Queer Things

Asexual, aromantic, non-binary, they/them pronouns. Used to make queer memes but I don't really anymore. Not doing questioning/identity advice anymore, but you can look through #questioning, #questioning orientation, #questioning gender, and #questioning [some-identity].  Feather art in profile pic by @kimchigrowsontrees on instagram

[velvetys]

Getting kicked off love island for trying to poison the men

[teaboot]

“Why are you scared of dating” I’m not scared of dating, I just haven’t found anyone’s company to be more enjoyable than my own. And also I don’t care

[justlightmeonfire]

I just don't want anyone to steal my very cursed amulet

[teaboot]

Also the amulet

[whimsicalmayhem]

Is that you talking? Or the amulet? Are you SURE a new hand doesn't want to touch the beacon?

[teaboot]

The amulet and I are not currently looking for a third

[lilnugzart]

... and he can't keep his glasses on his face.

[completely-sane-scientist]

[techiekittie]

Love is in the air?

WRONG!!!

78.084% NITROGEN

20.947% OXYGEN

0.934% ARGON

0.035% CARBON DIOXIDE

[aro-culture-is]

Partnering aromantic culture is, during a conversation about love and romantic attraction, your partner realises that he is probably aromantic too.

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[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is relating to pigeons (specifically how theyre treated in a lot of north american areas)

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[roguedeer]

Being asexual and racist is embarassing as fuck. Being racist at all is obviously embarassing as fuck but the amount of racism and especially antiblackness i have been seeing from asexuals recently is obscene.

One of the only asexual activists is Yasmin Benoit, a Black woman. She has raised so much awareness for the community. She was the first asexual person to lead Pride in London, she started the #thisiswhatasexuallookslike movement and is THE leading voice for the community.

And you all will celebrate international asexuality day on April 6th but we wouldn't even have that if she hadn't cofounded it.

Edit: why are you all too scared to repost this. Cmon. Be vocal about being against racism

[pyrrhuria]

not everything... needs to be....... ABOUT SHIPPING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (my psychic powers (which i have due to being aromantic) cause everything in the room to go flying away from me and vaporize the moment they hit the walls due to sheer force)

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is just making shit up when your friends ask for romance advice

the tldr is:

communicate. have they talked to whoever is of interest? if not, will the other person know to change their interactions? if you want something, you have to say it. use "I" statements.

break up. if communicating has failed, behaviors aren't changing or are getting worse, or they are unwilling to communicate, they are not at a stage where a relationship with that individual is going to work out.

[the-aro-agenda]

as much as i may talk about friendship and queerplatonicism know this. i don't think there is any type of relationship that is inherently more meaningful than any other type. the solution to amatonormativity is not to put platonic relationships on a pedestal

[hingeless-shitposts]

if you ask 10 aros about love you’ll get 27 responses

[is-this-better-than-romance]

petting a cat

^ this is better than romance

[ivystorm1]

"Are you head over heels" Yeah that's how standing works

[scribeherself]

people will say “they’re only friends” and then show me two people who would crawl through broken glass to hear the other laugh once. two people who have memorized each other’s coffee orders, fears, childhood stories, and emergency contacts. two people who would haunt each other’s houses as ghosts. be serious.

[scribeherself]

Just an FYI—the original intention of this post was to challenge the way people say only friends, as though friendship is somehow lesser than other forms of love. As if being deeply known, cherished, and chosen by another person could ever be a small thing. Normalize profound platonic love. Some of the most fulfilling, transformative, and enduring relationships we will ever have are friendships. 🫶🏼

[aromantic-yearning]

To me, it was not about recognizing a "lack" of something in myself. Because I do crave emotional intimacy, a lot! And I thought that "romance" as defined by society was the only way to get it.

But the older I get, the more my eyes have opened to the possibilities of other types of love. Love that transcends labels, boundaries. Softer, quieter, safer.

So, now I say I am aromantic. But to me the aromantic label feels less like an orientation and more of a rebuttal. It's a refusal to exist in the parameters that society has set for me, and a radical acceptance that those parameters were doing me more harm than good. I want to take those expectations and throw them in the garbage, and just live and love freely.

As far as I am concerned, "romantic attraction" was always just a desire to participate in a type of relationship that has predetermined rules and expectations as a shortcut to getting emotional intimacy. And now that I've recognized that, I don't experience "romantic attraction" anymore.

[lost-long-ago]

Unrequited love but it's fine. A is head over heels with B who doesn't feel the same about A, but they're both ok with this and it doesn't ruin their friendship. A enthusiastically expresses their feelings for B, and B welcomes the sentiment but just doesn't return it

People around them keep expecting this to become a problem but it just doesn't. A doesn't expect B to start feeling the way they do and is happy with their friendship as it is. B isn't bothered by A's feelings or the expression of these because they know B doesn't expect anything from them that they can't give

(You can imagine this being about romantic love if you must but I'm aromantic so in my head this is about alterous attraction)