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decaf-cappuccino

couch zoomies

ieuwytuyruityerufdhdf-deactivat

true friends support your probably-slightly-unhealthy obsession with your favorite fictional character

sviteer

Your jokes are actually quite entertaining..

#hsr

lesbianeo

mutuals, you can pick me up to put me in your inventory

danskjavlarna

From Fairy Tales Vol. II by Marion Florence Lansing and illustrated by Charles Copeland, 1908.

draconym

It's nuts how common it is to not allow children to be angry, even (especially) in households where adults are angry all the time. As a child I knew my own anger was unacceptable--not just expressing it outwardly but feeling it at all. So now as an adult my immediate reaction to my own anger is often to feel guilt instead of like. Noticing when someone is being rude or unfair or my boundaries are being violated or whatever. fucked up.

jackawful

to this day "who is allowed to be angry" has been an incredible benchmark for teasing out who, in abusive situations with mutual accusations and DARVO happening, is being abusive and who is being abused. one of my favorite resources about this, the Creative Interventions Toolkit, phrases the question "who sets the weather?" in the relationship and I think about it so so often when I think about my own childhood. I was parentified in a way that set me up for future abusive relationships, because I had to soothe my parents' anger while not being allowed to feel angry myself. I am extremely grateful to everyone outside myself - friends, therapists, partners - who's gotten angry on my behalf about how I'm treated or let me know something I'd been excusing or blaming myself for was actually Not Okay. I guess the good news here is that it's possible to learn how to access anger again in a healthy way, it just takes support, like doing physical therapy for a muscle that didn't develop quite right.

draconym

I relate so strongly to this.

This is not to say that feeling anger is abusive; it's human to feel anger. But if you've ever felt like your anger was "unjustified" or were afraid to express it outwardly because you expected it to be dismissed ... ask yourself how you would react if the roles were reversed. I find that a lot of folks who were The Grown Up in a relationship with their parents hold themselves to much different standards than they hold other people.

I've seen plenty of situations that involve two or more people hurting each other and not admitting any fault because they want to protect their own egos. But. Notice when you think you're not entitled to be upset about something. When someone tells you you shouldn't be upset. There's a difference between taking your anger out on other people and just. Being allowed to feel angry.

#I am 40 years old and I still don't know how to process anger #so when I do get angry it scares and upsets me more than anything else #which usually kicks my brain into gear turning whatever made me angry into my own fault #so I end up feeling guilt and sadness instead

knifefightscene

We genuinely need to romanticize aging because the dread destroys us all

thirdity

“You write the beginning and then you go back and rewrite the beginning, and you never got off page one. It’s kind of a syndrome, and I have a rash piece of advice which is — Go on, page two, page three, and never look back. Get something finished, no matter how lousy it is. […] Perfectionists cannot get going unless they kind of do violence to their own instincts, and just blast ahead.”

— Ursula K. Le Guin, The Last Interview and Other Conversations

countryhorror

It's me, arenanet. Tumblr user Countryhorror. I come before you today humbled, and humiliated, to ask you for one thing. I need you to make humans the one unplayable race in gw3 it would be so fucking funny.

#gw3

aubryjoi

Baby bun for the new year! 🐰

prokopetz

You are an unreliable narrator because your coping mechanisms for your deep-seated trauma forbid you from acknowledging the reality of the situation. I am an unreliable narrator because I sincerely have no idea what the fuck is going on.