Things narcissists/sociopaths have been proven to do:
adopt the story of their previous victim and pretend it happened to them
make a complete reversal of the past and talk about things they’ve done to others as if it was done to them, call the past people in their life “crazy” and “liars”
blatantly lie about their feelings, and their intentions with you
pretend they were about to offer you great opportunities, services or affection, if only you didn’t ruin it by trying to establish a single boundary between you two (or you got rightfully upset after they treated you horribly)
pretend to have great compassion for your trauma and hardships only to later call you “damaged” and convince you that your perception of everything is wrong due to your past
encourage you to develop feelings for them, to feel safe and secure in their affection for you and imagine your future together, then one day you’re disregarded as “clingy, overbearing, and impossible to love” and your every word and action is exposed to criticism and needs to change if you want to keep them in your life
bring you to believe they’re about to let you in on their most vulnerable state and share their secrets, but instead they slowly give out details of awful things they did to others, they watch carefully for you to not judge them during it or you’re accused of being heartless when they’re being open and honest with you
ignore and neglect you for periods of time, then expect you to completely accept this is how things are and you’re supposed to be at their service whenever they please, and not be upset if you’re suddenly discarded as if you’re worthless to them
over-exaggerate their feelings of distress while completely diminishing yours, it turns out that just by telling them something is wrong you’re distressing them too much and you’re supposed to keep it in forever, no matter how upset you are
act like you’re supposed to know exactly what their reaction would be in any situation, even though they react completely unpredictably, fly off the handle for smallest things and throw tantrums like toddlers
make you responsible for their emotions, and your emotions as well, however they feel about you is correct and should never be challenged, but how you feel is always wrong and should be modified and adapted to their convenience
make you follow thousand rules about how you have to act around them not to embarrass them, not to damage their ego, to coddle their feelings in any situation and not set them off; meanwhile they’re free to make countless harmful jokes at your expense, humiliate you in private and public, mock your every feeling and thought and discard you as a joke that isn’t allowed to have feelings
only act remorseful if they’re in danger of being cut off, or even then just playing at your guilt and getting you to forgive them because “they’ve been having a bad time too!” and you should feel sorry for them before even getting upset about what they did to you
completely modify the past to the point it makes you feel delusional, deny all of their words and actions and pretend it all played out in your head only
dictate your feelings to you as if you’re stupid and don’t know how you’re supposed to feel
convince everyone around you that you’re delusional/insane to make sure nobody takes you seriously if you try to reach out for help
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