gold dust woman

riley sage maas. 20. fire & earth. botany major at wittlich universtiy.

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katiebobaetie‌:

I think his name is Ferdinand.  What do you think?  It’s very royal and regal, just like he’s going to grow up to be!  Look at these vines.  What a handsome guy.

I ran into her at the farmers market, and she just seemed a little anxious.  I was worried it had something to do with the djinn, but I didn’t want to pry, especially not in public.  I just wanted to make sure she is okay.  I’m glad she was able to come talk to you– if anyone is the perfect friend, it is you, babe!

That is the perfect name! Should we put him on the shelf above the window?

Thank you.  I’m sure she’ll be okay.  She just needed some advice, though I’m not sure how much help I was.  But it was unrelated to the djinn.

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katiebobaetie‌:

I got us a new plant baby!  And I was thinking about making some tea.  Do you want some?

Oh, hey, is Sandy okay?

Tea sounds wonderful! Have you named our new plant baby yet?

I think she might be. Just needed a friend the other day. Why?

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katiebobaetie‌:

Maybe…

What’s up, babe?

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katiebobaetie‌:

Hey! In the mood for some company?

Is that a trick question?

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sandyriv‌:

Thanks, Riley!

And thank you for being so nice and talking to me about…everything we talked about.  I really, really appreciate it!

Of course! That’s what friends are for!

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sandyriv‌:

Yay!

I definitely do!  And Allison and you are both way better party planners than me!  Although I have orchestrated some pretty good surprises for my family for birthdays and stuff…which is so not on the same level as a college party.

Well, we can show you the ropes on that!

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sandyriv‌:

We should!  Can we?

Really?  I just felt like I was so weird for never having been on a date or anything!  But a party, I can do a party!  I’ve been to a party, now that I met you guys!

Um, yes! Totally!

And we can work on planning this party while we eat them.  Though....we should probably bring Allison in on this.  That girl throws a killer party.  Not literally, killer.  Even though she’s....you know what I mean!

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sandyriv‌:

Who doesn’t love cupcakes?  Although donuts are definitely my favorite!

So, um…I’ve never actually been on a date of like…any kind.

With cake or pie or…like a human…person.

Donuts!  We should get some!

Oh, don’t worry about that.  I hadn’t dated anyone before Katie.  We can start small.  Like a group thing.  Where it’s not really a date, it’s more hanging out.  Like a party or something!

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sandyriv‌:

Do you really think so?

It’s just…I don’t even really know how I feel yet, except for confused, I guess.  It’s like the whole cake-pie analogy; I feel like when I was growing up, all of my friends always said cake was so good, and I always thought cake was okay, but never as great as everyone thought, but if I said I didn’t feel like cake then people thought I was so weird, so I was always trying to think up a favorite type of cake or something, and I thought maybe I was weird.  And then I started thinking, I’ve never tried pie, and maybe I like pie?  …Metaphorical cake and pie, I mean.  In reality, I like both cake and pie a lot.

I know so.

As far as cake and pie go though, in the literal sense.  Clearly they’re equally wonderful in their own ways.  Even if I’m more of a cupcake kind of girl.

But I get the analogy.  Maybe you could try meeting someone?  Go on a couple dates?  I’m sure Katie or I know some girls.  No pressure though!  Entirely up to you!

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ooc: can we pretend that finn is gonna tag along with the rose and rollin shenanigans just for the sheer entertainment of watching it play out?  because i feel like that’s a thing he would do.  like just sit there with a beer and some popcorn and enjoy the show.

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sandyriv‌:

Oh, um, no, it’s okay…it was…me.

It’s okay, Sandy.  I won’t say anything to anyone.  That’s entirely up to you.  But, can I let you in on a secret?

You couldn’t find a better support system than this pack.  Everyone will be at your side, and happy to help you and love you and support you.  No matter what.

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sandyriv‌:

I’m really glad.  I hope that it helps him.  I don’t know who it is, but I do know that no one deserves to feel like that.

Yeah, sure.

I’m not one to assume, but I’m a little curious as to whether this question was pertaining to a friend......or to you? 

You obviously don’t have to answer that. I’m just being nosier than I should be.

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sandyriv‌:

She really is!

Oh, wow.  That is really sad.  For him, I mean.  Because what if he could be really happy in a relationship with a man, but because of everything he grew up believing, he hasn’t been able to?  That’s just…really, really unfair.  I hope whoever he is, he will be able to find happiness, no matter who it is with.

But…I guess that makes sense.  I mean, if you never really thought about it, how would you know?  Like, if you grew up and all of your friends loved cake, and you always heard everyone talking about how awesome cake was, how would you know that pie was good if you never had pie before?  Right?

He’s getting there.  He actually started to go to therapy, because he’s had a pretty rough time of it.

Exactly! You can’t know what you don’t know!

Can I ask a question now?

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sandyriv‌:

Well, Buffy is the coolest.

And…I guess that makes a lot of sense.  So you mean because of all of those societal pressures and expectations and everything, a lot of people might not know for sure?

Isn’t she?!

Especially because of those things.  I have an example.  I won’t name names, because that is SUPER not my place.  But I know this guy who is interested in men and women, but it’s really difficult for him to reconcile that with the things he learned growing up about what it means to be a man.  Especially because he’s more submissive when he’s with another man than when he’s with a woman.  So because of all this toxic masculinity he’s been brought up with, he has a hard time maintaining a relationship with a man outside of sex.

The point I think I’m trying to make is that it’s much more common to be confused than it is to know for sure.  Especially if it’s something you never let yourself really dig deep and think about before, you know?

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sandyriv‌:

I’m sure you give great advice!  Well, um, I was just wondering– and you totally don’t have to answer this if you don’t want to!– I was just wondering how…or when…you knew for sure that you liked girls.

Oh.  Well, I think I’m a bit of a rare breed in that sense.  I told my mom when I was about 4 that I was going to marry Sarah Michelle Gellar.  I kind of....always knew?  But I know that isn’t the case for most people, what with internalized homophobia, and patriarchal expectations and idealizations.

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sandyriv‌:

—Hi, um, can I…ask your advice about something?

Sandy, hi.  Of course you can.  No promises that the advice will be any good though.

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ooc: sarah do you want to start finn’s rescue or shall i?