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ialwaysbelieve

skyweeper

belmasworld

i'm learning that what's meant for me won't cost me myself

girlmadegrave

kazu makino from blonde redhead (2008)

wetheurban

"You can begin again as many times as you need to" is so comforting.

#love nothing more than a clean slate. begin again and again and again and again a

dehalogenase

proanaXchuuni saints of ages past

grink

can i have everything

grink

can i have anything

joeinct

Couple Kissing, Central Park, Photo by Paul McDonough, 1972

sailorscorpiovenus

donnamayvillarino on ig

stuckinapril

I promise you things will get so much better when you start processing people’s behavior as information rather than a verdict on your self-worth. If someone doesn’t text back, suddenly pulls away, whatever it may be, the solution isn’t to put on a tap dance for them and try to regain their approval. It’s not to crash out on them and try to force them to react a certain way. It’s just to take a step back, take a deep breath, and assess what this tells you. What’s this saying about them? What’s this saying about you??

stuckinapril

Like people’s actions are data points rather than death sentences. It could even be a data point about you. It could be that you’re not being a great friend, it could be that there’s something you guys miscommunicated. Or it could be that they themselves don’t have the means to be consistent, aren’t in the headspace to meet you where you are, whatever. But this is always data rather than a judgment. Even if you’re the problem, behavior can change.

Also, in the context of someone pulling back without explaining away, and assuming they didn’t give you a reasonable explanation in the first place, it’s also a data point that they’d react that way rather than communicate. Situations are always very context dependent, but they’re also always data, not verdicts on self worth.