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i'm shy (she/her). if you follow me you will be witness to hundreds and hundreds of inane ramblings interspersed with me popping the fuck off on main. i don't tag my posts or like other people's posts unless i'm doing a bit most of the time. more in pin if you even care

[realshy]

About Shy

i'm Shy👋my pronouns are she and her and hers and that's it and i'm somewhere in my twenties. i identify with trans, transfem, and tma labels unless you ask me how i identify and then i stop talking

i change this pinned post allll the time (once every three months)

hey you should inject estradiol enanthate

yes i have a degree in sociology. no it isn't a very good degree. yes that sentence wasn't very specific. no i don't think i know everything. yes i do think i know enough to make certain factual statements, particularly when those statements are based on my lived experiences

[katelyn-danger]

Yes, it is fed bullshit to create infighting between two marginalized groups, and then presenting it as feminism is toxic and stupid. You’re 28, act like a fucking adult with a developed frontal lobe and grow up. Victimhood for fucking life number one fan here

Feminism isn't infighting. You are illiterate scum.

[realshy]

"infighting between two groups" anon what do you think the word 'infighting' means

[lakemojave]

Hey mutuals can I give you my spores

[lakemojave]

Reblog if mutuals can give you their spores

[realshy]

that kinda day, huh

[realshy]

it turns out that in a culture of puritanism and self-censorship, all-the-way-through horsecock somno is normie shit and genuine expression of small heartfelt emotion is freak behavior. what the hell

[lakemojave]

Hey mutuals can I give you my spores

[lakemojave]

Reblog if mutuals can give you their spores

[realshy]

that kinda day, huh

[k-mraz]

Pros of vampirism: cool commissions from over 100 years ago. Cons? You have to pay to see them.

[realshy]

lmaoooo imagine paying for a commission twice. L vampire

[catboybiologist]

My apparently wild and radical take is that trans women can literally just dress like women without much "accomodation"

"but what about hiding your-" I guarantee you women's clothes already does that, and you need it less than you think

"but what about adding padding to-" there are women's clothes that do that, also you need it less than you think

"but I don't think women's clothes will accommodate my proportions" I'm guessing that they will, and if you've been in HRT for any noticeable amount of time, they will likely fit better than men's clothes

Like I had my whole "femboy guide" pre transition, but that was a different vibe entirely.

If you want my advice on how to dress now, it would literally just be:

Take what you currently wear

Look at the woman's cut version of it

Size it properly

Wear it the correct way (eg, use the waist that women's clothes are made for)

There's a lot of clothes that's made "specifically for" trans women. Aside from very specific things (like tucking) I think most of it is garbage. Not to mention the absolute horrible ways that they're often marketed, rolling in trans women's everyday clothes with crossdressers and fetish gear.

When a trans woman first transitions, I've found that they're immediately BOMBARDED with "fashion advice" that is A, extremely othering and sometimes dysphoria inducing, and B, oftentimes outright garbage and uses old school crossdressing/drag advice that often fails to account for the effects of HRT, or doesn't come off as a more casual look.

I do think there's value in guides that are more in the zone of "hey, you've only been taught about men's fashion and clothes your whole life, here's the basics of women's fashion to catch you up to speed" but I've yet to find one that doesn't devolve into a weird "hide everything about your body, tran" kind of tone.

Quick preemptive Q&A

Are you saying that trans women CAN'T wear men's clothes and/or be butch?

No, I'm saying that women's clothes DOES fit and accommodate trans women's proportions, but most people refuse to believe that.

So you're a gender conformist then? Just molded to the binary system of fashion?

The last thing society wants a trans woman to be, is a woman. The most radical thing you can be is yourself, and sometimes yourself is a woman.

But what if I don't want to dress in women's clothes?!?

Good for you, then don't

[catboybiologist]

Fuckit, here's my bullet point fashion guide for trans women. This is stuff that applies to ALL women but trans women specifically will not have learned earlier in childhood.

Your waist is high. Higher than that. It's over your belly button. Yes it'll feel high waisted. Yes it'll also feel good. If your hips are getting wider, this is where pants will try to sit naturally anyways, and anything else will be uncomfortable.

On that note, the lack of pockets on women's pants actually does have a functional undertone. Having pockets at the waistline creates a VERY uncomfortable "pivot point" between your stomach and your legs, meaning if you put your keys or phone in pockets of women's pants, they're gonna jab you in the stomach.

THAT SAID, if you DO want pockets, I'm not gonna stop you. But get cargo pants!!! Women's cargo pants look SO nice, and thigh pockets are a godsend. They're more functional and more comfortable with growing hips.

Yes, women's cuts actually do make a fair bit of difference, and yes, you will fit and look more feminine in a women's cut. Even if it's a women's cut of jeans and a t shirt.

"unisex" clothing is oftentimes just men's clothing rebranded. I'm sorry but it's true. A lot of it will drape over you in boxy ways, since the "visual size" of a men's cut is almost entirely defined by the shoulders and upper body. This looks bad if you have wide shoulders or large boobs. It looks REALLY bad if you have wide shoulders AND large boobs, like I do. (Side note, the solution to degendering this should probably be something along the lines of giving the two cuts neutral names, like "shoulder cut" and "waist cut")

Bra sizing is a mystic art. No chart, calculator, or online tool will get you anywhere close to just trying on a variety of them yourself. They're a necessary starting point, but they're not going to get it right. Doesn't have to be an actual fitting, doesn't have to involve another human being, just grab a couple and try them all on. Hell, order them online and return the ones that don't fit if you're too nervous about being seen at all.

Don't make any fashion goal to "hide" anything (apart from tucking tbh, but tucking is less dramatic than a lot of other stuff imo). This isn't even primarily a self confidence point (although that's a great side effect) it's a point that if you spend too much effort or emphasis in "hiding" something, the rest of the fit is going to fall away from you or be guided by that in restricting ways. It also might call a lot of unnecessary attention to the exact thing you're trying to hide- and oftentimes, the only reason you wanted to hide it is because you're overly self conscious about something that's falling within normal variation. Choker to hide an Adam's apple? Now you're both calling attention to your neck, and are limited to outfits that work with that choker. Too much stuff over the shoulders to hide them? Now you're limited to things that cover the shoulders, and are also adding more padding or material to them. This point is deprogramming. The fashion choices that trans women are having imposed upon them to look more cis are not only a result of cis bullying, but oftentimes achieve the opposite effect than what people want.

[pokeballvictimized]

i wonder if i'll still have a blog tomorrow when i wake up!!!! it looks like posts are getting deleted right off my blog so idkkkkkkkkkkkk

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

well that didn't take long, less than an hour. @staff do you wonder why we loathe you?

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

please note that none of you would have seen this if I hadn't reblogged it because I believed her. can you please believe me that it happens so much more often than you hear about? the only rare thing here is that it's too obvious to miss.

[butter-n-breadrolls]

the other elves welcoming Legolas in Valinor

[daughter-of-sapph0]

"HRT IS BEING FORCED ONTO CHILDREN AND UT HAS AN INCREDIBLY HIGH REGRET RATE" they scream, denying all the facts and the actual amount of people who stop taking hrt (which is roughly 1%), ignoring how incredibly expensive it is, refusing to acknowledge the difficulties in actually finding a doctor to even prescribe it to you at all, and pretending that this button isn't a requirement for literally everyone taking it

the only reason someone would "regret" hrt is if they changed their mind (which yeah, that happens), or they lied and didn't read the box before taking it.

hon, its not the hrt thats dangerous. its you. dont choke on arsenic because it looks like candy

[daughter-of-sapph0]

detrans cisgirl after taking the medicine that makes you a man, reading all the benefits risks and side effects of the medice that makes you a man, and telling a doctor that she wants to be a man: "I dIdNt KnOw ThAt ThIs MeDiCiNe WoUlD mAkE mE a MaN!!!!"

[realshy]

isn't it, like, soooo~ weird how you don't see all that many men who tried estrogen and didn't like it. all these "'detransitioners'" went on testosterone and didn't like it. real strange. wonder if there's any material basis in that or if it's just a wacky coincidence.

[sport-news-daily]

rubber ball leather ball cloth ball wooden ball stone ball glass ball light ball diamond ball missing ball super ball secret ball

[realshy]

but none of them are as precious as <3 my balls <3

[andouilles]

i accidentally did a speed run strat during my birthday dark souls shock collar stream

[whitechocolatespaceegg]

Happy Pride

[lesbianbloodritual]

so how do i tell you this

[estrogenesis-vaporeongelion]

That wasp is a spider wasp! I can't see the wings enough to tell you if its Pepsis, Hemipepsis, Entypus or Calopompilus or what but you're looking at something in Pompilidae im sure.

SICK

[realshy]

i need a metal gear prequel game with this sort of dialogue. snake is like nine and is running around some random town in the US and yeah he still has a gun don't worry about it. he calls otacon on his flipphone when he sees a cool bug or a weird car or school gets canceled or he gets a weird feeling in his stomach when he looks at skirts in his size

[emnesoi0]

HOLY SHIT

[0x4468c7a6a728]

Joe Biden dies at 83

IT'S REAL???

[maidslime]

life is like dark souls 1. it's better than dark souls 2 and you can find a halberd if you look for it

nod nod *taking notes*

[txttletale]

ub in standard doesn't just make magic into a stupid clownshow it also literally makes ub worse... all sorts of random minor characters got extermely unique cool evocative top-down designs in WHO, 40K, PIP, but all they can think of for a card called "loki, god of mischief" is the most generic draw engine ever put to cardboard? this sucks man

[realshy]

how is exactly is "this ability triggers only once each turn" supposed to match the foolish heroes trick for trick??? and then some???