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earth-tooth

dont support industries that are driving animals to extinction thank you!

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Already reblogged one of these but another reminder: don’t by nautilus shells!

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babyanimalgifs

Shelter doggo with a huge smile being adopted

(Source)

fucking superb you funky little stegosaurus

duchessofhastings

“Unable to perceive the shape of you, I find you all around me. Your presence fills my eyes with your love. It humbles my heart, for you are everywhere”. THE SHAPE OF WATER (2017) dir. Guillermo del Toro

o-ceti

the trifecta

monsterqueers

So with everyone abuzz about the Britney Trial, and appalled and shocked and horrified at what she has had to go through, I want to take the time to state that this is commonplace and a very real threat for neurodivergent folks of all stripes. If you have a paper diagnosis of something it can and will be used against you by abusers. If you are disabled and/or neurodivergent you are owned in the eyes of the law and society by the people you depend on. This obviously and predictably creates situations where abuse is prevalent.

What Britney revealed in this trial did not shock me at all because this is the reality of many many people. This is the threat that hangs over people like me if we dont conform and burn out to please an arbitrary standard of normal and don't lie like hell to doctors.

At any moment if my mother felt like it, she could simply take my autonomy away legally because I can't live alone. If I didn't censure myself all of the time around certain people regarding neurodivergence, I could end up in a similar position because a doctor decided I was too crazy to have rights, and unlike Brittney, there is no mass movement for justice for us common people.

I want everyone to realize that what Britney has said is commonplace for people deemed 'too crazy to function' and disabled people in general. We are abused at startlingly high rates by our caregivers (parents, doctors, etc), society thinks that our rights should be taken away for our own good. I want people to extend the horror and desire to see change to the rest of us who arent high profile and use that horror to enact real change.

Not just hashtag freebritney, but push to pass laws to protect the autonomy and freedoms of those of us who are effected by conservatorships, institutionalization, and general stamping on of the rights of neurodivergent and disabled folks in every area of our lives.

arsenicinshell

Rainbow dress by Dona Matoshi

#holy shit??????#gorgeous #fashion #dress #rainbow

tiktokmuseum

are men okay?

siderealsandman

zymomonasmobilis

my husband told me, after many years of being together, that when he was about 7 a teacher used to single him out for being disrespectful at school. Apparently his disrespectful offense was “smirking” too much???? So he got punished for smiling???? And eventually just trained himself to stop smiling so this teacher would leave him alone???? And that’s why he has such a stoic facial expression now and can’t smile for photographs.

I had to.....privately cry after hearing that one

thanos-the-dad-titan

Wow

themildestofwriters

It’s the only way men are able to discuss their issues because society taught them that they shouldn’t burden people with their issues or that their issues are meaningless or that their issues aren’t actually a thing. Sharing anecdotes with friends is one way of talking about it, because they feel comfortable enough to share. At the same time, they might just not know that the event was traumatic because it’s trauma y’all.

crownquill

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sammyofthesea

Take this to be your reminder that men experience trauma too and need a safe space to talk about it. Be that safe space for your friends who are men

swedebeast

When someone opens up, taking that leap to show their vulnerability, take note. Don’t dismiss it.

tinfoil-catholic

@issemayhem

headspace-hotel

Sometimes when you have a friend, they will reveal something to you casually and with a light-hearted tone, but they will be trying to show you something and they will want you to see it and understand it without panicking and immediately saying all those words they cannot say, which label the thing as “trauma.”

They may not fully realize they are doing it. You may be able to tell that they don’t know what they are trying to show you or why they are showing it to you. They may just have this urge, once they trust you and see that you are safe (and being a Safe Person is often rare) to reveal it to you, seeing how you react, because they are wanting—perhaps unconsciously—to have their hurt seen.

They don’t want you to freak out and be like “holy shit that’s horrible and awful are you okay are you traumatized?” They also don’t want you to simply laugh along with them, not really. Maybe the best thing is just a “That must have been terrifying,” or “Well, that was kind of messed up,” or “What kind of asshole would do that?” Don’t conceal the fact that it disturbs you, but don’t make a Huge Deal about it either.

I’ve experienced this with female friends as well; I think it happens with anyone who has been in a place where they have tried to express their trauma and had it laughed off or framed as not a big deal. They wrap it in the form of a joke or funny anecdote because it’s been treated like one, and it dampens the blow if they tell someone and the person doesn’t see that it hurt them. Be the person that sees.

followthebluebell

seriously, tho, shelters and rescues are being slammed HARD by kitten season this year. i mean, we always are, but this year seems extra bad. shelters are in desperate need of:

Towels

Kitten Milk Replacer (kmr)

Baby kitten kibble (like with the teeny tiny kibbles like royal canin’s babycat formula)

Baby kitten soft food

Heating pads (kittens need SO MUCH HEAT)

Pine litter (baby kittens can’t use clumping litter because they try to eat it or it gets stuck to their bottoms and clumps up)

Unflavored pedialyte

little kitten pens (like the kind you keep kittens IN, not the kind you write with)

feeding syringes, bottles, and nipples

money

Fosters!!! this is probably the thing we need more than anything else, tbh.

timemachineyeah

This year IS especially bad. It’s not in your head. It’s a direct result of the pandemic.

(I know you know this, but I want people reading to really understand).

Basically, one year ago private nonprofit spay/neuter clinics, other rescue nonprofits, and TNR trappers were both more or less grounded, as their legal status re:essential services was up for debate.

When bog standard vet clinics were given the green light, regular veterinary capacity diminished because of their need to meet new safety standards. So you had

1. Basically zero nonprofit clinics

2. Basically zero trapping

3. Incredibly reduced capacity for for-profit care

And it got cleared up eventually. It was a confusing time. But remember when the lockdown first hit? In March?

Y’know, the start of kitten season?

The confusing “can we operate? guess we’ll wait and see. gosh you can’t even find a single spay appointment huh” time last year happened to correspond pretty directly to what is usually our busiest trapping season.

The kitten season we are seeing this year, which is SO BAD, and seems to be SO BAD literally across the country, is what happens when volunteers and underpaid animal rescuers take a single kitten season off.

All the kitten that were born last year that would’ve been trapped and homed and their mothers spayed were instead… left to roam and grow up and now it’s their first kitten season as breeding adults and as a result the rescue community, under-supported most of the time, is just completely overwhelmed.

So, hey, if you’re reading this: Go donate to a cat rescue or animal shelter. Do it right now. And you know what’s even better than donating? Volunteering to foster. It’s rewarding, it’s fun, it’s all the benefits of getting a cat or kitten without the long term commitment. And it will literally save lives. Every rescue we know right now would commit crimes for more reliable fosters.

And most rescues will help you cover basic food costs and supplies, so you don’t even need money, just space. (And that’s why, if you can’t foster, donations help! So that rescues can do that for their fosters!)

If you can’t foster and you can’t donate, at least boost this.

Help a local cat rescue. If we’re going to do anything to bring this problem back into even normal levels of bad, we need to be acting as fast as possible. This year more than any, rescues really really need your help.

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arabwife

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Can i get a step by step on how to do this?

catastrofries

So far for me it’s been something like:

1. Become aware of how and when you tearing yourself down.

2. Now that you can catch yourself doing it. Offer counters to the negative self talk. A really useful thing I read was to talk to yourself almost the way you would child. Gentle and patient. Even when they fuck up.

3. Take time to celebrate your small accomplishments. You’ve been attacking yourself for every little mistake. Apply that same fervor to the positive things in your life. Did the dishes even though you didn’t want to? Fuck yeah! Got up and took shower? YES!!! You are taking positive steps to feeling better. Celebrate it.

4. Make lists of things you’re good at/ like about yourself. The first time I did this the only two things in my list we’re that I liked my hair and I had good friends. It was start.

5. Don’t beat yourself up if you screw up steps 1-4. It’s counter productive. When I catch myself calling my self stupid for some mistake or other my response now is,“We don’t talk to ourselves like that anymore. What’s something constructive that could actually help solve the problem.”

Most of the time that seems to work. Not always. But more and more Everytime.

I hope any of that made sense.