mine.

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“The woman you are becoming will cost you people, relationships, spaces, and material things. Choose her over everything.”

— Unknown

[psych2go]

cr:  secondsapart

[brilliantlybeloved]

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[wildbpd-deactivated20200301]

Negative and Positive Coping Skills

Negative Coping Skills

Diversions

Procrastination 

Abusing Drugs and/or alcohol

Wasting time on unimportant tasks

Interpersonal (With Others)

Blaming

Isolating/withdrawing 

Mean or hostile joking 

Gossiping 

Criticizing Others 

Manipulating Others 

Refusing help from others 

Lying to others 

Sabotaging plans

Being late to appointments 

Provoking violence from others

Enabling others to take advantage of you

Cognitive (Of the mind) 

Denying any problem 

Stubbornness

Black and white thinking 

Catastrophizing 

Overgeneralizing 

Tension Releasers 

Tantrums

Throwing things at people

Hitting people 

Yelling at others 

Destroying property

Speeding or diving recklessly 

Intrapersonal 

Making fun of yourself

Self-sabotaging behaviors ‘

Blaming yourself 

Indulging 

Spending too much 

Gambling 

Eating too much 

Setting dangerous fires 

Positive Coping Skills 

Diversions

Write, draw, paint, do photography 

Play an instrument, sing, dance 

Take a shower or a bath 

Garden 

Take a walk, or go for a drive 

Watch television or a movie

Watch cute animal videos on YouTube 

Play a game 

Go shopping (but don’t over spend)

Clean or organize your environment 

Read

Take a break 

Talk with someone you trust 

Set boundaries and say “no”

Write a note to someone you care about 

Be assertive

Spend time with friends and/or family 

Serve someone in need 

Care for or play with a pet 

Role-play challenging situations with others 

Encourage others 

Cognitive (Of the mind)

Make a gratitude list

Write a list of goals 

Take a class 

Reward or pamper yourself when you are successful 

Write a list of pros and cons for decisions 

Write a list of strengths 

Accept a challenge with a positive attitude 

Tension Releasers 

Cry

Laugh 

Pray or meditate 

Eat healthy foods 

Get into a good routine 

Eat a little chocolate 

Limit caffeine 

Deep/slow breathing 

Get enough sleep

Enjoy nature 

Limit Setting 

Schedule time for yourself 

Prioritize important tasks 

[killitwithyoursword]

Vincent & Theo Van Gogh 

Hannah Gadsby in Nanette (2018) // At Eternity’s Gate dir. Julian Schnabel (2018) // Loving Vincent dir. Dorota Kobiela & Hugh Welchman (2017) // Vincent Van Gogh in a letter to Theo Van Gogh (1880) // Almond Blossoms by Vincent Van Gogh (1890); painted as a gift for the birth of his brother Theo’s son named after him

[soracities]

“It is not immediately obvious which of Zadkine’s figures is Vincent and which is Theo. Like all who relieve the suffering of others, Theo—in a process that is the exact opposite of a blood transfusion—has taken some of Vincent’s pain into himself. Soon, however, it becomes obvious that while the sky weighs heavily on both figures, one, Vincent, feels gravity as a force so terrible it can drag men beneath the earth. From this moment on you are held by the pathos and beauty of what Zadkine depicts: despair that is inconsolable, comfort that is endless. One figure says, “I can never feel better,” the other, “I will hold you until you are better.”

Geoff Dyer on Ossip Zadkine’s sculpture of Vincent and Theo Van Gogh (from “Blues for Vincent”, Otherwise Known as the Human Condition)

[drunkharry]

this book website gives you the first page of a random book without the title or author so that you can read it with no preconceptions!!! great for discovering new recs

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Cuddles pittbull (by: akirablackpit)

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I Won’t Give Up

When I look into your eyes, it’s like watching the night sky, or a beautiful sunrise, there’s so much they hold. And just like them old stars, I see that you’ve come so far, to be right where you are. How old is your soul?

Well, I won’t give up on us, even if the skies get rough. I’m giving you all my love… I’m still looking up.

And when you’re needing your space, to do some navigating

I’ll be here patiently waiting, to see what you find.

‘Cause even the stars, they burn, some even fall to the Earth. We’ve got a lot to learn… and God knows we’re worth it.

Well, I won’t give up on us, even if the skies get rough. I’m giving you all my love… I’m still looking up.

I don’t want to be someone who walks away so easily. I’m here to stay and make the difference that I can make. Our differences, they do a lot to teach us how to use. The tools and gifts we got yeah, we got a lot at stake.

And in the end, you’re still my friend at least we did intend. For us to work we didn’t break, we didn’t burn. We had to learn how to bend without the world caving in. I had to learn what I’ve got and what I’m not and who I am

Well, I won’t give up on us, even if the skies get rough. I’m giving you all my love… I’m still looking up.

I won’t give up on us (no I’m not giving up). God knows I’m tough enough (I am tough, I am loved). We’ve got a lot to learn (we’re alive, we are loved). God knows we’re worth it (and we’re worth it)

Well, I won’t give up on us, even if the skies get rough. I’m giving you all my love… I’m still looking up.

[harmed]

via weheartit

[protect-and-love-cats]

Relationship goals

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[brilliantlybeloved]

Those freckles make you seem like a galaxy of stars, just waiting to be explored and loved.
Nikita Gill