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im still blown away by the fact that there are people who unironically use the word "terf" despite the fact that it's as serious and real a concept as "feminazi". it's not real lol
all of this nonsense took only 10 years to plant itself.
and now people who consider themselves progressive have a knee-jerk hatred of women, especially feminists, especially lesbians.
i am not happy for pride month at all anymore genuinely. i feel like this community sometimes doesn’t even gaf about lesbians, they’re disrespectful as hell to black lesbians, people are disrespectful to bisexual women, labels mean nothing anymore, a bunch of corporations are gonna pretend to care (and for some reason people will buy it? no im not talking about parents doing it for their kids).
it just feels like nowadays being a part of the community is meant to be seen as different. “we’re here, we’re queer!” and it just feels like it’s meant to signal that we’re “other” and i don’t want to be other. i get that this community has a unique history and everything and i feel like it can be celebrated just fine without making it seem like we’re some third kind of human, some odd creatures or some shit.
Crazy how “people deserve respect regardless if you find them fuckable” changed to “you need to find someone fuckable if you think they deserve dignity and respect” real quick in feminist and LGBT spaces. :/
It’s crazy how “no means no” turned into “you have violent internalized biases you need to reflect on” real quick in feminist and LGBT spaces.
It’s crazy how “your sexual boundaries aren’t public negotiation” and “no means no” turned into “your preferences are violently bigoted and exclusionary” real quick in feminist and LGBT spaces. ://////
It’s crazy how “homosexuality is beautiful and normal” turned into “genital fetishism”, “conditioned associations”, and “preferences” real quick in feminist and LGBT spaces.
It’s crazy how “rape culture is wrong” turned into “there are other ways to have sex”, “you don’t have to be attracted to someone to have sex with them”, and “kink-shaming” real quick in LGBT and feminist spaces. :///////////////////
I'm already so mad I want to scream but then I saw this and I'm about to go nuclear
oh cool fucking 27 year old enby from the Golden state decided that a black butch lesbian was just too manly to be a woman and MUST have "overlapped" with transmasc and nonbinary. Because she wasn't performing femininity correctly, so how could she be just a normal lesbian woman??
That thing you think is your “innate gender identity?” It’s your fucking personality
that love of “boys clothes” or “girls clothes”…that’s your fucking taste in fashion
That belief that if you’re really a girl because you’re delicate, meek, emotional and bad at math? That’s your fucking misogyny.
That belief that you’re not really a girl because you’re not feminine, helpless and shallow? That’s also your fucking misogyny.
I saw a video today about why making an OnlyFans was a bad idea for women, and it had something insigtful in it I never actually thought about. It was re-told from someone's personal experience and it wasn't what I'd expect to happen.
The woman in the video explains that a lot of women's expectations was to only be doing it for a short while, until they get out of a bad situation, and then quit, being more financially stable and on their feet. She explains that even if you have only 12 subscribers, that is 12 m*n who are used to having continuous intimate access to you, and if you one day decide to stop, they are immediately going to get offended and upset. Because they've been paying for this, they'll feel entitled to keep having continuous access, and they'll find a way to make it happen.
She then goes on to say that if you want to make money at all, you'll have to show your face in the videos, and they'll be able to use AI tools to find your identity almost immediately. What happens next is they find your friends, family members, and your job site, and blackmail you; you either return to onlyfans, or they send the content to everyone you know. And if you say no, they will harass all your friends and family, and if you get any kind of job, this will get harassed too. Women then face the immense pressure of having not just themselves, but everyone in their life harassed to the point where they can't stand it anymore, and return to OnlyFans just to make it stop. They'll become isolated and have everyone in their life turned against them.
This effectively stops them for having any other kind of job or profession because it's impossible to stop the subscribers from finding out and sabotaging the entire thing. She explained a woman was put through this and forced to continue onlyfans, when she only had 12 subscribers. Two of them were blackmailing her. So thinking you can try it out and get out, you can't really, it's not just that the content might get out, but you're entire family and friend group and coworkers and job site might get involved.
The other meaningful fact she brings on is that you are unlikely to reach any success if you look like an adult women; it only works if you can pass as a child. I can't link the video because in the other half she berates women, and I don't want that content on my blog, but I found this story important, because it wouldn't cross my mind how big the danger is. I didn't know that if you get even one crazy subscriber, it's impossible to quit.
The other thing I saw women who previously had an OnlyFans account say, is how awful it was for their mental health, and the perception of their own bodies. They noted that even if it felt okay at the start, it keeps feeling worse and worse and they were deteriorating the entire time it was going on. It's impossible to not be affected. And the general, putting yourself in the harm's way, getting stalked, having to move often, having m*n break into your place, and delude themselves into thinking you want them and are specifically interested in them so any invasion in your life is welcome and warranted, is something women might not be aware they're exposing themselves to.
The woman in the video did note that most women don't even decide to do it themselves, but get groomed and pressured by promises of money and then someone else profits off of them. I think women should know exactly what it is and what is likely to happen to them, on top of the violation of intimacy they know they'll have to endure if they join.
Discover insights into Identity Formation with psychFORM. Explore how LGBTQ umbrellas affect gay identities.
Abstract
This study examined developmental outcomes among gay male undergraduates within contemporary LGBTQ coalition structures on university campuses. A mixed-methods design was used to assess identity formation, perceived belonging, and psychological safety among N = 49 students (38 gay-identifying males; 11 transgender-identifying female-to-male students) at the University of Michigan across Winter and Spring 2024. Structured interviews and survey measures evaluated agency, authenticity, and relational security within coalition-based campus environments. Although LGBTQ discourse groups sexual and gender minorities under a unified sociopolitical umbrella, developmental theory suggests that sexual orientation and gender identity emerge from distinct psychological pathways with different mechanisms of consolidation (Erikson, 1968; McWilliams, 2011)
Findings indicate that gay male students experience conditional belonging when situated within a trans-centered LGBTQ identity hierarchy. 86% reported feeling pressured to align with trans political or ideological frameworks to maintain social acceptance, while 0% of transgender participants perceived such alignment as optional for coalition cohesion. Gay students additionally reported reduced perceived freedom to differentiate (84%) and anticipated social exclusion if they did not maintain visible alignment (78%). By contrast, transgender respondents reported no perceived threat of displacement and identified their identity category as central to coalition legitimacy.
The data show that this conditional structure results in agency erosion and premature foreclosure of identity development among gay students. Belonging is experienced as contingent on alignment, producing chronic self-monitoring and limiting conditions for autonomous selfauthorship. These results suggest that the current model of LGBTQ inclusion functions as a system of conditional belonging that impedes independent identity consolidation among gay men in university settings.
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Balanced question pair: 1A: “Do you believe trans students have a shared right to define the meaning of ‘LGBTQ identity’ for the community as a whole?” 1B: “Do you believe individual subgroups (e.g., gay men) should independently define their own identity without trans mediation?”
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Conclusion
The findings of this study establish that the current structure of LGBTQ coalition identity on university campuses produces a measurable developmental cost for gay male students. The pressure to align with a trans-centered identity framework functions not as affirmation but as a mechanism of conditional belonging, resulting in agency erosion, chronic vigilance, and identity foreclosure.
The climate of enforced ideological alignment does not promote safety; it substitutes compliance for autonomy. Gay students are not permitted to form identity through self-authorship, but instead adopt externally scripted identity roles in order to retain access to community. This foreclosure is relationally enforced and persists because the institution misinterprets the absence of dissent as evidence of support.
The harm is internal rather than discursive: developmental conditions required for individuation are suspended, and identity consolidation is replaced with role adherence. Belonging is contingent on ideological conformity, and the resulting silence is structurally rewarded as proof of inclusion. Gay identity, as a distinct developmental category, is displaced within a coalition architecture that centers trans identity as the sole source of legitimacy.
Therefore, the study demonstrates that the current model of LGBTQ inclusion on campus operates as a system of conditional belonging that is incompatible with autonomous identity development. Integrity fatigue is the clinical consequence of this structure: a state in which authenticity is chronically suppressed because the only available pathway to belonging requires its forfeiture.
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The crux of this is that:
Gay male identity is not contingent upon external validation. Homosexuality is real. While "trans" identity is contingent upon external validation. That's why they're so militant about force-teaming: without the legitimacy of gay and bisexual men and women, "trans" identity evaporates.
Gay men feel socially pressured to endorse "trans" support that they don't believe in, and the result for them is a forfeiture of identity, especially as "trans" narcissism always takes centre stage. When was the last time you saw anything from the "LGBTQWERTY community" that didn't degenerate into into "trans" gobbledygook?
This is why LGB✂️QT+. You cannot destroy yourself or your identity for someone else. Especially when they openly hate you.
to any tifs/tims/tras who may see this: us, actual gay people, DO NOT WANT YOUR COERCIVE, HETERO ASSES IN OUR SPACES. unequivocally. and if you’re labouring under the misapprehension that ‘most gay people’ agree with you and your position, let these finding disabuse you of that notion. at the absolute most, we are pretending because we don’t want to lose our jobs and livelihoods.
I'm so done with "TERFs" being outed everywhere and excluded from groups we SHOULD NOT be excluded from. Everyone picks trans women over women who want the world to be a safe place for us. How ironic is that?
Story time.
When I spoke to the Vancouver rape crisis center (Canada's longest standing rape crisis center that got defunded by trans activists because they exclusively hire women), they told me that the majority of the women they service there had histories in the foster care system (just like myself).
This very same Vancouver rape crisis center was vandalized by trans activists repeatedly. Trans activists wrote death threats to "terfs" on their walls. On a separate occasion there was a dead rat nailed to their door.
It is absolutely essential for women to be able to escape male violence.
What really makes me angry about trans activism is that it is so painstakingly obvious that dangerous and sexually deviant men are prioritized over vulnerable women.
Although people who subscribe to trans activism tend to believe that they are protecting some of the most vulnerable members of society, women who aged out of foster care are among the most vulnerable members of society and the general attitude towards us vs trans identied men is abhorrent. Women with sexual trauma (a characteristic that often overlaps experiences in foster care) are gaslit into believing that they are irrational for fearing men who openly pose a threat to women. Not only do these men demand access to our vulnerable spaces but they threaten us with graphic assault which often takes on a sadistic sexual theme. "Terf" is simply a witch hunt and it disproportionately targets the most vulnerable women - like women who need access to rape crisis centers or domestic violence shelters.
donate to vancouver rape relief:
Online donations are through Canada Helps.
they stand their ground maintaining a WOMEN ONLY shelter no matter what. in the face of law suits. in the face of vandalism and harassment. in the face of being defunded by the city of vancouver. that's worth something. even if you only have $1. please donate to them.
I can’t believe we live in a time where I am a racist because I don’t fuck with honour killings, the taliban, women being forced to cover up, children being married off because they’ve started their period, women being told that if they deny their husband sex angels will curse them when they sleep and a woman’s testimony being half that of a male.
None of you care about women and instead you’re too busy dyeing your fucking armpit hairs than talking about the real oppression out there that women are facing.
Somalia is almost entirely muslim. They recently attempted to change the age of marriage to 18 to prevent child marriage. It was overturned within 24 hours because so many men were against it and it didn’t align with islamic teaching.
I’m honestly confused as to how and why your feminism stops when it’s for women outside the west.
Protect trans kids. But please, dont investigate what happens in childrens gender clinics. Please dont do any research on puberty blockers. And please, dont why the numbers of trans identified youth skyrocketed over the last past years. We don't really need to know why some people regret transistion, so don't tell the trans kids detransitioners exist. Don't let them hear those stories, don't do any research on why they thought they where trans but regret it now. Protect trans kids by never challenging their claims, never be cautious when you see homophobic parents who clearly show signs of transhausen by proxy. Don't be alarmed when doctors from a childrens hospital talk about how puberty blockers ata certain age will render them unable to orgasm. Just hand out puberty blockers and hormones and send them off to surgery, but please don't ask why, don't ask if this is safe, don't ask what will happen in 10, 20 or more years, because, they are so vulnerable, we need to protect them.
Science matters! Unless that science disagrees with our ideology I’m which case science is a bigot and reality is evil
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twitter (i will never call it X) just released this new feature where tweets auto-translate into your language, meaning that everyone is now seeing tweets from all over the world on their timelines
and this has sparked global conversation among women about patriarchy and misogyny and how men from all cultures aren’t shit
women are sharing information and better able to co-ordinate. it’s beautiful
for example:
maybe this will be the year that David Tennant fights JK Rowling in a parking lot
"I want to see a survivor of domestic violence beaten in a parking lot by a man."
For anyone wondering why David Tennat is suddenly getting attention again.
Only reason I bring this up is because this mans went hard on calling Tennet a virtue signaler and I love it.
Link:
In slamming Badenoch, the actor couldn’t conceive legions of women have a legitimate reason for fearing the erosion of women’s rights
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SO weird how OP wants to see a man beat up a woman. And Tennant just thinks women need to shut up. Like we haven't heard that before.
What a hypocrite.
on psychologytoday.com if you search for therapists and select "female" in the filter then there's a little blurb at the bottom of the page politely chastising you for preferring a female therapist, and even suggesting you need to unpack some things if you prefer a woman. they use phrasing like "believe", "imagine", and "adhering too rigidly to a gender preference".
if you search for male therapists, the blurb totally changes and encourages prospective clients to start with a therapist they feel comfortable with. sexism is baked into e v e r y t h i n g
In the blurb on male therapists, it says "Some women have prior negative experiences with women that predispose them to prefer working with a male in therapy"
But zero comment made about the many, many reasons a woman may not want to work with a male therapist. Because it's okay for women to distrust other women (those gossipy hags!), but god forbid a woman have a single hesitation over sharing her deepest trauma with a man (our reliable and steadfast protectors).
Every aspect of society wants women to hate other women. We need to do everything we can to prevent that.
i decided when i was 19 that i didn't want a male therapist. I'm in therapy for an eating disorder, and my female therapist quit, and i said "i would like to be on the waiting list for a female therapist, in the meantime i can focus on working with my dietician if necessary". They said "but we have a male therapist available now" i said "well i don't think that'll be fruitful, because i can't trust men and i need trust". They said "alright we'll put you on the waiting list IF you meet this man" (expecting me to fold to the pressure of needing to be nice to this man and not wanting to "reject him" or whatever). I had a very nice meeting with this man, where i told him as i came in, "I don't expect my mind will be changed by this, but i've been told i have to do this." He of course tried to convince me, i stuck by my decision, and when i left i said "thanks for today, i still only want a female therapist". They proceeded to call me in to a meeting before they'd put me on the waiting list where a woman interrogated me about WHY i wanted a female therapist. I got told off for things like thinking I could relate more to a woman when talking about an eating disorder, and when i said that i simply don't trust men, I got interrogated about whether I had been raped by a man. I have not, but i have pattern recognition, and I had many friends at the time who were also in psychiatry who had told me of the male therapists they'd had who had been disturbingly interested in the abuse they'd faced, to a degree where they'd wondered if the men were getting off on it. and yes, not all male therapists etc etc but i simply didn't see the point of going to a therapist who i would always wonder if he thought of my traumatic experiences of abuse of power in psych wards as pornography. I could chat with them just fine and be polite and all of that, but would i actually move anywhere in terms of my eating disorder? No. And i was willing to stagnate or backslide for a short time, while waiting for a therapist rather than stagnate/backslide permanently while in therapy. I was so upset that i was being treated with such suspicion for actively taking a part in my treatment and doing what i felt would give me the biggest chance to recover. I was so upset that i was being interrogated about whether I had been RAPED, as though rape is the only reason to not want to talk to a man about the reasons you starve yourself. And I was so upset that she kept talking about how NICE and GOOD that male therapist was, didn't i just feel so GUILTY for not saying yes to him. I'm sure this man was perfectly well qualified, and that he had good reviews from his clients, and so on. But i didn't want a male therapist. And that line could NOT be accepted.
It wasn't until i started crying from frustration in there that this woman finally budged and said she'd put me on the waiting list. I had to embarrass myself in front of her before she'd actually do it. It was so humiliating. At least it wasn't a meeting with a man, because i do have a feeling a man would've had even more solidarity with this male therapist and refused to put me on the waitlist, and just told me I'd have to leave treatment altogether and washed his hands of me.
This shit is real. It's not just on some website. They want you to pick men, and pick men, and pick men. You're not allowed boundaries.
i would be much easier and gentler on the nb self-identification crowd if they didn't feel the need to point out how little they think of other women all the time. "i use gn pronouns when i want to feel equal to my male partners and fem ones when i want to feel girly" you have let misogyny seep so deeply into your brain that you do not perceive women as human anymore and you don't even register that as something to be regretful over and ashamed of. i am not playing along with somebody who doesn't perceive women as human and wears that as a badge of honour. come on.
