As far as I remember, my first ship was Maria/Liesl in the movie “The Sound of Music.” That was in 1965, when I was six years old. Now, many years and femslash ships later, I’m shipping swanqueen. But this is different. It’s the 21st century, and swanqueen perfectly fits the ouat storyline – in fact, it’s the only way this story makes sense, and it’s an amazingly beautiful story. I believe that this one is finally going to really happen. var sc_project=10733115; var sc_invisible=0; var sc_security="fd9bcea2"; var scJsHost = (("https:" == document.location.protocol) ? "https://secure." : "http://www."); document.write("");
One thing I find disturbing about the debate about the word “queer” is that people who are opposed to its use are not acknowledging the history of the term and are instead referring to their individual experiences. Any term used to refer to a marginalized group can be used hurtfully, so our individual associations differ. And it’s of course OK for each of us as individuals to decide which terms to use for ourselves. But when it’s about the group, the group as a whole needs to be taken into account.
I use the term “queer” but I would consider a point of view that went like this:
“Although the term ‘queer’ was taken back….[insert history], members of the younger generation are having a different experience…. Maybe it’s because…. but many of us have only experienced the term as a slur….[more explanation]. For this reason, I never use the term to refer to myself. I would like to propose that we as a community stop using this term as well.”
Some other things to keep in mind:
Terms that refer to marginalized groups are constantly changing because those groups are oppressed. Oppressors sometimes use the terms as slurs and sometimes they just use them descriptively, but if it’s coming from someone who disrespects the group, then the term sounds disrespectful. So one complication is that the same term can be used very differently in different contexts. And the other complication is that members of a group sometimes don’t agree on the terms. And then there is the issue that is distinct from the terminological one (but gets confused with it), which has to do with the definition of the group itself.
i understand if people are fuzzy on the African side of the slave trade. it’s contested how it functioned and not well taught in American schools. but like what are they teaching in schools if they don’t think America ever bought slaves?
yeah. makes me want to ask: how does one end of the trade justify the other? no. and: did the sellers follow up with hundreds of years of abuse of those people and their descendants? no.
I remember being taught this idea (the second one, not the one about America not having bought slaves) in school around 50 years ago, and it sounds like it’s still going on. The idea was like “they would have been slaves anyway, so their lives weren’t made any worse, so it wasn’t so bad.” My guess is that many people who accept this way of thinking about slavery wouldn’t apply it to other situations -- like that it’s OK to abuse a child you adopt because they were being abused in the orphanage anyway.
Should i even bother renewing my healthcare from the aca if theres a chance it will get repealed?
Yes, you should still enroll in coverage before the January 31 open enrollment deadline. When you enroll in coverage, you and the health insurance company enter into a contract that is generally binding for a year (no matter how the law changes). This means that if you enroll in coverage now then you will have coverage throughout 2017.
He ordered the government to halt ads and emails, which could mean fewer signups and higher premiums.
He may stop the ads, but nothing beats old fashioned word of mouth. Make sure everyone you know (and those you don’t know) they can still sign up for obamacare/ACA until January 31st!
the more people sign up, the less eager republicans will repeal it, especially those in swing states and districts, and we only need three GOP senators to vote no on repeal.
Hey folks, PLEASE reblog info about this if you can today. They have cancelled all ads and emails alerting people to the fact that the deadline is at the end of this month in an attempt to sabotage enrollment. Jan 31st is the last chance people will have to get on this plan.
Doesn’t have to be this post, just please spread the word however you can!
“At a challenging moment in our history, let us remind ourselves that we the hundreds of thousands, the millions of women, trans-people, men and youth who are here at the Women’s March, we represent the powerful forces of change that are determined to prevent the dying cultures of racism, hetero-patriarchy from rising again.
“We recognize that we are collective agents of history and that history cannot be deleted like web pages. We know that we gather this afternoon on indigenous land and we follow the lead of the first peoples who despite massive genocidal violence have never relinquished the struggle for land, water, culture, their people. We especially salute today the Standing Rock Sioux.
“The freedom struggles of black people that have shaped the very nature of this country’s history cannot be deleted with the sweep of a hand. We cannot be made to forget that black lives do matter. This is a country anchored in slavery and colonialism, which means for better or for worse the very history of the United States is a history of immigration and enslavement. Spreading xenophobia, hurling accusations of murder and rape and building walls will not erase history.
“No human being is illegal.
“The struggle to save the planet, to stop climate change, to guarantee the accessibility of water from the lands of the Standing Rock Sioux, to Flint, Michigan, to the West Bank and Gaza. The struggle to save our flora and fauna, to save the air—this is ground zero of the struggle for social justice.
"This is a women’s march and this women’s march represents the promise of feminism as against the pernicious powers of state violence. And inclusive and intersectional feminism that calls upon all of us to join the resistance to racism, to Islamophobia, to anti-Semitism, to misogyny, to capitalist exploitation.
"Yes, we salute the fight for 15. We dedicate ourselves to collective resistance. Resistance to the billionaire mortgage profiteers and gentrifiers. Resistance to the health care privateers. Resistance to the attacks on Muslims and on immigrants. Resistance to attacks on disabled people. Resistance to state violence perpetrated by the police and through the prison industrial complex. Resistance to institutional and intimate gender violence, especially against trans women of color.
"Women’s rights are human rights all over the planet and that is why we say freedom and justice for Palestine. We celebrate the impending release of Chelsea Manning. And Oscar López Rivera. But we also say free Leonard Peltier. Free Mumia Abu-Jamal. Free Assata Shakur.
"Over the next months and years we will be called upon to intensify our demands for social justice to become more militant in our defense of vulnerable populations. Those who still defend the supremacy of white male hetero-patriarchy had better watch out.
"The next 1,459 days of the Trump administration will be 1,459 days of resistance: Resistance on the ground, resistance in the classrooms, resistance on the job, resistance in our art and in our music.
"This is just the beginning and in the words of the inimitable Ella Baker, ‘We who believe in freedom cannot rest until it comes.’ Thank you.”
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The long read: For 25 years, invoking this vague and ever-shifting nemesis has been a favourite tactic of the right – and Donald Trump’s victory is its greatest triumph
Until the late 1980s, “political correctness” was used exclusively within the left, and almost always ironically as a critique of excessive orthodoxy. In fact, some of the first people to organise against “political correctness” were a group of feminists who called themselves the Lesbian Sex Mafia.
A note about Emma using “Gina” on the show: She appears to be saying “Gina” sometimes as early as Season 1, and when she’s talking about Regina to other people. It would make no sense for her to be using a nickname in that context. So when we hear “Gina,” she’s actually dropping the initial weak “re” syllable, like in words like “remember” (’Member that time….). Also, in many cases there’s a little of the “r” there, so she’s actually saying it this way: R’gina.
I think the only “Gina” ever happened in an episode is in 5x23 (Emma tries to stop Regina and needs to talk fast)? Because it’s in the english subtitles?
It’s one of the places that definitely sounds like Gina (though you can’t see her mouth, which makes it harder to tell). But even if she’s saying Gina (and even if it’s written like that in the subtitles), it still isn’t clear if it’s the nickname Gina or “Regina” with the first syllable dropped. The reason I think it’s unlikely to be the nickname is that she doesn’t use it consistently or in a way that reflects development in their relationship (the way other forms of address they use do - Mme Mayor, Miss Swan, etc.), and she continues to use “Regina” in Season 6. There are three times in Season 1 when Emma’s talking to other people (Graham, Snow, and Henry) about Regina where I don’t hear the first syllable at all. So it just seems like she varies in her pronunciation of “Regina” -- Regina, R’gina, and ‘Gina.
peeps, i am writing a Swan Queen story in which Emma is nonbinary (Readers’ Choice VII, part 3), and i want to know what it means to those of you who have that identity. i want to collect a variety of experiences so that i can make this the best story possible.
you can reblog or reply or submit them or send them in an ask (and the latter 2 can be anonymous if you like)
The clicking of her heels echoed in the sterile hospital hallway as she stopped dead in her tracks. Graham stood next to a hospital bed. The nervous tapping of his fingers matched the heartbeat of the patient. He looked up. Dazed.
“What is she doing here?”
She took in his disheveled state, then. Grime covering his face and uniform. A stark contrast with the red of his freshly washed hands. Bandages.
Bandages. Like the woman. Her face barely visible. Burns everywhere. The woman she couldn’t tear her eyes away from and yet she wanted to look at anything but her. This could not be happening. A beat. Then she braced herself, slipped on the mask.
“Henry ran away again. He wasn’t in his room this morning.”
He walked towards her. They turned away from the bed. Away from the questions she really didn’t want to ask right now. She had to find her son.
“What happened?”
“Car crash. The old town sign. Car’s a wreck. She’s… barely holding on in there. Was on my last patrol… I saw it happen.”
A tentative hand found his shoulder.
“Henry.” Her voice was a whisper. There were other thoughts too. Of stronger drinks. Of exhaustion. Of selfishness. And another, older memory that struck her with violent clarity. She shivered. This was not happening.
“We have to find Henry.” She said, again. Not knowing what to tell her son when they did find him. She spared one last glance at the still form in the bed before stepping outside. Willing herself not to think. Not to feel.
This is not happening.
Disclaimer: OperationOUT one shots are hypothetical reality scenarios, based on what we have seen from Emma’s perspective. They serve as an enhancement of the operation-out theory, using the clues to reconstruct reality. We don’t necessarily think that’s exactly how it happened - but they help us understand the emotional truth in a way a clinical theory simply can’t.
I’ve been thinking about this over the last few days. You can have the same trauma and one person is triggered, and one isn’t. Triggers are weird. Sometimes they don’t make a lot of sense.
If you live a life without them, great. That’s wonderful, and I am so happy for you. (not even sarcastically, I am seriously happy for you.). What warnings do, is let me, and others like me, have that life (or something closer to it).
I’ve seen a couple posts in passing (I didn’t look that long) mention that it’s hard to manage what you’re posting, and unless someone has PTSD they’re really just being a special snowflake.
I do have PTSD. Creepily, I have child PTSD, so my responses to trauma aren’t even what the medical community was looking for when I first presented as an adult victim. So I have to be treated for both, and it takes time. A really disarming part of treatment is taking down the shields I have against being hurt, because they’re coping mechanisms.
I have to let them go to get to the problem. So my world is more terrifying than it has been for most of my adult life, so I can get to the little girl who was hurt and help her heal.
Even if I didn’t have PTSD. I matter. One doesn’t have to have a diagnosis to ask for accommodations. We’re a kind enough community that we can do that. Most people I’ve met on tumblr, no matter what they ship, or what characters they dislike, are good people.
Anyone who struggles to say they matter, matters. Not speaking up is a common thread among the abused, because many of us were told not to, in clever manipulative ways.
Some of us did speak up and weren’t listened to, so had to relearn that our pain is relevant and important.
If you don’t have triggers, warnings let me live like you. I can prepare and avoid. I suggest the handy Archive of Our Own list as a good tagging start point.
If you’re posting fic on tumblr, it would be great if you’d put these at the top of the post, not just the bottom.
Graphic Depictions Of Violence
Major Character Death
No Warnings Apply
Rape/Non-Con
Underage
Choose Not to Include Warnings
All of these give your reader consent. They’re pretty fantastic. I think I might start putting ‘no warnings apply’ on all my fics that fall into that category just because it’ll help normalize that ‘nothing’ isn’t helpful. I want my readers to know what they’re getting.
If you do have triggers, hugs and comforting beverages for you. Here’s to a better year ahead.
Thank you for putting yourself out there - and all the hugs to you! I’ve actually been mulling over this subject. I put my trigger warnings in the tags, but it always feels like the wrong place to put them. I don’t get triggered, just affected - which I’m grateful for - but I was wondering how to apply them to theory posts. I have one coming up and I know this is part of why I’ve been procrastinating on it. Or can’t write it.
Do you reckon a clear description of what will be discussed in the first paragraph is enough in the case of meta posts? Or should we extend the system beyond fics? Or do the tags suffice in that case?
Summary: Emma’s not the pretty princess she thinks her parents want. Regina likes her that way.
Preview:
Finally, Emma’s voice came, sounding a bit rusty. “My parents have a literal fairytale marriage. Twice, now. And here I am this giant fuckup who had a kid out of wedlock and went to jail and now I’m like not- married to somebody with a rap sheet a mile long who’s the second best thing that ever happened to me.”
“After Henry,” Regina agreed with a little chuckle. “But Emma, you’re not a fuckup. There’s nothing wrong with you having a different life than your parents. You don’t need to feel bad about any of that.”
A note about Emma using “Gina” on the show: She appears to be saying “Gina” sometimes as early as Season 1, and when she’s talking about Regina to other people. It would make no sense for her to be using a nickname in that context. So when we hear “Gina,” she’s actually dropping the initial weak “re” syllable, like in words like “remember” (’Member that time....). Also, in many cases there’s a little of the “r” there, so she’s actually saying it this way: R’gina.
Regina tried to resettle her fancy dress for at least the third time, sighing and shifting uncomfortably because what she’d worn when taken hostage in Marna was far too warm for Sharmar despite the low-cut bodice. Robin, in turn, leered at her, then tried to cover his actions with a very fake-sounding cough.
3.01 - The Heart of The Truest Believer || 1.01 - Pilot
We’ve talked about memory loss and new memories before - for example in this post. This flashback is one of the best examples of how a flashback to Emma’s past definitely tells us a story about her past or present, but not necessarily in the way we think it does. What we see didn’t happen literally, but we actually get a symbolic scene that tells us about her feelings. A view from the inside out, if you will. This is how Emma’s new memories are created.
The scene where Emma gives birth to Henry in the beginning of season three actually tells us about Emma’s real emotions. The pain she felt - but had to repress for his sake - when Henry came back into her life in the Pilot.
It’s interesting because for this scene we actually did see the reality it was based on. It might help us translate other scenes for which we haven’t seen the experiences that triggered them. The scene with the clock and the flickering lights are the most obvious visual links between the scenes. We learn the order of the scenes isn’t relevant, but the fact they didn’t choose a 17-year old actress to play this part seems like another clue that this isn’t about the first time Henry came into her life, but the second time.
It’s the very first scene of season three and it ends with Emma in pain after giving Henry up again. This sets the theme of the first half of the season. Emma has to deal with the painful memories Henry brings back. In season one she ended up admitting to herself that she loved him, but because this story is a lot darker and more complex than we’ve been led to believe, that was only the very beginning of what Emma needed to overcome in order to open herself up to the idea of being his mother.
As mentioned in the post about Emma’s secret, her story with Neal conceals her complex feelings for Henry. Her darkest secret would make a perfect voice-over for the metaphorical birth scene about the pain rushing back. It’s visceral.
“The instant you stepped back in my life, I knew. I knew I’d never stopped loving you. And before I even had a chance to take a breath, I… I lost you once more, and all that pain that I had pushed down for all those years, it just came… rushing back, and I… I didn’t know if I could go through it again.” ~ Emma Swan || 3.06 - Ariel
During the winter finale for season three, we revisited the birth scene again, but now with a different outcome. Emma has done the emotional work in Neverland. This time she is able to accept her son. After Neverland and with Regina’s blessing Emma finally allows herself to become Henry’s other mother.
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