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UNDIRECTED CONTINGENCIES OF PRE-REFLECTIVE MASS-SOCIAL PHENOMENA_PROFESSIONAL INTELLECTUALS

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“my album cover”

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Alfred GESCHEIDT - Françoise Sagan, body painting, c. 1955

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Building Self-Esteem when you’re Struggling with Depression

1. Get into the habit of challenging your thinking – especially when it falls into the same old repeated, negative patterns.

2. Keep a thankfulness journal – and deliberately look for the good things in your life.

3. Spend time with people who can see your strengths, and who make you feel good about yourself.

4. Keep some photos or mementos that remind you of your passions – so theses can help inspire you to love your life again.

5. Leave positive notes and quotes around your room, or inside your wallet, or on your desk, or phone.

6. See failure as a stepping stone that leads to further growth – and as something that is common, and experienced by us all.

7. Deliberately nurture and care for yourself – and see this as essential, and a top priority.

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Karen Elson by David Sims for Givenchy SS00

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Du Juan By Zeng Wu For Wallpaper China April 2020

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Basket of Light, Sumpagno, Guatemala, 1989.

Photo by Flor Garduño

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Dominic Dispirito 

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Ruebens Room - Berlin (January - 2020)

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Questions to Ask When You Have Negative Thoughts

1. What is the evidence that says this thought is true?

2. What is the evidence that contradicts this thought?

3. Where does this thought come from?

4. Who has said this about me in the past?

5. What was their motivation at the time?

6. Should I allow that person to shape my thoughts and life?

7. What is the thought trying to tell me/ make me believe?

8. Why am I allowing limiting thoughts to bring me down?

9. How can I challenge this thought?

10. Am I ready to let this thought or belief go?

11. Am I ready to heal?

12. How can I let this thought or belief go?

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Hans Hartung (September 1904 – December 1989)

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Understanding a Shame Based Identity

Shame is the deeply held belief that, at core, there is something wrong with me. So, no matter what I do, or how hard I try, I’ll never measure up and be good enough. Thus, I expect other people to reject me in the end, and deep down inside I reject myself.

If I have a shame based identity, I am likely to battle with the following feelings: - Feeling like a fraud

- Feeling like I have to cover up all the time

- Fear of being exposed for who and what I truly am

- Feeling powerless

- Feeling as if I don’t have, or deserve, a voice

- Wishing I could just disappear

- Feeling vulnerable

- Feeling very needy – and perhaps too needy, compared to other people

- Feeling like I always disappoint myself and others.

The shame based person is constantly struggling against these persistent and negative feelings. They are triggered easily, and by innocuous triggers, such as being overlooked or contradicted by a friend. This can then result in a powerful ‘shame attack’ that is so intense that we’re completely paralysed, and overwhelmed, by a sense of worthlessness. These feelings can persist for days, for weeks or even months.

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Picnic at Hanging Rock (1975) dir. Peter Weir

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Mercury retrograde kicking my ass

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GOD ME TOO

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