still trying to figure myself out

call me the questgiver. i don't actually hand out quests, i just think it sounds neat. or you could call me questy too i guess. he/him or they/them. i'm an adult. my labels are subject to change, but for now i'm going with: sex-ambivalent asexual transmasc enby

[cardentist]

it's really obvious that people have just been using trans men as an "acceptable" sponge for their bigotry, and since it's largely worked out for them they're pushing the limits on what Sorts of bigotry they can get away with repackaging

[cardentist]

with the scare quotes around "converted" and preamble about disabled trans men existing In Theory, the implication is that trans men are faking being disabled and faking being jewish for (presumably) minority points. to make people give them sympathy points they don't Really deserve because they're Not Actually disabled or jewish

and if you stretch it further, there's a Huge amount of people in anti-transmasculinity spaces that very much so insist that trans masc spaces are full of fakers who are only pretending to be trans for internet points and never Really suffer. and even further that trans men in general aren't REALLY oppressed the same way other trans people are.

the core of the idea is "these people are lying about the pain they experience, and it's our job to out them as fakers so they don't get support they don't deserve"

which is a common sentiment in queer spaces, but is USUALLY obscured by SOMETHING. but people have started saying the quiet part out loud when it comes to trans men

[alternativemlm]

Billie Joe Armstrong literally wrote a song about coming out as bisexual as a teenager, and then like two years later wrote one that was pretty much all about dressing up in drag and getting fucked by/fucking guys, and y'all STILL say he’s a “straight ally” because he married a woman??

[pavelchekovswig]

[coldwarfem]

The same goes for Freddy Mercury and David Bowie. Both were openly bi. Both wrote (multiple) songs about their queerness. Both are pigeonholed as either “gay” or “straight”. They were both neither of those things.

[flagellant]

hey remember when freddy mercury wrote a literal song about wanting to be allowed to be bisexual without it being a big deal and was incredibly obvious about it and then straighties went “oh lol look at how quirky queen is writing a song all about bicycles!”

[charlie-in-a-beanie]

This also happened to p!nk, she’s openly bisexual but since she’s married to a man and has had two babies with him, people say that she’s straight.

Like, yeah she does a lot and shows a lot of support for the LGBT+ community but she isn’t just an ally, she’s part of that community.

Biphobia is completely real and so many Bi wlw and mlm are assigned the “straight” role when they just ARENT.

[prince-spence]

[pepperpatrol]

Also let’s add Lady Gaga to the mix. She’s repeatedly shit on for Born this Way for not being part of the community when she is, in fact, openly bisexual and writes song about being LGBT

[holyfunnyhistoryherring]

[Image 1: the “It’s free real estate” guy with the altered caption “It’s Biphobia”

Image 2: a picture of Chris Fleming with the altered caption “Okay, was anybody going to tell me that ‘Bicycle Race’ was about being bi or was I just supposed to learn that from a post about Billie Joe Armstrong myself?” End ID.]

[brunhiddensmusings]

its baffling that bisexuality is considered ‘invisible’ when theres a whole pantheon of the most loud rhinestone bedazled spectacles of entertainment being openly vocal that theyre bi its like a simpsons bit where everyone ignores the blinking neon sign

[json-derulo]

consider: a lot of us do the blinking neon sign thing because it’s our only means of avoiding erasure. I’ve heard plenty of people both inside and outside the queer community complain about how bisexuals are “loud” or never shut up about being bi, but like…if I quit putting the bi pride flag on everything and making bi jokes for five goddamn minutes, people just slap on whichever monosexual label they find most palatable for me and then act like I’m coming out for the very first time when I correct them.

I’m an introvert, damn it! I would looooove to use my inside voice! have you ever considered how tiring it is to have to put on a rhinestone-bedazzled spectacle of entertainment all the time just to be seen at all?

[useless-stray]

gotta hate being affected by a unique intersection of transphobia and misogyny which is not allowed to be called transmisogyny but also isn’t allowed to be given any other name or else i’m evil

[catboynutsack]

ppl on this website will say that those who refuse to learn from history are doomed to repeat it and then recycle the same "This Marginalized Queer Group Is Actually Bad And It's Actually Okay To Bully Them And Harass Them" discourse every year like clockwork

[legionforweare-many]

we're all obsessed with material conditions until a trans guy exists and then what really matters is his male soul and the body it might hypothetically have in any number of situations that are not reality and have no bearing on it. "if trans men were cis they'd be cis men" "if trans men were cis they'd be cis women" it literally does not matter because we're not fucking cis

[kittyswitching]

trans men absolutely are in sex work, the majority just present as women for work because it's much harder to make money if you don't. You don't see them because they're forced to detransition for work or you haven't even tried to look for the ones who are presenting masc. They're all over the sex work forums if you know what to look for and how they talk about it.

there is no "trans men aren't pushed into sex work" privilege. It is not a privilege to be forced into it AND have to detransition for it. This isn't a competition

[m4rklol]

I think a lot of "trans men aren't affected by this" stuff boils down to the trans men in question that ARE affected being deminished to not being men at all or being forced to detransition/pretend to be women

A lot of talk about boymoding and how hard it is but trans men do the exact same thing the other way around and a lot of times specifically because they are forced into sex work

The trans community in general would be way healthier if we realized we literally go through the same exact stuff

[elierlick]

Rare photos from trans history: Olympic runner and Zdeněk Koubek styles Cinda Glenn’s hair, 1936. Koubek was one of the first trans men to gain international fame after he transitioned in 1935.

[dailyhistoryposts]

ID: A photo of a newspaper snippet. A headline says “Here’s How I Used to Do It!” This is followed by a photo of a Zdeněk Koubek and Cinda Glenn. Both are smiling broadly as Cinda leans her head back to let Zdeněk style her hair. The photo is captioned: “An expert at women’s coiffures although not a hairdresser, Zdenek Koubek proves himself as he combs the locks of Cinda Glenn, New York night club beauty. Koubek knows all about coiffures from experience, since they were of concern to him when he was the foremost girl athlete of Czechoslovakia, prior to a sex-change.”

[elierlick]

You wouldn't know it from mainstream media, but cis lesbians are the most supportive group of trans people... even more than trans people ourselves!

Media doesn't present reality: it creates it. The moral panic over trans women in queer spaces is a contrived conflict invented to drive our community apart. But our movements are connected at their core, and we are stronger together.

[hemipenal-system]

also yknow i do think that people would probably have more success dealing with transphobes if they just got obliquely blunt and unwoke about it

“look at her thats obviously a woman are you fucking stupid” works way better on the average transphobe and bystanders than “well shes transitioning so you should try not to be transphobic to her”

[hemipenal-system]

the average transphobe has kind of psyched themself into a paranoid reality that is mostly incomprehensible to the average person, and because of this the easiest way to socially defuse them is to make them look completely batshit insane. if you're surrounded by normal people, a well-placed "what the FUCK are you talking about?" mid-rant about chromosomes and hormones can shut them down infinitely better than trying to out-gender science them

[eroticcannibal]

Challenging the EHRC Code of Practice: A Judicial Review

Challenging the EHRC Code of Practice: A Judicial Review.

Fundraising is currently going on for a judicial review of the EHRC code of practice (that's the thing making trans people's lives hell in the UK right now). Judicial reviews are about the only tool we have to force change rather than asking and hoping someone gives in. Unfortunately they are expensive. Very expensive.

But honestly this is our best shot, so it's VERY FUCKING IMPORTANT that we get this funded.

[myirlnameiscloud]

B-but people with micropenises are my emotional support minority to bully!! 🥺🥺 B-but it's funny that their penises are small!! 🥺🥺 B-but I only make fun of BAD people by calling their penises small!! 🥺🥺 I have good reason to make fun of people with micropenises!! 🥺🥺 It's not intersexism if it's funny!! 🥺🥺 It's sooo funny because their penises are small!! 🥺🥺 Guys it's sooo funny come on!! 🥺🥺

[myirlnameiscloud]

Aaand here's some of the lovely comments under this post:

I think I hate tumblr.

Anyways BLOCKED!!!

[genderkoolaid]

There is no feminist way to participate in toxic masculinity, and mocking people for having fragile masculinity is toxic masculinity, point blank period. Its fundamentally patriarchal.

The idea that "having fragile masculinity" is inherently a personality defect or moral failing is patriarchal. So much of this kind of bullshit is people taking fundamentally patriarchal ideas of manhood (for example, that men being vulnerable is a defect or moral failing) and defining it around slightly more feminist values.

Like, the only thing that is different from bog standard patriarchy here is the inclusion of "macho." But like, the idea that there are "fragile" men who fail to be "real men" with unshakeable firm masculinity, and they also secretly have small penises and are biologically less manly compared to "real men" whose real manhood can be located in their large penises... babe that's just toxic masculinity. The same "macho" shit you hate those men for, you yourself engage in, just a little to the left.

Fragile masculinity is not a moral failing, and it doesn't intrinsically make someone a worse person. And tbh I think talking about "fragile masculinity" like this is kind of disgustingly individualistic, and doesn't do much to encourage conversation about how patriarchy constructs manhood and masculinity as tools of control and oppression (what some feminists might call misandry).

[milliebobbyflay]

people like saying community when they mean demographic

[plum-soup]

How is your takeaway from this "oh no! They are banning asexuality!" They are banning being LGBTQIA+. They are just using a modern woke version of the acronym to define who they persecute. De facto they will only go after asexual people that go to pride parades or start advocacy groups or something. They're not gonna arrest you for not filling your sex quota lol

[stalksships]

I’m going to respond to this with the assumption this was NOT!! originally posted with bad intent, but we’ll see if I can keep up that line of thinking.

Firstly, the OP of the tweet just happened to cut off the name of the subreddit this was posted to. Turns out it was posted to r/Asexual. You know. The subreddit dedicated to talking about asexuality and related things. It makes sense that the original poster and a mod of that very subreddit would emphasize the inclusion of asexuality in Niger’s article 25.

Here’s a link to the actual Reddit post btw

Secondly, while all persecution of queer identities is evil and unjust, it is significant to point out asexuality being included. Most of the time laws don’t go into specifying more than gay or trans identities when it comes to trying to bar rights to individuals. This article has go so far to break down and specify the meaning of every single letter in LGBTQIA and call them all an “act against nature” to justify punishing anyone under the banner. It makes sense to, again, emphasize that asexuality was also included when this was posted in the r/Asexual subreddit.

And thirdly, and this is kinda the most important part imo, this means ANYONE CAN BE ACCUSED AND PERSECUTED UNDER THIS CHARTER. People in the subreddit and even the OP of the tweet are asking “how can you even prove that?” And that’s the thing. You can’t. So it makes it that much easier to just accuse someone of asexuality in order to force them into a heterosexual relationship or punish them.

Think about it. What’s stopping a bitter ex or an abusive spouse from accusing their partner of “denying sex due to their asexual tendencies” in order to punish them? Maybe someone is career driven or just not interested in a relationship at the time. What’s stopping a business rival, a jilted flirt, or an obsessed stalker from leaving an anonymous tip that the object of their ire is an asexual deviant? Absolutely nothing.

Taking this post and dismissing it as “no one cares you don’t want to fuck” is completely missing the point on why this is exceptionally dangerous. And acting like a mod of the r/Asexual subreddit is being silly for putting emphasis on the dangers to their community is rude at best.

The fact that everyone with a queer identity now can face prison time and ridiculous fines is terrifying and it breaks my heart to know more and more countries are baking these laws into their charters and constitutions. But we should be bringing these things into the light and condemning the people pushing for this kind of cruelty, not throwing stones at each other for pointing out a specific part of the article that affects us personally.

Uplift your fellow queers. Don’t do the CIA’s job for them and try to tear our community apart with useless infighting.

[kmftm]

the difference between reproductive abuse between amab and afab trans folks is sending me up the wall a little. Yes, I don’t think people assigned male at birth should be forcibly sterilised or forced to donate biological material in order to receive gender affirming care. However, there is a vast difference between that and being forced to give birth. The rates of corrective rape and impregnation as a form of detransitioning that trans people assigned female at birth face is horrific and insane. Have you ever see a video of someone giving birth? Have you seen the changes their body undergoes physically? Have you seen the sheer amount of painkillers (sometimes denied for various reasons!) that people who give birth are recommended??

have you ever actually watched anything around pregnancy and giving birth??? Like, even so much as a 5 second audio from the process. The amount of physical trauma it carries out on the body and leaves is genuinely the subject of several horror movies. You’ll notice I haven’t even gone into specifics with this post because I’m half-convinced tumblr would ban me.

anyway I’m making this post because with the state of discourse on this site, I’m firmly convinced that if it were the other way around, and the current group of transgender and loudly transandrophobic shitheads were the ones facing the prospect of giving birth, and all the complications that come with it, and all the insanely high risk of fucking dying, and all the political climate that designates anyone with a functioning womb as a fucking incubator, and just the sheer pain and trauma of it alone, we’d never hear the end of it.

again, I cannot restate my point enough that it’s awful that people are forcibly sterilised or put through other forms of reproductive abuse that does not involve pregnancy or giving birth. This should not happen, and should be a part of the conversation around reproductive autonomy within the trans community.

However I’m going to need you to get incredibly fucking real with me for a moment about the disparity between the sides of the conversation here.

[intersexelphie]

I want to boost everything this person has said and add on.

The reason I call myself a tomboy now, despite it being seen as a childish word and having had someone swear at me over it because ‘tHeRe’S nO suCh thInG as BoY thInGs anD giRL thIngS sHut uP’ is because I couldn’t call myself that or be like that when I was a kid. It was seen as a negative thing and I was already bullied enough. “Looking like a boy” was the worst thing that could happen to a girl.

And I’m not even 26 yet. We aren’t talking 30+ years ago, we are talking 2000s and even 2010s. It’s only since trans people have become more accepted in the past few years that gender nonconformity has too.

And the people who helped me accept my gender nonconformity more than anyone else? Were trans people. They taught me, “there’s nothing wrong with how you feel. You’re still a valid woman no matter what you wear, how you have your hair or what you’re into ❤️”

And don’t even get me started on how people treat gender nonconforming men. JK Rowling has a lot of nerve to be like “uwu boys can wear dresses and only us gendercrits accept that!” when she has, even in recent works, made femininity in men a negative trait, as well as making masculinity in women a negative trait also.

A lot of people still don’t accept gnc people even now. Just last year I had someone tell me they’d never let their daughter “dress like a boy”, and I’m always terrified to walk into a bathroom in case the next JK Rowling is in there, sees my gender expression and pepper sprays me or worse.

“There’s no such thing as boy things and girl things.” I don’t need to be told that and I’m sure 99% of trans people also don’t need to be told that. Tell that to the society that hates us both instead of actively encouraging that hate.

[androgynealienfemme]

Gonna point out the og tweet thread is now full of terfs saying that life was better for gay people in the fucking 80s, that it was super easy for them to be a tomboy in the 70s and 80s and therefore it must have been that way for everyone, and that it was totally acceptable to be a gnc gay person in the 80s! 🤪

They’re rewriting history as we speak to try to argue trans acceptance is making it harder to be gay and gnc for youth than it was to be gay in the 80s. This is a blatant lie.

[trans-mask-left]

The fucking 80s??? As in, “aids crisis” 80s?? As in, “the government actively avoided funding research to help gay people” 80s????

Man I knew terfism was brain rot but I didn’t think it was this bad.

[socialistexan]

Actually I'm not going to just keep this in the tags

[shabbytigers]

as someone who was there that is finest grade bullshit

[taken-up-the-junction]

Egg is exclusively a transfem term

That has literally never been the case lol the earliest noted use of the term “egg” online included the definition of “a trans person who doesn’t realise that they’re trans yet” and every single definition since has been the same.

Like a lot of trans terms, exclusionary groups on tumblr have tried to rewrite history by claiming that these terms were only used by, for or against trans women (such as T4T or the t-slur) when any trans person over the age of thirty can tell you first hand that this is a lie. Re-writing trans history in order to erase trans men from it is not transfeminist and does not help trans women. It simply kills trans men.

Trans men are not squatters in the trans community, we’ve been here just as long as everyone else, and every single term you think is transfem-exclusive has also been used by transmascs for longer than you’ve been alive.

[materassassino]

What on Earth do certain trans women hope to gain by codifying their oppression as the only oppression worth paying attention to? By closing themselves off from intersectionality and solidarity and their trans brothers and siblings? Isolation means you are weaker in the fight, excluding people gains nothing whatsoever.

[pride-knightess]

I've noticed a lot of folks on this website seem to have it out for trans men. Drives me mad.

Support the whole trans community or

Fuck off

[crimsonender]

Misogyny.