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19 (he/it/rot) transmasc aroace-spec queer

[scrumptious-human]

You can tell all the members of MCR are bisexuals because they all married women infinitely cooler than them.

[2long2live]

[kasha-malasha]

me and who

[urandroidgirl]

Did I miss toy playing time for today

[urandroidgirl]

Let’s switch it up.

Who got bullied the most in high school

Gerard

Ray

Frank

Mikey

Voting ended on7h

[i-got-a-penis-yall]

TRANS PEOPLE CONSIDERING SURGERY- READ THIS PLEASE GENUINELY I AM BEGGING YOU IT COULD SAVE YOUR LIFE

If you are getting gender affirming surgery, especially if it’s your first major surgery, PLEASE be aware that you can become SEVERELY depressed afterwards ESPECIALLY if you have a history of depression or suicidal ideation.

Post op depression is a natural reaction to the crazy mix of hormones your body goes through after major surgery as well as the stress and anxiety of recovery. Think of it like an adrenaline crash, but dragged out longer.

For me it kicked in about 6 weeks after top surgery and the worst of it lasted until about 10 weeks post op. EVERYTHING felt IMPOSSIBLE. None of the skills I’d been practicing worked. I thought everything was going to be bad forever. I didn’t attempt, but I was in the hospital. If it wasn’t for my support system I probably would have attempted.

This is not regret, but it can feel like it. I remain happy about my results to this day (going on six years later).

This is not you failing to maintain your mental health, but it can make you feel like a failure.

Things are not hopeless, but through the haze of this depression they can feel hopeless.

It can be terrifyingly sudden or it can sneak up on you. I didn’t even realize what was going on until after the depression finally passed and my mental health went back to normal.

I am writing this post because nobody told me about this before my top surgery. I was caught completely off guard. For my subsequent surgeries being aware has made all the difference. Being able to treat those symptoms as an expected and normal part of the healing journey has made them far easier to deal with. Because even when my emotions go to dark places I *know* they will pass. I have been able to tell the bad thoughts to take a bad seat and focus on healing.

PLEASE have a plan in place for if this happens. I know that this topic is taboo because of how often our mental health is weaponized against us, but I desperately want every single person getting gender affirming surgery to be aware of, and have a plan for post operative depression.

[starskipper]

prevs

[warbeneaththerain]

okay its late enough that i can start mikeyway age regression posting now

[on-my-way-to-the-woods]

Scooped this molecule of a snake off of the bike path

[scrumptious-human]

Ok debate over! It's taking up too much of Menis's attention and he's not responding to me :( I want to play perverts.

[frankieroweightgain]

Defending Mikey's sexual prowess is a full-time job and BABY I'm working overtime

[scrumptious-human]

Without me? :(

[scrumptious-human]

Ok debate over! It's taking up too much of Menis's attention and he's not responding to me :( I want to play perverts.

[warbeneaththerain]

its a good thing the real members of my chemical romance dont have sex

[sosaysdean]

no further comments at this time

[dragon-in-a-fez]

actually I think you should be normal about ordinary citizens of authoritarian countries and yes that applies even to that country you're thinking of right now

[teal-gerard]

Gerard Way and his detest for nu metal

[scrumptious-human]

For this ask game: 21, 29, 34, 38. ^_^

This ask game

21. Are you a spiritual person?

I think so? It's hard to answer because I feel like "spiritual" is a pretty vague term, and I don't really spend time thinking about it; I got vague ideas about the nature of consciousness and how belief in something affects reality, but I'm pretty agnostic about the whole thing. Religiously, I identify as a Humanist and a Non-Theistic Satanist.

29. What do you do when you're sad?

I listen to music, usually let myself wallow in the sadness for a bit to remind myself what it's like. Sometimes I draw or write. When I'm trying to make myself actually feel better, I try to talk to my friends or family and if I can't I'll try to distract myself by playing a video game, watching a youtube video, going to sleep, etc.

34. Any pet peeves?

I have MANY, you know this Menis. Genuinely so many it's overwhelming to try and think of them all. One that comes to mind, I fucking hate when my family loads the silverware rack unevenly.

38. Fav song at the moment?

It's My Gift to You by Korn, and I'm not saying that just because I've been trying to get you to listen to it for over a week now. I've briefly broken through the MCR fog and am listening to my other music (crazy!).

[scrumptious-human]

I think Gerard Way is a fujoshi

[thememedaddy]

[absolutelyzoned]

Wait do you actually like rpf? 😭

no what's that