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This tiktok about someone’s pre-transition self is so so SO tender and I just want anyone who has transitioned and may be mourning their old self to see this and to know it’s okay. It’s okay to miss that person you once were, it’s okay to wish you had embraced what you had and who you were before transitioning. It doesn’t mean you regret it, and it doesn’t mean you made the wrong decisions.
It’s okay to think about that person, it’s okay to mourn them, and it’s okay to wonder. The person you were before transitioning may have been a trick of the light, but it doesn’t mean they weren’t special while they were here.
Everyone’s experience is different… but if you find yourself feeling this, just know it’s okay. You don’t have to completely block out every aspect and memory of who you were before. It’s okay if you do, but you don’t have to.
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Available in any scent you want, or unscented! Pictured are ones I have previously made*, and on sale to celebrate pride month at 15% off!
*(if no one has ordered it I don’t have a picture of it, so please do not get upset with me about not seeing your flag included! I can’t take a picture of something no one has ordered from me, and I am more than happy to make any flag you want!)
black lesbians honestly deserve so much more. they are constantly an afterthought in the lgbtq community despite having so much history in building it. it really hurts seeing other lgbtq members brush off black lesbians struggles to them “overreacting” or being “too emotional” over being constantly erased from their own community. listen to black lesbians. if a black lesbian tells you that you are making your lgbtq space unsafe or uncomfortable for them then you listen and make changes. it shouldn’t be controversial to say that black lesbians deserve to feel safe and accepted in the lgbtq community.
is fine if you are questioning yourself, if you don’t know your label, or if you just don’t want to use any… Is okay just be sapphic, a woman loving women. Is fine ❤️
what I learned from 6 years as part of the lesbian community 🌈
**disclaimer: I no longer consider myself a lesbian, the only reason I'm writing this is in hopes of making any lesbians who read this post feel seen, heard, and comforted that someone outside their community wholeheartedly supports them
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this is a long post, so I'm putting most of it under the cut. remember to let your local lesbian(s) know you appreciate them today!
lesbians have a complicated online reputation. while a lot of posts, art, stories, and other content made by lesbians seem to go viral in LGBTQ+ circles pretty easily, there’s an equal amount of opinionated outsiders (read: nonlesbians) with a hostile, skeptical attitude towards them. while this is primarily a result of TERF ideology rapidly gaining traction in lesbian circles, it’s definitely unwarranted.
literally everyone is obsessed with finding out how you feel about men. straight women? definitely. straight men? obviously. nonlesbian LGBTQ+ people? check. your own fellow lesbians? unfortunately, yeah. if you’re not ready to be interrogated about how many men you’ve dated, whether or not you’re SURE you’ve ever found men attractive, or how much you hate them, then buckle up—one wrong answer and you’re out of the community.
sometimes being a lesbian is isolating and scary. there’s an air of exclusivity around the label, and it can feel like you’re representing a very prestigious, very easy-to-disappoint family. you might be treated like a second class citizen for having ever gotten a crush on a man, and your nonlesbian peers seem eager for you to slip up and say something problematic so they can write you off as “just another mean, nasty lesbian.” as with all other marginalized groups, lesbians who are otherwise privileged in nearly every way are usually at the top of the food chain--they try to call the shots when it comes to who's allowed to ID as lesbian and who isn't, and the worst part is so many people go along with this fucked up system out of fear. and don't even get me started on how oversexualized the lesbian identity is--the #lesbiansafe tag had to be invented just so lesbian minors could avoid p0rn bots.
lesbians aren’t really “allowed” to be questioning. there’s a surprisingly pervasive attitude in the LGBTQ+ community of “if you call yourself a lesbian, you better be damn sure of it (or else get the hell out).” either you are or you aren’t, it’s that simple, etc. etc. it’s an insane amount of pressure to put on anyone, and the amount of stress lesbians experience as a result goes completely unnoticed by everyone around them.
older butch lesbians are usually willing to do everything in their power to protect younger lesbians (as well as their femme counterparts). when members of the larger queer community exclude, turn against, and/or erase your existence on what seems like a regular basis, there's no place that feels safer than with an old butch. they were once in your shoes, so they know what it's like to feel small and vulnerable, and their love is as fierce as a lion's. remember to show them appreciation when they help you out, it's not uncommon for their assistance to be taken for granted.
most lesbians don't share each other's experiences outside of identifying as lesbian and that's okay. there's no one 'universal lesbian experience' and pushing this narrative that there *actually is* will only wind up hurting questioning and closeted lesbians who don't relate to those arbitrary standards. while carrds and google docs with compiled information about lesbianism can be extremely useful, they should be taken as softer guidelines, not strict rules that constantly need to be enforced.
with all that said, here's my advice to new, questioning, and baby lesbians:
no matter what anyone tells you, there are no rules for being a lesbian. it's absolutely nobody's business who you feel attracted to, why, or what gender(s) you are, or which flag(s) you want to use--YOU get to decide whether or not the lesbian label fits you right. nobody else has a say in how you do or don't identify, even if you've directly asked them for advice.
anyone who tries to isolate you from or turn you against LGBTQ+ nonlesbians aren't your friends. whether it's "stop claiming 'lesbian/dyke' used to be an umbrella term", "headcanoning [sexually ambiguous character] as anything but a lesbian is lesbian erasure", or "how dare you exclude the *RIGHT* lesbian flag from your pride art/merch, you're not allowed to use *THAT* flag only *THIS* one", don't get dragged into pointless soul-draining discourse.
and just so you know--the rest of the LGBTQ+ community does love you, I promise, but we definitely need to start showing it more often.
boost to feed a trans, autistic, jewish 19 year old
tumblr shadowbanned my other blog so i have to post this on my new main
i genuinely have nothing to eat at all in my apartment at all. i’m unemployed and i can’t get a job due to disability and chronic pain from a car accident that i have nightmares about every night. i can’t stop losing weight and i spend most of the day sleeping. i need to go to a doctor really badly and i don’t have transportation.
i’m so stressed out right now i genuinely spend all of my time awake having panic attacks and right now i can’t stop crying. i’m so scared i just feel hopeless and i don’t feel like theres any way out of it.
please boost this i’m begging you, i really really need help and this is the last resort i have. i genuinely don’t know what to do at this point, i feel guilty for asking but i can’t even think i’m panicking so bad
Pride themed scrubbies are now available in a variety of flags! I use these suckers myself and they work incredibly well on even my most stubbornly stuck on food items. All of them measure at 20 stiches x 24 rows making them an excellent size for scrubbing pots and dishes. They can be washed very easily when it’s time, either in regular laundry, or by tossing them in the dishwasher and can go long periods without needing it!
Don’t see your flag here, or don’t want a pride themed one? You can choose a custom option! If I don’t have the colours for your preferred yarn type, or the request is too difficult for the size, I will let you know!
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA Okay so I "used to" have a crush on this girl (who is btw my best friend) but she was straight and because of that I thought I gave up my hope on her and recently she told me she is queer and I was like "oh cool". Then 2 days ago I was reading this lgbtq fiction book and I suddenly started thinking about her during a kiss scene and my brain just went asdfghjfghjk. I want to let her know I like her but the question is, how do I do that if I told her I gave up my crush?
hmm, that's a tricky situation--in my experience, honesty is the best policy! just be open about your feelings the way they are now.
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