I've forgotten how to friend
I've forgotten how to friend
How to share and be shared with
Now I'm here, starting again
And I've got so much friend to give
But I don't know where I should put it
Don't know how, who with, or when
I've lost the skill to do it
I've forgotten how to friend
When I was younger it was easy
I could be friends with anyone
Just a round of introductions
And then straight on with the fun
Open hearts and open minds
Sincerely social, no pretend
But now those days are all behind
As I've forgotten how to friend
Now there are rules you're meant to follow
Certain things that you can't say
Interactions feel so hollow
Don't tell them that you're lonely
Dont be desperate, don't offend
Don't let them know you need them
Or that they'd be your only friend
Be cool, be smart, be charming
But don't talk about yourself
Don't be awkward or disarming
Leave your ego on the shelf
Make sure you have some things in common
And when the conversation ends
Don't be pushy, just be calm and
Act like you DO know how to friend
You have to put in effort
It won't just happen on its own
The contradiction makes my head hurt
How do you make new friends alone?
You can't just tell them that you like them
You must meet up, get on, and then
Agree unspoken that it's mutual, and hope
THEY'VE not forgotten how to friend
I've grown so tired of the pretence
Don't want to play this silly game
I want to make new friends and keep them
Call my purpose by it's name
And not apologize for trying
This is me, and to that end
I'm not hiding and not lying
I'm rediscovering how to friend.