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Samantha Jones after a chemical peel, painted by Laura Collins
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Your EMP post/shopping comment reminded me of something, and maybe you have experience with guys acting weird: This man I was seeing KNEW how I was, that I was used to certain things, and gladly shelled out quite a bit of $$$$ to help me. All has been good, but I recently asked if he could help me with something again (just said that, nothing specific), but no response for days. Is there a way to let him know/ease his mind about me maybe expecting too much, forget him, or just wait it out?
The first thought that comes to mind when you say that a man went from hot and generous to abruptly cold and no reply, I imagine he got his credit card statement, lol. But there’s really never any way of knowing and even if he gives you an explanation it’s likely untrue.
Less commonly he might have rekindled with an ex. Felt guilty for cheating on his primary lady. Or he just lost interest. But I really don’t believe a man who was willingly ready to spend/invest would lose interest so quickly.
It’s been my experience and that of other ladies I know, that a guy will be infatuated with you for a month or so and spend big trying to impress and woo you. Maybe you did a damn good job of selling him the idea that you’re accustomed to such luxuries and treatment, and he felt that he needed to “keep up”. But ultimately that kind of spending is unsustainable for him and reality hits when the credit card bill is due. And what guy (especially if he likes you) wants to admit that he’s hurting financially. That’s embarrassing for anyone.
Once I’ve had a guy admit that he had spent too much on me. I literally held my breath expecting him asking me to repay him, lol. Fortunately he did not. And while I felt sorry for him, I’m really ambivalent as to whether or not that was the truth. It was certainly possible that he was testing his luck to see if I would pity him and agree to see him sans money (ya right). Or perhaps he was testing to see if all I cared about was the money (it is). But I don’t really give it any further thought bc I’ll drive myself nuts! You never know with these men and it’s best and easiest to assume they are being dishonest.
A final thought is that these guys can use spending money as self harm/self destructions/impulsive behavior. Just like shopping addictions and gambling addictions, I think it’s really possible for a guy to get addicted to the thrill and attention of beautiful ladies. They end up spending way too much, even getting into debt. I’ve read that it’s common in strip clubs, and I imagine it’s possible with escorts and mistresses. Getting a rush from spending beyond their means and suddenly (probably for the first time in their life) having an excess of attention from women.
Just any interesting idea. Anyway sorry he flaked on you. I know how disappointing that can be. Hopefully you’re already on to the next 😘
Do your parents know you're a sugar baby? Do you think it's necessary to know it?
No my parents/family don’t know. I’ve been estranged from the majority for over a decade. And the other few I seldom visit with. Sad but it makes me incredibly challenging to blackmail or “out”.
I guess it’s circumstantial right? And depends on many factors like if you’re close with your parents, live with or near your parents, your age.
I suppose it’s possible for someone who is disciplined enough to live with their parents and have an SD. They wouldn’t be able to have shiny designer goods, which are so so tempting. But I think it could be done. Like if one lived at home while attending college, maybe kept a part time job. And had an SD who was discreet and not needy. Most university libraries are open till midnight. So maybe once per week one could easily slip out and have dinner/drinks with a guy in a neighboring town and be back home at the end of the evening. Assuming that studying at school late into the night was part of their regular routine and not unusual. Then it wouldn’t be suspicious. I think that would be an ideal situation.
Obviously it would be trickier if you lived at home with parents and suddenly began jet setting. But I don’t think the likelihood of that is high or that anyone should automatically expect their experiences to be like. More often than not it’s one or two dates a week lasting for a few hours. Maybe a sleepover or maybe not if he’s married. Hopefully the latter as they’re less reckless and more discreet.
Less commonly I’ve heard of ladies getting ahead of any possible outing by disclosing to their family before any negative situation arises. It could definitely be a better option for some with tight knit families.
Personally I think it’s best to tell as few people as possible. Because behind your back someone may bash you for dating an older wealthy man. Then the next day to your face they sweetly ask you for some money that the older wealthy man gave you. Logic 🙄
I really believe it’s doable though. But you must have a maturity and discipline that usually correlates with age. No showing off money or new clothes and shoes, again very hard. Just quietly bank the cash every week or month and focus on your end game.
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You know what really grinds my gears
The men on Tinder who are 45yo+ who match you, yet when they realize that you’re looking for a SD, are baffled.
Like you really fucking went to your settings and adjusted the age preference to someone 20+ years younger and reallyyy let yourself fucking assume that you’d be drowning in a motherfucking college girls pussy? For free? For drinks?
Get the fuck out of here.
They are always so baffled 😭
Learn the difference between a man who flatters you and a man who compliments you. A man who spends money on you and a man who invests in you. A man who views you as property and a man who views you properly. A man who lusts after you and a man who loves you.
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This is why we can’t have nice things.
I’m sure plenty of these girls exist and like congrats on your hustle but I want mY FUCKIN MONEY
I know yall wanna drag girls for no reason but you need to remember: THESE MEN LIE. Yes, there might be a chance that girls like this exist but mostly it’s men wanting to be cheap as fuck and not pay you until they fuck you.
Yup. These men are smart(& cheap) as hell
It goes both ways. SBs lets be respectful. You have to earn your money the right way or karma will bite you in the ass and let’s never forget that men are here to lie, steal and kill. Okay NeXT.
Ok, so that’s what he says. What he means is…:
“Lots of girls won’t accept my low offers. Somehow, I get lots of them to meet me. But they want a ‘gift’ to see I am serious. I slip them $50 then try to finger them under the table. Oddly, none of them ever want to see me again. Poor me.”
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I'm so sick of the "but the poor men" sentiment. Please don't believe their sob stories (lies). If you want, just twist that right around back at them. Say that you once gave a man the benefit of the doubt of building a connection before finances were discussed. And you never saw a dime after getting strung along for weeks with the promise of allowance (which is probably a true story for most ladies at one point or another).
If a man is concerned over losing $100-$200 on a first date that didn't work out, then he can't afford a mistress and will try to get his monies worth by making you do the most.
I like to think people who really love you act accordingly
I have a sd who only wants to pay me with his credit card. And I can’t find the post talking about the best way to do that since PayPal isn’t that safe. Can y'all help me out?
1) he’s going to do a chargeback after he sleeps with you and then immediately afterwards decides that arrangements aren’t for him/he feels guilty cheating on his spouse/he’s getting back with an ex. and/or
2) the credit card is stolen and the charges will get reversed.
I knew it was a scam but I didn’t know how to explain it. Look all of u girls if it looks like a duck swims like a duck and quacks like a duck it’s probably a duck.
Well we only went on one date and he paid me 1500 via PayPal but we haven’t slept together yet and he says that he’s going through a divorce right now and doesn’t want to use money his wife will see but he has a credit card she doesn’t know about
He’s lying ask him to continue paying you via PayPal or cash it is soo easy to reverse or cancel a credit card payment or the card its self.
@emisugarbear you see so logically that ex wife tracking finances scenario doesn’t make much sense to me. Because maybe he does have a secret credit card but he has to pay the balance at the end of every month, right? So how is he paying it? With cash likely from a shared checking account with wife. It’s possible he writes it off as a business expense or it’s a company credit card but it’s unlikely. Further if he has paid you with PayPal he now has your full legal name and address. And a paypal chargeback can happen months after the money was sent to you, after you withdrew the money from your PayPal account into your bank account, and after the money is spent. All he has to do is tell his credit card company there was an unauthorized charge- as far as I know there’s no time limit for a charge back.
Assuming the very unlikely scenario that the credit card is legit. Why can’t he take a cash withdrawal from an ATM with it? You know that all credit cards come with PIN numbers like debit cards and you can use them at ATMs to get cash back (it’s unadvised bc the fees are ridiculous). And if he’s worried about said fees, lol then he’s not in a position to be a sugar daddy.
Paying a lady with PayPal/ credit card and doing a chargeback a month or two later is a major scam. And I steer far away from any man who suggests it right from the beginning. But it’s not entirely hopeless, I’ve done PayPal successfully with people I trust. Less commonly a man with do this scam with a stolen credit card. Which I think is worse bc a chargeback will definitely happen plus you may get entangled if there’s a police investigation. You know, bc now your name is documented as involved with the stolen card.
If he still refuses, then I think the safest option would be to have him buy you gift cards. Please be aware that most cvs/duane reade/ right aid have polices that you must buy vanilla gift cards in cash only (lol to prevent people from using stolen credit cards to buy gift cards which are essentially cash). But the policies vary by state and store, so you’d have to put in some research. Most drug stores that I’ve seen have signs directly above the gift card rack specifying that they must be purchased in cash.
What I would suggest, and it’s gonna be annoying, is have him buy you gift cards to high end department stores. For those can be purchased with a credit card online and you can get sent an e-gift card or mailed a physical card. From there you can sell the gift card, there’s a few online websites specializing in this but be forewarned that the website will take a percentage and you’re going to have to sell the gift card for less than its valued at. If it were me I’d take it a step farther and use the gift card to purchase items with high resale value. Louboutins come to mind. And then resell them. But honestly that’s a huge pain in the butt and not worth it for me. But it depends how badly you need the monies. I don’t see why he can’t take a cash advance from the ATM with his credit card. Hopefully he is being sincere and won’t do a chargeback. One way to minimize (idk if it will actually work) him doing a PayPal chargeback for the $1500 he sent you is to completely close your PayPal account and delete any info and specifically your banking info attached to the account. I know it’s a hassle but ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
don’t trust people who are friends with people who have mistreated you in the past
9/10 they’ve already talked about it behind ur back n agreed u were “overreacting”
You know what really grinds my gears
The men on Tinder who are 45yo+ who match you, yet when they realize that you’re looking for a SD, are baffled.
Like you really fucking went to your settings and adjusted the age preference to someone 20+ years younger and reallyyy let yourself fucking assume that you’d be drowning in a motherfucking college girls pussy? For free? For drinks?
Get the fuck out of here.
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The burn from this is so real I almost feel bad for her…ALMOST!…SUFFER!
It’s sad cause it’s true , is so difficult to get money these days and is gonna get worst
Toxic masculinity says that a man is only as good as what he can accomplish. When it comes to sex, this can often mean “To be a man, I have to achieve orgasm/ejaculation” or “I have to win as many sex partners as I can.” These days, it can also mean “I have to give my partner the most intense pleasure possible.” Because if she has a body-shaking orgasm, it’s a mark of his skill and prowess. And if she doesn’t have an orgasm at all, it feels like a personal failure to him. For the female partner, this can turn into yet another way she has to perform emotional labor. When her experience of pleasure becomes tied to his ego, then she often feels pressure to have a big, showy orgasm for him… even if that’s not how her body works.
3 Ways Men Wanting to ‘Focus On Her Pleasure’ During Sex Can Still Be Sexist — Everyday Feminism (via thatdiabolicalfeminist)