Queer Things

Asexual, aromantic, non-binary, they/them pronouns. Used to make queer memes but I don't really anymore. Not doing questioning/identity advice anymore, but you can look through #questioning, #questioning orientation, #questioning gender, and #questioning [some-identity].  Feather art in profile pic by @kimchigrowsontrees on instagram

[is-this-better-than-romance]

petting a cat

^ this is better than romance

[ivystorm1]

"Are you head over heels" Yeah that's how standing works

[scribeherself]

people will say “they’re only friends” and then show me two people who would crawl through broken glass to hear the other laugh once. two people who have memorized each other’s coffee orders, fears, childhood stories, and emergency contacts. two people who would haunt each other’s houses as ghosts. be serious.

[scribeherself]

Just an FYI—the original intention of this post was to challenge the way people say only friends, as though friendship is somehow lesser than other forms of love. As if being deeply known, cherished, and chosen by another person could ever be a small thing. Normalize profound platonic love. Some of the most fulfilling, transformative, and enduring relationships we will ever have are friendships. 🫶🏼

[aromantic-yearning]

To me, it was not about recognizing a "lack" of something in myself. Because I do crave emotional intimacy, a lot! And I thought that "romance" as defined by society was the only way to get it.

But the older I get, the more my eyes have opened to the possibilities of other types of love. Love that transcends labels, boundaries. Softer, quieter, safer.

So, now I say I am aromantic. But to me the aromantic label feels less like an orientation and more of a rebuttal. It's a refusal to exist in the parameters that society has set for me, and a radical acceptance that those parameters were doing me more harm than good. I want to take those expectations and throw them in the garbage, and just live and love freely.

As far as I am concerned, "romantic attraction" was always just a desire to participate in a type of relationship that has predetermined rules and expectations as a shortcut to getting emotional intimacy. And now that I've recognized that, I don't experience "romantic attraction" anymore.

[lost-long-ago]

Unrequited love but it's fine. A is head over heels with B who doesn't feel the same about A, but they're both ok with this and it doesn't ruin their friendship. A enthusiastically expresses their feelings for B, and B welcomes the sentiment but just doesn't return it

People around them keep expecting this to become a problem but it just doesn't. A doesn't expect B to start feeling the way they do and is happy with their friendship as it is. B isn't bothered by A's feelings or the expression of these because they know B doesn't expect anything from them that they can't give

(You can imagine this being about romantic love if you must but I'm aromantic so in my head this is about alterous attraction)

[raavenb2619]

[ID: At the top, text reads “Aro blogs be like”. Below is the solidarity meme. Five people form a circle by holding on to the wrist of the person in front of them. Each person’s hand is labelled “reblogging from another aro blog”. End ID]

[it-is-only-a-novel-deactivated2]

*perpetuates the problem*

[aromanticofficial]

official aromantic hive mind post

[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is joking about getting married, purely for the tax benefits.

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[zemathememequeen]

aro culture is joking about getting married, purely so you can get divorced

[aromantic-diaries]

People act like there's an explicit line between friendship and romance like This is how Platonic Friends act and if two people act like That they are a Romantic Couple. Buddy I have crossed the line so far that it's actually surprising to me and it's still friendship

[aromantic-diaries]

"being aromantic means you never cross The Line" well maybe I'm so aromantic that no matter how far I cross the so called line I will never enter the romance territory. Get on my level.

[raavenb2619]

"Zootopia 2", or as I call it, "Nonromantic Hetslop: The Movie"

[miraculouslumination]

Trans women and transfems have some of the best laughs in the world 🥺🥺

[verysharpfish]

they keep putting romance in everything. and it isn't even well written romance. they don't even write it well.

[stephexmachina]

proposing a new genre of fiction called an anti-romance where u r presented w a couple at the start & the story is about their emotional journey towards a catastrophic break up

[stephexmachina]

will they won't they (end this farce). there's only one bed (but for some reason they don't really want to share it). out of context eavesdropping (that paints the relationship in a better light than it deserves). chasing after them to stop them getting on that plane (and stopping them from finally being free)

[stephexmachina]

nobody understands my vision i don't mean any old story where a relationship fails and it's tragic or w/e i mean a story where the intention is for the audience to root for it failing the same way u root for it succeeding in a romance. & when the relationship finally implodes at the climax of the story it's all very cathartic & everybody cheers.

[stephexmachina]

like have u never wanted a fictional couple to break up so badly it hurt?

[fortune-card]

This is not a new genre of fiction. You would like After the Winter by Guadalupe Nettel. That is literally what you're describing.

[stephexmachina]

that's not a genre that's the plot of one book. maybe i want a vast array of feel good stories about relationships imploding like fireworks. maybe i want to be baited by a breakup in act one only for them to get back together for absurd & convoluted reasons. maybe i want to pick up a book and go "wow i wonder how many times the protagonist is going to get cheated on before they finally call it quits". maybe i want it to be a foregone conclusion that they're going to break up and this is considered a happy ending. maybe i want to root for love to lose time & time again.

[imjunebitch]

we SHOULD have more shipping content with arospec and acespec characters actually because almost none of the shit we have now is actually that, its writing them as allo and then saying "whaaaat nooooo they can be in relationships tooooo" why dont you try writing the aro character in a romantic partnership as actually being aromantic but partnering that is way more fucking interesting

[elizabitchtaylor-deactivated202]

When my aunt was in her late 20s people used to rudely ask her “Why aren’t you married yet?” and she’d reply “Just lucky, I guess” which I think is one of the best things I have ever heard

[too-many-blorbos]

Soulmates as a horror concept.

You WILL love this person. It doesn't matter who you loved before; any feelings you had, any promises you made, they will become inconsequential as soon as you lock eyes with the stranger Fate has picked for you.

There's no way to stop it.

There's no way to say "no."

You will meet someone and with a single glance, both of you will become someone new, someone who's now bound to this stranger whether you like it or not, want it or not.

Trapped in a dance together until the day you die.

[tobydontknowsh-t]

there's probably a better way of wording the last part but like come on it doesn't matter if we're all the same to fascists

[everything-you-feel-is-real]

No I genuinely don't think there's any better wording of the last part

[ionlyseeyouindreams]

[lost-long-ago]

[ID: a photo of the inside of a bookshop. There are shelves with books and signs above the shelves indicating the different sections. The nearest sign reads "Romance" and below that, in smaller font as if to indicate subdivisions, the sign reads "Erotica", "Paranormal Romance", "Urban Fiction" and "Horror".

/end ID]