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it's become rather obvious to me that those who are not intimate with being forcibly feminized are without the necessary context to why trans men often have these knee-jerk reactions to misogyny being declared as "Women Only experiences". lots of times the reaction is out of place; it isn't the right time nor the right words but when talking At trans guys about this phenomenon, and seemingly unaware of this, many make plays on the very language We are already familiar with. many make the claim that trans men think of ourselves as the Primary target of misogyny. instead, people would rather us think of ourselves as Accidental targets. intentionally, this obscures the ways misogyny works to create a womanhood that is forcibly imposed, how this is necessary, and how acts of misogyny done to (our, trans men's) bodies are almost always done to facilitate this. it is a denial of misogyny as it is informed by transphobia, which always allows cis women to position themselves as Real victims in contrast, even as some force trans men to become victims of our own flesh*. it is done to us mainly when we are known to resist 'female' categorization, not as a 'fellow woman'. i must say i don't mean that my specific experiences with misogyny are held by only Us, by trans men, but rather the lack of distinction is kinda the Whole Point.

* i've had cis women coworkers out me to cis men (multiple times, leading to constant devaluation in the workplace), i've had cis women see me be sexually harassed by a cis man, then defend him, i've been forced to work through a shift while on my period with no access to tampons by my cis woman manager (as i was a year on T & was not expecting it). all of this happened as a passing man. my own mother is another conversation.

on the flip-side, trans men who do escape this imposition (and many of us do, i have in many ways), who live materially as men/male are pathologized in ways that have little to do with the real critiques of male privilege we receive interpersonally. often times, this real experience of male privilege is thought of as an aspiration for the trans man so it becomes a personal failing, an individual fault. this is in contrast to cis men who are viewed to exist within said privilege 'naturally' and simply can't help it. in short, We, trans men, "should know better". so many can't contend with the fact trans men experience male reality (the violence that happens among boys/men For the reinforcement of Maleness as well as male privilege), transphobia, and misogyny, sometimes even in the same day, at the same time, then they play on our guilt that comes with it. we are going to create a doomerist transmasculinity at this rate.