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A Few Normal Things That Happen A Lot, Gwen E. Kirby
Yep.
Plaster this all over folks who were mad at HERO
There have been numerous assault cases. This post is bs gaslighting. Reporting false statistics to women to scare them into letting transwomen in our bathrooms.
Not My Post, I hope this is okay:
http://randomstabbing.tumblr.com/post/144989720467/the-tip-of-the-iceberg-please-add-to-this-list
From evolution-thru-revolution
The Tip of the IceBerg (please add to this list).
Women harmed by rape in bathrooms by Males:
Woman raped in Vermont courthouse bathroom | Local News
Phoenix man raped woman in park bathroom - AZCentral.com
Woman Raped in Downtown Annapolis Restroom: Police …
Cross-dresser arrested in bath house
Stranger Grabs Woman by Throat, Rapes Her in Bathroom …
Woman Was Raped In Flatiron District Bar Restroom, Police …
Woman Raped in Bathroom of Gramercy Bar, Police Say …
Man arrested in bathroom stall assault at Circle Centre Mall …
Union Square Park bathroom rape attempt on woman, 63 …
Police Warn of Attempted Rapes in Downtown LA Restrooms
Sexual predator jailed after claiming to be ‘transgender’ to assault women in shelter
Women get raped in public toilets in shopping malls. - Belle …
Man Hiding In Bar Bathroom Rapes Woman - Huffington Post
Woman, 23, raped in busy Manhattan sports bar restroom …
Cross-dressing Peeper Infiltrates Cal Women’s Locker Room
Police: Cross-Dressing Peeping Tom Arrested Again
Woman (50) raped in toilet at her work in Chloorkop …
Man at-large who lured 12 year old into CVS bathroom …
12-Year-old Raped By Stranger in Public Bathroom - Jezebel
Texas police hunt man who lured a girl into a restroom and …
10-Year-Old Girl Raped in Restroom of California Denny’s …
The Threat to Women and Girls Presented by Bathroom Bills The story of biological male sexual predators who used nondiscrimination laws protecting gender identity to sexually assault women.
Here is a site documenting 250 cases regarding transwomen harming women and girls over a five year time span.
And here’s some more:
A transwomen rapes and kills a six year old girl.
Man, Dressed as Woman, Charged With Sexually Assaulting of Boy | NBC 10 Philadelphia.
Crossdresser cabbie convicted of rape
The ‘Cambridge Rapist’ is dead
Transgender Woman: Convictions Irrelevant to Citation
California: Male rapist claiming “transgender” status placed in CA WOMEN’S prison:
David Megarry (“Sandy Jo Battista”), a convicted sex offender who has molested girls, expects tax payers to pay for his feminizing hormones.
Male-to-Female transgenders are 18 times more likely than women to be convicted of violent crime
Regarding any crime, male-to-females had a significantly increased risk for crime compared to female controls (aHR 6.6; 95% CI 4.1–10.8) but not compared to males (aHR 0.8; 95% CI 0.5–1.2). This indicates that they retained a male pattern regarding criminality. The same was true regarding violent crime.
In other words, MtF’s were seven times more likely to be convicted of violent crimes than women, and just as likely as “cis” males to be convicted of a violent crime.
Trans-women violence against females and children:
Sex offender sentenced after dressing as a woman and going in women’s locker room
Cross-dressing cab driver convicted of rape
Man dressed as woman beats up mother-in-law
Man dressed in women’s clothes flashes children
Man dressed as woman arrested for sexual assault
Transvestite arrested for groping women while seeking “fashion tips”
Cross-dressing suspect arrested for raping woman
Cross-dressing child molester will serve 15 years in prison
Cross-dressing fake nurse targets the elderly
Man disguised as a woman takes pictures in women’s locker room
Male transgender exposes his genitals in a maternity store
Man dressed as a woman solicits child for sex
Man wearing female mask & wig spies on women in public toilets
Male transgender exposes his genitals to women and children
Male trannsgender exposes his genitals to students
Male transgender spies on women in university restroom
A transsexual killer who tried to rape a woman must be moved to a female prison because holding her with men breaches her rights, a judge has ruled.
Transwoman rapes 13 yr old boy, is identified in press as a woman
Transwoman sex offender arrested for not registering as a sex offender after befriending and moving in with a woman with young child
A cross dresser and sex offender sneak in elementary school
Cross dresser arrested for being a serial child rapist
Male child sex predator identifies as a woman in prison and is allowed to change name
Child rapist is arrested and found to be living as “a woman”
Convicted sex offender sues over sex change operation
Plymouth transgender sex offender jailed after coming into contact with child
Dothan Man Sentenced for Child Pornography
Christopher Hambrook, who claimed to be a woman in order to gain entrance to a woman’s shelter, where he raped two homeless women.
Cross-dressing man arrested for exposure at Walmart
Purdue police investigate report of man taking photographs in women’s restroom
Police: Man in bra and wig found in women’s bathroom - admitted to other offense where he showered in the girls’ locker room for sexual gratification
Police: Sex offender posed as woman, went into women’s locker room
Cross-dressing man allegedly videotaped women in restroom
Police: Predatory Sex Offender Entered Girls Locker Room …
Man dressed as woman arrested in Central stabbing …
Australia - Registered sex offender dressed as woman busted …
Predator who claimed to be transgender declared dangerous offender…
There is research documenting shame and narcissistic rage in autogynephilic MtF transgenders.
The few studies that have examined personality disorders among transsexuals usually have found that these disorders in general—and disorders in Cluster B, which includes Narcissistic Personality Disorder (American Psychiatric Association [APA], 2000), in particular—are more common in transsexuals than in nontranssexuals
Founder of the “TERF TRACKER” outed as a violent sexual offender
Transgender MtF’s use status as “women” to try and receive lighter sentences on crimes committed; avoid registration as sex offenders:
Suspected Transgender Serial Killer Donna Perry Defense Says She Shouldn’t Be Punished For Alleged Crimes Committed As A Man
Philadelphia man who dressed as woman to scam bank …
FBI investigating two Monday bank robberies in Oak Park
Cleveland Heights fraudster who sought leniency for being transgender gets 14 years
One In Six Sex Offenders Change Names To Avoid Registration: Study
Child sex offenders who secretly change their names to try and hide their past face five years in jail
Dodging Google? Convicted rapist Jeffrey Kitze’s name change draws attention of victims rights advocates
Thousands come off sex offender list months after new law
Convicted of sex crimes, man gets pardon, changes name to …
Sex Offenders Employ Simple Techniques to Change Identity
Violent Offenders Seeking or Granted Sex Reassignment Surgery:
James Randall Smith – kidnapping and raping a 17-year-old girl
Luis Morales/Synthia China-Blast – rape and murder of a teen girl:
Wolfgang “Beate” Schmidt – serial rapist and murderer
Rodney Quine/Shiloh Quine – murder, kidnapping and robbery
Jeffrey Bryan Norsworthy/Michelle-Lael Norsworthy – murder
Steve “Nikkas” Alamillo – murder
Lyralisa Stevens – killing a San Bernardino County woman with a shotgun in a dispute over clothes
Noel Crompton/Maddison Hall – murder of a 28 year old hitchhiker, charged with rape after he was moved to a women’s facility
Michelle Kosilek – killed his wife by nearly decapitating her with a piano wire
Dillon Andrew Shadle/Riley Nicole Shadle – sexual assault of a child
Peter Laing/Paris Green – beat, tortured and murdered a man, moved to another women’s prison after having sexual relations with female inmates
Vance Egglestone/Shauna Taylor – serial rapist
James Elliot Wolfe/Jessica Elaine Wolfe – child rapist
Mark Brooks/Jessica Brooks – murder
Violent Offender’s and Women’s prison (expressed interest in or already moved):
Tania Veilleux – sexually assaulting a young girl for 4 years:
Luis Morales/Synthia China-Blast – rape and murder of a teen girl
David Wesley Birrell/Bella-Christina Birrell – murder
Michelle Kosilek – killed his wife by nearly decapitating her with a piano wire
Christopher “Kitty” Grey – molested a child for 5 years
Phillip “Sabrina” Trujillo – stabbed a man, theft and robbery
Pre-op placement:
Cheyenne Lamson – privacy complaints due to pre-op status
Noel Crompton/Maddison Hall – murder of a 28 year old hitchhiker, charged with rape after he was moved to a women’s facility
Peter Laing/Paris Green – beat, tortured and murdered a man, moved to another women’s prison after having sexual relations with female inmates
Tara Hudson – assault
Jaris Lovado/Bianca Sawyer – robbery, possession of stolen property and fraud
Stuart Kelly/Katelyn Findlay – robbery and assault, registered sex offender
Richard Chaperon/Richard Kavanagh/Synthia Kavanagh – brutally murdered his ex roommate, a transsexual male prostitute, with a knife and hammer
Jade Follett – stabbed a man who stalked and threatened after they met through a dating website
Post-op placement (includes prison transition and self-castration):
Peter Rogers/Debbie Vincent – ex-military animal rights extremist charged with intimidation, threats, placing car bombs, arson, disturbance of personal remains and theft of ashes:http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/crime/10772486/Debbie-Vincent-Former-soldier-turned-animal-rights-extremist-jailed-for-six-years.html
Melissa Young – killed neighbor by stabbing him 29 times over rejecting a gift:https://archive.is/C3QK8
Robert Hilton/Rebecca Hilton – murder: http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/crime/jailed-as-a-man-released-as-a-woman-robert-hilton-becomes-rebecca-hilton-in-prison-8496049.html
Richard Masbruch – serial rapist: https://archive.is/0MpQX#selection-1223.0-1223.16
Douglas Wakefield/Tai Pilley Wakefield – strangled his uncle, beat him with a hammer and stabbed him 48 times with a garden fork. While incarcerated, he strangled, stabbed, beat and killed an inmate, held prison officers hostage twice and attempted to kill one of them:http://www.dailystar.co.uk/news/latest-news/293991/Sex-swap-lag-s-wedding-chop
Glenn Nelson/Leslie Ann Nelson – killed a police officer and investigator with an AK-47 assault rifle: http://www.njpen.com/20-years-after-leslie-nelson-shooting-haddon-heights-police-grieve-reflect-rededicate-themselves/
Granted surgery, awaiting placement:
Rodney Quine/Shiloh Quine – murder, kidnapping and robbery:http://www.latimes.com/local/california/la-me-inmate-transgender-20150810-story.html
David Cross/Kelly Denise Richards – armed robbery: http://www.irishtimes.com/news/armed-robber-has-sex-change-1.1110904
Alan Baker/Sarah Baker – kidnapped and tortured his step-mother’s brother, attempted to kill another inmate: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2383992/Violent-inmate-Alan-Baker-given-10-000-sex-change-NHS.html
Will constantly be updated.
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A little late, but as promised, here is a part two to this post.
Men (cis or otherwise) invading female-only spaces for harmful intentions:
Police: Man caught peeping in bathroom at UW Medical Center
A Knoxville man was convicted Wednesday of secretly recording video of a 12-year-old girl as she got ready to take a shower.
SAPD: Man hid camera in bathroom at senior living facility
San Jose State: Man arrested after reportedly assaulting woman in bathroom
University Of Toronto Gender-Neutral Bathrooms Reduced After Voyeurism Reports
Purdue police arrest man for alleged voyeurism in sorority house
Transwoman convicted of voyeurism in 2012 for taking photos of two neighbor girls using the bathroom.
MAN IN WOMEN’S LOCKER ROOM CITES ‘RIGHT’ TO BE THERE
Gender-Neutral Restrooms Experience Voyeurism At Toronto University
New law forces homeless women and girls to bunk and bathe with males who claim to feel “psychologically female” to respect their gender-identity.
Gender-Critical Trans Voices:
TRANSAVANT: “TRANS WOMEN ARE WOMEN” IS A LIE THAT IS AS DANGEROUS TO TRANSWOMEN AS IT IS TO WOMEN”
Gender Apostates: It is important you know who are Gender Apostates; we are real people living real lives, some of us trans some of us not, and this and our experience give our voices authority.
Miranda Yardley on being a gender critical transwoman
Gender-Critical People Banned from Speaking on Accusations of Transphobia:
No platform: my exclusion proves this is an anti-feminist crusade Julie Bindel
The Lie That There is Little-to-No Crimes from Transgender Women: A Mass Media Cover-up:
“The surge in Irish referrals in the past two years can be linked to a broader acceptance of gender dysphoria. High-profile gender transition stories like that of Caitlyn Jenner and Orange is the New Black star Laverne Cox have pushed term transgender into the mainstream.”
Children denying sex-roles being treated for gender-dysphoria:
Number of British kids treated for gender confusion jumped 1000% in last five years
Transgender Children: “The Transgender Taboo is a Threat to Academic Freedom”
Transgender Activists campaign against ‘Puberty Blockers’ for transgender children
The Pharmaceutical Industry’s role in patient care (how the pharmaceutical industry is making money off of gender dysphoria and why SRS and HRT is being pushed):
The Highest-Paid “Female” CEO is a Transgender Founder (Who Built a Robot Version of Her Wife). She also created a SuperPac to support her son during the 2014 elections.
Pharmaceutical industries have increased marketing strategies that are specifically targeting LGBT communities.
Doctors are still gatekeepers for medical treatment, but their role has become more subordinate in the expansion or contraction of medicalization. Medicalization is now more driven by commercial and market interests than by professional claims-makers.
Gifts to doctors from drug companies have implications for patient interests.
Drug companies influence prescribing, study finds
Male “transgender” sexual perversion is a money-maker for many
List of Transgender Sex Offenders:
Transsexual wife killer who was granted tax-payer funded sex change will also have his legal fees paid, judge rules
James Joseph Allard Registered Sex Offender
Nastasia Laura Bilyk is a Man serving a life sentence for murdering a Woman in 1987. He decided he was a Woman in 2008, and now wants to be transferred to a Women’s prison in Canada.
Name (and gender) change for convicted pedophile. In April 2010, corrections officials were concerned the convicted pedophile might re-offend and put special monitoring provisions on the convict, who has a history of befriending parents to sexually prey on their children.
Sex-change suit by California inmate Philip Rosati (convicted of murder) OKd by court
James Hundley, who is serving time for child abuse and sexual assault, is serving a life sentence. He lost his lawsuit for hormones while incarcerated.
Duchesne County prosecutors have charged Susan Elizabeth Rye, 60, with three counts of aggravated sexual abuse of a child, a second-degree felony. Rye is accused of sexually abusing a 5-year-old girl on three occasions in 1989 and 1990. Born Randall Donald Rye, court records show Rye had his name legally changed in January 2009.
Janet Mock celebrated a man who decapitated his wife getting getting approved for a “sex change” while imprisoned for life as a victory for trans rights.
A TRANSVESTITE was banned from a shopping centre over claims he sexually assaulted several women while seeking “fashion tips”.
Crossdressing Suspect Arrested For Raping Woman
Research on MtF transgenderism:
New scale for diagnosing autogynephilia is very telling.
Men Trapped in Men’s Bodies (complete PDF)
The Psychometric Structure of Items Assessing Autogynephilia
Autogynephilia: A Paraphilic Model of Gender Identity Disorder
Already posted above, but I am writing this again:
Male transgenders (MtF) are 18 times more likely than biological females to be convicted of violent crime. In essence, MtF trans are just as likely as biological males to be convicted of violent crimes.
Shout out to Gender Trender and The Truth About Autogynephilia –most of my research was found on these blogs.
Also…where are these trans people who have experienced assault when trying to pee? How many of them took place in men’s bathrooms? How many in women’s? How many were trans-identified females and how many were trans-identified males? Because last time I checked–and I have checked, multiple times–I couldn’t find a single case of a “trans woman” being assaulted while using the men’s bathroom. Found plenty of claims that it happens, and that that’s why women need to let them use ours, but not a single, actual case. Not on Pink News, or The Trans Advocate, not in regular news. Nothing.
I found cases of trans-identified males assaulting women in women’s bathrooms. I found cases of men assaulting trans-identified females in men’s bathrooms. I even found a case where women harassed a trans-identified male who used the women’s bathroom (this same male would later go on to assault a woman who was looking for help for her friend, so make of that what you will). And I’ve found cases where men assaulted TIMs for using the women’s bathroom. But none where men assaulted “trans women” in the men’s room. Seems everyone’s safer if they just use the bathroom of their own sex!
“Zero (X) person has ever committed a sex crime ever” I wouldn’t believe that for any demographic you’re completely gullible if you do.
“The low-maintenance woman, the ideal woman, has no appetite. This is not to say that she refuses food, sex, romance, emotional effort; to refuse is petulant, which is ironically more demanding. The woman without appetite politely finishes what’s on her plate, and declines seconds. She is satisfied and satisfiable.
A man’s appetite can be hearty, but a woman with an appetite is always voracious: her hunger always overreaches, because it is not supposed to exist. If she wants food, she is a glutton. If she wants sex, she is a slut. If she wants emotional care-taking, she is a high-maintenance bitch or, worse, an “attention whore”: an amalgam of sex-hunger and care-hunger, greedy not only to be fucked and paid but, most unforgivably of all, to be noticed.”
— Hunger Makes Me, Jess Zimmerman
Christ, this article made me legit well up in tears at work…
“Women talk ourselves into needing less, because we’re not supposed to want more—or because we know we won’t get more, and we don’t want to feel unsatisfied. We reduce our needs for food, for space, for respect, for help, for love and affection, for being noticed, according to what we think we’re allowed to have. Sometimes we tell ourselves that we can live without it, even that we don’t want it. But it’s not that we don’t want more. It’s that we don’t want to be seen asking for it. And when it comes to romance, women always, always need to ask.”
THIS. SO FUCKING THIS.
A man depriving a woman of food, shelter, medicine, money, etc unless she endures rape is always worded as “She prostituted herself for [insert basic need]”. No matter how sympathetic the reason may be presented as, the implication is that the decision and framework of “money for sex” came from her. That it is a natural transaction of resources but one wholly instigated by the woman who mysteriously has no resources. The man (or society) who deprived her of basic needs is completely invisible. There is no simple verb to describe “a man who forces a woman to sleep with him for money” and prostitution is treated (linguistically, culturally and in many cases legally) as something women do to themselves of their own accord.
I don't see women that way. I was trained by the feminist of all feminist, she passed away. I'm looking for another feminist to serve and obey.
I can’t help you with that. Maybe try necking yourself so you can ‘obey’ her again? Serve us and the necessary extinction of men.
"I stand on the threshold of new missions and life is making new demands upon me. No matter what further tasks I shall be carrying out, it is perfectly clear to me that the complete liberation of the working woman and the creation of the foundation of a new sexual morality will always remain the highest aim of my activity, and of my life."
-Alexandra Kollontai, The Autobiography of a Sexually Emancipated Communist Woman
@ terfs and radfems who are pro-gender abolition but don’t believe in nonbinary people, why?
Personally I see nonbinary identities as typically reinforcing gender binaries rather than deconstructing them. Rather than “some people are male and some people are female and this has no bearing on their leadership ability, capacity for nurturing, emotional depth, intelligence, grace, adventurousness, natural aptitude toward math, etc.” I typically see people with nonbinary identities saying things like “I don’t identify with the expectations and norms of womanhood. Growing up, I was called a girl, but I didn’t ever feel like I got that mold.”
And that’s not anti-gender. That’s pro-gender…for everyone else. The individual person views this as an escape from the limitations placed on their sex, but in doing so they are flattening other members of that sex into two-dimensional caricatures. If you feel like a woman, what does that feel like? If you feel like a man, what does THAT feel like? If you feel like neither, well…what do EITHER of them feel like? How is it possible to compress the infinite possibilities of human experience in any form of the body like that?
If “woman” only means “person whose body is set up to produce large gametes” and carries zero implications about how an individual will carry themself, speak, feel, relate to others, perform in the workplace, think about themself…there doesn’t seem much point in identifying outside of that, because it says nothing about you as a person. In my view of what gender abolition means, “woman” and “man” become similar descriptors to “right-handed person” and “left-handed person” in that they’re just neutral body descriptors.
If you think through gender definitions it’s pretty clear that psychologically we’re all technically “non-binary.” It’s a useless descriptor in the same way that labelling people as “personality-havers” would be. We literally all have (non-binary) personalities, so in a post-gender society the label of non binary would tell no-one anything about yourself. We already have the words “human being” to cover characteristics that we literally all have in common. Whereas sex actually is binary and actually matters in many contexts, so is relevant in those contexts, and there is a purpose to having humanising male/female labels (man/woman)
Letters for Amber
Some of you have asked me these past few days whether a project’s underway to support Amber. Myself and a few others who have a way of directly reaching her have decided to put one together. We’re accepting any letters of support you’d wish to send her, online or physically. Afterwards we’ll pass them over to her.
The letters will have to be reviewed before they’re forwarded to Amber to make sure they aren’t hateful or threatening, as I’m sure many of you know she attracts a great deal of vitriol, so be conscious of that if you’re sharing something you wouldn’t feel comfortable with someone else reading, as I’m sure many of Amber’s supporters can relate to her experiences.
If you’d like to email Amber a letter: [email protected]
Preferably in a PDF format.
If you want to mail one physically: PO Box 101525, Arlington, VA 22210
We’re also accepting any letters in support of Amber’s attorneys, Elaine and Ben, who’ve done a terrific job with the case in spite of the uphill battle they’ve had to fight, both in the court of law and public opinion. As they have separate offices, if you’re planning on writing to either of them, it must be individually - so no “Dear Elaine and Ben” letters (unless you’re watching The Graduate).
The email for the Ben and Elaine letters: [email protected]
Preferably in a PDF format.
And the P.O. Box is the same as the Amber one.
If you choose to mail a letter, make sure it’s not too big - so no packages, gifts, or anything large in size, as they’ll be going to a post office box.
The deadline for all letters is July 12.
Amber’s attorney Elaine said on the Today Show Thursday that Amber’s planning on appealing the verdict, though there’s no telling how long that process will take. In the meantime, here are some things you can do to support Amber:
Follow her on Twitter and Instagram; like her posts. It might seem trivial in light of what she’s up against, but there is strength in numbers and it would help even the slightest bit to mitigate the damage Johnny’s done to her career and reputation, especially as much of the entertainment industry is dependent on social media engagement these days.
Post your support for her. Trust me, I know it can be a hassle with Johnny’s swarming fans. I’ve been dealing with them for six years now and it never gets any easier. But the more people publicly voice their support for Amber, the less power his cult has. It can be as simple as a hashtag - #IStandWithAmberHeard. It doesn’t really matter, just speak up. There are countless people who want to but don’t want to be the first to say something. Be that first person.
If you have any questions, you can reach out to myself (@pcd2009 on Twitter; @popculturediedin2009 on Instagram); @drugproblem on Twitter; @AtheistjLiz on Twitter; @heardverse on Twitter; and @shxnerusso on Twitter.
Thank you everyone who’s been speaking up for her. I know attention spans are lightning quick these days, so don’t let her story fizzle out. Keep fighting!
What cultural relativism is good for: understanding in some countries bugs are a delicacy and that isn’t ‘gross’, red means luck in some places and war in others, death is a great tragedy in some places and a celebration of life in others, etc.
What cultural relativism is not good for: justifying child brides, justifying domestic abuse and sexual slavery, justifying the generalized rape and harm and misogynistic practices against women and girls, etc.
‘I enter into a sexual experience if, and only if, my pleasure and my safety are central features of the experience.’
“Female sexuality” is about the sexual pleasure of women, it is about the pleasure that our vulvas/clits/vaginas can proportionate, it is about our satisfaction, our bodies, our orgasms.Stop using “female sexuality” and “performing to men” as interchangeble things, lingerie is not female sexuality, porn with poor women being put to fake pleasure is not female sexuality, revealing outfits is not female sexuality, high heels and make up is not female sexuality.Erase this idea that female sexuality is utterly and naturally connected to performing things for men’s sexual approval, delete it
Female sexuality is about the pleasure of the female.Read it, absorb it, make a little note about it if necessary but never subject women’s sexuality to servitude to males ever again
Instead of sexualizing boobs, how about we sexualize the clitoris? You know, the thing that has no other purpose than sexual stimulation, yet many people are unaware of its existence? Let’s do that.
The issue is one of subject versus object. The sexualization of female genitals has actually resulted in ignorance of the clitoris because only what is useful to men is relevant. The clitoris is active, functional. It represents female sexual subjectivity rather than objectivity.
As long as we frame female sexuality as passive, receptive, about giving rather than receiving pleasure, etc., the clitoris will be ignored.
As long as we place no value on female sexual response rather than simply reproductive function, the clitoris will be ignored.
As long as we believe male orgasms are more important, more necessary, more essential, etc., the clitoris will be ignored.
We need to elevate the clitoris, its anatomy, and its function by demanding that female pleasure and orgasm be taken more seriously. All women are capable of orgasms and we deserve them.
Every woman who is apathetic about whether or not she orgasms from sex, who places her partner’s pleasure over her own, who bases her sexual satisfaction on her capacity to please, contributes to this problem.
Every woman who insists that female orgasms are not particularly important because they are not necessary for conception contributes to this problem.
We need to STOP accepting that the pleasure gap is normal or in any way justified. We need to start valuing OUR pleasure. We need to demand it.
Look to Sophia Wallace’s Cliteracy project. While she gets some of her facts wrong (the bulbs and crura of the clitoris were known to the medical community long before 1998), her message is extremely important: there can be no gender equality until female pleasure is as important as male, and the clitoris is the organ most essential to female sexual response.
Yes yes yes!!! (Although I can’t blame the women who contribute to this, since passivity and androcentrism is taught.)
i actually don’t think that all women who align with patriarchy or adhere to anti-woman ideologies are actually stupid, and certainly not universally or automatically. male interests are the foremost interests in our society, and we have to do a risk-benefit analysis (consciously or not) for every move that we make. if abuse is a given, or if you are led to believe that abuse is a given, then it makes sense for you to choose scenarios that offer you at least some level of protection—even if that “protection” comes in the form of a husband that might still beat or rape you. women choose to align themselves with men so that they don’t face retaliation, not because they’re dumb. women choose to divorce themselves from womanhood because they view it as an individual cure to the ‘societal ill’ of being female, and many of the choices that they make also act to shield themselves from male retaliation. aligning yourself with women isn’t a politically neutral action, because in a male-dominated society, to do so is to pit yourself against men, which can invite scorn, violence, and dehumanization. is it really surprising that so many women feel fear around that action, since we’re trained to?
you can make the argument that it’s self-defeating, that it ultimately leads to things getting worse or at least not getting any better, that it’s individualist…and those things might be true, but that is part of the pervasiveness of patriarchy and male control of society. part of why it continues is that it is often individually dangerous for women to go against it. this is a huge part of why feminism cannot be about individual choice and instead needs to be collective.
i’m sure teenage girls know that eating disorders are unhealthy, but i feel like they don’t really know why. it’s not their fault: they don’t know because they haven’t been taught. they haven’t been taught because we just found out, and we just found out because, honestly, research into women’s health has been extremely lacking, historically.. women are just small, weak men with breasts and uteruses, right? WRONG.
every system, every organ, every cell in a woman’s body moves to a complex symphony of hormonal signaling that is circadian (cycling once a day), mensual (once a month), and seasonal (once a year). this beautiful dance is directed by the endocrine system, which consists of glands. the high chieftesses of these glands are the incredibly sensitive gonads, the ovaries.
these almond-sized glands are so delicate that they will go dormant at the first sign that the outside world may be a less than optimal environment in which to birth and raise a baby. and only now, in the last decade or so, are we finally starting to understand the devastation that is wrought on a developing girl’s health when this happens.
back in the 80’s, when endurance sports were starting to go mainstream, the saying among elite female endurance athletes was “if your period stops, you’re training enough.” those women are now at the tip of the spear of our emerging knowledge of the long term effects of the “female athlete triad”.
the female athlete triad consists of 1) not eating enough, 2) no menstrual cycle, and 3) low bone density. grouping them together like this is rather misleading, because it makes it sound like these symptoms can occur in any combination. the actual relationship is one of definitive and terrifying cause-and-effect.
when a teenage girl stops eating enough to fill her calorie needs, or deliberately exercises beyond her caloric intake, her ovaries receive signals that there’s a famine afoot, that the outside environment is a hostile place, and they shut down. they fucking shut down! can you imagine a male marathon runner saying “fellas, if your testicles still work, you’re not running enough”?
the ovaries are responsible for releasing estrogen, which most teenage girls probably know is responsible for menstruation, breast development and female fat distribution in puberty. what they probably don’t know, because nobody tells them, is that estrogen is also an incredibly powerful steroid that is the primary hormone, in both sexes, that is responsible for mineralizing growing bones. bones are rapidly expanding in volume during puberty, and if a girl’s estrogen is depleted because her ovaries are on strike, she won’t even be able to maintain the bone density she enjoyed in childhood (and her bones are supposed to be getting significantly denser as she grows!).
if she is ignorant of this, a talented and driven teenage female athlete will write off an estrogen crash with “well i didn’t really want periods, tits and hips anyway, they’d just slow me down”, not realizing that she is inducing permanent osteopenia in herself... because she can’t just remineralize her bones after she’s done growing. once she attains her full adult height and her growth plates fuse, that’s it!
the same women who, in the 80s/90s/00s, were saying “if your period stops, you’re training enough” now suffer from brittle bones. they get multiple compound fractures, shattered bones, just from tripping and falling on a hike. i know many such women. and this is irreversible.
we didn’t, and still don’t, know everything that the ovaries do. how irresponsible we were, to think we could just kneecap our most important glands, with no consequences.
i know some teenage girls follow me, and i want to say this: research nutritional requirements for girls your age, be vigilant about eating enough, and eating a variety of things. take responsibility for your health now: you will thank yourself in 10 years, when you can still stand up straight, when you can fall on a wet floor at work and just laugh it off and move on. you are the only one who has to live with yourself 24 hours a day, and you’ve got to keep yourself safe. you’ve got to.
peak news at it again.
Today, in capitalist society, the myth of the entrepreneurial, independent, empowered, self-employed prostituted woman is in full swing: it is part of the bourgeois vision of the ideal worker, the ‘entrepreneurial’ variety’. The popularisation of the term ‘sex work’, as mentioned above helps to mask the class relations at work in prostitution. It fails to take into account the social context in which prostitution develops and particularly ignores the dynamics of race, class and sex dominance which exist between sex buyers and prostituted women. By erasing the exploitative dimension of prostitution, this euphemism trivialises the violence inherent in the prostitution system, which is now part of a ‘job’. In this respect, the term ‘sex work’ in line with the terms used by colonists to designate prostitution, such as ‘bar girls’, ‘comfort women’ and ‘hospitality girls’, euphemisms aimed at trivialising and justifying such an activity, which mainly affects women in third world countries. In reality prostitution is precisely not a ‘job’, but a system of economic and sexual exploitation of the most vulnerable. The main victims are those who are cut off from the formal economy, who are unable to sell their labour power and forced to sell the last thing they have left: their bodies.
By-and-large, those who argue for the essential liberating aspects of sex work- and thus that sex work is not part of the patriarchy- are either people who have never experienced sex work, or people who possess the class agency to dabble in sex work without any of the repercussions experiences by the vast majority of global sex workers. Thus, someone who owns a property and has a secure job cannot experience what it means to be a sex-worker because her prime vocation is not one where she is forced to sell her body as an economic necessity.
Today, in capitalist society, the myth of the entrepreneurial, independent, empowered, self-employed prostituted woman is in full swing: it is part of the bourgeois vision of the ideal worker, the ‘entrepreneurial’ variety’. The popularisation of the term ‘sex work’, as mentioned above helps to mask the class relations at work in prostitution. It fails to take into account the social context in which prostitution develops and particularly ignores the dynamics of race, class and sex dominance which exist between sex buyers and prostituted women. By erasing the exploitative dimension of prostitution, this euphemism trivialises the violence inherent in the prostitution system, which is now part of a ‘job’. In this respect, the term ‘sex work’ in line with the terms used by colonists to designate prostitution, such as ‘bar girls’, ‘comfort women’ and ‘hospitality girls’, euphemisms aimed at trivialising and justifying such an activity, which mainly affects women in third world countries. In reality prostitution is precisely not a ‘job’, but a system of economic and sexual exploitation of the most vulnerable. The main victims are those who are cut off from the formal economy, who are unable to sell their labour power and forced to sell the last thing they have left: their bodies.