i like fruits and veggies

[rosy-cocoa]

there is nothing the patriarchy hates more than women and girls with boundaries, loud emotions and thoughts, and the ability to say "no". it's insanely difficult to maintain or recover these qualities, and almost everyone, with varying motivations, will try to destroy them, but please don't give up, even if you can only hold on in your head and your heart - you are strong and courageous. keep standing up for yourself and for each other <3

[asukam]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ANTHY HIMEMIYA

[asukam]

[rosy-cocoa]

We spend so much time pursuing the “true self”—the “higher self” that we will reach after enough procedures, makeovers, behavioral changes, wardrobe revamps, media inspirations, glow-ups, diets…after we’ve bought enough products and achieved the right commodified “aesthetic”. I don’t think it’s wrong to grow or to aspire to be better, and goals can be helpful, but the “true self” is not just a being that lives in the realm of aspiration; in modern society, particularly internet society, the “true self” is a materialistic and capitalistic entity. The modern True Self is focused on curating a particular appearance, a perception by others.

The True Self is also a rejection of the old self, or the present self, or you as you actually are and have been. In order to gain the True Self, you have to do away with the old—but hasn’t she done so much for you? Hasn’t the old self brought you to where you are? Isn’t the old self you? How can you create a self that is loving and accepting from a place of wanting to destroy what you are, and create a perfectly controllable and moldable artifice in your place?

When do you get to stop aspiring, and instead be and appreciate life as it is? I’m sure that many people would say that there is no version of oneself that is not curated and intentional, but have you ever had a moment of such pristine clarity that you forgot that you were perceived? Maybe so caught up in the exhilaration of a thought, so comfortable and happy with loved ones, or too immersed in nature and its sensations to worry about how you look, merely existing. You are a part of nature, too. Have you ever stuck your hands in the soft soil or cool water or laid in the grass, half-shade, half-sun, on an autumn day? What if your true self is merely what you are, and in endlessly prescribing how you should be, you never actually get to be?

I wonder how an increasing lack of natural spaces and community/in-person engagement has impacted this focus on the aspirational. While we continuously consume in the hopes of becoming someone who is “worth living as”, the parts of the world that are so beautiful and joyful to enjoy living in are being destroyed, often by our very consumption habits. But we also become distant from the imperfect beauty and visceral sensations of wildness, nature, life; we become focused on the curation of a perfect image and apathetic or even hateful of the uncontrollability of nature. Natural destruction, in ourselves and in our world, becomes easier to swallow.

Genuine self-acceptance is a revolutionary act, and without an awareness of nature, we lose sight of who we are.

[rosy-cocoa]

You can certainly say that the word "homosexual" has been used derogatorily. So has "lesbian", so has "gay", so has "same-sex attracted". But if that is your critique, "queer" has been used as a literal slur, and you'd have to be intentionally misled or ignorant about history (even very recent history, like ten years ago) to miss that.

Perhaps more importantly, "homosexual" and "same-sex attracted" are not inherently derisive, they are descriptive. A homophobic person might be disgusted by the sexuality described, and use the words to describe it to convey disgust, but that's not a reason to change the word. If we want the end goal to be acceptance, and especially self-acceptance, changing the name and running from a neutral descriptor/the trait it describes will not achieve this.

"Queer" is inherently derisive, or at least homophobic. Unlike "homosexual" or "same-sex attracted", which have theoretically equally weighted counterparts, "queer" suggests that heterosexuality is the norm and homosexuality is—to define "queer"—strange, peculiar, odd, eccentric, suspicious, or abnormal. "Queer" is not a neutral descriptor; it has an opinion applied to it, and it is a homophobic one. I can't tell you what you should and should not reclaim but I think this is an important linguistic difference.

In all honesty, I think what intimidates people about "homosexual" (and other clearly-defined terms) is that it is descriptive— it is exactly what it says it is, and there's no hiding or ambiguity there. This is an issue both for people who are ashamed of themselves (because of the negative feelings that have been instilled in them regarding their sexuality by a homophobic, misogynistic society from birth) and people who would like to be included in a space/identity that is not theirs.

[rosy-cocoa]

if you hear "you're perfect the way you are" or "learn to love yourself" and immediately feel that those are threatening statements, I encourage you to ask yourself why. It's easy to hear these and lash out, or assume the speaker doesn't understand you but the truth is that it's REAL. everything in the world wants you to hate yourself - you are easier to manipulate and sell to if you are obsessed with whether you are enough or chasing a "true self". it's not easy but it is an act of revolution to love and accept yourself exactly as you are.

[okunichh]

trying to sell the story

of love's eternal glory

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prints here

[harboozana]

handknit tapestry / 75 x 110 cm

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mohair, wool

[rosy-cocoa]

There’s a huge problem of avoiding hearing other perspectives entirely. Rather than avoiding reading the “other side”’s opinions, I think it’s more useful to develop the ability to think critically. If you see an opinion, you don’t have to immediately agree with it, you can disagree, consider and reflect, or develop a nuanced perspective regarding it. Have faith in your own abilities and intelligence. And if something doesn’t make sense, question it, and keep questioning until it does.

[okunichh]

Outbreak of loneliness, that's the reason...

prints available here

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also yes another lesbian flag pallette!

[rosy-cocoa]

The feminist perspective has largely been silenced on trans issues and this has led to a completely incorrect understanding of why feminists oppose trans identity. Feminists don’t oppose men wearing dresses or women wearing pants, not even remotely—feminists are opposed to the equation of these things with womanhood or manhood, and the gendered-stereotypes they support. Feminists ask what it means to “feel like a woman” because, to us, womanhood is a neutral, biologically-defined experience (of being an adult human female) and not one that should be dehumanized as social roles that women have been pressured into throughout history, or as stereotypical behaviors associated with women, or as a “feeling”. Feminists also ask why female human beings should not be entitled to our own sex-exclusive spaces, especially to ensure our safety and accommodate for the oppression we face in society (men and male trans individuals are free to create their own spaces, but the existence of female-only spaces and movements is valuable for women and girls). Why should a feeling of “gender” trump biological sex in such cases? Across time periods and places, “gender” changes, but sex remains.

The homosexual perspective has also been silenced. Homosexuality, as a word, deals with accurately identifying sex: “homo”, meaning “same”, and “sex”, in this case not referring to the act but to the fact of being male or female. Heterosexual relationships between gender non-conforming individuals are not the norm, but they are not homosexuality. Homosexuality has been discriminated against across societies and historical eras, and continues to be discriminated against to this day. There are some obvious forms this discrimination takes, but the pressure to redefine sexuality as it relates to gender rather than sex is a homophobic push committed by many well-meaning people and allies. At this point, women who are “afab for afab” (otherwise known as homosexual females, otherwise known as lesbians) are told by trans individuals that their sexuality is bigoted or a “genital preference”. Ultimately, most of us feel that our attraction is not based in someone’s internal feelings of “gender”, but in their actual, material being. The existence of female-only spaces creates an environment where same-sex attracted women can meet each other away from the presence of heterosexuality and men, and forbidding female-only spaces—or making every lesbian space one inclusive of all genders and sexualities—works against this.

It’s common to paint with a broad brush and gloss over feminist/homosexual critiques of trans identity, especially when the only voices opposing trans identity that are platformed are either conservative or on conservative programs. But this isn’t an honest way of addressing the concerns of others. If a feminist opposes pornography because it is a tool of women’s oppression that depicts and encourages real-life abuse/sexual exploitation, and another person opposes pornography because they think a woman should “save herself”, wait for one man to belong to, and not engage in “sinful” sexuality, do you think they are the same? They may agree that pornography is bad, but isn’t it a little deeper than that?

[bevsi]

Tomie

[biruesque]

And suddenly everything is different. They have looked at each other.

[harboozana]

A realistic imagination

The imitation of form

A natural fantasy

Sorcery, esthetics, and astronomy

The naturology of you and me

[rosy-cocoa]

I don't understand the volatile backlash against regulation/further research/caution in treatment by supposed supporters of trans well-being, happiness, and safety. Medicine is not perfect, psychiatry is not perfect, surgery is not perfect. Each of these comes with its own risks and damages, sometimes lethal ones. If you care about kids and vulnerable people, then you would want them to receive appropriate care and ensure that the care they receive will 1) actually help them 2) is the least harmful and most effective means of providing help and 3) does not create more/longer term problems than the cause for care. A good care provider assesses whether the side effects and complications are worth the risk of not providing care, or if the care can be substituted for something with less risk. Treatment needs to be constantly researched and evaluated, and blocking that will only harm trans people. Besides, in a world where medical and psychiatric care are INDUSTRIES, it's important to ensure vulnerable people are not being sold harmful procedures and addictions because their money is worth more than their well-being.

[okunichh]

no one does toxic yuri like terumoko does

prints are up

[okunichh]

the prom queen

prints are up here

[okunichh]

the creation myth, namely

the origin of fate

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prints up here

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this is a picture for my au where nanami is the new utena, and kozue and miki are new anthy and dios/akio