psa about blocking people
people have to seriously stop assuming that once they find out someone has them blocked (and i don't mean soft-blocked but hard-blocked), that that person hates them or that they did something wrong.
i've asked people and based on their answers people block most because:
they want to get a better variety of blogs recommended to them
they have blogs they are not interested in in their tumblr recs
they don't want blogs they are not interested in to follow them
they don't know the character / fandom and only have a limited amount of mental energy to learn about new characters / shows and will most likely not follow characters / shows they don't know.
they block for self protection with no ill intent (it is rarely because they hate the writer but it might be because the character you rp or the fandom they are from triggers them in some way or someone ignored their personal boundaries / invaded their safe space (either without or after a being told not to) / did something else (individual judgment necessary) and made them quite uncomfortable)
real life is catching up to them and they are overwhelmed
bolded points, i have found out, make the majority of reasons here.
it is an EXCEPTION that you are blocked because someone hates you. i, for one, block SOLELY based on disinterest. i don't hard block anyone because i dislike the person behind the blog unless absolutely necessary. in fact, i don't even know these people well enough to be able to judge them or care about them enough to do any blocking maliciously. i just judge what i see their blog (posts) is about, which (in my case being a role player) is the character or the fandom and if i find that i am not interested in their blog, why should i let tumblr keep recommending it to me?
it makes no sense. as does getting upset about ppl hard blocking you.
it is 2023 and i REALLY want people to be more at ease and be less anxious online. there is no reason to be in a constant state of mental agony online when it concerns strangers - people you have never even met before. it should not matter what they think about you, nor should it matter when someone has blocked you.
most people won't remember you. most people don't care about you. what they care about is how COMFORTABLE they are online and then act upon it. this might sound harsh but let's talk facts and look at it from a rational perspective: we all have our own personal lives and worries and get online to chill and relax. the LEAST thing we need is being guilt-tripped for something that has been offered to us to CHILL AND RELAX (or protect ourselves).
so let's not treat each other like criminals for something as trivial as a hard block.
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