Oh dear, youโre not alone in feeling that way. I hate it when this happens, I hate the fact that we, as women, have been so brainwashed that we canโt look at our bodies and say we love them in every way, in every phase. They made us forget about the beautiful sculptures they made of women. They made us believe we need to chase trends and expectations instead of simply being human and in harmony with ourselves and nature.
I was lucky enough to see what true beauty is, where it comes from, and to see it in everyone, regardless of age or anything else. (I have a post about that on my side blog, if anyone is interested.)
Since then, Iโve seen how women struggle and donโt know how to handle these issues. Iโm so sick of it. I just want to tell everyone to start seeing their own beauty. Itโs hard, I know, because itโs hard for me too. For example, Iโm short, and Iโm not satisfied with how I look. My thighs are big, I have fat on my stomach and back, and my upper arms. I want to be thinner because I was a few years ago. (but the way that happened itโs not alright and I know it (lots of stress))
I always tell myself that I donโt care how others look because I see their beautyโand itโs 100% trueโand itโs just about me. That I want to be thinner for myself. But then I realize that everyone says this to themselves. Because of this shitty system, no one is okay with how they look. And then I feel sad and angry because they did this to us. Weโre never going to reach the standard they want us to achieve (whatโs always changing) because we shouldnโt. Because that is absolutely 100% bullshit.
And when I see celebrities (and everyday women) like Patti say things like that, I feel like beating up anyone who made her feel like she wasn't pretty enough or needed to do something to her body to look "good" or anything like that.๐ฅบ
I'm only 23 years old, and I think I'm lucky that I'm not afraid of getting older, in fact, I've always thought about it and been excited about it. And if I ever get the privilege of getting older, I hope I'll feel the same way about it as I do now.
(There was a thing I used to do sometimes. I would look at one of my hands, slowly turn it around, and think about what it would look like when I was 60, and then I would look at my hand and think about what it looked like when I was younger.๐)
A few years ago I watched the movie Good Luck to You, Leo Grande! with Emma Thompson. And it made me even more emotional and angry, but I learned more about myself. (I recommend you watch it ๐) And when I saw the interviews with Emma about the movie and her first nude (I hope I'm not wrong) scene ever and how she talked about accepting our bodies, it was so encouraging and touching.
How she said โDonโt waste your time. Donโt waste your lifeโs purpose worrying about your body. This is your vessel, itโs your house, itโs where you live. Thereโs no point in judging it. Absolutely no point.โ
So yes, it's hard to accept and especially love our bodies. But what we need to stop doing is hating and criticizing it. We need to learn to see the beautiful parts of it, which is not a piece of cake. But it's not impossible.
And remember that there are people who love you for who you are, and maybe they especially love the parts of your body what you don't.
Keep shining dear, you are and will be beautiful no matter what.๐ (and this is also true for everyone reading this! ๐)
It became a little bit longer than I thought ๐
sorry
