PrincessRaven🔞

She/It 24yr old Trans Woman 🔞 more nsfw side blog is lewdraven

[ravenmcqueen1]

Intro Post (after years of having this blog, oof)

Im Raven! Or you can call me Luna :3

Im a 24 yr old Trans Woman

I use She/It

I mostly reblog stuff i like

There will be more taboo topics reblogged here and on my nsfw side blog so be warned

Sideblog is @lewdraven

Follow me on bsky 🥰 idk if ill post/repost much yet but itll basically be a mix of both my blogs so be warned

🖤Raven🖤 🔞 (@ravenmcqueen1408.bsky.social)

TransFem Enby She/They Poly Pan Doctorate in Princessology recieved 12.12.2020 💜 Im the cute, weird, transgirl they warn you about I will

Ill edit this if i feel like i need to add something🥰

[autogynophelia]

I went to a trans meetup yesterday where, not only was I made to reveal and say aloud my deadname by a (cis queer) bartender who ID'd me (while knowing I was there for the trans event), but also on three separate occasions different trans men referred to groups of trans women I was in as "guys".

And I had a really good time! I think having only 4 explicitly transphobic or transmisogynistic things happen to me at a social event is just so unusually low that it feels like a relief if anything. If I'm lucky, one day I'll go to an event where nothing bad happens at all, and it will be incredible.

[weaselle]

I know i've said it before, but if you are concerned it could be real and not a scam, the best way to avoid getting scammed is to return contact separately.

Here's how that works:

say you get a text from your internet provider, let's say it's Comcast (whom i hate). So you have this text that says it's from Comcast about your bill with a contact number and a clickable link -- could be real, could be a scam.

Don't touch anything about this text. Open a web browser and look up the customer service number for Comcast. Or get the number from the bill they send you. However you do it, get the contact info for Comcast from a trusted source, like an official phone directory or the Comcast website itself.

Get in touch with them using that information.

So. Let's run the example both ways it could go.

If it IS a scam: you reach out to Comcast and tell them you were contacted about a problem with your bill, they look you up in their customer database, and they tell you there is no problem with your bill.

If it's NOT a scam, you do the same thing, they look you up, and they explain the problem. In this case, neither Comcast nor the employees involved give a single shit whether or not you clicked the link in the text vs. going through their official website.

This works the same for the your bank, the IRS, Amazon, political causes, charities, everything.

By handling any questionable incoming calls to action this way, you significantly protect yourself from scams and malware and shit

[mousidy]

can we get one day a year where it's just trans women on earth

[transsexual-feminism]

Unironically that would be so wonderful. I might even go swimming, and I definitely would go to bars or similar spaces I'd be too scared of otherwise.

Transmisogyny so deeply effects the ways in which I am interpreted in social spaces that its (incomplete, admittedly, given internalized transmisogyny would still exist) removal from those spaces would instantly change my behaviour. Even things like grocery shopping and my job would be just a joy if transfems were the only people who I saw.

[wirelessmousegirl]

There inventing a new kind of sadness and its called "the look in a trans woman's eye when she looks at a public swimming pool"

[cryptotheism]

Given how often solar eclipse are used to date historical events, I think an international calendar should begin on the day of the first recorded total solar eclipse.

[cryptotheism]

If scientist are right about some Irish petroglyphs, it is currently the year 5365. Christ was born in 3340. The Egyptian middle kingdom period lasted from 1300 to 1558. The Ottoman empire took Constantinople in 4793. Star Wars episode IV was released in 5312.

[t4nku]

I legit needed to hear this

[demilypyro]

"i just don't see why you think jax is a trans woman" okay well watch the entire show again with your eyes and ears open this time

[autogynophelia]

One of the ways transmisogyny manifests is in default-uncharitable interpretations of ambiguous meaning.

Last week I was at a meetup where I was the only transfem. I checked the groupchat when I arrived and there was a message from the organiser: "We have a newcomer called X, can you look out for him if you get there first?" I located X, introduced myself, sent a message to the chat say, "I have located X," and continued to talk to him until the organiser arrived. When the organiser arrived, she was not happy with me. It turned out my phone had autocorrected, "I have located X," to, "I had located X," which the organiser interpreted as me passive aggressively telling her that I had already done the thing she was asking about. Her conclusion: I was unreasonable and aggressive in responding to her reasonable request. My explaining what had happened didn't convince her otherwise.

A different occasion last week: in a local trans groupchat, a trans man sent a link to a drag event happening in our town. A few people said they were already going, some said they might go. Then a trans woman replied saying, "Thanks, but I don't really like drag." Her tone was immediately called into question. Her words were assumed to communicate: "I think you are a terrible person if you like drag," even though she never said that. Several non-transfems who had never even heard that drag might not be universally-beloved by everyone were upset to discover that fact. A trans woman simply saying she didn't like this thing became A Big Deal.

Meanwhile, at a different event again, a trans man told a group that he was straight and attracted to women, but he wouldn't feel comfortable bringing home an "AMAB woman" (yes he actually said that). It was quickly brushed over, and after he had left even trans women tried to defend him by saying "he probably didnt realise people would be offended" etc etc. In contrast to the examples above, he is not even aware that anyone was upset by what he said, never mind worrying about what consequences he might face.

Whenever I go to an event, I often spend the next 24-48 hours ruminating over every single thing I said to check if I did anything at any time that could even vaguely be construed as annoying to anyone. I have often put this behaviour down to severe anxiety, but I think I am realising that it is actually a rational response to a world where even the slightest social misstep could be blown way out of proportion and result in my later social exclusion. It's one of those things that existed long before I was aware of my own transness but while I was nonetheless transmisogynised by society, a crippling fear of the slightest imperfection that I assumed everyone else felt too but apparently they don't. I guess when other people go out of their way to smoothe over the damage your words or actions might cause, you don't need to stress about that damage because there are no consequences to it! It sounds very nice to be able to live like that.

[pansyfemme]

sorry for displaying suicidal tendancies do you still think im hot

[viviprotrudes]

"I will never swim again until and unless I get surgery."

"This is why I try so hard to protect my trans sister, she has to deal with so much of this all of the time."

"And this is why I will never learn how to swim"

"I never go swimming, unless it's an event that explicitely mention that Trans Women are welcome"

And other such tags I am vaguely paraphrasing are ones I have had the horror of reading on my post. The trans girls are not swimming. It feels like there is a hole in my body where my heart should be, through which all my blood is pouring. I can't.

[kayla-denker]

The overwhelmingly positive reactions to my post about transfem periods from tme people has given me a lot of hope. I was not expecting this at all, and is the complete opposite of how my experience has been up until now.

I was not exaggerating when I said that I've never had a tme person react positively towords me talking about it before. Online or offline.

Please keep listening to trans women. You have no idea how much we need this.

[transsexual-feminism]

This is transfeminism!

[kosmogrl]

firm believe that not everything happens for a reason, sometimes things are just cruel. and they shouldn’t have happened and it’s not supposed to be a lesson because we never deserved such thing.

[kosmogrl]

hm some people in my inbox got really mad at this specifically. nothing you can say will convince me that some of the pain and suffering we go through is our “fate” no, it isn’t

[youthincare]

people should be allowed to have low ambition, and also be able to feed a family on the salary of a cashier at a convenience store.

[serendippertyy]

happy pride to transfem jax,,, anytime someone draws transfem jax fairies are born and flowers bloom...

[partypuppy-nastja]

Trans Women Face More Injuries Than Cis Ones (It's Not Even Close)

Transgender women face more injuries than cisgender peers

A new study found that injury rates among transgender women are significantly higher than injuries among cisgender women, based on radiologi

❝Transgender women in the study group suffered 8x times as many head injuries as the controls, 36x as many facial injuries, and 5x times as many chest injuries.❞

So much for "protecting women".

[partypuppy-nastja]

For all those wondering why the title doesn't say this, it's because the study doesn't say this either.

While the cause of the injuries may be obvious, it's not technically known, and science speaks for what is known.

Some (a minority) of the trans women injured reported that it was violence, and some (a smaller minority) reported that it was intimate partner violence, but most did not report anything and the stats are just from the fact that they needed treatment and so went through the radiology department with their injuries.

[partypuppy-nastja]

Getting a lot of reblogs saying "undescribed" and "no image ID" etc, so please be aware that I did add alt text shortly after posting (it was a pain to copy on my phone so I did it on my desktop), but by then, it had already been reblogged by a couple of big blogs, so this alt-texted version is languishing, please do reblog it!

[badgersandbees]

Protip from one TME to the rest: stop taking it so goddamn personally.

Accept that transmisogynised people are hurt daily by those who are not transmisogynised. Period. The girls are allowed to be fucking exhausted by it and if you can't see WHY, if you must argue "but what about these marginalized people in this identity??", then you've already lost the plot.

What about the people they (TME people) are HURTING? Why are TMA people not allowed to express their frustration and pain? Why do the feelings of trans and nb people who stand to gain socially from hurting trans women matter more than the feelings of trans women? Why do they constantly become the priority?

You're failing feminism 101 and it's embarrassing.