[helloratbeef]

“Too many guys think I’m a concept, or I complete them, or I’m gonna make them alive.” 

[xvarenah-deactivated20180316]

Herat, Afghanistan 

Herat dates back to the Avestan times and was traditionally known for its wine. The city has a number of historic sites. During the Middle Ages Herat became one of the important cities of Khorasan, as it was known as the Pearl of Khorasan.

[mondklarenacht]

[mlslvskmoon]

[mickacatt]

[kendogh]

The hardest thing with art is to realize that a person actually created this

[divalocity]

The most feared woman in the world is the woman who not only loves herself unapologetically, but the woman who self-validates her very own existence.

The Observer (via divalocity)

[stuck-inasmalltown]

i don’t mean to be political, but what if everyone had basic human rights

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[tangerineqveen-deactivated20171]

carrie spittin the truth

[dabeatnik]

[twinkle-twinkle-little-fuck]

uterus during period: Ohmygod I’m so embarrassed. I thought we were having a baby. DONT LOOK AT THIS! *rips down baby wallpaper* PLEASE JUST IGNORE THIS! *tears apart baby room* LETS PRETEND THIS NEVER HAPPENED.

[mork]

[nerfthisfatass-deactivated20221]

im always doing stupid shit like this smh

[moisab]

[cute-overload]

[daeranilen]

"Should parents read their daughter's texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"

Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, “Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?”

I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.

I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”

Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.

Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.

It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.

It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.

[daeranilen]

Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:

Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.

Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.

Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.

Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”

TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:

You do not respect their rights as an individual.

You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.

You probably haven’t been listening to them.

Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.

[daeranilen]

Part of me is really excited to see that the original post got 200 notes because holy crap 200 notes, and part of me is really saddened that something so negative has resonated with so many people.

[isitscary]

I love this post.

Too many parents wonder why their kids aren’t honest with them, and never realize their own non-receptive behavior and their failure to listen are the reasons why.

At one point or another, a child WILL keep a secret from you, but if it’s to a point where all their emotional feelings are being poured away from you as opposed to toward you, it’s probably because you haven’t been emotionally trustworthy or open. 

[gucciluxe-deactivated20171106]

if ur gonna date me u gotta be comfortable with a lot of casual silence bc i just never fucking talk

[moonlightandmarble]

I swing wildly between never shutting the hell up and turning into a stump

[radprodigy]

what she says: i'm fine

what she means: freaks and geeks was way ahead of its time and was so well written and well acted with the perfect mix of comedy and drama and explored such interesting and complex themes as well as being the most realistic show about high school on tv and still resonating with teens today and i'm still not over the fact that it got cancelled after just one season

[radioheadarthistory]

Claude Monet, Water Lilies (1908) / Radiohead, Reckoner (2007)