[rotten-queer]

He/Him

💚Demiromantic

🩷Gay

💜T4T

[thyfleshc0nsumed]

Do we have any advice for the young trans woman besides yelling "start hrt" at her

[plainsbison]

be really really consistent with self gendering - it may feel weird at first but use your nouns - " I'm his sister", " I'm her daughter", " I'm an actress" - don't start with "bitch"

[thyfleshc0nsumed]

[sanrio-stud]

remember that every feminist principle you hold for cis women ALSO extends to you as a trans woman; and that there is no right or wrong way to be a woman, only expectations imposed on us by people we have no obligation to perform for. also, genuinely: have fun and be yourself, experiment and grow and reflect and look weird sometimes, but find joy in finding what it all means to you. you've got nothing you need to be and can take it wherever you wanna go 👍🏾

[asaflowerblossoms]

It's ok to set some goals or wants, but don't deny yourself your womanhood while working towards those. You are already a woman. Know that when you reach one destination you will want to set another, so it's much more fulfilling to enjoy the journey. The process itself is more beautiful and profound than any end result. You are already doing something more deeply truthful and fundamentally human than most people can ever imagine.

The order for changing your name in the USA goes: court order, social security card, license, passport, birth certificate, financial institutions, insurance, credit bureaus, IRS (there's a name change section when filing taxes). You'll need paperwork from the previous one(s) to do the next, although you may be able to skip ahead while something is processing, depending. The hardest one to update is, ironically, TransUnion.

There's an app called Solace LGBT that's super fucking useful.

[rotten-rodentia]

My partner has top surgery coming in a little over a week, if you can donate anything at all and share this link it would mean a lot. Thank you

[imstillalexcomic]

So here we are, just about one year into hormone replacement therapy.  It’s been a wild, wacky journey so far, but I really have to say that I’ve been loving every second of it.  There’s such a sense of relief and freedom that comes with choosing to not be complacent.

Telling myself “I’m fine with being male” kept me from unlocking this new level of happiness for so long.

To anyone who’s been questioning or unsure about something you want in life, I encourage to experiment. 

Give it a try.

Sure, you might find out whatever the endeavor may be isn’t for you in the end, but that’s ok!  That just means that you took another step in your journey to find what is for you.

Don’t be complacent, don’t be satisfied.  “Fine” is okay, but only for a while. 

We only have one life to live, I encourage you to make it as fun and worthwhile as possible.

[genderqueerdykes]

people genuinely behave like conservatives erupt into applause when a trans man comes out, as if they're cheering and going "YES! more men! FUCK women!"

they do not see us as men, y'all. WHAT reality is this attitude based in, because it's not this one.

conservatives do not see trans men as men. conservatives are not happy that there's one more man- they are pissed off because all they see is as "failed woman", "tainted woman", "woman in man's clothing" or "a woman pretending to be a man". they are mad because we aren't women anymore. they are actually pissed the fuck off that a 'woman' transitioned and is no longer a 'woman'. we're also viewed as "perverted queers trying to corrupt children," on the flip side of the coin but never men. stop acting like conservative men are frothing at the mouth excited to welcome trans men into the upper echelons of cisheteronormative patriarchy. they want us dead. snap out of it.

[queer-as-city-folk]

The National Parks Service have purged trans people from the website on the Stonewall National Monument

[queer-as-city-folk]

Trans people threw the first bricks at Stonewall, this is explicitly genocidal and revisionist, they are removing trans people from our history, they don't want us to exist

[queer-as-city-folk]

The fact they can't even acknowledge us in platitudes is fucking terrifying, they can't even say T in LGBT on the website for Stonewall Inn. Stonewall was the start of our liberation and we can't and could never have liberation without trans people and specifically trans women like Marsha P Johnson and Sylvia Rivera

[queer-as-city-folk]

During the raid on the Stonewall Inn in 1969, the police forced all women in the bar to undergo genital inspections in the restroom so they could arrest trans women and drag queens. That was what started the riots, people refused to comply with the police attempting to target trans women. It is explicitly revisionist to separate trans people from the stonewall uprising

[catcinesblog]

This is why we shouldn't trust the white libs to defend us, they'll become our worst nightmare the second after.

[cottagepunx]

" hey Im super sorry to ask again, but can anyone help with 20 - 30 for gas so my partner and i are able to get to work for the rest of the week until we get paid? sharing is also super appreciated and helpful

cashapp is $mAlexxander and PayPal is punxpup"

[cottagepunx]

still nothing as of 21.2.25. my partner drives 40 minutes one way to work. i have a 10 minute drive. we do not have any gas left and don't get paid minimum until Wednesday of next week, NEXT Friday latest as i just started my new job. please i am begging. i dont want to not be able to get to work because it will literally cost both of us our jobs. we are both transmen living in the south (bible belt) and cannot afford to lose them.

[packtionzt]

It's actually pretty ridiculous how some of you guys treat trans men. They're both somehow an aggressive man taking man poison and a hysterical woman to y'all. "I could never be a man" yea doofus, human beings are different, doesn't mean you shouldn't have empathy for them.

Some of you know you're trans but refuse to evolve your brain past a 4th graders' understanding of gender.

And also if you're not a trans man, and don't talk to trans men, maybe nobody needs to know your opinion on trans men.

[isuggestforcemasc]

In the bathroom. Straight up ‘taking it’ and by it? Haha, les just say, testosteron

[genderqueerdykes]

people talking about "lesbian rights" going "U CAN'T BE A TRANSMASC/TRANS MEN LESBIAN THAT'S LITERALLY IMPOSSIBLE YOU ARE THREATENING ALL OF THE LESBIANS AROUND U!!!!!!!" meanwhile i was at the library earlier and saw one of the staff members with a shaved head had a water bottle with a sticker saying "cultivate lesbian JOY!" and so i decided to go "hey nice i'm a lesbian too!" and that person & the transfem next to them both erupted with joy. nobody got mad about my beard. nobody got mad about how deep my voice is. those two, who are very used to seeing me there as that's where i print labels for my job, were overjoyed to see another lesbian.

i didn't get 20 questions. i didn't get "your voice is deep are you a MAN????" nobody bitched about my facial hair. nobody got mad that a person passing for a cis man at the time said it was a lesbian. instead i received nothing but joy, the others giggling and saying that we were the Lesbian Corner. nobody got mad, there was nothing but joy. a transmasc lesbian & a transfem lesbian shared the exact same joy and it bothered no one. no fighting. NONE. no being mad about my appearance or my voice. this is what lesbian community is REALLY about. diversity among lesbians. accepting lesbians no matter how they look, sound, or what their gender is.

this is the spirit of lesbianism, not getting angry when someone is a lesbian "wrong".

[shimamitsu]

some of my favorite replies to this tweet. happy lesbian visibility week!

[villainessbian]

Are we going to talk about how the butch from picture 5 saying "butch head nod" looks like Greg Davies?

[hazyhund]

Transgender Werewolf sketchbook spread 🏳️‍⚧️🐺

[kipkune]

Trans Solidarity Werewolves🏳️‍⚧️🌕

[rotten-queer]

Hey if ur dating someone and constantly thinking about breaking up with them but brush it off as ur mental illnesses acting up even tho ur otherwise ok, u don't need to keep dating them. Break up, be friends. Or enemies if u want ig

[rotten-queer]

I have my first boyfriend that I really love now, I had to get through a lot of fear from romantic trauma

This post heavily applies. I don't doubt myself in this relationship bc I love him every day and I was willing to deal with my serious romantic discomfort in the beginning bc I wanted to be with him so bad

[eldritchbauble]

Hot take, but cis people have gender identities. They aren't the gender they identify as because of their genitalia or what their birth certificate says. They're only cis because they identify with a gender and it happens to match their government documentation. Cis men aren't men because they're "obviously" men for having a penis. They're men because they identify as men. It's the self-identification that dictates this, not any other factor, even for cis folks. And we should be framing it this way. A cis man identifies as a man and a cis woman identifies as a woman. There is no automatic or inherent gender.

[eldritchbauble]

You are not "born a boy/girl." Infants don't have a gender. You acquire gender when you identify as it. No such thing as "biologically a man/woman."

[eldritchbauble]

"I don't identify as anything, I'm a man."

It sure sounds like you identify as a man, bud.

[eldritchbauble]

Giving a brownie to cis folks who rb this.

[eldritchbauble]

Gonna admit the "this isn't a hot take it's obvious" comments from a dozen or so people are grating on my nerves, so I'm gonna address that.

Just say you've never had an actual conversation with a cis person outside of a very leftist circle lol. Obvious to you. To you, fellow trans person. I wish I got paid every time I had to hear a cis person say they don't have a gender identity or don't "identify" as anything they just "are" a man or a woman.

Sometimes you have to stop and ask yourselves what group of people a post is mainly directed at.

[unknought]

A few years ago a roommate abruptly decided to move out to live with her boyfriend, and I ended up spending half a year sharing an apartment with someone I had never met before: an Egyptian girl with very limited English.

She was confused by my appearance and asked me “boy or girl?” It took me a while to understand what she was saying, but eventually she got the point across, and I told her that I was a girl. She seemed unsatisfied, and I explained that I was transgender. Unsurprisingly, she didn’t know the word.

We ended communicating by typing our respective sentences into Google Translate. Unfortunately, whatever the Arabic word for “transgender” is, it wasn’t a word she knew either. Eventually I ended up typing in “I used to be a boy but it made me unhappy so I decided to be a girl.” She stared at it for a moment then asked “You are happy now?” I said yes, and she smiled and looked thoughtful.

A couple hours later she came up to me and said “You and me, we are sisters,” and gave me a hug. “You say you are girl, you are girl.”

[birdblogwhichisforbirds-deactiv]

Can I share this in non-tumblr spaces?

[little-bloodied-angel]

Each story like this warms my heart a little more

[spacesharkwuffwuff]

When I came out to my Chinese girlfriend, we ended up breaking up. I asked if being Trans was the reason specifically, but she said no, she just didn’t want to date another woman. Then she told me I should start calling her 妹妹, (meimei). She is a few years younger than me, and that’s Mandarin for ‘little sister’. We’re still talking to each other over a year later.

[rotten-queer]

I come back to this blog to start talking about gay stuff, I realized my last post was Exactly the day my boyfriend and I got together, and I haven't posted anything until now

I've also been generally less active on tumblr, but it's a funny coincidence.

I do feel a bit awkward changing from aro-centric to demi-gay, but this is ultimately my blog, so here is an update to let ppl know that this is no longer an exclusively aromantic blog