Essere un ragazzo frocio Sottomesso

questo blog nasce con l'intento di raccontare la mia esperienza di ragazzo e il mio percorso di sottomissione sociale. durato diversi anni e che mi ha portato a essere consapevole di chi sono : un sottomesso. (da Roma, Italia)

[ragazzosottomesso]

[littletimbennett]

“WORSHIP YOUR BULLY !!! HE IS ‘SUPERIOR’ TO YOU IN EVERY POSSIBLE WAY ! YOU ARE ‘INFERIOR’ TO HIM IN EVERY WAY ! HE IS A ‘REAL MAN’ ! YOU ARE A ‘REAL FAGGOT’ ! YOUR BULLY HAS A BIG, STRONG & MANLY COCK HANGING BETWEEN HIS LEG’S ! YOU HAVE A TINY LITTLE BABY PEE PEE BETWEEN YOUR LEGS ! YOUR BULLY IS SMART & ALWAYS KNOWS WHAT IS RIGHT ! YOU ON THE OTHER HAND ARE A STUPID FAG & ALWAYS MAKE THE WRONG CHOICES IN EVERYTHING YOU DO ! THERE IS JUST NO COMPARISON SO YOU MUST JUST ‘GIVE-IN’, FOLLOW HIM, DO WHATEVER HE SAY’S : YOUR BULLY IS ALWAYS RIGHT !! DO EXACTLY WHAT HE SAY’S, MAKE HIS LIFE EASIER AS HE DESERVES IT ! IT’S JUST THE NATURAL ORDER !!!”

— littletinytimbennett (via littletimbennett)

[respectmasculinity-deactivated2]

Love your bully. Hate yourself.

[unapologeticdomination]

LOL exactly… fucking freak faggot sub cuck

[the-pussyhounder]

Reblog every time I see it

[neswpnw]

Are you a faggot?

First off, let me be clear that i am not using the term faggot in a pejorative sense. One of the most effective ways of taking the sting out of a word is to re-appropriate it from the haters, and redefine it yourself. This must of course happen in a supportive environment, among those who accept you as you are. That enables you to defiantly and bravely own up to what you are. And to realize that there are appreciative Alphas/Men out there who would love nothing better than to have their own personal fag. Don’t let others keep you from living the life that fits you best. And without shame.

In this re-appropriated meaning, the following are some pretty strong indicators that you are a faggot:

1. Your primary sex organ is not your penis.

Most males (gay or straight) derive most of their sexual pleasure from their penises. Men love to ejaculate, and they find great satisfaction in the power of their ejaculations. They take great pride in their penises and in phallic symbolism.

Faggots, on the other hand, are often embarrassed by their penis. It may be relatively small. Many have weak erections. Some have low testosterone levels. On the other hand, faggots generally take great pleasure in their butts and assholes. They are compelled to play with this area, stimulate it using fingers, dildos, or butt plugs, and learn to have prostate-induced anal orgasms rather than (or in addition to) penile orgasms. For faggots, their asshole becomes their primary sex organ, not their penis. Most regard their mouths as a primary or secondary sex organ. 

2. You are unable to top.

In general, Men are born with a natural desire to penetrate and ejaculate. It is their prime instinct. Men love to watch their cocks slide into their partner, love to hear their moans as they fuck them, and enjoy the feeling of pumping their warm seminal fluid into them.

Faggots, on the other hand, cannot see themselves as anything other than a receptive hole for a Man’s cock. A faggot will never penetrate anyone else. The idea has no appeal, and there is no motivation to do so. My penis does not get aroused at the thought. It remains flaccid.

When being fucked, faggots typically feel little or no motivation to touch their penises, preferring instead to focus on the penetration. Many faggots remain flaccid while getting fucked, so focused are they on their asshole as primary sex organ. 3. You dislike receiving oral sex.

From my first sexual experience with another male, I noticed that I did not enjoy receiving oral sex. My penis remained flaccid, and the experience was embarrassing and made me intensely uncomfortable. That is not atypical. There are at least two reasons for this. One, already described above, is that a faggot’s penis is not experienced as a primary sex organ. Another is that the position of power a blowjob bestows upon the receiver is antithetical to the true nature of a faggot. 

Almost all Men (gay or straight) love to receive a good blowjob. Faggots are the exception. They typically recoil from the idea. Now that I’ve come to understand my true nature, the very thought of receiving a blowjob fills me with disgust and horror. I’ve heard the same from many faggots over the years.

4. You are service oriented.

All gay bottoms are submissive to some degree; taking a dick up the ass requires at least a degree of submissiveness. But most are submissive only in the bedroom, and their bottoming is how they prefer to get off. In other words, there is a reciprocity. They seek their own orgasm as much as their partner’s. They consider themselves on a level plane to the Man who is fucking them. This is very similar to how most women view their relationships with Men.

A faggot is not only not equal to a Man (except in certain fundamental human rights as a human being), but the faggot itself knows and acknowledges that it is not equal. A faggot doesn’t focus on its own pleasure at all, in or out of the bedroom. At all times a true faggot focuses on the Man’s pleasure. Its own pleasure is merely incidental, and in no way central. 5. You have certain fetishes, and open to deeper forms of submission.

Certain fetishes tend to distinguish faggots from conventional gay bottoms. For instance, almost all faggots seem to have fetishes for aspects of a Man’s body that denote masculinity and power asymmetry. 

Faggots tend to very willingly kiss and lick a Man’s feet. They also tend to their lust for the smells of a Man. A Man’s used underwear might disgust most people, but a faggot typically desires these items. Faggots love to sniff and lick musky balls and armpits. While gay bottoms may enjoy such aspects, too, they rarely have the worshipful lust faggots reserve for them.

These fetishes might drive faggots to do things that ordinary gay bottoms would never do, such as swallow a Man’s piss, or get spanked.

6. You derive satisfaction from service.

Faggots achieve emotional satisfaction from serving a Man through menial tasks. A faggot finds great satisfaction while cleaning a Man’s bathroom, doing a Man’s dishes, or washing a Man’s laundry. Very few women or other gay Men exhibit this level of servitude, nor do they seem to derive pleasure from such tasks. 

In addition, a faggot does such chores without the expectation of reward. Contrast that mentality with women and gay Men, who often perform chores for a Man in the expectation that they will be rewarded in some way. Faggots do not have such expectations. Their reward comes from performing the service itself for a special Man.

Summing up, you are a faggot if: • You are more interested in your ass as your primary sex organ • You seek only the sexual satisfaction of the Man, not yourself. • You are attracted to the power of a Man • You are attracted to a Man’s intimate scents and, and not repelled by his spit and piss • You can derive pleasure from serving a Man through menial tasks

(Note: This post is heavily indebted to a previous one by @fagsworshipstraights. I did not reblog that post because i disagreed on a number of crucial points. So i’ve rewritten it to remove those points, add some of my own, including the all-important introductory paragraph, and make the argument more concise. Still, he deserves most of the credit.)

[the-pussyhounder]

Nice summary bro @desiresoffire

[submissive-housewife]

[the-pussyhounder]

The good old days, when men ruled the home 💪🏻

[1moss-deactivated20160802]

[ricefag]

They are different species; Alphas and faggots.

Now you can see the fact that faggots are weak, made just as a tool for Alphas, waiting to be crashed, exploited, and destroyed. No matter how hard they try, they can never come close to Alphas, nay, never escape from where they belong; the lowest, the bottom of the food chain.

[the-pussyhounder]

Lolz

[fagsdick]

[brosinthecloset]

CW: Bottom shaming, f-slur

A perfect bottom. You are completely submissive and complementary to the top. You say you've never had such a good dick in your pussy - this is always true, even if it's false. The top who's dick is in you right now is the best dick you've ever had. No debate.

Meanwhile, you've got your stupid, useless dicklet wrapped up and hidden. Tops don't care about your dick. They don't wanna see that shit. And you're a good boy for not touching yourself while getting fucked. Bottoms who deserve a second punt don't touch themselves. Bottoms who do touch themselves are a problem, and you'll greatly anger your top - so much so, you'll be lucky to avoid a hard slap. This will be your only interaction, though. He ain't gonna waste his time on your selfish ass - not when there's so much bottom-competition out there.

And you took his slurs without issue. You savored them, in fact. He called you a faggot and your heart sung. What a king this top is. Like all tops.

Tops rule, bottoms suck.

[navyretired]

Watching this faggot get pounded never gets old💦💦💦

[faggotfromitaly]

Per un frocio non esiste cosa più sublime che essere trattato da un Uomo come la puttana che è. Un brivido attraversa la sua mente indolente ed, ecco, che esso si risveglia. La sua mente è invasa da un fiume in piena che annega regole e modelli socialmente accettati e il suo corpo si muove in automatico, seguendo gli istinti, prima sopiti, che la sua natura gli ascrive: prende il cazzo, i piedi e le mani del Maschio in ogni orifizio che egli voglia sondare; piega la sua schiena, le sue gambe, ecc. nelle più contorte posizioni per compiacerlo; ne assapora sputi, sperma, piscio e sudore; gioisce ad ogni schiaffo, insulto e umiliazione che egli gli dona. Il cuore d'un frocio esulta e la sua anima si immerge nell'estasi quando un Uomo lo usa per il suo piacere come l'essere inferiore che è: perciò il suo sguardo e le sue parole traboccano di gratitudine nei suoi confronti. Nulla nella sua vita può più essere come prima...

[pow3randpri4ledge]

[masterofsissysluts]

I will give you the life of a cum-sucking, piss-drinking faggot fuck-bitch, just like you have always dreamed about.

[domgayhusbands]

Identifying Characteristics of a Faggot

Sometimes in our journey towards self discovery, we may question whether or not we are actually faggots. In these situations, I think it’s best to identify what sort of qualities are common in fags. It’s important to note that each fag is different and every individual will have their own degree of each quality. This won’t be true for EVERY faggot, but these are some common characteristics you may notice in yourself or other faggots. 

Here are some characteristics I’ve identified:

Indecisive- Faggots will often find that they have difficulty making decisions for themselves. They are not great at picking the best course of action at any given time. They will ponder endlessly over each potential option before them without ever making a selection, such as where to go to eat or what to wear. Once they do decide, they often make poor choices which they later regret. This is one of the many reasons fags function best with decision-makers for them.

Apologetic- Often due to their poor judgment and decision-making skills, faggots will constantly feel a need to apologize for their behavior and try to make up for it. They may even apologize for things that didn’t even warrant such action, because they are overly sensitive to pleasing others. It’s not necessarily bad for a faggot to be apologetic, as guilt can be a positive motivating factor when a faggot has made a mistake. However, a fag will function best with a Dom that can reassure them that they are forgiven and help coach them towards doing better in the future. 

Self-critical- This is related to the previous quality in that their self criticism often prompts a perceived need for a faggot to apologize. Faggots will often scrutinize everything they say or do, and often feel like they haven’t met the needs of others or have let others down. It’s normal for a faggot to feel this way, but it’s also important for the well-being of a faggot to find reassurance and positive reinforcement when it’s done well, which a Man can provide to it.

Poor athletic ability- Fags will typically have poor coordination and athletic ability. Growing up they were probably the kid that was picked last for team sports and may have experienced bullying from their peers for such lack of strength and athleticism. Their physical weakness can make it easy for an Alpha to manhandle and overpower a faggot’s body, providing a convenience for the man to fulfill His needs as necessary.

Impulsive- In addition to being poor at making decisions, they will find that when they do make a decision for themselves it is through impulsive thought processes that don’t rely on rationality. Faggots are emotional creatures and it is often difficult for them to control their emotions in a way that helps them utilize appropriate critical thinking skills against their emotional impulses. A man can help a faggot stop their foolish decisions as it begins to depend on its man for rational thought.

Feminine- While faggots, either mentally or physically, may technically be considered “male,” they will lack traits that are commonly associated with masculinity. It is often difficult for a faggot to relate to members of their own gender like they do with women. 

Feeble minded- While Men are sharp and quick-witted, fags can seem spacey and like a total dipshit at times. It isn’t to say that a faggot can’t be smart, it just means that its mind may have a tendency to wander and it won’t be able to recall certain details easily like Men can. Fags rely on their emotions and sensitivity towards others while Men rely on reason and self-determination. It may be fine and cute for a faggot to express its own ideas, but it should recognize that’s a Man’s ideas will be more thought-out and put together.

Gullible- Its very easy for a Man to trick a faggot into something. This is why it is absolutely important for a faggot to be aware of its own limitations and only follow after Men that have earned the faggots trust. Men might have fun with their fags by teasing them and seeing how easy it is to manipulate a faggot.

Shy- There are often many outspoken faggots, so this isn’t necessarily a “common” quality. Rather it is a preferred quality, as the best faggots will know when to be seen and not heard. There is an art to subtly that can help draw in Men and make them go wild for a faggot if the artform is utilized properly. 

Humble- Faggots need to know their place and not be cocky. There are many limitations to a faggot’s nature, and it should be aware that it is best when it depends on a real Alpha Man to control and guide it. 

Passive- The faggots will often find themselves classified as “pushovers” because they like to avoid confrontation and won’t contradict anyone else, even if they disagree with their actions. This can be a destructive habit for the fag if they surround themselves with the wrong people. By finding a trustworthy Man to give in to, they can have the reassurance that they are safe when they let Him get His way. When other people push the faggot around, the Man can intervene and be an advocate on behalf of the faggot.

[themodernmarriage]

Orgasm Control: A List of Benefits

I get a lot of questions about the benefits for me and for my husband about the benefits of structured orgasm control as part of addressing the issue of “mismatched libidos” in heterosexual relationships. For many people, as soon as they make a start on this journey, a range of benefits become clear pretty quickly. So, in this case, I believe the requests for providing a list benefits are for people who are still in the process of deciding if this approach is for them.

The short answer is - yes, your life (and sex life) will change for the better. Give it a try.

The second short answer - yes, use a chastity cage. While it is possible to practise orgasm control without one, the benefits for you, but especially for him, of using a chastity cage are exponential. Perhaps the list of benefits below will elucidate why:

Control vs Neglect

In most heterosexual, long-term relationships, women have a significantly lower sex drive than their male partners. Men have less sex than they would ideally like. In this sense, marriage means that females control the allocation of sex. Already. However, without a deliberate structure and communication around the element of this control, the mismatched libido is interpreted by the male as ‘neglect’ or the feeling of not being desired. This can drive the male to pornography, masturbation or ‘nagging for sex’, which puts unwanted pressure on you, and is a serious turn-off.

When orgasm control is discussed and structured as part of the couple’s sexual dynamic, the male’s perception moves from being ‘neglected’ to ‘controlled’. The latter is highly arousing, and the sexual dynamics flips on its head. By controlling his sexual release, you as a couple are indicating that it has a ‘value’ far greater than when he is simply free to masturbate at will. His greatest physical reward, and the oxytocin, bonding, dopamine rush that follows becomes linked to you, not to Pornhub.

Reigniting the Desire

As has been said on this blog before, males are programmed to ‘move on’ emotionally after ejaculating. Orgasm leads to a spike in prolactin which is a ‘shut off valve’ for intimacy and sexual desire. Frequent masturbation is therefore a total intimacy killer. Controlling the male orgasm leads to increases in oxytocin focused on you as his key objects of desire. He is heavily sexually aroused and his desire for you will skyrocket. Now, he is fully aware that he can’t do anything about it until his scheduled release, so it translates as increased intimacy, and increased energy for other things.

No Pressure for Sex

Modern marriages are defined by women ‘feeling bad’ every time they are not up for sex. The perception of old-world society is that it is the women’s duty to provide sex whenever the male desires. With chastity and orgasm control, this is completely reversed. Sex is not the goal, and the ongoing sexual rush of the denial is what the male will savor the most.

We have PIV (penis in vagina) sex frequently. Most often this is outside of his release window, so he knows that he is not allowed to orgasm, and after I am finished, he is re-locked. It's a mind-screw and a challenge for him, but he absolutely LOVES it!

Chastity is Effortless

With him in chastity, I can do all of this without really having to do much. A bit of attention here and there, a bit of teasing and he is at a constant, positive simmer. It is about communication, structure and commitment.

Release Days are Effortless

When I do allow him an orgasm, this too can be as effortless as you could possibly imagine. On release days, his excitement is so high that bringing him to climax can take as little as a few seconds. I personally encourage him to orgasm as fast as possible. Some days I take off the cage, provide a few gentle strokes, wait until he cums and then re-lock the cage. This can take 2-3 minutes in total! To save time, simply placing a vibrating massages on the cage’s base-ring for a few minutes will bring him to orgasm without even need to take of the cage. He will LOVE this, and again, hardly any effort on your part. That is how it should be.

If you do unlock him for release, always relock directly after he orgasms. This significantly reduces the "drop" he will experience after orgasm and will push him through the 2-3 grouchiness period much smoother. He loves it if I put the cage on him, but if you prefer he locks himself, straight after his release, firmly tell him that it's time to go back in the cage.

Cages Look Sexy

I think of chastity cages as jewellery which is very aesthetically pleasing. Unlocked penises flop about, lean to one side, grow and shrink unpredictably and are often pretty badly manicured. When locked in a cage, everything is so neat. Males will need to do a bit of gardening down there to make it as comfortable as possible. Everything is held in place. His nub is encased and immobilized. His balls are held tight and presented forward. He will want to wear tight underwear or swimwear for comfort purposes, which presents such a neat little package. Every time I see the cage I am reminded that he is doing this for me, and I get a little shiver down my spine. It just looks better, and I love it!

Arousal on Demand

Males think about sex all the time. The vast majority of sexual thoughts and corresponding erections go completely ignored. When locked in chastity, these sexual thoughts (and erections) are contained, and are linked to you as the keyholder. This is highly arousing for the male, and will feel like direct attention from you - even though you may not even be in the same postcode. The cage works for you full-time, and is there whenever the male is aroused. Extremely powerful!

Discipline

The chastity cage helps males to stick to the rules. Most males masturbate significantly more than you will ever imagine. For the vast majority, they will NEVER have gone 21 days or more without masturbating since they first discovered it in their teens. With a cage, masturbation is simply off the table. They must direct this energy elsewhere. Which leads to :

Weight Loss and Conditioning

All of this extra energy must go somewhere, and in most cases, this is directed to physical exercise and conditioning. Many women report that time in chastity has lead to significant weight loss and body sculpting in their males. Motivation and drive are seriously tangible chastity benefits that you will notice as little as 7 days in.

Service

Oxytocin is the courting hormone. Increases in this wonder drug caused by orgasm control will often lead to a far more focused, attentive and service-oriented mentality. Whether conscious on his part or not, I notice a happier, more helpful male, with a higher attention-to-detail and eagerness to please. Use this as you see fit!

A Better Sex Life

Most importantly, chastity and orgasm denial will improve your sex life. Sex does not equate to penetration anymore, although it certainly can if you wish. Unlock him at any point in the schedule for sex of you're keen for it - it's just that outside of the release window, he will have to find a way not to orgasm. You are the focus until his release date!

Most importantly, "sex" in long-term marriages is about sexual interaction - intimacy, honesty, communication and care. This is why you are doing this in the first place. Rewire your thinking as a couple, and become a highly engaged, balanced and aligned sexual partnership.

Conclusions

These are just some of the many benefits that are associated with the exciting journey of male orgasm control. Drop some more in the comments and I can add to this ever-growing list.

[lilolesissyme]

@stiksgoddess

[changingmencaptions-deactivated]

Who’s a Good Boy?

Danny confidently strode down the sidewalk, his ginger dog pulling him along. The confident gym buff was lost in thought, planning out his day and how he was going to meet his buds that evening. He didn’t even notice the hulking man stomping behind him. Danny bent down and rubbed his dog’s slender face. The large man approaches Danny and his dog, his shadow enveloping the pair.

“Such a pretty little dog, aren’t you?” the older man cooed. His large hairy muscles pressing firmly against his dress shirt. Tufts of thick hair covered the man’s meaty forearms and chest. Danny looked up at the 40 something year old man. The man stared right back at him.

Danny stood back up, his eyes now fixated on the stranger. Even standing straight, Danny only reached the man’s collar bones. The man must have been at least 6’3. His broad shoulders and muscles were layered with a thick fatness. This only further intimidated the young 24-year-old.

“You can pet him if you want?” Danny shrugged. “He’s a young one. Loves attention. Especially behind his ear.”

“Mind if I-” The silver fox asked as he leaned in.

“Sure.” Danny agreed, his eyes travelled towards his dog, waiting for the man to bend down. But the man didn’t…

Danny felt an odd sensation emit from his head. He furrowed his brow as he realised what was happening. Still staring at the dog, Danny felt the old man’s hand run through his own hair in a soft repetitive motion. Danny looked at the man in confusion as the man continued to pet Danny’s head.

Danny, still taken aback by the whole situation, sighed in disgust. “What the hell are you doing? I meant the dog. Obviously, not me. The dog.”

“I am petting the dog, boy.” The man smiles softly, still rubbing Danny’s thick luscious hair. “And what a good boy he is…”

“Get off me-” Danny grabbed the man’s arm before the man’s hand slipped down behind his ear. He began scratching intensely. The scratching caught Danny by surprise. Danny’s entire train of thought was destroyed by the man’s fingers running behind his ear. His eyes rolling into the back of his head. Pleasure shot throughout his body, all emanating from the man’s thick fat finger scratches.

“That’s a good boy.” The bald man grinned deviously through his thick beard.

GOOD. BOY. The words repeated softly in Danny’s head, disrupting every part of his mind, not allowing him to form a single original thought. His mind completely focused on the head scratching and the older man’s captivating praise. ‘Good boy…’

“Ohhhhh fuckkkkkkkk” Danny moaned leaning into the man’s head scratching.

“You’re such a good boy for your owner, aren’t you? Such a good boy.”

GOOD. BOY. OWNER. The words rang more intensely in Danny’s pleasure filled head. He felt his knees begin to buckle as pleasure shot through his groin, causing his cock to stand at full attention. Danny felt at peace as his owner continued scratching behind his ear, just like Danny always liked it.

Danny jumped backwards with a sudden jolt of energy. His rational brain kicking back into action. Why did he say owner? This man… this man wasn’t his owner. No one owned Danny… or at least he thought. But he was beginning to question whether that was true. What was the man doing to his brain? Danny still felt the remnants of hot warm pleasure flowing through his body.

As Danny spiralled into confusion, he felt a cold thick fabric make contact with his neck. The fabric wrapped around his entire neck and was solidified with a loud CLICK. Danny looked down to see a collar on his neck. A thick leather collar with a round metal plate hanging off the front. The plate read “REX”, followed by the contact information of a phone number that Danny had never seen before. Even more shocking, while Danny was looking at his new label, he realised he was completely naked. Butt naked. On complete display for the man to ogle at and sexualise.

“C’mere boy.” The fat muscle man motioned Danny over before noticing the 24-year-old gym buff was gaining too much self-awareness. He could see Danny looked panicked.

“Who’s a good boy?” The man condescendingly cooed at Danny. “You are. You’re a good boy!”

Another wave of pleasure washed over Danny, his eyes rolling back into his head. The hot sensation flooded his body, leaving him a sweaty moaning mess. His mind refused to think. Completely blank with the pleasure of his master’s words. He felt so relaxed. So at peace. So at home hearing his master’s affirmations.

Noticing that his magic words were succeeding in mindfucking his subject, the man continued to tease the boy.

“You’re such a fucking good boy. The best boy. I wanna breed your fuckable bouncy ass when we get home. Put a litter of pups in you!” The man enthusiastically laughed.

His owner’s affirmation shot the most intense pleasure through Danny. More intense than any orgasm. Than any drug. It was so addicting. So orgasmic. Danny wanted more. He wanted his owner to compliment him, flirt with him, fuck him… The heat shot through his legs, causing them to buckle even more intensely this time. Danny fell onto all fours, his tongue flopping out of his mouth. The good boy panted as drool dripped off his tongue, his eyes still in the back of his head. His cock grew harder and harder, gathering all his smarts and his sophistication in his balls, ready to be shot out onto the sidewalk. He began absentmindedly swaying his hips side-to-side, completely mindfucked.

“That’s right.” Danny’s owner hunkered down on this thighs and whispered. “Such a good dog.”

Danny, still drooling his brains out, felt a sensation building in his throat… a sound. A sound that was trying to escape his throat and expose his new self to the world. The sound built in his throat more and more. Another one shot up his throat, causing his cheeks to puff up.

“That’s it boy. Let it happen. Let it out. It’s natural. You’re just a dumb dog. Let the world know.” The man whispered sensually, causing Danny’s erect dick to pulse, ready to shoot out his brains onto the ground. Danny found his ass begin to shake violently, side-to-side, wagging his non-existent tail. Fur sprouted on Danny’s hairless chest and face. He moaned more and more intensely for everyone on the street to see. A complete spectacle for passerbys to witness.

He resisted. He couldn’t. Another sound shot up his throat and died in his puffed cheeks.

“C’mon Rex. Be a good dog, let it out!” Danny’s master demanded. He harshly slapped the boy’s fat ass, forcing out the humiliating sounds…

BARKKKK BARKKK BARKKKK

The feeling of letting out his true nature, his canine nature, sent Danny over the edge. With one forceful hump, Danny shot out all his human abilities and smarts onto the ground. His humanity and dignity was now just a puddle of cum on the tarmac. Cum that would be left behind and disintegrated by the sun and washed up by the rain, never to be seen again.

Danny was now “Rex”. The dumb obedient dog, that is ever so eager to please his master. Whether it be getting his ass fucked all day, waiting around in his cage for Master to come home or eating dog food from his dog bowel, Rex does it all. He does it for him… the person he loves the most. The only person that exists in Rex’s world… his owner.

Rex’s owner smiled. “C’mon boy. It’s time to go home…”

[themodernmarriage]

Orgasm Control: A List of Benefits

I get a lot of questions about the benefits for me and for my husband about the benefits of structured orgasm control as part of addressing the issue of “mismatched libidos” in heterosexual relationships. For many people, as soon as they make a start on this journey, a range of benefits become clear pretty quickly. So, in this case, I believe the requests for providing a list benefits are for people who are still in the process of deciding if this approach is for them.

The short answer is - yes, your life (and sex life) will change for the better. Give it a try.

The second short answer - yes, use a chastity cage. While it is possible to practise orgasm control without one, the benefits for you, but especially for him, of using a chastity cage are exponential. Perhaps the list of benefits below will elucidate why:

Control vs Neglect

In most heterosexual, long-term relationships, women have a significantly lower sex drive than their male partners. Men have less sex than they would ideally like. In this sense, marriage means that females control the allocation of sex. Already. However, without a deliberate structure and communication around the element of this control, the mismatched libido is interpreted by the male as ‘neglect’ or the feeling of not being desired. This can drive the male to pornography, masturbation or ‘nagging for sex’, which puts unwanted pressure on you, and is a serious turn-off.

When orgasm control is discussed and structured as part of the couple’s sexual dynamic, the male’s perception moves from being ‘neglected’ to ‘controlled’. The latter is highly arousing, and the sexual dynamics flips on its head. By controlling his sexual release, you as a couple are indicating that it has a ‘value’ far greater than when he is simply free to masturbate at will. His greatest physical reward, and the oxytocin, bonding, dopamine rush that follows becomes linked to you, not to Pornhub.

Reigniting the Desire

As has been said on this blog before, males are programmed to ‘move on’ emotionally after ejaculating. Orgasm leads to a spike in prolactin which is a ‘shut off valve’ for intimacy and sexual desire. Frequent masturbation is therefore a total intimacy killer. Controlling the male orgasm leads to increases in oxytocin focused on you as his key objects of desire. He is heavily sexually aroused and his desire for you will skyrocket. Now, he is fully aware that he can’t do anything about it until his scheduled release, so it translates as increased intimacy, and increased energy for other things.

No Pressure for Sex

Modern marriages are defined by women ‘feeling bad’ every time they are not up for sex. The perception of old-world society is that it is the women’s duty to provide sex whenever the male desires. With chastity and orgasm control, this is completely reversed. Sex is not the goal, and the ongoing sexual rush of the denial is what the male will savor the most.

We have PIV (penis in vagina) sex frequently. Most often this is outside of his release window, so he knows that he is not allowed to orgasm, and after I am finished, he is re-locked. It's a mind-screw and a challenge for him, but he absolutely LOVES it!

Chastity is Effortless

With him in chastity, I can do all of this without really having to do much. A bit of attention here and there, a bit of teasing and he is at a constant, positive simmer. It is about communication, structure and commitment.

Release Days are Effortless

When I do allow him an orgasm, this too can be as effortless as you could possibly imagine. On release days, his excitement is so high that bringing him to climax can take as little as a few seconds. I personally encourage him to orgasm as fast as possible. Some days I take off the cage, provide a few gentle strokes, wait until he cums and then re-lock the cage. This can take 2-3 minutes in total! To save time, simply placing a vibrating massages on the cage’s base-ring for a few minutes will bring him to orgasm without even need to take of the cage. He will LOVE this, and again, hardly any effort on your part. That is how it should be.

If you do unlock him for release, always relock directly after he orgasms. This significantly reduces the "drop" he will experience after orgasm and will push him through the 2-3 grouchiness period much smoother. He loves it if I put the cage on him, but if you prefer he locks himself, straight after his release, firmly tell him that it's time to go back in the cage.

Cages Look Sexy

I think of chastity cages as jewellery which is very aesthetically pleasing. Unlocked penises flop about, lean to one side, grow and shrink unpredictably and are often pretty badly manicured. When locked in a cage, everything is so neat. Males will need to do a bit of gardening down there to make it as comfortable as possible. Everything is held in place. His nub is encased and immobilized. His balls are held tight and presented forward. He will want to wear tight underwear or swimwear for comfort purposes, which presents such a neat little package. Every time I see the cage I am reminded that he is doing this for me, and I get a little shiver down my spine. It just looks better, and I love it!

Arousal on Demand

Males think about sex all the time. The vast majority of sexual thoughts and corresponding erections go completely ignored. When locked in chastity, these sexual thoughts (and erections) are contained, and are linked to you as the keyholder. This is highly arousing for the male, and will feel like direct attention from you - even though you may not even be in the same postcode. The cage works for you full-time, and is there whenever the male is aroused. Extremely powerful!

Discipline

The chastity cage helps males to stick to the rules. Most males masturbate significantly more than you will ever imagine. For the vast majority, they will NEVER have gone 21 days or more without masturbating since they first discovered it in their teens. With a cage, masturbation is simply off the table. They must direct this energy elsewhere. Which leads to :

Weight Loss and Conditioning

All of this extra energy must go somewhere, and in most cases, this is directed to physical exercise and conditioning. Many women report that time in chastity has lead to significant weight loss and body sculpting in their males. Motivation and drive are seriously tangible chastity benefits that you will notice as little as 7 days in.

Service

Oxytocin is the courting hormone. Increases in this wonder drug caused by orgasm control will often lead to a far more focused, attentive and service-oriented mentality. Whether conscious on his part or not, I notice a happier, more helpful male, with a higher attention-to-detail and eagerness to please. Use this as you see fit!

A Better Sex Life

Most importantly, chastity and orgasm denial will improve your sex life. Sex does not equate to penetration anymore, although it certainly can if you wish. Unlock him at any point in the schedule for sex of you're keen for it - it's just that outside of the release window, he will have to find a way not to orgasm. You are the focus until his release date!

Most importantly, "sex" in long-term marriages is about sexual interaction - intimacy, honesty, communication and care. This is why you are doing this in the first place. Rewire your thinking as a couple, and become a highly engaged, balanced and aligned sexual partnership.

Conclusions

These are just some of the many benefits that are associated with the exciting journey of male orgasm control. Drop some more in the comments and I can add to this ever-growing list.

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Identifying Characteristics of a Faggot

Sometimes in our journey towards self discovery, we may question whether or not we are actually faggots. In these situations, I think it’s best to identify what sort of qualities are common in fags. It’s important to note that each fag is different and every individual will have their own degree of each quality. This won’t be true for EVERY faggot, but these are some common characteristics you may notice in yourself or other faggots. 

Here are some characteristics I’ve identified:

Indecisive- Faggots will often find that they have difficulty making decisions for themselves. They are not great at picking the best course of action at any given time. They will ponder endlessly over each potential option before them without ever making a selection, such as where to go to eat or what to wear. Once they do decide, they often make poor choices which they later regret. This is one of the many reasons fags function best with decision-makers for them.

Apologetic- Often due to their poor judgment and decision-making skills, faggots will constantly feel a need to apologize for their behavior and try to make up for it. They may even apologize for things that didn’t even warrant such action, because they are overly sensitive to pleasing others. It’s not necessarily bad for a faggot to be apologetic, as guilt can be a positive motivating factor when a faggot has made a mistake. However, a fag will function best with a Dom that can reassure them that they are forgiven and help coach them towards doing better in the future. 

Self-critical- This is related to the previous quality in that their self criticism often prompts a perceived need for a faggot to apologize. Faggots will often scrutinize everything they say or do, and often feel like they haven’t met the needs of others or have let others down. It’s normal for a faggot to feel this way, but it’s also important for the well-being of a faggot to find reassurance and positive reinforcement when it’s done well, which a Man can provide to it.

Poor athletic ability- Fags will typically have poor coordination and athletic ability. Growing up they were probably the kid that was picked last for team sports and may have experienced bullying from their peers for such lack of strength and athleticism. Their physical weakness can make it easy for an Alpha to manhandle and overpower a faggot’s body, providing a convenience for the man to fulfill His needs as necessary.

Impulsive- In addition to being poor at making decisions, they will find that when they do make a decision for themselves it is through impulsive thought processes that don’t rely on rationality. Faggots are emotional creatures and it is often difficult for them to control their emotions in a way that helps them utilize appropriate critical thinking skills against their emotional impulses. A man can help a faggot stop their foolish decisions as it begins to depend on its man for rational thought.

Feminine- While faggots, either mentally or physically, may technically be considered “male,” they will lack traits that are commonly associated with masculinity. It is often difficult for a faggot to relate to members of their own gender like they do with women. 

Feeble minded- While Men are sharp and quick-witted, fags can seem spacey and like a total dipshit at times. It isn’t to say that a faggot can’t be smart, it just means that its mind may have a tendency to wander and it won’t be able to recall certain details easily like Men can. Fags rely on their emotions and sensitivity towards others while Men rely on reason and self-determination. It may be fine and cute for a faggot to express its own ideas, but it should recognize that’s a Man’s ideas will be more thought-out and put together.

Gullible- Its very easy for a Man to trick a faggot into something. This is why it is absolutely important for a faggot to be aware of its own limitations and only follow after Men that have earned the faggots trust. Men might have fun with their fags by teasing them and seeing how easy it is to manipulate a faggot.

Shy- There are often many outspoken faggots, so this isn’t necessarily a “common” quality. Rather it is a preferred quality, as the best faggots will know when to be seen and not heard. There is an art to subtly that can help draw in Men and make them go wild for a faggot if the artform is utilized properly. 

Humble- Faggots need to know their place and not be cocky. There are many limitations to a faggot’s nature, and it should be aware that it is best when it depends on a real Alpha Man to control and guide it. 

Passive- The faggots will often find themselves classified as “pushovers” because they like to avoid confrontation and won’t contradict anyone else, even if they disagree with their actions. This can be a destructive habit for the fag if they surround themselves with the wrong people. By finding a trustworthy Man to give in to, they can have the reassurance that they are safe when they let Him get His way. When other people push the faggot around, the Man can intervene and be an advocate on behalf of the faggot.

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