Why is it that men are afraid and don’t want their spouse, significant other to change their hair to a natural state! Men are all for the liberation of naturalism and acknowledging spirituality. Only until that partner comes with a new hairstyle representing a natural state and reclaiming her true self!
Women feel and need the ownership of loving themselves and the hair that God gave them regardless of how it looks or the steps needed to get there. So they take on that returning to nature and start to embrace what texture they have and what was given to them. With that we begin to learn to care for our natural hair properly and do what’s is healthy and makes us happy!
I remember when I started my hair journey around 8 years ago while suffering from thyroids; which keep making my hair falling out and do to scalp sensitivity from perming, I knew it was necessary for my well-being to make a change. I wasn’t sure how my fiancée would take the change, but nevertheless, I’m going to go natural! I decided to start my natural hair journey.”
I felt it might have been easier to let the perm grow out, for his comfort and cut away little by little, but what a mess. So one day while home alone, I decided to do the big chop! I instantly fell in love with my refound hair! It brought me back to remembering getting those heat presses that my grandmother did every Saturday night and the burnt ears from me moving so much. How was I going to handle this hair, how would I look? All of these things impacted my thoughts, but nevertheless, I knew what I need to do! Cut it off! I did a lot of research looked up styles and decided I will let my hair take on the direction it wanted to go!!
I still didn’t believe the sense of his disconcertment and lack of understanding that was happening over me caring and taking self preservation over my hair, body and life! I began to feel free and I didn’t care about how he felt about my hair, often times he would walk by and just keep feeling it, and I see him shaking his head! I struggle on alone and wore my TWA without reservation.
As I was learning my hair and starting out, He often said It looks terrible and what am I going to do with it! He said I was bald and looked like a man! I wore did the (TWA) teeny weeny Afro, the twists and wore a headband! My friends also, often said those natural hair styles aren’t very attractive. Do you really plan to walk around town with an afro all the time? I no longer cared what anyone thought of what I needed for myself!
I’ve been relaxing my hair for 37 years, putting up with these painful headsores and pain in my head after perming. After my hair started falling out from my medical condition, I knew I had to do something different. To think-of his insensitive and his feelings that I was unattractive became bothersome simply because of the way I decide to wear my hair. It was very upsetting so I asked what makes it so ugly, in your eyes and why does my hair make you see me differently now? “No answer”
Men are not aware of what it takes to maintain the stresses and pressures of what you see as good hair, they don’t even understand hair maintenance and what permed or natural hair requires! It all is alot of work, but being natural is a true sense of being true in every form of the word! Getting back to being yourself is key to understanding, balancing your thoughts and actions and leveling up your engergy field!
“Never allow anyone to steal your Joy”
