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[couriernewvegas]

[kayla-denker]

Honestly, the thing that sent me over the edge and made me into the full-blown ""man-hating"" angry transfeminist that you see today, was seeing hundreds and hundreds of transmascs get mad and call it "transandrophobia" because Epstien targeted trans girls for sex trafficking and not any trans boys.

Like, I've been a transfeminist for most of my adult life, long before I even transitioned. But seeing that fucking broke me and put me into a permenant state of rage.

[kayla-denker]

Honestly, the thing that sent me over the edge and made me into the full-blown ""man-hating"" angry transfeminist that you see today, was seeing hundreds and hundreds of transmascs get mad and call it "transandrophobia" because Epstien targeted trans girls for sex trafficking and not any trans boys.

Like, I've been a transfeminist for most of my adult life, long before I even transitioned. But seeing that fucking broke me and put me into a permenant state of rage.

[the-quasar-hero]

Very generally speaking, when you see a black man in a piece of media, be it tv show, movie, video game, etc. there’s something you often see a lot of writers do. To go against the stereotype of black men (and black people in general) being dumb and lazy, you’ll see this black male character being smart and an achiever. 

The Black Nerd. A common character type, the nerd will always be very interested in all things nerdy: science, video games, mathematics, etc. In an continued effort to combat stereotypes, the Black Nerd will be lack athleticism, probably being asthmatic (the nerdiest of conditions). The Black Nerd will dress smartly, suspenders and bow ties. They’ll always talk smart too, using proper English with complex words.

Now, I don’t have a problem with a black character being a nerd, indeed black people are a people; we aren’t all the same and we all have varying personalities. The problem I have is that too often we see a distinct disconnect between Blackness and the Black Nerd. The Black Nerd doesn’t listen to hip hop or rap, only classical music. The Black Nerd only has white friends, the only other black characters are into not nerdy stuff. The Black Nerd never ever uses AAVE at any time in any context.

And again I must say that Black people, not being a monolith, there are no hard fast rules to being Black. I’m more than sure there are Black people like what I’ve described above, I’m not saying it’s impossible; what I’m getting at is that the only Black Nerd we see. There are Black Nerds that play basketball, that bump Kendrick Lamar, and use AAVE since it’s an ever changing dialect. I’m just saying there’s no one way of being a nerd and no one way of being Black.

[the-quasar-hero]

Well @dumbey, seems we’re in similar boats

[the-quasar-hero]

This ain’t about him, this is about Black/Asian solidarity. Focus.

[shotatoga]

brooo yesysyyessys so true

[transgenderer]

its kind of sad that bugs are so weak. it dishonors their noble biology. i guess this is is why crustaceans are so admirable. imagine for a moment, an unsquishable bug. such is the way of the crab

[pixeljade]

I feel like theres a tendency amongst TME trans folks to view and portray masculine features in TMA folks as a challenge to perceptions of gender but honestly to me it just feels like we're being used as a prop to further your own goals, and that it seems infinitely more radical to portray any transfem as openly enjoying femininity, because femininity is so rarely celebrated, instead portrayed as a cage or a costume.

Like. When us transfems get assaulted or murdered, it is not because we have stubble. We had stubble before coming out, it was never punished then. We get assaulted and murdered because we are embracing femininity.

So yeah. Stop drawing your transfem characters looking like a guy in a dress, you're literally just perpetuating transmisogyny and pretending its good because you use the right pronouns.

[smilesbag]

i feel like people are overlooking the moment at the beginning of obsession where nikki straight up asks "do you like me?" and once bear lies and says no she replies "ok, good." for starters, it was a chilling moment to me because this is such a classic experience of having a close guy friend, only to realize that he wants more from you. girls aren't dumb! nikki isn't dumb! of course she knows that bear is into her, she has eyes! she can see his stuttering and sheepishness and she's just dreading the moment she has to turn him down, to tell him that he's like a brother to her. just before she had told him that she doesn't feel real love in her life, and i don't think it would be a leap to attribute a small part of that feeling to her fear that her friendship with bear isn't as simple as she wants it to be.

it's also a chilling question from nikki because once she walks away bear knows that she doesn't feel the same way about him, and he makes the wish anyway. he is incapable or unwilling to take a hint and see that she doesn't feel the same way. and that question is the last thing she says to him before he ruins her life forever. it's unfair.

[madphantom]

You know, there's this cliché that teenage boys always eat massive amounts, but teenage girls really aren't that different if they're not suppressed by diet culture and body shaming. Like, I was a teenage girl who frankly just stopped bothering to fit into mainstream beauty ideals at some point, and I would regularly make myself just one big massive pot of pasta and devour it completely. This wasn't even stress eating or anything, I just genuinely needed the energy because you know, I was a teenager and my body was developing. I feel like so many teenage girls think they need to eat as little as possible to be petite and pretty, but the truth is that your body is developing just as intensely as teenage boys' bodies. Eat more, please, your body needs it.

[madphantom]

You know, there's this cliché that teenage boys always eat massive amounts, but teenage girls really aren't that different if they're not suppressed by diet culture and body shaming. Like, I was a teenage girl who frankly just stopped bothering to fit into mainstream beauty ideals at some point, and I would regularly make myself just one big massive pot of pasta and devour it completely. This wasn't even stress eating or anything, I just genuinely needed the energy because you know, I was a teenager and my body was developing. I feel like so many teenage girls think they need to eat as little as possible to be petite and pretty, but the truth is that your body is developing just as intensely as teenage boys' bodies. Eat more, please, your body needs it.

[summerbrook]

it is terrifying that bear only sought to "alter" his wish rather than cancelling it but what is even more terrifying is that he wouldn't even have called the number had nikki not inconvenienced him. if she did not act in such extreme ways bear wouldn't even have a problem. which is sooooo sooooo terrifying because he was completely fine living and being "loved" by nikki who he knew wasn't the real her. he claimed to love her, but even when she started acting like a totally different person it was water off a duck's back for him. he DIDN'T CARE whether it was the real nikki or an entirely different person.

even when she begs him to kill her, he does not feel even a shred of pity for her; he only worries "is being with me that bad".

the only reason he tries to change anything is because her behavior started to scare him FREAK him out. had she acted in a meeker way, bear would've lived with her HIS WHOLE LIFE knowing she ISN'T the real nikki NOT GIVING A FUCK about what she would've wanted. PERIOD.

the more i sit with it the more i realise that the title of the movie did not refer to nikki's obsession with bear but rather his obsession with her. because i know fs that what he felt for her definitely wasn't love.

[madphantom]

You know, there's this cliché that teenage boys always eat massive amounts, but teenage girls really aren't that different if they're not suppressed by diet culture and body shaming. Like, I was a teenage girl who frankly just stopped bothering to fit into mainstream beauty ideals at some point, and I would regularly make myself just one big massive pot of pasta and devour it completely. This wasn't even stress eating or anything, I just genuinely needed the energy because you know, I was a teenager and my body was developing. I feel like so many teenage girls think they need to eat as little as possible to be petite and pretty, but the truth is that your body is developing just as intensely as teenage boys' bodies. Eat more, please, your body needs it.

[madphantom]

You know, there's this cliché that teenage boys always eat massive amounts, but teenage girls really aren't that different if they're not suppressed by diet culture and body shaming. Like, I was a teenage girl who frankly just stopped bothering to fit into mainstream beauty ideals at some point, and I would regularly make myself just one big massive pot of pasta and devour it completely. This wasn't even stress eating or anything, I just genuinely needed the energy because you know, I was a teenager and my body was developing. I feel like so many teenage girls think they need to eat as little as possible to be petite and pretty, but the truth is that your body is developing just as intensely as teenage boys' bodies. Eat more, please, your body needs it.

[modernmusess]

there’s something so gutwrenching about the fact that the female characters in obsession have real dreams and wishes but never get the chance to see them realized, while both male characters waste their wishes on short-term selfish satisfaction. they were complex, free-spirited young women who just wanted to create art, and they were destroyed by a man determined to confine them to his superficial perception of them. nikki wanted to be a writer, sarah wanted to be an tattoo artist and now neither of them will get to be anything at all

[crunchbuttsteak]

Putting dividers in bus benches can make waiting for a bus physically painful for larger people. Removing places to sit by adding spikes to them makes public spaces less accessible for everyone.

Yet despite all that, the primary focus of these things is animus towards unhoused people.

This post is about transmisogyny.

[a-watercress-tomato]

Okay so I think I get it, and I want to reiterate what I think this means so I can hopefully make it clearer for others/be corrected if I'm wrong, but:

Basically, this is an analogy where the idea of hostile architecture which causes public spaces to be less accessible to the homeless is used as a parallel for general transphobia being the driving force behind a lot of social hostility towards trans folk, tma or tme notwithstanding. However, the fact that certain types of hostile architecture makes benches inaccessible to larger people specifically is the 1:1 with how certain types of transphobia are specifically geared towards making trans women/tma folks the target without really being the "intended" recipient of such hostility--its just that the type of transphobia that gets proliferated (or the type of anti-homeless architecture that gets built) just so happens to be the most harmful to tmas (people who take up more space on a bench) because it's assumed that those types of people just don't belong/need to be allowed to exist in the space

[crunchbuttsteak]

It’s about how the intention of a lot of anti-trans attitudes are targeted towards making things harder for trans women specifically.

That cis women or TME trans people get hit by the splash damage of it doesn’t mean that the intention isn’t to hurt trans women.

That means don’t post your “le epic accidental ally” dunks because a transphobe told you ywnbaw and you’re a transmasc.

[crunchbuttsteak]

Putting dividers in bus benches can make waiting for a bus physically painful for larger people. Removing places to sit by adding spikes to them makes public spaces less accessible for everyone.

Yet despite all that, the primary focus of these things is animus towards unhoused people.

This post is about transmisogyny.

[crunchbuttsteak]

Putting dividers in bus benches can make waiting for a bus physically painful for larger people. Removing places to sit by adding spikes to them makes public spaces less accessible for everyone.

Yet despite all that, the primary focus of these things is animus towards unhoused people.

This post is about transmisogyny.

[crunchbuttsteak]

Putting dividers in bus benches can make waiting for a bus physically painful for larger people. Removing places to sit by adding spikes to them makes public spaces less accessible for everyone.

Yet despite all that, the primary focus of these things is animus towards unhoused people.

This post is about transmisogyny.