't have enough in common for me to take on so much emotional labor. Uhhhh she's sweet but I find myself withdrawing from her because she's not for me.
sobriety is like playing a video game: almost defeating the enemy is encouraging and promises you might get it right next time, but it still takes you to the exact same place as losing by a wide margin
5/7/2018: Hey, aspiring fantasy writers!
Having trouble deciding what role is best to give your character(s)? Well then, here is a collection of medieval-fantasy type jobs (both historical and fictional) in alphabetical order that can help you choose the right one.
Abbot; Abbess
Academic/Professor
Actor
Adventurer
Adviser
Alchemist
Alienist
Almoner
Animal trainer
Antiquarian
Apothecary
Arbalest
Arcanist
Archer
Architect
Armorer
Artificer
Artist
Assassin
Astrologer
Auctioneer
Author, Nonfiction
Bailiff
Baker; Baxter
Bandit (Outlaw, Thug, Highwayman, Plunderer, Marauder)
Banker
Barbarian
Barber
Bard
Barkeeper
Bathhouse Attendant
Beast Tamer
Beastmaster
Beggar
Berserker
Bishop
Blacksmith
Bladesmith
Bodyguard
Bookbinder
Bounty Hunter
Brewer; Brewster
Broker
Butcher
Butler
Candlemaker
Captain
Cardinal
Caregiver
Carpenter
Carriage driver
Carter (Carrier)
Cataphract
Chainsmith
Chamberlain
Chandler
Chaplain
Chariot racer
Cheesemaker
Chimneysweep
City guard
Cleric
Clerk
Cobbler
Confectioner
Constable; Marshal
Convict
Cook; Pastry chef
Cooper (barrels/buckets)
Copyist/Scribe
Cordwainer (Shoemaker)
Crusader
Dancer
Deacon
Dentist
Deprived
Detective
Diplomat
Diva
Dockworker
Doctor
Dog trainer
Domestic Servants
Dragonrider
Dressmaker
Druid
Duelist
Dyer
Embroiderer
Emperor/Empress
Enforcer of Laws against Rich Clothes
Engineer
Escapist
Explorer
Falconer
Farmer
Farrier (horse shoes)
Fighter
Fighting Clerics
Fisherman
Fishmonger
Flagellant
Fletcher
Florist
Footman
Friar
Furniture maker
Gardener
Gladiator/arena fighter
Glazier
Goldsmith
Gong Farmer
Grave Robber
Gravedigger
Guardian
Guru
Hack driver
Harbormaster
Hatter
Hay seller
Headsman; Hangman
Healer; Midwife
Hellion
Herald
Herbalist
Hermit
Hero
Houndmaster
Housewife
Hunter
Illuminator
Illusionist
Importer; Exporter
Innkeeper
Inquisitor
Interpreter
Inventor
Investigator
Jester or Fool
Jeweler
Judge
King
Knife thrower
Knight
Lady’s maid
Lawyer
Leper
Locksmith
Logger
Loremaster
Mage
Magician
Maid
Man-at-Arms
Mapmaker (Cartographer)
Mason
Master of Ceremonies
Mayor
Medium
Mercenary
Merchant
Messenger
Miller
Miner
Minstrel; Jongleur
Money Changer
Monk, Nun
Musician
Necromancer
Noble
Noblewoman
Nurse
Nursemaid/wetnurse
Occultist
Official
Oracle
Page
Painter
Paladin
Papermaker
Parchment and Ink Seller
Pardoner
Parson
Peasant
Peddler
Philosopher
Pilgrim
Pirate
Playwright
Poet
Polymath
Pontiff
Pope
Porter
Potioneer
Potter
Priest
Prince
Princess
Prisoner (hard labor)
Produce vendor
Prophet
Prostitute; Courtesan
Provost
Pyromancer
Queen
Ranger
Rat catcher
Ringmaster
Rogue
Ropemaker
Saddler (Yo mama!)
Sage
Sailor
Salt seller
Salter or Daysalter
Schoolmaster; Teacher
Sculptor
Sentinel
Seraph
Serf
Servant (laundry, kitchen, cleaner)
Shaman
Sheriff
Shieldmaiden
Shipwright
Shopowner
Silversmith
Skald
Slave
Slave trader
Smelter
Smuggler
Sniper
Soldier
Sorcerer/Sorceress
Spinster; Spinner
Spy
Squire
Stable hand
Stablemaster
Stained-Glass Artist
Steward
Stonemason
Street Cleaner
Strongman (or woman)
Summoner
Surgeon
Swashbuckler
Sweet maker
Tailor
Tanner (leather)
Taxman
Templar
Thatcher (thatched roofs)
Thief
Thrall
Torturer
Town Crier
Toymaker
Trapper
Traveling Merchant
Treasure hunter
Trickster
Troubadour
Tutor
Undertaker
Vestal
Viking
Wagoneer
Walker or Fuller
Wanderer
Warlock
Warlord
Warrior
Weapons instructor
Weaver; Webster (fabric, rugs, baskets)
Wheelwright
Wisewoman
Witch/Wizard
Witch Hunter
Wood-carver
Wool-carder
Yeoman
If there are more you want to add to the list, feel free to reblog and share your suggestions. The more the merrier!
(Note: Some jobs listed here are probably the same as certain others but with a different title.)
Semiverbal Communication
I think we don’t talk about semiverbal communication enough in the autistic community. We all know nonverbal is not speaking in words or speaking only a VERY small amount of words with significant struggle and pain. Semiverbal, though, has a much broader definition, and we underestimate the value of using this word to describe the way we talk with our mouth parts.
Just because we can still sound out vowels and consonants in such a way to form a word does not mean we are communicating properly and effectively. So many times I’ve had people tell me I can speak “just fine” because they can hear what I am saying and then there ends up a misunderstanding of some sort because they did not understand that I was not speaking just “fine”.
Semiverbal could mean…
Speaking and expressing thoughts through scripts like movie quotes, commercial jingles, bits of songs, and things you hear in your everyday life.
Speaking a full sentence but replacing words with certain sounds or bodily motions so that there are pauses in the sentence where you interject the replacement.
Speaking words out of order consistently so that the correct meaning can still be interpreted, but only after taking a moment to think about it and correcting the order.
Shortening full sentences or phrases to a more shortened form such as “I love you” to “Love” or “I want water please.” to “Water”.
Talking coherently in some areas of speech and then other parts it turning out garbled or incorrect.
Sentences in your head not matching up with the words that come out of your mouth so that people misinterpret what you mean (this is a big issue for me personally, and I often have to get people to say back to me what I say so I can catch any mistakes because I don’t realize that they happen when the words come out of my mouth).
Starting out saying something and then forgetting a word so you have to start the sentence over and rework it to fit in a similar word so your sentence still makes sense. Saying something but one word was missing so you have to say it again with the word inserted.
Thinking the right word in your head, but only wrong words coming out of your mouth.
Making up words to mean things even if you know the correct word for what you mean because the made-up word sounds more right to you (this doesn’t count mash-up words, just words that are completely made up).
I really believe if people understood the multiple ways someone can be semiverbal we may be able to avoid a lot more misunderstandings and frustrations when autistics speak and recognize even if we can talk, we are still struggling to communicate.
I think we should use the word semiverbal more because it doesn’t just mean can speak, but only a little bit, it encompasses a lot of types of difficulties autistics have when speaking.
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link! https://www.thedart.co/2017/04/13/roleplaying-queerness-in-the-adventure-zone/
“[Playing Taako] has made me understand a little bit better how taxing it can be when your sexuality is politicized, rather than just your own thing. When who you…and who you want to love…becomes polarizing, it’s very stressful. Being Taako became a lot more complicated once Taako was a canonically gay character, and I’m sure that is true ten-thousandfold for people for whom that’s their actual life.”
Holy shit this though.
Also this:
“I asked Justin how he felt about the positive attention he and his family have received for espousing inclusivity in their work. ‘If I’m being honest, it makes me uncomfortable. I always feel like I’m doing the bare minimum we should be doing as people. When people talk about kindness, it messes me up a little bit because I feel like I’m just treating people the way I was taught to treat people. It’s weird to me that that’s so much of a unicorn, that it’s worth noting.’”
deviantART, Google, etc’s TOS
Everyone is panicking over TOS-es right now as they find a new home as Tumblr gets flushed down the toilet. I don’t like those random TOS breakdowns because the analysis is always wrong.
Anyway this is what people pay me to do and I will now do it for $0 because I’m tired of everyone spreading misinformation. This post is not a substitute for legal advice etc. Reblogs are appreciated because I literally see TOS nonsense on my dash every day.
Any more experienced copyright lawyers please feel free to weigh in - it’s part of my field yes, but my wheelhouse is more film production COT rather than derivative works.
Google Drive (TOS)
Google doesn’t have rights to do whatever they want to files you upload to Google Drive
Their TOSes are annoyingly broad in drafting but essentially boilerplate clauses that they need to host your work, use google translate on it, make it searchable etc. They cannot steal your fanfic. They cannot modify your art and use it for whatever.
Your work MAY be threatened (that is, deleted) thanks to FOSTA/SESTA, which imo is a clown provision signed by a clown that sent safe harbour down the toilet. This and this has more information (I’ve skimmed but not perused both), but the tl;dr is: similar to Tumblr, there was a ham-fisted attempt to protect victims of sex trafficking and all it really did was make cloud based services start deleting user files whether relevant or not.
deviantART (Submission Policy) (TOS)
Uploading work to dA doesn’t give them a license to sell it to Hot Topic. This post is incorrect. Debunked here and corrected by the artist himself here. Your art is safe.
There’s a breakdown of the TOS in there that’s pretty much wrong on most points, if someone wants me to do a not-wrong version, ask. This may help.
All you really need to know is that like Google, I checked it over and nothing in there puts you at risk for dA asserting ownership over your work or selling it - they need those rights for thumbnails, search functions, resizing etc.
Sexually explicit fanart is not allowed, as well as “obscenity”, which is an oddly broad term covering things like “sexually orientated commercial telephone messages”.
I’m not aware of any content purges.
AO3 (TOS)
Yum. I like this one. Easy to read and clearly explained for most people with basic reading comprehension. Section G - What We Do With Content will tell you everything you need to know.
Basically, they have the same clauses about you granting AO3 a license to modify/apart/etc you work, but they take the trouble to explain to you exactly what that means, and how they use it to improve accessibility etc.
No history of content purges as far as I know. Explicit content is allowed with limits eg. no child porn.
Wordpress (TOS)
Same deal - you’re looking for 1. Wordpress - Responsibility of Contributors, with the exact same thing as everybody else. They also do a decent job of explaining what they use the license for (though once again, it’s standard), albeit not as beautifully as AO3.
However, images of sexual acts (including fanart) are against TOS.
I found no history of content purges.
Dreamwidth (TOS)
Same old standard licensing clause, again doesn’t let them steal your stuff.
Incredibly…open content policies…you can basically do whatever you want so long as you don’t break laws or commit fraud it seems? If I’m wrong, feel free to correct.
Hope this helps. Feel free to force me to read and explain any other site TOS documents. Again, more experienced copyright lawyers, feel free to correct me if I clowned up somewhere.
Iiaat to be extremely angry in the morning?? As soon as I wake up whenever people try to talk to me I feel like I can't answer. And if they keep pushing I end up screaming at them cuz they're just too loud?? My parents are really confused with me so itd be nice to know lolol
!!!! Same! Like, so hard.
Growing up, I would do so badly during the mornings that my family made it a policy not to talk to me until I had talked to them.
As I’ve learned about autism and myself, I’ve tried to figure out why I would get so angry at people for talking to me in the mornings. I think I’ve figure out a couple things:
I wake up semiverbal most of the time and the pressure to verbalize when it’s so difficult for me is incredibly frustrating.
When I wake up, my sensory sensitivities are more intense than normal so sounds are louder and lights are brighter and everything hurts and it sucks. So when people try to talk to me in the midst of this it is painful and makes me angry
Basically, I start my mornings right on the edge of meltdown/shutdown and one of those will follow unless I am able to care for myself and take my time adjusting to the world.
I hope this helps you!
-Sabrina
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