I have some questions I'm curious about from fellow Solavellan lovers all about your Lavellan, Solas and Rook. Answer all or one, up to you!
What does your Lavellan understand about Solas that makes forgiveness possible without excusing what he’s done?
Is there something your Lavellan fundamentally misunderstands about Solas, and that Solas fundamentally misunderstands about your Lavellan? What finally allows them to understand each other more clearly and how does that understanding come?
What is the dynamic between your Lavellan and your Rook?
If your Rook comes to know Solas primarily as an adversary, while your Lavellan’s experience is coloured by their love and history together, where do their interpretations of him overlap - and where do they differ?
Aaaah, so sorry, answering this sooo late. So I'll answer 1 and 2, because I haven't played Veilguard yet (my laptop cannot take it, unfortunately) and though I have watched some playthroughs, I don't think I have a good mental image yet of what Rook/Solas and Lavellan's relationships would look like. They are not very well defined in my head right now.
What does your Lavellan understand about Solas that makes forgiveness possible without excusing what he’s done?
I've actually often thought about this, and I'd have to say that she understands that Solas is not motivated by cruelty. That sounds simple, but for Rel it's an enormous distinction. She sees that every terrible thing he does comes from the same place that once made him fight slavery, free spirits, and challenge tyrants. I guess we could say that she forgives him because she understands the nuances of his fall and to her, Solas is trapped. Trapped inside a promise he made to himself thousands of years ago. And it's hard for him to see that fact, and the trap he constructed for himself. I don't exactly reckon is much like a forgive and forget, but rather she understands that is not all that he is.
2. Is there something your Lavellan fundamentally misunderstands about Solas, and that Solas fundamentally misunderstands about your Lavellan? What finally allows them to understand each other more clearly and how does that understanding come?
He mistakes her patience for acceptance. She gives others room to arrive at their truth themselves, even if that means that people do make wrong choices sometimes. She will just not violate anyone's agency and capacity to arrive at a conclusion by inserting herself or her thoughts on a certain matter, and manipulate situations. She believes sometimes people need to make mistakes in order to grow and learn from those mistakes.
As for Rel, she misunderstands his very nature of Wisdom. She believes it's lying dormant, under all those shells and faces he's constructed, whereas Solas I think might think Wisdom is long gone. His past actions speak of nothing that sounds like Wisdom, so maybe he does believe his nature is so corrupted that he is trying to return to his essence...but failing.
What allows them to understand each other more clearly is I think...failure. Rel cannot stop Solas and Solas cannot convince Rel. The wall breaches in those moments of failure when their self-constructed images slip away, and there's nothing but fear. Fear of failure, fear of losing...of just being oneself and accepted for it.
Thank you so much for your question and for anyone reading my thoughts! <3