Today I was thinking we could look through the eyes of the men and give some advice for the Bulls out there who really want to know how to get in the lifestyle. There is no better person to do this than my own Stag âŠ@LillybStag. He will guest write this episode. Please give him a warm welcome.
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Hello all of you fans of the Lilly Goddess. This is not my forte and I will surely make grammatical errors so bear with me. Lilly asked that I do todays episode for her. I wasnt quite sure what to speak about but then I thought of something that I personally see alot of. I see the desire by many men who wish to play with my Vixen. Dont get me wrong, that turns me on. I love that Lilly is desired. I love sharing her. Itâs what I do. But I see men who arent really Bulls, trying to be Bulls and are making error after error in their attempts. The Contact Point is where you start guys.
Who do you make contact with first? Do you contact the Hotwife? Yeah you probably do. And I would too, but how do I go about doing that? More often than not, I would contact her to break the ice and let her know that I exist and that I am interested in her. I would let her know how beautiful I think she is, and how great it would be to meet and get to know each other. And all the while hoping that she shows some even small amount of possible interest.
Where do you go from there? I have seen many guys do this with Lilly. Most are pretty cool and chill. But most still dont get how to handle the Part 2 of Contact. Ultimately, I am the Contact Point. I am the one who takes the time to check you Bulls out. Not my Vixen. She knows where and how you should approach her. She may even be interested in you. But consider me the Firewall. There is no way any of you reach her except through me. That is just part of our rules with each other, and we both made that rule together.
I might sound controlling and manipulative to you. Iâm ok with that description. Because in this lifestyle, I am. Lillys safety is of utmost importance to me, so just like in a computer, you have a firewall to prevent bad code from entering your safe space. I do the same for my Vixen. But if you have the password. If you prove that you are worthy, then the firewall letâs you through.
After that, and only after that does the Contact resume with the Hotwife in any way she wishes. Iâve watched as many of you guys try to work the situation to your advantage with my own Hotwife. Iâve seen the tricks and the games that guys think will work for them in bypassing rules that we set. You must know that they will not work. They will instead get you deleted into the trash heap of no goâs. Is all of this harsh? Maybe, but when you do things right, you will find that the Stag is your best friend in the lifestyle while the Vixen is yours to enjoy thoroughly. Or in my case, You are my Vixens enjoyment. Do you understand how this works now?
So let me end this with a quick synopsis of how Contact works so that you can have success with Hotwives. 1. Make contact with the Vixen first and compliment her without sexual overtones. Let her know that you are more than your schlong. 2. If she shows some interest, Stop right there and do a 180 to the Stag. He is now your Contact point. 3. Prove to the Stag that you are worthy. Dont bring your fake game, because that Stag has probably been in your shoes and knows how the game works. Be yourself but youd better be honest. He will grill you. And he should. 4. Then if the Stag tells you that you are clear, you can proceed with his Vixen. But dont let that mean that you ignore the Stag. He is still your Contact Point. Anything that you propose to the Vixen should be brought to the Stag first. 5. When you pass all of that, bring your A game to the playdate. Give her the lay of her life, or try to. Knowing that the Stag will expect you to live up to your worthiness not just with your ability to make her have multiple orgasms but to also respect and know what role you play.
This method always works well and the Bulls on here that know me by now, know that once youâre through, itâs all downhill and fun from there. So be patient and understanding guys. This is more that cock size, sexual abilities, and even good looks. All of that is important to her but from what I have seen and know with experience is that she wants your mind first. Lilly calls it a âconnectionâ. She is right. Your connection with Lilly and most Hotwives is through your mind. Being funny, Showing respect for her and what she enjoys, asking her questions and answering hers that may have nothing to do with sex at all.
So I hope you guys understand a little better. I receive messages on my own blog all of the time from guys trying to do what they think is right for joining a Hotwife. And I have to tell you that most of them just suck. Most of them need alot of help in their relationship skills. You all can do better. There are some that do really well and get past this firewall quickly. Thatâs the stuff I enjoy. I want to share my Vixen but not just any Bull will do. âLillybStag
This will be a weekly posting just for Hotwives, Stags, Bulls, and Swingers. Every Tuesday I will focus on your questions, comments, and statements of the Hotwife lifestyle. Feel free to direct all questions today through the submit feature of my Blog! Thank you and Happy Hotwifing! đ   ~LillybGoddess
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