Your EMP post/shopping comment reminded me of something, and maybe you have experience with guys acting weird: This man I was seeing KNEW how I was, that I was used to certain things, and gladly shelled out quite a bit of $$$$ to help me. All has been good, but I recently asked if he could help me with something again (just said that, nothing specific), but no response for days. Is there a way to let him know/ease his mind about me maybe expecting too much, forget him, or just wait it out?
The first thought that comes to mind when you say that a man went from hot and generous to abruptly cold and no reply, I imagine he got his credit card statement, lol. But there’s really never any way of knowing and even if he gives you an explanation it’s likely untrue.
Less commonly he might have rekindled with an ex. Felt guilty for cheating on his primary lady. Or he just lost interest. But I really don’t believe a man who was willingly ready to spend/invest would lose interest so quickly.
It’s been my experience and that of other ladies I know, that a guy will be infatuated with you for a month or so and spend big trying to impress and woo you. Maybe you did a damn good job of selling him the idea that you’re accustomed to such luxuries and treatment, and he felt that he needed to “keep up”. But ultimately that kind of spending is unsustainable for him and reality hits when the credit card bill is due. And what guy (especially if he likes you) wants to admit that he’s hurting financially. That’s embarrassing for anyone.
Once I’ve had a guy admit that he had spent too much on me. I literally held my breath expecting him asking me to repay him, lol. Fortunately he did not. And while I felt sorry for him, I’m really ambivalent as to whether or not that was the truth. It was certainly possible that he was testing his luck to see if I would pity him and agree to see him sans money (ya right). Or perhaps he was testing to see if all I cared about was the money (it is). But I don’t really give it any further thought bc I’ll drive myself nuts! You never know with these men and it’s best and easiest to assume they are being dishonest.
A final thought is that these guys can use spending money as self harm/self destructions/impulsive behavior. Just like shopping addictions and gambling addictions, I think it’s really possible for a guy to get addicted to the thrill and attention of beautiful ladies. They end up spending way too much, even getting into debt. I’ve read that it’s common in strip clubs, and I imagine it’s possible with escorts and mistresses. Getting a rush from spending beyond their means and suddenly (probably for the first time in their life) having an excess of attention from women.
Just any interesting idea. Anyway sorry he flaked on you. I know how disappointing that can be. Hopefully you’re already on to the next 😘
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