Men's Rights Activists are always complaining about feminists being misandrists. This blog exists to show that anti-feminists are the real misandrists. Anti-feminists, while trying to justify misogyny, end up promoting harmful stereotypes about men at the same time. But most people who complain about "misandry" only care when feminists do it.
Feel free to submit anything involving anti-feminists enforcing gender roles, treating violence as normal male behavior, trivializing a problem that men can experience, or anything else that can be interpreted as misandry.
Submissions may also involve other privileges.
The purpose of this blog is to show those who believe in misandry that most negative attitudes about men come from other men trying to enforce their power over women, and the same for other types of privilege. The purpose is not to imply that the negative attitudes about men are the most important thing to care about at the time.
Man: "There's nothing wrong with what I did because all men do it."
Both the man and the woman are generalizing that men do something. The difference is that the woman is trying to stop it while the man is trying to justify it.
If you find yourself being offended by the woman and not by the man, then you're admitting that generalizing men as doing something sexist isn't what bothers you. What bothers you is the expectation that men stop.
Pay attention to who gets classified as misandrists.
Landlords who hoard houses and cops who criminalize homelessness are not classified as misandrists, even though homelessness is listed as an example of misandry.
CEOs who prioritize profit over worker safety are not classified as misandrists, even though workplace death is listed as an example of misandry.
Politicians who create wars are not classified as misandrists, even though combat death is listed as an example of misandry.
Parents who consider their children to be property are not classified as misandrists, even though circumcision is listed as an example of misandry.
Even overprotective fathers who stockpile guns and fantasize about the opportunity to shoot teenage boys are not classified as misandrists.
They list so many problems as examples of misandry. But they reserve the "misandrist" label for women who choose the bear instead of for the actual source of those problems.
But for some strange reason, MRAs are awfully silent about it. And yet again, it's because generalizations about men are considered okay when they're excuses to violate, control, or put down women. When women start defending themselves, that's when generalizations about men suddenly start counting as misandrist.
A man stockpiles guns because he fantasizes about the opportunity to shoot his daughter's boyfriend. Those same men support him.
Those men consider it okay to generalize men, even to the point of threatening their lives, as long as it's men doing it to uphold their power and to treat women like property. But when women try to keep themselves safe, that's when those men suddenly decide to be offended.
I saw a video in which a man told a woman that she needs to lower her standards because otherwise she'll be 35 and alone. He said that no man will want her because they'll all want women who are much younger.
He literally generalized all men as being predators.
Women are not generalizing men. Women are only being hesitant around men in order to stay safe. But gross men? They're the ones projecting their grossness on all men. They're the ones downright demanding that women believe all men are just as bad in order to stop those women from finding better.
Did I just read a generalization about men? Not from a feminist, but from a predatory man?
No one generalizes men more than asshole men who desperately want to believe that their assholery is normal. If you're angry about generalizations of men, start there.
Also, how old do you expect your wife to be if her parents are still controlling her decisions? Even if she's legally an adult, if she can't make decisions that her parents don't approve of, then she's too young for you.
A man does something nice for a woman he cares about. Someone accuses him of just trying to get laid.
But it ain't feminists accusing him. It's other men.
He could easily be gay, asexual, in a relationship with someone else, or otherwise not interested in her. But men who only care about getting laid can't even fathom the possibility that other men are capable of genuinely caring about women.
A sexist douchebag assumes that all men feel a certain way just because he does.
So where are the angry MRAs demanding that he stop generalizing men?
Oh, wait. Generalizations about men are only wrong when women do it to protect themselves. When men do it in a way that can be used against women, it's totally okay.
Anti-Feminists: "The fact that some feminists say 'kill all men', even if you can count on one hand how many have said that, is all the proof you need that all feminists are man-hating terrorists."
Overprotective Fathers: "I stockpile guns because I fantasize about the opportunity to murder my daughter's boyfriend."
Anti-Feminists: "I am completely okay with this. Your generalization about men and your desire to kill them have my full support."