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Oh hi new besties. Iām glad that post continues to resonate with so many people. ššāŗļø
But! Iām never really on here and I donāt keep up with the latest standom nonsense anymore. Iām sorry! Please enjoy (or āenjoyā) this blog as an archive.
Big love,
Reason
Thanks for your response! There's some dispute over whether she was with him in ATL the whole time but she likely was there at least some time, she went to Czechia while he was filming (her manager & mom both visited her), and now she's in Mexico, and Deuxmoi posted that Seb was seen in Tulum Mexico. So it would seem like they're rarely if ever apart. I agree that his stubbornness is likely playing a part in this. I just wonder why he seems so weary and tired if she's so great.
I guess the only thing I will add to this is that I cannot count the number of times Iāve seen anons or mods wailing about how tired and depressed he looks in the time Iāve been running this blog. Itās a constant thing in this fandom. I think we might all have to accept that thatās just.. his face when heās not in heavier film/tv makeup.
Reason! Good to see you again. Your babies are adorable. I hope you're doing well. I hate to ask this, but I'm curious to know what you think: why is Seb seemingly incapable of being apart from Ale for even a day, when he didn't even live with his other girlfriends? Is there really something great about her that only he sees, or is he just desperate? I thought it was PR at first but the fact they've been together all this time suggests it isn't. It's still very weird though.
Thank you!! Also hmm (tbqh I havenāt been following things on the seabass side so take my thoughts with a larger grain of salt than usual and feel free to follow up w more context) ... are they really spending every day together or are we just inferring that?
Either way I do take your point that theyāve seemed preeeetty inseparable w travelling. Idk maybe they really are just getting along insanely well and have enough sexy chemistry that itās working. I also tend to think that Seb is probably being insanely stubborn about this, like a true fuckin Leo lol. In my experience of š¦ they would rather pretend that nothing is wrong in a relationship than suffer through the indignity of a breakup, and this one would be more embarrassing than usual for him given, yknow, everything. I also think Seb absolutely hates to be seen as allowing himself to be influenced by the fandom. As far as the PR side of things, I truly do not know anything about that industry, but I feel like it looks worse for him to ditch her anytime soon bc it makes it look like he did all that stuff for a short term rs.
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I MISS YOU COME BACK, BUT ALSO STAY AWAY FOR YOUR OWN SANITY.
hahaha i donāt intend to be back for good but i like to pop in to see how all my friends are doing. ššššš whatās the haps!?
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alright friends how we doing out there? today is the fourth Tuesday of possibly one of the longest weeks in recorded history. tell your emotional support Canadian how to help. do we need to play a game or do some anon recs and anons helping anons. do we need to just vent? I can answer actual seabass asks if that would help.
Loved your post. This kind of reasonable post (see what I did there) has been sorely missed the past couple of months. Thank you.
I will never ever EVER stop being delighted when yāall do a cute lil play on āreasonableā š
AHH GOSH tbh I kinda dropped that long post and ran (logged out) bc I was really scared of what the response would be. Iām so glad it resonated with some of you! Iām really not back nor planning to be (I took my own advice for once lol) but I do still love popping in every once in a while. Thanks for the kind words and thoughts on that post yāall. ā£ļøā£ļøā£ļø
Iām going to warn you, Iām posting this on multiple blogs ONLY because Iām hoping someone on his team, or maybe even Seb himself sees it, and NOT to be one of those annoying anons. Iām hoping we can spread this and stop the madness because itās breaking my heart to think this could possibly be the real Sebastian Stan. He may not care about his fandom right now, but who does he think buys con stuff, or movie merchandise and pays tons and tons of money to meet him? For normal people like us, thatās a lot of money to fork out because we are not born into it like some yacht girls are. Itās not just the random people or casual fans who see his movies. When my husband took me to see The Last Full Measure, our friends came too. They wouldnāt have seen it in the theatre unless I had picked it. If regular fans had to pick between Bucky and bigger marvel characters, theyāre not picking Bucky. People like us are picking Bucky (or used to). Iād pick him over RDJ, but I doubt any of my kids or husband would! Thatās what he isnāt thinking about. Seb has lost his marbles and I am hoping if someone sees this that is close to him, it may be his first marble he picks back up. - - - XOXO
Iām actually going to answer this because I see you absolutely twisting yourself into knots over this and Iāve been told much of the fandom is in a similar state. Let me get real real with you here. I really say this, from the bottom of my heart, with love.
There is no madness to stop (other than the madness of wealth and privilege and I can assure you that aināt gonna change by āourā efforts). All of the people involved are adult humans with careers, relationships, all the associated responsibilities of life. They have the best health care and therapy money can buy. They have teams and families and support networks that many of us could only dream of.
There is no ārealā Sebastian Stan for us. The sooner everyone accepts that we do not know that man, the better.
(Iām giving that its own paragraph because itās the most important thing Iām saying. If you donāt hear anything else I say, take this one home with you.)
Since we are not able to know him as a real human, we create narratives based on his actions. The absence of coherence between your narrative of him and his actions is whatās hurting you right now. And I donāt say that to diminish the hurt. The hurt is real. Iāve felt it and I deeply regret that youāre feeling it.
Letās say Seb dumps Ale tomorrow, flies back to NY after filming, never again travels during a global pandemic. How does that erase his actions for you? How does that change the fact that he is a person who does those things, which we can safely assert, because he did those things.
I feel like some people want there to be some dramatic reason that he would act this way. Like the shadowy forces of the agency, āPRā, whatever. Would it comfort you for him to be doing all of this because some mysterious PR person told him to? It does the opposite for me, that a man with so much privilege and freedom would go against his own morals because someone told him to. (Ditto the āAle is changing himā idea, which also has deeply problematic layers of misogyny and āevil seductressā vibes that frankly are beneath all of us to buy into.)
I need yāall to accept, for your own sakes, the basic premise that: Sebastian is doing what heās doing because he wants to and/or he doesnāt not want to.
How can I make this clearer? His actions matter. They fucking matter! The way we move through the world matters. Iām not saying heās evil, but he is a person who made choices. He canāt go back to the old Sebastian because that person never existed except in our fantasies (this is a loaded word choice but I stand by it). He has always, fundamentally, been the same person, and no matter what he does in the future he will continue to be the person who did these things. His actions canāt be erased. They can certainly be forgiven, if that would make you feel better, but it wonāt matter to him.
I feel like you also think he owes the fandom something when it comes to his personal life and behaviours. He does not. He never has.
I really really hope for your sake that you are able to come to accept the marbles where they are. There is no swooping avenger coming to save us from Seb being Seb. If those marbles are tripping you up this much, I really think you need to reevaluate this fandomās presence in your life and the energy (and the type of energy, positive or negative) youāre devoting to it. Then allow yourself to sweep those marbles out the door and move on. Not right away. Give yourself the time and space to grieve this. Even if Seb isnāt, the emotions are real. I have to say again, I was there. I wish I could sit with you as you experience them. I wish I could make you a cup of tea.
I know things are hard right now and itās difficult to imagine filling the void where this fandom was. I can tell you from personal experience that you will find something to fill that void. Youāll be able to look back on this with fondness, maybe some nostalgia, a wry chuckle. You will find something else that brings you joy. You will bring these lessons into your new fandom and you will be wiser and stronger for it. You will feel that rush of love and excitement and creative energy for something new. It feels fucking amazing. Be strong enough to go after it.
Big luv,
RS
who needs a hug?? [internet hugs are safe]
"Am I nuts or is it just me or does Seb have no eyebrows in that Bucky pic??" Maybe im the only one with good eyesight but i have always noticed that his eyebrow hair didn't fall off it just went gray you can actually see the hair if you squint its just blond/white now
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I know you donāt really like to talk about Evans but anyone has any idea what happened to the blog quarantinewithevans?
I have no idea but letās see if anyone can help you
I wonder if he ever washes that newsboy cap he loves so much. Or if heās never washed/cleaned it in the years decade dunno(??) heās had it š he loves his hats š š§¢ I think itās cute when he randomly puts them on backwards š ā„ļø
I hope it gets thrown in the wash at least once in a while!!!
Am I nuts or is it just me or does Seb have no eyebrows in that Bucky pic??
Idk which pic but his eyebrows are a problem in general lol
I saw on twitter that there are kids who are holding memorials for Chadwick Boseman with their BP action figuers and it absolutely shattered my heart to see these kids mourn their hero. It's incredible to see how big of an impact he had on so many people's lives. I hope he's in a better place and I'm sending love to each and every one of you who a mourning. š
Oh that is so heartbreaking. Thank you for sharing and for sending love. ā¤ļø
How does the buzz cut look? Better or worse for his hairline.. struggles?// he still looks good! He normally doesnāt like having a lot of hair but then wants hair? Very indecisive or very Gemini. When he goes mr. clean bald then I might have some questions
